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Krispin and DL discuss the 1995 book “Boundaries” by Cloud and Townsend. In this book, readers learn that they have the right to make their own choices (but if they do, God will punish them). We discuss their advice on boundaries in marriage, parents with adult children and more! And yes, this is the the same Townsend who did the Focus on the Family video series about mending relationships with adult children, which we discussed in our summer series. TW: sexual abuse, domestic violence, suicidality If you want to hear our series on the developmental impacts of being raised in  a high control religion, you can become a paid subscriber at https://www.strongwilledproject.com/ or our STRONGWILLED patreon, where we’re exploring each developmental phase, discussing how religious authoritarian parenting books approached them, what typical development looks like and what the long-term impacts might be from being raised under religious authoritarian parents (in a high control religion). We'd love to hear from you all about what resonates and anything you'd add to the conversation!  Thank you so much for your continued support! You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠ and DL on instagram here.  As always, this is a survivor-led and survivor-supported publication. If you appreciate our work (and our ad-free podcast!) please consider supporting us financially or sharing about the podcast on your social media channels.

What’s the difference between experiencing religious trauma in the church — and being born into it? This episode, we begin to explore what kinds of long-term impacts come from being born into a high control religion like white evangelicalism.  This episode was initially released for our patreon/website subscribers in May, but we wanted to share it with you this month.  If you want to hear other episodes about the developmental impacts of being raised in  a high control religion, you can become a paid subscriber at https://www.strongwilledproject.com/ or our STRONGWILLED patreon, where we’r exploring each developmental phase, discussing how religious authoritarian parenting books approached them, what typical development looks like and what the long-term impacts might be from being raised under religious authoritarian parents (in a high control religion). TW: Sexual abuse, infant loss, neglectful parenting Check out the website DL mentions, http://www.ezzo.info to hear more critiques of the Ezzos and parenting advice. We'd love to hear from you all about what resonates and anything you'd add to the conversation!  Thank you so much for your continued support! You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠ and DL on instagram here.  As always, this is a survivor-led and survivor-supported publication. If you appreciate our work (and our ad-free podcast!) please consider supporting us financially or sharing about the podcast on your social media channels.

This episode we heard from listeners about what they’ve found most rewarding about being leaving either dysfunctional families, the faith they were raised with – or both. We also talk about what we wished we’d known when we were leaving.  TW: physical abuse, anti-queer rhetoric Thank you so much to our community for sharing their experiences! We appreciate your continual support, and your input on this episode! You can read more about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ at ghost to support this podcast and listen to our series about the developmental impacts of growing up in a high control religion, as well as join our discord community. You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠ and DL on instagram here.  As always, this is a survivor-led and survivor-supported publication. If you appreciate our work (and our ad-free podcast!) please consider supporting us financially or sharing about the podcast on your social media channels.

This episode we discuss what Focus on the Family and James Dobson Institute recommending to estranged evangelical parents. We dig into what Dr. John Townsend (Peter Thiel-affiliated author of Boundaries) suggests to parents in order to mend their relationships in a video Focus on the Family published in 2022. TW/CW: sexual abuse, physical abuse, complaints from estranged parents You can read more about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ at ghost to support this podcast and listen to our series about the developmental impacts of growing up in a high control religion, as well as join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠ and DL on instagram here.

Welcome to our new series on estrangement! This episode we discuss what Focus on the Family and the James Dobson Institute are saying about estranged adult children. This episode focus on the reasons given for estrangement, as well as what we think is actually driving estrangement.  You can read more about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ at ghost to support this podcast and listen to our series about the developmental impacts of growing up in a high control religion, as well as join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠ and DL on instagram here.

Krispin talked with Jenai Auman about learning to spot power and abuse dynamics in any group or organization.  She is author of Othered, and writes regularly on her substack. She also serves on the board of The Reclamation Collective. You can also follow her on instagram. They talked talked about the Spiritual Power Inventory which you can find on The Reclamation Collective website. They also discussed whether progressive spaces are more or less susceptible to abusive dynamics, and rhetoric used to dismiss progressive movements.  You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ at ghost to support this podcast and join our discord community and hear about why JD Vance is giving DL hope. You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠ and DL on instagram here.

Trigger warnings: religious trauma regarding purity culture throughout, allusions to pedophilia around 15:00, mention of sexual abuse around 49:00. We were so grateful to have a conversation with Erica Smith, sex educator and author of the incredibly helpful new bookThe Purity Culture Recovery Guide: The Shame-Free Sex Education You Deserve. You can also follow Erica on instagram. Krispin talked with Erica about dating after purity culture, feeling like an imposter in queer spaces when you come out late in life, lifelong impacts of being disconnected from your own sense of desire — as well as the top five things Erica found surprising (and disturbing) about purity culture as an outsider who learned about it as an adult.You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilled.substack.com⁠⁠⁠ or strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.

Krispin and DL discuss the movie Spotlight, about the team of journalists who broke the story about abusive Catholic priests in Boston, and eventually, around the world. The powerful movie is about how systems protect abusers.  We originally recorded and released the episode last summer for our paid subscribers, but felt that it was relevant to current times, following another Epstein Files dump, and as a society, we’re discussing how abusers operate — and how those around them enable.  If you enjoyed this episode, you can join ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or become a paid subscriber on substack to get these extra episodes. We just released one yesterday titled Dobson in the Epstein Files, Boundaries with Parents & Evaluating the Doctrine of Forgiveness. You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilled.substack.com⁠⁠⁠ or strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILLED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.

TW: childhood sexual abuse, CSAM This episode, DL gives an overview of their research on Dobson's knowledge and failure to use that knowledge to protect kids, and instead promoted ideas within purity culture that parallel and affirm childhood sexual abusers. It's a long one, and it's tough content, but we feel it's incredibly important.  You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilled.substack.com⁠⁠⁠ or strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.

Here's another Hopecore episode!  DL talks about why the latest Knives Out Mystery gives them hope. We discussed the way it approaches different types of Christianity, as well as asking whether Christianity itself is helpful, as well as what happens to true believers when they become calcified in institutions.  We appreciate your continued support and engagement. As always, this is a survivor-led and survivor-supported publication. If you appreciate our work (and our ad-free podcast!) please consider supporting us financially or sharing about the podcast on your social media channels. You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.

TW: eugenics, racism, forced sterilization, gendered violence, child abuse, child sexual abuse materials, and homophobia/conversion therapy. This episode, DL talks about Dobson's political career (including helping Putin come to power in Russia), and how Dobson's purity culture is pedophile culture.  You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilled.substack.com⁠⁠⁠ or strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.

TW: eugenics, racism, forced sterilization, gendered violence, child abuse, child sexual abuse materials, and homophobia/conversion therapy. This episode, DL gives an overview of the beginning of Dobson’s career prior to founding Focus on the Family, including his eugensistic beginnings, his role on the Meese Commission and the ways he ushered in the religious authoritarianism we’re living under right now. You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilled.substack.com⁠⁠⁠ or strongwilledproject.com You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.

This is our second Hopecore episode! It's a special series where we take a break from talking explicitly about religious authoritarianism, and talk about something we like.  DL talks about why Derry Girls gives them hope during such difficult times. We discussed why it feels like an important story, our favorite characters and why Krispin is a Derry girl.  This fall, we’ll be releasing a substack series of writing and podcasts focused on Dobson and his impact on children in religious communities — so we also wanted to make room to talk about things that are life giving and more fun to focus on. Looking ahead, most of this content will for our patreon/subscriber community, but we wanted to share it with the broader community today.  You can listen to the audio on the main podcast feed — just search STRONGWILLED wherever you find your podcasts.  We appreciate your continued support and engagement. We know that much of our content take enormous emotional energy to process — we feel the same. So we’re very glad to switch it up this week and have a little fun! As always, this is a survivor-led and survivor-supported publication. If you appreciate our work (and our ad-free podcast!) please consider supporting us financially or sharing about the podcast on your social media channels. You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.

We’re trying something new this week! Instead of talking about religion authoritarianism, we took some time for DL to talk about something they love and that is giving them some hope: The 2025 Superman movie that released this summer. This fall, we’ll be releasing a substack series of writing and podcasts focused on Dobson and his impact on children in religious communities — so we also wanted to make room to talk about things that are life giving and more fun to focus on. Looking ahead, most of this content will for our patreon/subscriber community, but we wanted to share it with the broader community today.  You can listen to the audio on the main podcast feed — just search STRONGWILLED wherever you find your podcasts.  We appreciate your continued support and engagement. We know that much of our content take enormous emotional energy to process — we feel the same. So we’re very glad to switch it up this week and have a little fun! As always, this is a survivor-led and survivor-supported publication. If you appreciate our work (and our ad-free podcast!) please consider supporting us financially or sharing about the podcast on your social media channels. You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.

Krispin & DL recap and discuss the fourth movie of The Hunger Games, wrapping up the series and discussing picking up the pieces after trauma -- and a lot more.  We’d love for you to take our survey examining the impacts of growing up in a religious authoritarian environment: click on this link to take it! So many thanks to all of you who have taken it so far, we’ve had over 500 responses! Plus, you all have left so many kind words in the open comment section and it’s been incredibly encouraging as we continue in this work! We just released an episode discussing the 2015 film Spotlight, talking through how abusive systems protect abusers, and the religious themes that uphold those systems. Head over to patreon to join and listen. We’re hosting an IN-PERSON book club in Gresham, OR at Maggie Mae’s bookstore: September 28 @ 5:15pm.  You can read about religious authoritarian parenting and also find the transcript for this podcast at⁠⁠⁠ strongwilled.substack.com⁠⁠⁠. You can join⁠⁠ ⁠our patreon community⁠⁠⁠ or⁠⁠⁠ join our substack⁠⁠⁠ to support this podcast and join our discord community.  You can follow STRONGWILED on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠. You can ⁠⁠⁠follow Krispin on Instagram here⁠⁠⁠.