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"I wish I could just be gay." There's a name for this: heteropessimism, being openly embarrassed or hopeless about straight dating while still doing it. This week we look at what's behind these feelings: the orgasm gap, the chore gap, the invisible mental load, and issues with dating apps. But this episode is not about blaming men; there are things that everyone can do to help shift away from heteropessimism, and we end the episode with some recommendations and challenges to take out into the streets (and sheets!) with you! Episodes referenced: Episode 257, How men can stand up for femmes on dating apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting a reactive ("positive") test result is hard enough on its own. But then comes the part nobody prepares you for: the conversations. This week on The Sex Wrap, we're breaking down the partner notification process without the shame spiral. We'll walk you through what to say, how to say it, and what to do when someone doesn't take it well. Because telling your partners is one of the most responsible and caring things you can do. We're also covering anonymous notification options, what information you're actually obligated to share, and how to take care of your mental health through it all. You got the result. Now let's get through the next step together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You did everything right — you had the talk, you asked for the results, and then... silence. This week on The Sex Wrap, we're unpacking the frustrating moment of someone disappearing the moment sexual health comes up. Is it shame? Fear? A red flag you should've clocked sooner? We're getting into why asking for STD results is still taboo, what the ghosting really means, and how to protect yourself, emotionally and physically, when someone can't handle the conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A pill a day. A shot every two months. And now: a shot twice a year. PrEP has come a long way, but the stigma around it hasn't caught up. We talk through who it's for (hint: way more people than you think!), why people still don't talk about it, and what the new injectable options actually mean for your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode unpacks the loaded idea of “virginity” and the expectations that come with it. We get into how disclosure, intimacy, and power intersect, and why first-time narratives can feel so high-stakes. It’s an episode that applies to all types of virginities! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Outdoor sex is one of the most common sexual fantasies—but what happens when fantasy meets reality? In this episode, we talk about the allure of outdoor sex—from beaches to backseats to wooded trails—and the realities that come with it. We cover consent, privacy, legal risks, environmental considerations, and how to keep things safer if you decide to take the adventure outside. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on The Sex Wrap, we’re unpacking negging, the backhanded compliment that’s supposed to spark attraction but often just seeds insecurity. Is it playful teasing, pickup-artist residue, or straight-up emotional manipulation? We break down where it came from, why it “works,” how it shows up in modern dating (across genders and sexualities), and what to say when someone tries it on you. If you’ve ever left a flirtation feeling slightly smaller instead of turned on, this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we have lots and lots of tips for making protected sex feel better! We will talk about external and internal condoms and go through the different materials of condoms and the benefits of each. Sex with a condom can feel AMAZING--if you find the right mix of type and tips that work for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us have probably experienced someone hitting on us that has come across as creepy. So how do you hit on someone and let them know you're interested in them sexually without being creepy? Today we break down creepiness and how to NOT be creepy with people you're interested in out in the world! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexuality and Sexual Health Resource Sites: The Sex Wrap Kaiser Family Foundation World Health Organization The Guttmacher Institute Planned Parenthood And also see Episode 247: Should I use AI to answer my questions about sex, sexual health, and relationships? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we talk about begging! Have you ever had someone beg you for something in a sexual context? It can be super uncomfortable. Today we talk about contexts and in what situations begging is okay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk aphrodisiacs --what are they? how (or do) they work? are there real ones and not-so-real ones? We talk science, we talk context, and we offer advice to help you think about what increases your desire! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eeeek! Ok, ok, we know capitalist societies are structured around work and you spend so much time there and of course you meet and bond with people there. But should you date them? Today we talk through issues to consider if someone at your workplace has caught your eye/heart/other part of your body! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk about ghosting, and know that f you've ever been ghosted, you're not alone. The statistics show that at least 1/3 have suffered through this phenomenon, with some stats showing much higher rates. We discuss some research about how it impacts people (both the ghostee and the ghoster!), and what we can do to shift these behaviors in our society. Check out some journal articles for extra credit reading on the topic: Online Fairytales: Breadcrumbing and Ghosting Behavior Among Young Adults Ignorance is not always bliss: A qualitative study of young adults' experiences with being ghosted Exposure to ghosting, gaslighting and coercion and mental health outcomes Relationship dissolution strategies: Comparing the psychological consequences of ghosting, orbiting, and rejection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we have a little fun exploring sexual slang. Are you up to date on the current terms people are using? Tune in and find out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices