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In this episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose, Jay sits down with Dr. Charles Fay, president of the Love and Logic Institute, to explore how Christian parents can raise spiritually strong kids through intentional discipleship, biblical principles, and practical parenting strategies. Dr. Fay explains how the Love and Logic® approach combines love with healthy boundaries, appropriate choices, accountability, and opportunities for children to experience the consequences of their decisions. Rather than rescuing children from every struggle or controlling them through fear and threats, parents can help their children develop wisdom, responsibility, self control, and the ability to make good decisions from the inside out. Most importantly, Dr. Fay emphasizes that effective parenting techniques are not a substitute for the gospel. Christian parents are called to model authentic faith, point their children toward Jesus, and depend on the Holy Spirit as they seek to disciple their children. Jay and Dr. Fay get especially practical, discussing chores, allowance, serving others, freedom, failure, sports, and the pressures of competitive and travel sports. They explore how everyday responsibilities can teach children to serve, how limited resources can help them learn wise financial decisions, and how gradually increasing freedom prepares them for adulthood. Dr. Fay also challenges parents to evaluate whether activities and commitments are helping their family glorify God or becoming idols that compete for their time, attention, and affection. Throughout the conversation, parents are encouraged to focus on what they can control: their own faithfulness, their example, their conversations about Jesus, and their willingness to turn back to God when they fail. This episode offers Christian moms and dads practical encouragement for raising spiritually strong children who develop authentic faith, character, responsibility, and a heart for serving others. Takeaways • Lead with love, empathy, boundaries, and accountability rather than fear or control. • Give children age appropriate choices and gradually increase their freedom as they demonstrate responsibility. • Allow children to experience manageable failures while they are still at home and under your guidance. • Use everyday chores as opportunities to teach children the joy and responsibility of serving others. • Use allowance as practice for learning how to earn, save, spend, and manage money wisely. • Evaluate sports and extracurricular activities by asking whether they are helping your family glorify God or becoming an idol. • Model authentic faith by admitting when you fail, asking for forgiveness, and turning back to Jesus. • Focus on what you can control rather than attempting to control your child’s spiritual decisions. • Remember that parenting strategies are tools, while Jesus and the work of the Holy Spirit remain at the center of Christian parenting. About Seth Troutt Charles Fay, PhD, is an internationally recognized author, consultant, and public speaker and serves as president of the Love and Logic Institute. He has spent decades helping parents, educators, and mental health professionals address challenging behaviors in children and teens through practical, research based solutions shaped by his clinical experience. Introduced to Love and Logic from childhood through the work of his father, Jim Fay, Charles went on to earn his PhD with highest honors from the University of South Carolina and became a leading voice in parenting and child development. He is the author of Raising Spiritually Strong Kids, where he combines biblical principles with the Love and Logic approach to help parents raise children who develop authentic faith, wisdom, responsibility, and strong character. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Grab a copy of Raising Spiritually Strong Kids: How to Apply Biblical Principles with Love and Logic® to Bring Up Children Who Live with Authentic Faith on Amazon or through their websiteFollow Dr. Charles Fay: Love and Logic | Facebook | Instagram | X | YouTube More Resources & Links: Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal  Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ.Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more.Check out www.youthministry.coachDaily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.netJoin my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose, Jay sits down with Seth Troutt to explore a biblical vision of authentic masculinity and what it means for parents who want to intentionally disciple their children. Drawing from his book Authentic Masculinity: Leaving Behind the Counterfeits for God’s Design, Seth explains why Christian masculinity must begin with humility rather than comparison with women or attempts to prove strength. His masculinity pyramid identifies four core virtues: humility, discipline, responsibility, and chivalry. Seth explains how these qualities flow from a proper understanding of who we are before God and how they shape the way men live as sons, brothers, makers, husbands, and fathers. The conversation also addresses one of the most important challenges facing Christian families today: the difference between abusing power and abdicating responsibility. Seth explains how biblical masculinity calls men to use their strength to serve, protect, intercede, and take responsibility rather than dominate or withdraw. For parents, he offers practical insight into discipling children through affection, blessing, and correction, emphasizing that children often absorb what they see more than what they are told. Seth shares how he uses warmth, play, stories, spiritual disciplines, and everyday conversations to cultivate faith and character in his young children. The episode also explores the complementary nature of biblical masculinity and femininity, including Seth’s framework of nurturing for women, giving Christian parents a thoughtful foundation for teaching their children a biblical vision of manhood and womanhood. Key Takeaways • Biblical masculinity begins with humility and recognizing that man is not God. • Authentic masculinity is marked by humility, discipline, responsibility, and chivalry. • Discipline should flow from rightly ordered desires and a desire to become more like Christ. • Responsibility means not only owning what is ours, but also being willing to help address problems that are within our sphere of influence. • Chivalry means using strength to honor, serve, protect, and intercede rather than abuse power. • Male abdication, or the failure to use God given strength and responsibility, can be deeply damaging to families. • Fathers influence the spiritual temperature of their homes and should pursue warm, engaged, joyful leadership. • Effective discipleship begins with affection, followed by blessing and appropriate correction. • Children often learn biblical character through what they observe in their parents, not simply through formal teaching. • Parents can use stories, play, everyday conversations, spiritual disciplines, and intentional moments to disciple their children. About Seth Troutt Seth Troutt is the Teaching Pastor at Ironwood Church in the Phoenix metro area and has been pastoring full time since 2011. He holds a doctorate focused on digital technology, Generation Z, and gender identity and writes about the intersections of theology, technology, and culture. His ministry seeks to equip Christians with biblical wisdom, courage, and faithfulness for navigating the challenges of contemporary life. Seth is the author of Authentic Masculinity: Leaving Behind the Counterfeits for God’s Design, a book that presents a clear biblical vision of manhood for men who want to reject cultural counterfeits and embrace God’s design. His website also offers resources for men and fathers, including the Seven Day Sloth Killer and the 40 Day No More Deadbeat Dad Challenge. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Grab a copy of Authentic Masculinity: Leaving Behind the Counterfeits for God’s Design on Amazon.  For more info, visit their website: sethtroutt.com/Follow Seth Troutt on Instagram: @seth_troutt More Resources & Links: Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal  Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ.Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more.Check out www.youthministry.coachDaily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.netJoin my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

Parenting a child with special needs is a journey that few families expect, yet many Christian parents walk every day. In this encouraging conversation, Jay sits down with Dr. Joe and Cindi Ferrini to discuss their book, The Special Needs Parent: A Guide to the Life You Never Expected. Drawing from more than four decades of caring for their son Joey, who lives with cerebral palsy, epilepsy, and developmental disabilities, they share practical wisdom, biblical encouragement, and honest insight into the realities of raising a child with lifelong special needs. Together they explore the challenges of isolation, stress, advocating for your child, building a strong support team, and trusting God's faithfulness through every season of parenting. Whether your family is navigating autism, physical disabilities, chronic illness, developmental delays, or another special needs diagnosis, this episode offers hope rooted in Christ. Dr. Joe and Cindi also challenge churches to become places of genuine welcome and inclusion for families affected by disability while offering practical ways friends and church members can provide meaningful support. This conversation reminds Christian moms and dads that God supplies grace for each day and that faithful parenting is about glorifying Him, even through the unexpected journey. Key Takeaways • Build a trusted team of doctors, therapists, family members, and friends who can support your family. • Isolation and stress are common experiences for special needs parents, but you were never meant to carry the journey alone. • Instead of saying "Let me know if you need anything," offer specific ways you can help. • Churches can make a lasting difference by intentionally welcoming and supporting families with disabilities. • Parents are their child's greatest advocate while remaining teachable and partnering with educators, therapists, and ministry leaders. • God's grace is given one day at a time, providing strength for today's challenges rather than tomorrow's worries. • Every family has a unique journey, but every journey can be lived for the glory of God. About Dr. Joe and Cindi Ferrini Dr. Joe and Cindi Ferrini are Christian speakers, authors, and marriage and family advocates who have spent decades encouraging couples and parents through biblical teaching and practical wisdom. Their personal experience raising their adult son Joey, who has lifelong special needs, inspired them to write The Special Needs Parent: A Guide to the Life You Never Expected. Through their writing and speaking ministry, they encourage families to find hope in Christ, strengthen their marriages, and faithfully navigate life's unexpected challenges while bringing glory to God. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Grab a copy of The Special Needs Parent: A Guide to the Life You Never Expected on Amazon.  For more info, visit their website: cindiferrini.com More Resources & Links: Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal  Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ.Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more.Check out www.youthministry.coachDaily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.netJoin my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

How do Christian parents navigate the challenging transition from raising children to building healthy relationships with adult sons and daughters? In this insightful conversation, Jay sits down with Dr. Kathy Koch to discuss one of the most important shifts in biblical parenting: moving from being a parent who directs and instructs to becoming a trusted consultant who advises and encourages. Drawing from her book Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children, Dr. Kathy shares practical wisdom for maintaining strong family relationships, avoiding common parenting pitfalls, and fostering mutual respect as children enter adulthood. Christian moms and dads will be encouraged to release control, trust God with their adult children, and pursue relationships marked by grace, understanding, and hope. This episode explores topics such as helicopter parenting, family estrangement, communication with adult children, marriage and in-law relationships, prodigal children, and the importance of healthy boundaries. Dr. Kathy reminds parents that discipleship does not end when children leave home, but it does change. Rather than offering constant correction or unsolicited advice, parents can build long term trust by listening well, praying faithfully, respecting their adult children's independence, and remaining available when wisdom is requested. Whether you are preparing to launch a teenager into adulthood or navigating a difficult season with an adult child, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and practical tools for strengthening multi generational family relationships. Key Takeaways Parenting changes when children become adults. Parents become consultants, coaches, and encouragers rather than directors and decision makers.Unsolicited advice often feels like criticism. Listening and understanding create stronger relationships than constant correction.Healthy adult relationships are built on respect, trust, and appropriate boundaries.Parents should avoid making their adult children's choices, successes, or struggles the center of their identity.Letting children experience challenges and consequences helps develop resilience and maturity.Strong relationships with adult children begin with intentional discipleship and connection during the younger years.Family estrangement is painful, but parents can focus on hope, prayer, humility, and reconciliation rather than endless self blame.Investing in long term relationships requires patience, grace, and a willingness to love without keeping score.Parents can continue to influence their adult children by being available, supportive, and genuinely interested in their lives.God loves our children even more than we do, and we can trust Him with their future. Dr. Kathy Koch is the founder and president of Celebrate Kids, Inc., a child development specialist, and a sought after speaker dedicated to helping parents, educators, and churches inspire children to develop biblical character and strong faith. She is the bestselling author of numerous books, including Parent Differently, Resilient Kids, Raising Gender Confident Kids, and her latest book, Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children. For more information, visit celebratekids.com. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Purchase Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children by Dr. Kathy Koch on Amazon or through the Celebrate Kids online store. More Resources & Links: Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal  Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ. Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more. Check out www.youthministry.coachDaily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.netJoin my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this powerful episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose, host Jay Holland sits down with Chris McKenna, founder of Protect Young Eyes and author of The Five Habits of a Tech-Ready Family, for an honest and hope-filled conversation about parenting kids in the digital age. Chris shares how smartphones, social media, pornography exposure, gaming, and AI have created an “experiment” that today’s parents never signed up for. Together, Jay and Chris unpack the emotional and spiritual challenges Christian families face as children navigate addictive technology, online temptation, and constant digital influence. This episode offers biblical wisdom, practical parenting strategies, and encouragement for moms and dads who want to raise disciples of Jesus in a screen-saturated world without leading from fear or shame. Throughout the conversation, Chris explains why Christian parents must move from panic to intentionality by building trust, pursuing authentic connection, and responding with grace first when children fail online. He introduces the five habits of a tech-ready family, including modeling healthy technology use, delaying addictive apps and social media, encouraging real-world play and responsibility, and creating layers of digital protection in the home. Parents will be challenged to think differently about smartphones, social media algorithms, and the emotional realities their children face every day. If you are looking for practical Christian parenting advice on technology, digital safety, online purity, discipleship, and protecting your children’s hearts in the age of AI and social media, this episode is an essential listen. Key Takeaways Kids today are carrying emotional and spiritual burdens online that previous generations never experiencedTechnology companies are intentionally competing for your child’s attention, affection, and habitsGrace-first parenting creates safety for children to confess struggles and mistakesParents should practice calm responses before digital crises happenDelaying addictive technology is not anti-tech parenting, but wisdom-based parentingReal-world play, chores, movement, and face-to-face connection help build resilient kidsHealthy digital boundaries require ongoing conversations, not just parental controlsParents do not need to panic, but they do need a planBuilding digital trust happens “step by step and chat by chat”Protecting children online starts with intentional discipleship at home Bio: Chris McKenna is the Founder of Protect Young Eyes and President of The Better Tech Project.  leading voice on digital safety, he testified before the U.S. Senate in 2019, sparking more than 20 hearings on online child protection. Under his leadership, Protect Young Eyes earned the Dignity Defense Award and the Phase Alliance Child Safety Award. He co-authored the Child Device Protection Bill, now law in Utah and Alabama, requiring devices to activate content filters for minors.  Chris serves as a technical advisor and represents the Human Change Movement, speaking globally—including at the World Economic Forum—while collaborating with advocates, tech leaders, and legislators. Featured in the film Childhood 2.0, Protect Young Eyes equips families with practical safety tools. His debut book, Five Habits of the Tech-Ready Family, releases on June 16, and according to Publishers’ Weekly, it is “comprehensive,” “illuminating,” and “an informative resource for parents eager to establish digital safety nets for their children.” His greatest treasures remain family life, road trips, running, and adventures with his wife, Andrea, four children, and two dogs.  Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/protectyoungeyes/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-mckenna-75962211/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/protectyoungeyes  Website: https://protectyoungeyes.com/  Visit Christian Parenting’s Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide: https://www.christianparenting.org/gifts/

This episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose explores a crucial question for Christian parents: what makes faith stick in the lives of our children? Drawing from over 25 years of youth ministry experience, Jay shares five key elements consistently present in students whose faith endures into adulthood. While acknowledging the mystery of God’s work, he emphasizes that intentional discipleship at home plays a primary role. Parents are encouraged not to outsource spiritual formation to the church, but to become the leading spiritual influence in their child’s life. The first two elements—truth kids understand and relationships they trust—highlight the importance of clearly communicating biblical truth in age-appropriate ways and surrounding children with trusted, godly influences who reinforce faith beyond the home. The episode continues with three additional pillars of “sticky faith”: habits they own, purpose they live, and transforming moments they remember. Jay explains that lasting faith develops when children move from passive participation to personally owning spiritual disciplines like prayer, Scripture reading, and service. He also stresses the importance of helping kids see their faith as a mission, not just a belief system, by living on purpose and engaging in God’s work daily. Finally, both joyful and difficult life experiences can become defining spiritual moments when processed through a biblical lens. This episode equips Christian moms and dads with practical ways to evaluate their home environment, initiate meaningful faith conversations, and intentionally disciple their children for lifelong faith in Jesus. Key Takeaways for Parents: Help your children understand biblical truth, not just hear it—encourage questions and discussion.Cultivate trusted relationships with other godly adults and peers who reinforce your child’s faith.Model and encourage consistent spiritual habits like prayer, Scripture reading, and service.Teach your children to live on mission—following Jesus is more than just believing; it’s living with purpose.Recognize and process significant life moments to help your child see God at work in their story.Focus on progress, not perfection—discipleship is a lifelong journey, not a quick fix. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Think Orange by Reggie JoinerRenewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal by Jay HollandCheck out www.youthministry.coachDaily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.netJoin my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

This episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose features a powerful and practical conversation with author Jon Acuff about overcoming procrastination and building a more intentional, purpose-driven life. Drawing from his new book Procrastination Proof, Acuff reframes procrastination not as laziness, but as a mismatch between our intentions and actions, often driven by fear, overwhelm, or misplaced priorities. He introduces a simple but transformative framework—Dream, Plan, Do, Review—that helps parents and leaders move from good intentions to consistent follow-through. For Christian moms and dads seeking to disciple their children well, this episode emphasizes that growth starts with modeling: aligning your own habits, stewarding your time wisely, and making decisions today that serve your future self and family. The conversation also dives into practical strategies for busy families, including how to “make tomorrow easy today,” prioritize what matters most, and avoid the trap of trying to do everything at once. Acuff’s insights are especially helpful for parents navigating full schedules, offering realistic tools like starting with just 15 minutes a day and focusing on three to five key priorities. The episode closes with a meaningful challenge for Christian parents: to intentionally shape not only their habits but also their children’s mindset about success, time, and stewardship. By addressing concepts like the “acceptable success line,” parents can disciple their kids to pursue God-honoring excellence without guilt, fear, or comparison, equipping them to live faithfully and fruitfully. Resources Mentioned: Purchase Procrastination Proof: Never Get Stuck Again by Jon Acuff on Amazon https://amzn.to/4dPSlRF Visit Jon Acuff’s website at jonacuff.com and follow his podcast: All It Takes Is A Goal Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal https://amzn.to/3MLWavl Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ. Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more. Guest Bio: Jon Acuff Jon Acuff is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leadership expert known for his practical and engaging approach to personal growth and productivity. He has written multiple books, including Procrastination Proof, helping people overcome overthinking, take action, and live with greater purpose. Jon works with individuals, teams, and organizations to build habits that lead to lasting success, all while blending humor, honesty, and real-life application. He lives in Tennessee with his family and is passionate about helping others reach their full, God-given potential. Key Takeaways from the Episode Procrastination is a gap between intention and action, not just poor time management The “Dream, Plan, Do, Review” framework provides a simple, repeatable path to progress Start small: 15 minutes a day can build momentum and lasting habits Focus on 3–5 priorities instead of trying to do everything at once “Make tomorrow easy today” is a powerful discipline for both parents and kids Model habits first. Discipleship is more caught than taught Teach kids to think long-term and make decisions that benefit their future selves Be mindful of the “acceptable success line” and how your beliefs about success shape your children Celebrate progress and reinforce positive habits in your home God-honoring productivity isn’t about perfection. It’s about faithful stewardship over time Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org More Resources & Links: Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal by Jay Holland https://amzn.to/3MLWavl Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! https://tinyurl.com/292kv68y Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this powerful episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose, Jay welcomes back Dr. Kathy Koch to discuss how Christian parents can raise gender-confident kids in today’s confusing cultural climate. Drawing from her book Raising Gender-Confident Kids, co-authored with Dr. Jeff Myers, Dr. Kathy unpacks the biblical framework behind the “Five to Thrive”—security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence—and explains how unmet core needs often fuel gender confusion. With compassion and clarity, she equips parents to move from fear to faith, offering practical tools for affirming their child’s God-given design while maintaining strong, loving relationships. This episode explores how stereotypes distort masculinity and femininity, why social contagion and mental health struggles play a significant role in teen gender confusion, and how parents can proactively build confidence in their children from a young age. Dr. Kathy shares wisdom on affirming a child’s unique strengths through the “Eight Great Smarts,” guarding kids from harmful cultural influences, and responding wisely if a child questions their gender identity. If you’re a Christian parent seeking biblical guidance, practical strategies, and hope in navigating conversations about gender identity, this episode will strengthen your resolve and remind you that God’s design is both intentional and good. Resources Mentioned: Purchase Raising Gender-Confident Kids by Dr. Jeff Myers and Dr. Kathy Koch on Amazon or through the Celebrate Kids online store. Grab a copy of Five to Thrive by Dr. Kathy Koch on Amazon or through the Celebrate Kids online store. Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal. Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ. Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more. Guest Bio: Dr. Kathy Koch Dr. Kathy Koch is the founder and president of Celebrate Kids, Inc., and a child development specialist. She is also the author of nine bestselling parent-child enrichment books including her latest book, Parent Differently: Raise Kids with Biblical Character that Changes Culture.For more, visit celebratekids.com. Key Takeaways from the Episode Drawing from Lightbulb Moments in Marriage, Dr. Eggerichs and Jay explore transformative "aha" insights for successful and satisfied Christian couples. Here are the highlights: The Five Core Needs (“Five to Thrive”) – Security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence must be rooted in Christ to build lasting confidence. Identity Crisis Often Begins with Security Crisis – When kids don’t know who to trust, they struggle to know who they are. Gender Confusion vs. Gender Dysphoria – True clinical dysphoria is rare; confusion often stems from deeper identity and belonging issues. Celebrate Differences Without Stereotypes – Liking math, mechanics, ballet, or sports doesn’t redefine gender. Boys and girls can be multifaceted. Affirm Early and Specifically – Children become who we tell them they are. Use intentional language to affirm their God-given design. Guard Against Social Contagion – Social media exposure significantly influences teen identity struggles. Protect hearts, minds, and devices. Mental Health Matters – Many teens struggling with gender identity are also battling anxiety, depression, or isolation. Address root issues first. Keep the Relationship Alive – When a child questions their gender, prioritize connection, truth, and long-term influence over fear-driven reactions. Model Confidence in God’s Design – Parents who embrace their own God-given identity create a powerful example for their children. Hope for the Future – Research shows most teens experiencing gender confusion resolve it naturally by adulthood without medical intervention. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org More Resources & Links: Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal by Jay Holland Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this inspiring conversation, Jay sits down with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, renowned author of the bestseller Love & Respect and his latest release, Lightbulb Moments in Marriage. Released in early 2026, the book explores 12 "aha" biblical perspectives to transform marriages from frustration to fulfillment. Dr. Eggerichs shares profound insights drawn from over three decades of counseling, scientific research, and Scripture, focusing on how lightbulb moments can break the "Crazy Cycle" of unmet needs in marriage. Whether you're a busy parent juggling kids and chaos or seeking deeper intimacy in your Christian marriage, this episode offers practical marriage advice to help you move forward without hitting the eject button. Topics include love and respect principles, communication breakthroughs, and eternal perspectives on relationships. Listen as Jay and Dr. Eggerichs discuss five to six key lightbulb moments that could revolutionize your marriage. Perfect for couples looking for Christian marriage counseling tips, biblical marriage guidance, or ways to strengthen family bonds. Resources Mentioned: Purchase Lightbulb Moments in Marriage by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs on Amazon or visit loveandrespect.com for more marriage resources, conferences, and tools. Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ. Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more. Guest Bio: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topics of marriage, parenting, communication, and male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, developed the Love and Respect Marriage Conference, which they present to live audiences across the country. He is the founder and president of Love and Respect Ministries, with Sarah serving as vice president. A former senior pastor of East Lansing Trinity Church from 1980 to 1999, Dr. Eggerichs holds a PhD and has authored numerous books, including the New York Times bestseller Love & Respect, a Platinum and Book of the Year award winner that has sold over 2.3 million copies. His work emphasizes Ephesians 5:33, highlighting how wives need love and husbands need respect to thrive. Emerson and Sarah reside in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and have three grown children. For more, visit loveandrespect.com. Key Takeaways from the Episode Drawing from Lightbulb Moments in Marriage, Dr. Eggerichs and Jay explore transformative "aha" insights for successful and satisfied Christian couples. Here are the highlights: God-Given Value, Not Spouse-Driven: Your worth is rooted in Christ, not your spouse's approval. This frees couples from emotional rollercoasters, especially under parenting stress. Shift your identity to Jesus for lasting peace in marriage. Seeing Jesus Beyond Your Spouse: Treat your spouse as unto Christ to energize love and respect. Visualizing Jesus "beyond the shoulder" of your partner fosters forgiveness and intimacy, even in resentment-filled seasons. Clarity in Communication: True understanding beats just talking more. Break the Crazy Cycle by decoding "pink" (love-focused) and "blue" (respect-focused) languages. Use tools like word pictures to turn conflicts into connections, ideal for parents arguing over discipline or roles. Don't Let 20% Define the 80%: Focus on the 80% goodwill in your marriage rather than the 20% frustrations. Pray to magnify strengths and extend grace, helping busy families offset weaknesses like differing parenting styles. My Response Is My Responsibility: Embrace personal accountability for freedom and strength in Christ. Overcome fears like rejection to model resilience for your kids, transforming victim mentalities into victorious marriages. Eternal Perspective: View marriage through God's lens for motivation. Live for His "Well done!" knowing every act of faithfulness has eternal significance, preparing your children for healthy relationships. These biblical marriage tips can wake up stuck relationships and provide the tools needed for forward momentum in Christian parenting and marriage. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org More Resources & Links: Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal by Jay Holland Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

***Pick up a copy of Jay’s new Journal: Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal  How do we raise kids—and grow as parents—who don’t crumble under pressure but become stronger through hardship? In Episode 402 of Let’s Parent on Purpose, Jay Holland is joined once again by author, missionary, and leadership coach Virgil Tanner for a deep, practical conversation on antifragile faith—the kind of faith Jesus describes as a house built on the rock. Together, Jay and Virgil explore why anxiety and fragility have become normalized in modern culture, how Christian discipleship often unintentionally reinforces weakness, and what it looks like to intentionally form resilient, grounded followers of Jesus. Drawing from Scripture, neuroscience, leadership formation, and lived experience—from COVID lockdowns to pediatric cancer hospital rooms—this episode offers parents a hopeful and actionable framework for nurturing spiritual, emotional, physical, cognitive, and relational health. This conversation will challenge how you think about discipleship, parenting, and what it truly means to love God with all of who you are. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why storms don’t reveal weakness—they reveal foundations How culture has reframed fragility as virtue—and why that’s spiritually dangerous The difference between changing behavior and changing the story we live in Why discipleship must be whole-person formation, not just Bible knowledge The five dimensions of the soul: spiritual, physical, cognitive, emotional, relational Simple daily practices that cultivate resilience and joy Why modeling matters more than lecturing when discipling kids How families can become “houses on the rock” for others Why noticing emotions comes before managing or forgiving How loving God with heart, mind, soul, and strength leads to abundant life—not burnout Key Scriptures Referenced Matthew 7:24–27 — The House Built on the Rock Luke 10:25–28 — The Greatest Commandment 1 Corinthians 10:31 — Doing Everything for the Glory of God John 15:11 — “That My joy may be in you, and your joy may be full” Practical Takeaways for Parents Formation happens relationally and communally, not just informationally Shared and modeled habits shape kids more than rules Emotional maturity begins with naming emotions without judgment Gratitude reframes suffering without denying it Thriving families talk openly about how they’re really doing—not just how they’re performing Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org About Virgil Tanner Virgil Tanner is a leadership coach, author, and missionary who has spent years equipping leaders and families to cultivate resilient, Christ-centered lives in high-pressure environments around the world. His work focuses on integrated human flourishing and forming leaders who can endure—and thrive—through adversity. Resources & Links: Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal by Jay Holland Soul Tending: Leadership for Strategic Human Flourishing  Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

***Pick up a copy of Jay’s new Journal: Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal https://amzn.to/3MLWavl In this episode of Let’s Parent On Purpose, Jay Holland sits down with award-winning journalist and bestselling author Lee Strobel to explore the historical, theological, and personal significance of the Christmas story. Together they unpack the evidence for the birth of Jesus, the reliability of the Gospel accounts, misconceptions about the Nativity, and why the Incarnation still changes lives today. Whether you're a long-time believer, a seeker exploring Christianity, or a parent looking to equip your teens with confidence in their faith, this conversation offers clear, compelling reasons to trust the Christmas story as true history—not just a seasonal tradition. Key Topics Covered • The Investigative Journalist Who Tried to Disprove Christianity Lee shares how his journey from atheism to faith began as an attempt to rescue his wife from what he believed was a “cult.” His two-year investigation into the evidence for Jesus’ resurrection led him to the unexpected conclusion that Christianity is true. Why the Nativity Story Is Historically Reliable Lee walks through: Why Luke’s and Matthew’s accounts are independent and trustworthyWhy different Gospel perspectives strengthen—not weaken—the historical caseHow early Christian writings outside the Gospels affirm the virgin birthHow ancient biography differs from modern biography but remains reliable What “No Room in the Inn” Actually Means Lee reveals: The Greek word kataluma likely means guest room, not hotelThe Holy Family almost certainly stayed with relativesJesus was probably born in the family living space of a first-century home, not a wooden stableWhy nativity sets with wooden barns and angry innkeepers are historically inaccurate Why the Virgin Birth Matters theologically Lee explains why the virgin birth is essential for: Jesus being fully God and fully manJesus being born without inherited sinFulfillment of Old Testament prophecy (Isaiah 7:14)Preserving core Christian doctrines Pagan Myth Claims Debunked Lee dismantles the popular internet claim that Christianity “borrowed” the virgin birth or resurrection from pagan myths such as Mithras, Dionysus, or Zoroaster. Each is exposed as historically inaccurate or chronologically impossible. How Investigating Christmas Strengthens Worship Lee shares how studying the incarnation moved him deeply, reminding him that Christianity is not a legend—it's a true story about God entering our world to save us. God Is Moving Today Lee and Jay reflect on the remarkable openness to the gospel they’re seeing nationwide—from churches to college campuses to everyday encounters. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org About Lee Strobel Lee Strobel is a former award-winning legal editor for the Chicago Tribune and a New York Times bestselling author of more than forty books, including The Case for Christ, The Case for Faith, The Case for a Creator, The Case for Miracles, and his newest seasonal release, The Case for Christmas. Originally an atheist, Lee spent two years investigating the evidence for Christianity as a journalist. His search led him to faith in Christ and ultimately into ministry, where he continues to write, speak, teach apologetics, and help people explore the evidence for God. Lee currently serves as founding director of the Lee Strobel Center for Evangelism and Applied Apologetics at Colorado Christian University. His books have sold millions of copies and inspired films, documentaries, and student editions that help the next generation explore faith with confidence. Resources & Links: The Case for Christmas by Lee Strobel https://amzn.to/49S5BDc The Case for Miracles Movie (2024) https://thecaseformiraclesmovie.com/ Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this episode, Jay sits down with Jeremy Pryor to explore what it looks like to build a thriving multi-generational Christian family in a culture that often prioritizes independence over connection. Jeremy shares the story behind his family’s four-generation household, the biblical foundations for treating family as a “multi-generational team,” and how countercultural habits—like a weekly multi-generational meal—can deepen identity, strengthen relationships, and create long-term family discipleship. Together, they unpack the dangers of hyper-individualism, the impact of technology on kids, and the surprising joy found in reclaiming ancient rhythms such as Sabbath-style meals. Jeremy also offers practical steps for parents who want to introduce meaningful, sustainable traditions that anchor their children in faith, family identity, and gospel-centered community. Jeremy Pryor is a family identity expert and author of the book “Family Revision”. His passion is helping families discover and live out their multigenerational mission to further the Kingdom of God. Key Takeaways Why modern Western culture struggles with hyper-individualism—and how it harms families. The biblical idea of a multi-generational family team and how it differs from the fragile nuclear model. Jeremy’s real-life example of four generations living, working, and discipling together. How intentional weekly rhythms—especially a multi-generational family meal—can transform family unity and identity. Practical steps for starting meaningful family traditions that are enjoyable, sustainable, and spiritually rich. Why children thrive when they grow up with strong family identity, shared stories, and rootedness. How reclaiming ancient practices like blessings, Sabbath-style meals, and storytelling helps parents disciple their kids. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Family Meal Template: https://courses.familyteams.com/family-meal Family Identity Through Everyday Chores with Jeremy Pryor Your Family As A Team with Jeremy Pryor Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this conversation, attorney and author Justin Whitmel Earley unpacks how embodied habits shape our spiritual life—what he calls habits as liturgies. Drawing on neuroscience and Scripture (Genesis 2:7; Romans 5; Ephesians 2; Psalm 23), Justin explains why the body often leads the heart, how practices like box breathing + breath prayers, sleep and Sabbath, and fasting and feasting can realign our loves, and how parents can build grace-based rhythms that form their homes. Jay shares his own story of grief and healing to show how God uses humble, repeated practices—friendship, worship, exercise, daily prayer—to restore joy. If you’ve wrestled with anxiety, distraction, or unhealthy relationships with food/tech, this episode gives practical, theologically grounded steps to start small and stay faithful. Justin Whitmel Earley is a writer, speaker, and lawyer. He is the author of The Common Rule, Habits of the Household, and Made for People, though he spends most days running his business law practice. Through his writing and speaking, Justin empowers God’s people to thrive through life-giving habits that form them in the love of God and neighbor. He continually explores both how physical habits are more spiritual than we think and how spiritual habits are more physical than we think. He lives with his wife and four boys in Richmond, Virginia, spends a lot of time around fires and porches with friends, and is a part-owner of a local gym. You can follow him online at justinwhitmelearley.com. Key Takeaways Habits are liturgies. What we do repeatedly (often unconsciously) forms our loves; your identity tends to follow your practices, not just your ideas. Embodiment matters. God made, saved, and will resurrect us in bodies. Spiritual formation happens through the body, not around it. Top-down meets bottom-up. Pair truth in the mind with training in the body—e.g., Scripture + breath, theology + sleep rhythms, confession + tech limits. Breathing as prayer. Use box breathing to calm the nervous system and pair it with breath prayers (e.g., inhale: “The Lord is my shepherd”; exhale: “I shall not want”). Sleep & Sabbath are starting points. Begin the week (and each day) from rest, not for rest—work from God’s finished work. Food as formation. Redeem eating with the twin practices of fasting (dependence) and feasting (delight); both counter indulgence and shame. Fight habit with habit. You usually can’t think your way out of what you practiced your way into; stack small, embodied practices. Parenting is daily formation. The household is a “monastery” where we practice loving God and neighbor—bedtime blessings, screen rules, mealtime conversations, and pause-prayers change the parent, not just the child. Conversation Highlights Why “habits as liturgies” reframes everyday routines as worship. Jay’s testimony of grief, trauma, and how embodied rhythms restored joy. Breathing as the intersection of theology, psychology, and physiology. The Jewish day begins at sundown: a paradigm for starting with rest. How ultra-processed foods hijack dopamine and how fasting/feasting heal. “You can’t think your way out of what you didn’t think your way into.” Reflection / Small-Group Questions 1. Where do your current habits reveal what you actually love? 2. Which embodied practice (breath prayer, sleep/Sabbath, fasting/feasting, exercise) do you sense God inviting you to try first? Why? 3. How could you redesign one household moment (bedtime, mealtime, screens, discipline) to make it a mini-liturgy? 4. In a season of anxiety or grief, which small, repeatable habit most reliably pulls you back to God? Resources & Links: The Body Teaches the Soul — Justin Whitmel Earley  Habits of the Household — Justin Whitmel Earley Breath as Prayer: Calm Your Anxiety, Focus Your Mind and Renew Your Soul Justin’s Website - https://www.justinwhitmelearley.com Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/ Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org

In this conversation, Jay Holland and Rita Diapoules discuss the framework of children's ministry, focusing on the 'Ages and Stages' concept that helps parents understand how to guide their children spiritually as they grow. They emphasize the importance of habit stacking in daily routines to reinforce biblical truths, the significance of teaching biblical concepts appropriate to each age group, and the necessity of creating high-value touch points for families. Rita shares practical tips for parents to integrate spiritual discussions into their daily lives and the importance of partnering with the church for the spiritual growth of children. Takeaways Children's ministry should focus on long-term spiritual growth. The 'Ages and Stages' framework helps parents guide their children. Habit stacking can integrate spiritual teachings into daily routines. Parents are the primary disciplers of their children. Regular spiritual conversations are crucial for faith retention. Teaching should be age-appropriate and build on previous knowledge. Creating a community helps parents feel supported in their roles. Parents should actively engage with their church's children's ministry. Simple reminders can help reinforce biblical truths at home. Prayer and Bible reading should be prioritized in family life. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Ages and Stages: A Discipleship Framework for Church and Home  Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

In this conversation, Dr. Sy Garte shares his remarkable journey from atheism to Christianity, exploring the intersection of faith and science. He discusses his personal experiences, the complexities of evolution, and the importance of understanding inheritance in biological processes. Dr. Garte emphasizes that science and faith are not mutually exclusive, advocating for a perspective that sees scientific discovery as a way to appreciate God's creation. He also provides insights for parents on how to discuss science with their children in a way that celebrates discovery while affirming their faith. Takeaways Dr. Garte's journey from atheism to Christianity was influenced by both intellectual and spiritual experiences. He emphasizes the importance of spirituality in human existence. The concept of inheritance is foundational to understanding evolution. Evolution does not contradict the biblical account of creation. Why Dr. Garte prefers the word divine design over intelligent design. Recent scientific discoveries suggest that even single-celled organisms exhibit agency and purpose. Science and faith can coexist and complement each other. Parents can equip their children to understand science as a celebration of God's creation. The history of science is deeply intertwined with Christian thought. Truth is unchanging, and God created everything for His pleasure. About Sy GarteSy Garte, PhD in biochemistry, is the author of Beyond Evolution: How New Discoveries in the Science of Life Point to God (Tyndale, August 2025) as well as the award-winning book The Works of His Hands: A Scientist’s Journey from Atheism to Faith (Kregel, 2019); and Science and Faith in Harmony: Contemplations on a Distilled Doxology (Kregel, 2024); and He has been a professor at New York University, the University of Pittsburgh and is currently Visiting Professor at Rutgers University. He has held leadership positions at the National Institutes of Health (NIH) and the Uniformed Services University. Sy has published over two hundred peer-reviewed scientific papers and five books, as well as articles on science and faith. He serves as the Editor-in-Chief of the American Scientific Affiliation’s (ASA) quarterly magazine God and Nature. He is a fellow of the ASA, and Vice President of the Washington DC Metro chapter. He served as lay leader at his United Methodist Church. Sy was raised in an atheist, Marxist family, and was baptized 13 years ago.  Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Check out www.youthministry.coach Daily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net Find Dr. Garte at https://sygarte.com/ Get Beyond Evolution: How New Discoveries in the Science of Life Point to God: https://amzn.to/4mzDyem Get The Works of His Hands: A Scientists Journey from Atheism to Faith: https://amzn.to/3Vthrv9 Join my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook!  Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/