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Stress can follow you into your marriage bed, shaping desire and connection. We unpack how it disrupts intimacy and what to do. Sponsor Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 Resources Episode 4: Stress and Sex 3 Questions that Can Reduce Stress and Increase Calm in Your Life – CalmHealthySexy  How Do You Respond to Stress in Your Marriage – The Forgiven Wife Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Simple Ways to Reduce Stress in Your Life and Marriage – CalmHealthySexy De-Stress to Improve Libido – OysterBed 7 How Does Stress Affect Your Marriage – The Forgiven Wife 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Are We Having Less Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker with four differences between what you see on the screen and what happens in the sheets. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

What does sex that isn't mostly about orgasm look like? What does it mean to really savor your lovemaking? Slide your chair up to our (bistro) table this week and let's discuss! Sponsor Every Love Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible For your Maker is your husband—     the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;     he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. Hosea 2:19 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32 Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Psalm 127:3 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10 (ESV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7  Resources What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 254: From Passion to Connection (Quickie) Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling | The Gottman Institute Couples Recovery and FANOS Check-in – Bethesda Workshops My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Foreplay – Webinar TROJAN Extended Pleasure Condoms | Amazon Durex Performax Intense Natural Rubber Latex Condoms | Amazon Exploring Exercise for Premature Ejaculation (including the pause-squeeze technique) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker 

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with a tip to restore emotional connection and strengthen sexual intimacy. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

With special guest Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage, we tackle listener questions about erectile dysfunction, moving during sex, and feeling semiconscious after orgasm. Sponsor Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. Job 31:1 I will conduct the affairs of my house   with a blameless heart. I will not look with approval   on anything that is vile. Psalm 103:2b–3a You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:14–15 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5 The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! Song of Songs 5:1 (HCSB) Resources Intimacy In Marriage - Julie Sibert's site 10 Symptoms of Porn Addiction Withdrawal (And How to Manage Them) | Covenant Eyes Episode 154: Why We're Against Porn and Erotica The Samson Society The Sarah Society Strong Wives - Coaching with Bonny Burns Hope for Wives Podcast (Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal) Christian-friendly Sex Positions How To Tips Archives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker (Signed) - ON SALE FOR $5 IN CONTIGUOUS US Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid | Married Dance Episode 215: Kegels and Sexual Pleasure (Quickie) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 219: Kegels and Climax (Quickie) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives The Orgasm Page | Intimacy in Marriage Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker 

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about dealing with nonsexual baggage that affects your sex life. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Related Posts Check Your Luggage | The Forgiven Wife Unbearable Lessons | The Forgiven Wife  

With Chris, Bonny, and J all here, we address the ways sex can change due to aging, how you can respond, and what younger listeners can do to prepare for age-related changes. Sponsor Every Love Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible Is not wisdom found among the aged?   Does not long life bring understanding? Job 12:12 Even to your old age and gray hairs   I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you;   I will sustain you and I will rescue you. Isaiah 46:4 Resources Episode 4: Stress and Sex (note: the audio quality of our early episodes was not as good) Help For Vaginal Dryness • Bonny's Oysterbed7 An Embarrassing Post about Female Sexual Dysfunction (Plus 5 Tips!) | The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife Can Daily Arousal Help with Vulvovaginal Atrophy? | The Forgiven Wife Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here's What To Do First. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 231: Choosing a Lube (Quickie) Cold-pressed, Virgin Coconut Oil | Amazon Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid | Married Dance Good Clean Love BioNude Ultra Sensitive Personal Lubricant | Amazon A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife Getting Older, Having Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the benefits of hugging in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

With special guest Vicki Tiede, we address a reality for some Christian heterosexual marriages, same-sex arousal or attraction. What does it mean? And what can you do? Sponsors Aldrich Ministries is passionate about helping couples transform their marriages from surviving to thriving. They offer individual and couples coaching through convenient online video from the comfort of your own home. Regain hope and find healing with the Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network. From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image,     in the image of God he created them;     male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:6–8 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 Resources Life Renovation Counseling & Coaching - Mike & Vicki Tiede Courageous Hearts Group w/Vicki Tiede When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart by Vicki Tiede Sexual Clarity for Christian Women w/Bonny Burns Same-Sex Attraction—Confusion To Clarity (free download from Vicki) Are We Naturally Monogamous? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about shifting your focus from passion to connection. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Francie Winslow, of Female by Design, joins us today to talk about why and how you should prioritize kissing in your marriage. Special Request Regent University's Cherish research team invites married adult women to take part in an important study on women's thoughts and feelings around their sexual experience. Participation involves completing a confidential 20-minute online survey. Your privacy will be fully respected and you may choose to opt out at any point; if you choose to participate, more information will be given with regard to informed consent. Your responses will help shed light on an area of women's health that is often underrepresented in research. By joining, you will be contributing to meaningful insights that can improve awareness, resources, and future care for women. Your voice matters, and your voluntary participation can make a real difference. Click or scan below. Please contact [email protected] if you have any questions. Take the 20-minute survey by clicking HERE or scanning below. Sponsor Our Sexual Desire Differences masterclass guides you through what a desire difference looks like in marriage, why it happens, and how to navigate it with grace, understanding, and practical tools. All for only $25! Buy the masterclass or learn more HERE. From the Bible Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Song of Songs 1:2 Greet one another with a holy kiss. 2 Corinthians 13:12 Resources Francie Winslow's website Female by Design Podcast — Francie Winslow Why Kissing Matters in Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Kissing in marital and cohabiting relationships: Effects on blood lipids, stress, and relationship satisfaction. An Introduction to Emotional Bids and Trust - The Gottman Institute Episode 243: Sex Is For You Too, Two Intentional Intimacy: Kissing in the Kitchen episode - Female by Design Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker with five ways you can let your husband know you enjoy sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Many wives have heard that men think about sex nearly all the time. But do they? We tackle this important question, because it influences what we think about men, sexuality, and challenges in our marriage. Sponsor Through story-centered counseling and coaching for individuals and couples, Aldrich Ministries helps you move beyond surface solutions into real healing and lasting change. Check them out! From the Bible Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. Romans 8:5 You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:22–24 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8 Resources Sexual Morality by C.S. Lewis Doodle (BBC Talk 14) - reading and visual representation of Mere Christianity chapter that talks about sexual starvation or gluttony Study Debunks Stereotype That Men Think About Sex All Day Long Should You Be Reading My Blog? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 104: How Often Should You Have Sex? How Often Do Men Think About The Roman Empire? A Lot, According To New TikTok Trend The Higher Desire Wife by J. Parker Masterclass: Sexual Desire Differences Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker 

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about what to do when your bedroom is a little boring. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! Related post: 5 Ways to Work on Your Sex Life without Having to Add Spice - The Forgiven Wife  

We've often said that the Bible has a lot to say about sexuality. But which passages made a big difference in our lives? Bonny, J, and Chris start off the new year discussing Bible verses that helped our sexual growth. Sponsor Every Love Intimates has a great Date Night Subscription box and also sells quality lingerie and single-night date boxes. Check them out! From the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9–11 I know a man in Christ who fourteen years ago was caught up to the third heaven. Whether it was in the body or out of the body I do not know—God knows. And I know that this man—whether in the body or apart from the body I do not know, but God knows— was caught up to paradise and heard inexpressible things, things that no one is permitted to tell. I will boast about a man like that, but I will not boast about myself, except about my weaknesses. Even if I should choose to boast, I would not be a fool, because I would be speaking the truth. But I refrain, so no one will think more of me than is warranted by what I do or say, or because of these surpassingly great revelations. Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:2–10 Create in me a clean heart, O God And renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (KJV) The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,     because the Lord has anointed me     to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,     to proclaim freedom for the captives     and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor     and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn,     and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty     instead of ashes, the oil of joy     instead of mourning, and a garment of praise     instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness,     a planting of the Lord     for the display of his splendor. Isaiah 61:1–3 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 Song of Songs I belong to my beloved,     and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 1 Corinthians 7:2–7 Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, "Do you want to get well?" "Sir," the invalid replied, "I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me." Then Jesus said to him, "Get up! Pick up your mat and walk." John 5:3–8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, "I have gotten a man with the help of the Lord." Genesis 4:1 I am my lover's, and my lover is mine. He browses among the lilies. Song of Songs 6:3 (NLT) For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be made known and brought to light. Luke 8:17 (BRB) Resources Love (and Sex in Marriage) Is Not Self-Seeking - Hot, Holy & Humorous "In Bed" (or, Lessons from a Fortune Cookie) | The Forgiven Wife Episode 214: Developing a Theology of Sex, with Phylicia Masonheimer Supernatural Sex: Spiritual Dimension of Libido for Low-Drive Wives • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker