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Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type Eight  | Episode 3 of 4 Every Eight starts out protecting something. A wound, a person they love, or a standard of justice no one else seems to care about enough. But protection has a shadow side (and when it tips into control), the armor that was meant to keep people safe starts to push them away instead. In this episode, Amy sits down with Melanie, a Type Eight Canadian farmer, grandmother of almost 12, and certified Wholehearted Enneagram Coach, to walk through the Victim, Villain, Hero, and Guide framework through the lens of the Eight. Melanie is direct, funny, and disarmingly honest about her own journey through each of these roles, including the parts that weren't pretty. This conversation is for every Eight who has ever thrown something, gone silent when they meant to speak, or wondered why vulnerability feels like open heart surgery without anesthesia. And it's for everyone who loves an Eight and wants to understand what's actually happening underneath. In this episode: Where Eights get stuck in the victim role and why it shows up as withdrawal as often as angerWhen protection becomes control: the Eight's villain storyWhat it actually took for Melanie to step into vulnerability, and why she went face-to-face right awayThe hero moment: naming feelings, finding safety, and letting someone inHow Eights move into the guide role and how they learn to hold space without overpoweringThe lie Melanie carried for decades: "If it's gonna be, it's up to me."Why Melanie calls herself a champion, not a challengerConnect with Melanie: https://www.abidebydesign.ca/ Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type 8  | Episode 2 of 4 What does transformation actually look like for an Enneagram Eight? Not softer. Not smaller. Not less. In this episode, Amy talks with Melodie, a Type Eight, certified Wholehearted Enneagram Coach, and someone who has done the kind of honest, courageous inner work that changes everything. Melodie shares what it looked like to finally stop filling her plate as a way of avoiding what she couldn't control, what it cost her to keep pushing through when her body was telling her to stop, and how she's learning to trust God's timing when her instinct is to do everything herself, now. Her story will feel familiar if you've ever stayed up 48 hours to finish something that didn't need to be done. If you've ever said hallelujah when someone canceled on you, but couldn't bring yourself to cancel on them. If you've ever wondered whether your strength is carrying you or driving you. This conversation is warm, honest, and full of the kind of specific detail that only comes from someone who's actually done the work. In this episode: Why Melodie resisted the Eight label and what finally made it clickThe navy jet metaphor that reframes what Eight strength actually looks likeThe pattern of doing, doing, doing, and what it was really covering upHow chronic illness became an unexpected invitation to surrenderLearning to wait, rest, and trust God's timing as a Type EightThe "hallelujah when they cancel" story that perfectly captures the Eight's hidden struggleWhat Melodie would tell an Eight who's just starting this journeyYour strength is a gift, and you don’t have to carry everything alone. Connect with Melodie Kenniebrew here: https://www.melodiek.com/ Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail When Eights Finally Trust: Power, Vulnerability & Faith with Deanna Sudom Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type Eight | Episode 1 of 4 What if the most powerful person in the room is also the most guarded, and for very good reason? Enneagram Eights are often misread as bulldozers. The memes paint them as intense, controlling, and hard to be around. But underneath that strength is something most people never get close enough to see: one of the most tender, loyal, justice-driven hearts in the entire Enneagram. In this episode, Amy sits down with spiritual director and co-teacher Deanna Sudom to open the Wholehearted Enneagram Eight month. Together they explore what's really driving the Eight's intensity, why vulnerability feels so costly to them, and what it looks like when an Eight finally learns to trust God, others, and themselves. Both Amy and Deanna are raising Enneagram Eight daughters, which means this conversation comes with a level of tenderness and firsthand insight you won't find in a meme. Whether you're an Eight, love an Eight, or just need to access your inner Eight this season, this episode is for you. In this episode: What most people miss about the Eight's assertiveness and angerThe core fear driving the Eight's need for control and what they're really longing forFalse scripts the Eight might believe, and the voice of love that counters each oneWhy vulnerability feels like weakness to an Eight and why that's worth examiningHow Eights experience God, where they connect, and where they resistThe spiritual practice that can shift everything: naming vulnerability out loudA scripture that reframes weakness as the very place God's power shows upDeanna Sudom is a spiritual director and co-teacher on the Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast. https://www.simplywholehearted.com/deanna-sudom https://www.capstonefreedomcoaching.com/ Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail The Nine's Sacred Desire | Why Your Wants Matter to God with Marilyn Vancil Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type Nine | Episode 4 of 4 Do your desires actually matter to God, or are you supposed to keep setting them aside? For Enneagram Nines, that question cuts deep. When your default is to merge, accommodate, and keep the peace, knowing what you even want can feel impossible. And trusting that God cares about those wants? Even harder. In this conversation, Amy sits down with Marilyn Vancil, Enneagram author, spiritual director, and fellow Nine, to explore the sacred journey of desire for the Type Nine. They unpack why Nines struggle to identify and claim their desires, how the distorted longing for union can pull a Nine right out of herself, and what it looks like to surrender to God without disappearing in the process. Marilyn also shares a personal and surprisingly vulnerable moment about the "mirage," a word that stopped her cold when she encountered it in her own story. Whether you're a Nine trying to figure out what you actually want, or you love a Nine and want to understand them better, this episode will meet you with patience, depth, and a lot of grace. In this episode: Why Nines have a "vague sense of self" and what that has to do with desireThe three subtypes of the Nine and how desire shows up differently in eachWhy stubbornness in a Nine is actually a red flag worth paying attention toThe John the Baptist misquote that keeps Nines small, and the truth that sets them freeHow to love a Nine well when they're learning to claim what they wantResources:  Self to Lose - Self to Find: A Biblical Approach to the 9 Enneagram Types  Beyond the Enneagram: An Invitation to Experience a More Centered Life with God Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Where do Type 9s get stuck, and how do they move forward? Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type Nine | Episode 3 of 4 In this episode, Amy and Jilann (a Type 9 and Wholehearted Coach for quiet leaders) walk through the four roles that show up in the Nine's journey: Victim, Villain, Hero, and Guide. You'll discover:  Where Nines get stuck in Victim energy (and why conflict feels like a personal threat) How Villain energy shows up as passive-aggression and quiet stubbornness What it looks like when a Nine steps into Hero energy and claims their voice The difference between being a peacekeeper (avoiding conflict) and a peacemaker (creating true peace) The False Script vs. Voice of Love for Type 9 Practical answers to real questions: How do I know if I'm actually a 9? How do I help my Nine spouse? What's the first step toward growth?This episode gives you the framework for understanding the Nine's journey—whether you're in the middle of it or just beginning. If you're a Nine, you'll hear that wherever you are in this journey, feeling unheard, struggling with resentment, taking your first brave steps, or learning to sustain your voice, you're exactly where you need to be. You don't have to have it all figured out. Just take the next right step. Your presence brings peace. You don't have to go along to belong. Connect with Jilann Carlson here: https://www.jilenneagram.com/ Listen to her Strength in Numbers Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strength-in-numbers-an-enneagram-centered-podcast/id1638164115 Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type 9  | Episode 2 of 4 What does transformation actually look like for an Enneagram Nine? In this episode, Amy talks with Meredith Davis, an Enneagram 9 who's been walking the Wholehearted Transformation Journey. Meredith shares honestly about the moment she stopped using the Enneagram as an excuse ("this is just how I am") and started doing the deeper work. You'll hear about:  Why Meredith initially mistyped herself and how she finally landed on Type 9 The breaking point that made her realize she couldn't stay stuck anymore The surprising stubbornness of Type 9 (and how it shows up sideways) How her faith journey intersected with learning to find her voice A birthday story that perfectly illustrates what it looks like to claim agency as a Nine The practice of gratitude vs. rumination (and why Nines need this distinction) What she'd tell a Nine who's just starting this journeyThis isn't about having it all figured out. It's about taking brave steps, stumbling, growing, and discovering that your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point. If you're a Nine (or you love one), Meredith's story will help you see that speaking up doesn't destroy connection, it creates the kind of honest relationship you've been longing for. Your presence brings peace. You don't have to go along to belong. Thank Meredith, for sharing her story:  email: [email protected] Instagram:  meredith_irene_davis  Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type Nine, Episode 1 of 4 What if the most peaceful person in the room is also the one most in need of courage? This month, we begin with Enneagram Type Nine, and Amy kicks off the conversation with her co-teacher and spiritual director, Deanna Sudom. Together, they explore what makes Nines so uniquely gifted (that rare ability to bring calm, see every side, and hold space for everyone) and what keeps them stuck. You'll hear about: The Nine's core fear of being overlooked, fragmented, or disconnected, and how it quietly shapes their choicesWhy Nines aren't lazy, they're numb, and the difference mattersHow Nines experience God (hint: it's often felt more than figured out)The surprising stubbornness that hides underneath all that easygoing presenceA Joshua 1 practice for the Nine who is ready to stop staying smallWhether you're a Nine yourself or you love one, this conversation is an invitation: God isn't asking you to stay quiet. He's asking you to wake up, speak up, and trust that your voice doesn't disrupt the peace; it creates it. Your presence brings peace. You don't have to go along to belong. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Storywork BONUS Episode (part 5) Before we move into our Type-specific series, there's one more pattern we need to talk about, a place where many women get stuck BEFORE they ever step into their Hero moment. In this bonus episode of the Wholehearted Storywork series, Amy explores the Sidekick stuck point, not as a lesser role, but as a protective pattern in which we use service, support, and "being helpful" to avoid claiming our own agency and stepping into our own story. This conversation gently names how "I'm just here to help" can become a hiding place rather than a calling, and why recognizing this pattern is essential before you can truly awaken Hero energy. You'll explore: Why the Sidekick pattern often forms before the Hero awakening, not after.How serving others can become a way to avoid your own calling.The difference between faithful service and hiding behind helpfulness.When Sidekick energy is a stuck point versus when it's a mature, faithful season.Why this pattern is especially common among Christian women.How Type Nine energy illustrates this stuck point (and why we're starting there next month).This episode isn't about stopping your service or diminishing the value of supporting others. It's about asking: Am I serving from wholeness, or am I serving to stay safe? If you've ever felt invisible while being incredibly useful, if you've championed everyone else's dreams while dismissing your own, or if the idea of pursuing your own calling feels selfish, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are. Sometimes the most courageous act is stepping out of the wings and into your own story. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Storywork Part 4  After you've named the pain, let go of control, and stepped into agency, a question emerges: How do I sustain this? In this final episode of the Wholehearted Storywork series, Amy explores the Guide role, not as someone who has arrived or finished their own story, but as someone who has stayed with their healing long enough to walk alongside others without needing to control the outcome. This conversation reframes what it means to guide and be guided, and why formation is a lifelong journey that requires wisdom, presence, and ongoing support. You'll explore:  What a Guide is (and isn't) in wholehearted formation.Why Guides still need guidance and haven't "graduated" from their own healing.How Hero energy becomes sustainable through wisdom over time. The Holy Spirit as the true Guide in your life.Why you don't have to have it all together to walk with othersThis episode isn't about becoming an authority or arriving at spiritual maturity. It's about learning how to stay present with your own story so you can offer that same presence to others. If you've been on this wholehearted journey and are wondering what comes next, or if you've realized that even good changes need support to last, this conversation offers a vision of formation that doesn't end but deepens. Guides don't guide because they're finished; they guide because they've learned how to stay. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Storywork Part 3 When you've named the pain and released the need to control, something powerful awakens. A choice. In this third episode of the Wholehearted Storywork series, Amy explores the Hero role, not as hustle or self-reliance, but as the moment you realize you have agency in your own story. This conversation honors the courage it takes to step forward while gently exploring why even your best efforts can become exhausting when carried alone. You'll explore:  What it means to awaken agency without falling into self-reliance.Why Hero energy is necessary for healing to move forward.The difference between choosing courageously and carrying everything alone. How effort and insight can start transformation, but wisdom helps it last.Why you were never meant to be the hero in everyone else's story.This episode isn't about doing more or trying harder. It's about recognizing the moments when you realize: "I don't have to stay here. I can choose differently." If you've ever taken a brave step forward only to find yourself exhausted months later, or if you're wondering how to sustain the changes you've courageously made, this conversation offers clarity and compassion for the journey ahead. Your Hero moments matter. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Storywork – Part 2 When pain goes unhealed, it doesn’t disappear. It often turns into protection. In this second episode of the Wholehearted Storywork series, Amy explores the Villain role, not as a label for bad people, but as a pattern that forms when fear, self-protection, or unresolved hurt begins to shape our choices. This conversation gently reframes villain energy as a response to pain rather than a moral failure, and invites you to notice where control, defensiveness, or blame may have quietly replaced trust. You’ll explore: How unprocessed pain can harden the heart over timeWhy the Villain role is often about protection, not crueltyThe difference between repentance and self-condemnationHow fear and control can quietly rewrite the story you’re livingWhy awareness (not shame) is the first step toward freedomThis episode isn’t about diagnosing yourself or others.  It’s about noticing the ways we try to stay safe when healing feels risky. If you’ve ever recognized patterns you don’t like in yourself, or wondered how pain can slowly distort the way you relate to God and others, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a more hopeful way forward. Awareness doesn’t make you the villain. It helps you choose a better story. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail Wholehearted Storywork Part 1 Pain changes you. Loss, disappointment, betrayal, or suffering can quietly shape how you see yourself, God, and the world. In this first episode of the Wholehearted Storywork series, Amy introduces the Victim role, not as an identity to reject or a mentality to shame, but as a place in the story where real pain is named and honored. This conversation explores the difference between acknowledging harm and becoming stuck in it, and how Scripture invites you into holy lament rather than denial, blame, or self-erasure. You'll explore:  Why being a victim of pain is not a failure of faith.How unprocessed hurt can shape your story.The difference between telling the truth about what happened and living from a victim mentality.Why lament is a faithful and biblical response to suffering.How healing begins with paying attention, not pressure or quick resolutionThis episode is not about fixing your pain or rushing your healing. It's about creating space for honesty, compassion, and the slow work of formation. If you've been carrying a story that hurts (and aren't sure what to do with it), this conversation offers language and a way forward that doesn't bypass your humanity. Being in the Victim role doesn't mean you stay there; it simply means you're telling the truth about where you are. Healing begins when the truth is told in the presence of God's unconditional love. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail What story are you living right now? Not the one you wish you were in. Not the polished version you post about. The real one. The one where you feel stuck, tired, or uncertain about what comes next. In this series introduction, Amy invites you into a new way of understanding your spiritual formation journey through four key roles we all move through: the Victim, the Villain, the Hero, and the Guide. This isn't about labeling yourself or fixing what's broken. It's about recognizing where you are in your story so you can respond with wisdom instead of shame. If you've been exhausted by trying harder, spiritual intensity that burns you out, or quick fixes that don't last, this series offers something different: a slower, steadier, more compassionate path toward wholeness. Your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point. This is just the beginning.  Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail You've had insight before. The clarity, conviction, and even real momentum. And yet, somehow, it didn't last. If you've ever wondered why meaningful change feels so hard to sustain, this episode is for you. In this conversation, Amy explores why insight alone—no matter how true or powerful—rarely leads to lasting transformation. Not because you failed, but because insight was never meant to carry the full weight of change on its own. This episode gently reframes skepticism as wisdom-in-the-making and invites you to consider a different path forward & one rooted in formation rather than intensity. You'll explore: Why insight often sparks change but can't sustain itHow intensity-based growth struggles to survive real lifeWhy seasons of disappointment don't mean you're resistantThe difference between performance-driven change and formation that lastsWhat it means to stay with your story long enough for wisdom to take rootThis isn't a call to try harder or hope faster. It's an invitation to slow down, notice patterns, and consider what kind of change can actually be carried over time. If you've been protecting yourself from false hope (or wondering why past breakthroughs faded), this episode offers language, clarity, and a steadier way forward. Not through reinvention. Through spiritual formation. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website

Send us Fan Mail My confession and an invitation to release… As a faithful woman, you aren’t burned out because you lack discipline; you’re exhausted because you’ve been carrying a responsibility God never asked you to bear. In this episode, Amy explores the difference between responding to God and taking responsibility for outcomes and how easily faith can slip from love into pressure, control, and performance. This conversation isn’t about becoming irresponsible or lowering the bar. It’s about releasing the heavy yoke and rediscovering a faith formed by belovedness rather than fear. You’ll explore: Why responsibility often becomes a hidden spiritual burden.How Scripture reframes obedience as response, not self-management.What Jesus meant when He said His yoke is easy and His burden is light.How fear, control, and the need for significance quietly shape our faith.Why discipline isn’t rejected, but reordered around love.If faith has started to feel heavy, demanding, or joyless, this episode offers language, permission, and a better way forward. Not through striving, but through response. Support the show RESOURCES FOR YOU: Join the Waitlist for 1:1 Coaching with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Ennea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram (free course + printables) https://bit.ly/Enneagram101Guide Connect with Amy: IG Website