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You sit down after dinner, the phone is in your hand before you've decided anything, and an hour later you get up feeling worse. That isn't a willpower problem. You've been up against something built to be easier than anything else in the house, while every alternative you tried was sitting in a cupboard. I explain why the things you've tried instead haven't lasted, and I give you ideas for what to do instead, depending on how much time you've got. The single change that helps most is about where your phone spends the evening, and it takes ten seconds. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You left the job, or the friendship, because of how you were treated, and now the same thing is starting again somewhere new. That isn't fate and it isn't something you deserve. Almost everybody has one situation that keeps repeating, and changing your circumstances doesn't stop it, because you're the one thing that comes with you to every new place. I explain why the pattern follows you and what the psychologist William Swann found about the people we choose to stay close to. Then I give you one question to ask the next time that sinking recognition arrives, and it isn't the question you've been asking. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You're waiting to hear about something important, and not knowing how it'll turn out is keeping you awake at night. Nothing's wrong with you for finding this hard. Most of us were never taught what to do with the feeling of not knowing, so we check our phones, make plans for every outcome and ask everyone what they think. The relief lasts a few minutes, and then the feeling comes back stronger. I talk about an idea from Pema Chödrön and what a 2018 study found about people who stop fighting their difficult feelings. Then I give you one sentence to say to yourself at three in the morning that doesn't ask you to pretend. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Everything written about burnout assumes you can stop. Take a sabbatical, book the trip, step back for a while. And you're reading it at ten at night with people depending on you and no version of your life where that's available. This is the useful version, and it turns out a week away was never what would have fixed it. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You said yes again to someone, and you didn't want to say yes. You knew it while you were saying it. This one is about what happens on the rare occasions you do say no, and the guilt that arrives afterwards, because that guilt is what keeps the whole pattern going. It turns out to be measuring something quite different from what you assume. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You sat down with a book last night, got through about three pages, and then your hand went to your phone. You weren't bored. You just couldn't stay. A lot of people have started to worry that their memory is going or their mind is slipping, and that's almost never what this is. This one explains what's actually happening, and what you can do about it. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Somebody says something and you feel yourself close. Your face goes still, something in your chest shuts, and what comes out afterwards is polite and about ten degrees colder. This one is about what the hardening is protecting, what it costs you rather than them, and why the practice of peace starts a great deal closer to home than most of us think. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

The children are settled, nobody's ill, you've got the weekend free, and there's still something in your chest that won't settle down. Most people treat that feeling as a sign that something needs fixing. This episode is about why it isn't, and why getting used to it might be one of the most useful things a person ever learns. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You're awake before you've decided to be, and the thinking has already started, and it isn't kind. Sometimes it's about today. Often it's much older. A student asked why this happens every morning and then follows her around all day, and most of the answer turns out to be physical. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You're in the supermarket queue and a woman speaks sharply to her little boy, and the verdict is there before you've finished looking at her. You didn't decide to think it. This episode is about why it happens that fast, what all that judging is quietly costing you rather than her, and one question you might try that takes about ten seconds. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You have one. The move to the coast, the leaving of the job, the if I could just get the weight off. Whatever goes wrong this week, that same thought arrives and offers itself as the answer, and you've had it several thousand times without ever making a single phone call about it. This episode is about what that thought is actually doing, and a two week test that shows you what's underneath it. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You dropped something this morning, and you heard what you said to yourself. It was quick and flat and it barely registered, and you've been saying versions of it for about forty years. This episode isn't about being nicer to yourself, because you've heard that already. It's about a question somebody once put to the Dalai Lama that he couldn't understand, and what that reveals about the one relationship you never get a day off from. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

There's a person. You didn't have to think about it, they just arrived. And somebody once told you to forgive them, and you wanted to put a chair through a window. That reaction is intelligent and this episode defends it. Then it gives you what works instead, which isn't forgiveness and doesn't involve deciding it wasn't that bad. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You've never actually felt most of your feelings. You've had positions about them instead. If you can be in real distress at a dinner party and still get up and clear the plates while nobody notices a thing, this episode explains what you learned to do, what it's been costing you, and the one word you'll have to stop using. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

There's a kind of terror that isn't about the bad news. It's about not knowing yet. If you're standing in your own life waiting for somebody to walk in and tell you what happens next, this one's for you. Your body finds the not knowing more expensive than the bad news, and once you know that, there's somewhere different to put your effort. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.