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In this episode, Maegan and Joy discuss the power of presence, a topic that came along a couple years ago, when Maegan wrote a blog in haste and it just kind of blew up. So spend the next 40 minutes exploring how to be present in someone’s emotional journey rather than rushing to fix their problem. They’ll talk about how you can foster deeper connections, healing, and support by actively listening, validating, showing empathy, and resisting the urge to fix. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:47 Maegan introduces herself and joy and introduces the topic: The Power of Presence. 03:15 What do you do first to show support? 07:46 How do you offer support when you can’t actually fix the problem? 10:12 Asking questions to clarify needs 11:26 Everyone’s support needs are different. 13:45 How do you handle the discomfort of sitting with someone else’s big emotions when trying to offer support? 19:01 How do you handle it when someone doesn’t need or want you to do anything, they just need you to listen and/or be present? 20:28 Active listening and support skills. 28:05 What do you appreciate from your support system? 31:49 Outro Links The Power of Presence: Offering Emotional Support Without Fixing

In this powerful episode of the RAFT Podcast, we bring together survivor-advocates from across the movement for an open and honest conversation about what it means to hold both identities—survivor and advocate. Join Nicole Crespi and Joy Ingram, RAFT Workshop Facilitators, along with guest Jaime Cypher from the Pennsylvania Coalition to Advance Respect (PCAR), as they share stories of resilience, reflection, and belonging. Together, they explore how lived experience shapes advocacy, what it takes to sustain ourselves in this work, and how community care helps us thrive. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:44 Podcast participants and Advocate-survivors Nicole, Joy, and Jamie introduce themselves. 04:45 Participants talk about a time when they felt empowered in their roles as advocates while also being survivors. 12:18 What contributions and characteristics make us feel empowered and supportive? 25:06 What motivates us to continue advocating? 33:34 The grieving process involved in being an advocate and survivor. 37:54 What would you say to another survivor who is thinking about getting into advocacy work? 48:19 Taking a break from professional advocacy work 50:36 What does organization/movement leadership need to know/do to empower their advocate staff who are also survivors? 1:00:53 What are you enjoying? 1:07:27 Outro

Join the RAFT Team in a conversation about self-empathy and self-compassion. Jeremie, Nicole, and Joy discuss the three main components of self-compassion, the challenges of focusing on yourself, how socialization affects our views on self-compassion, and how they each practice self-compassion. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:45 Jeremie gives definitions of self-empathy and self-compassion 01:55 RAFT Podcast team introductions 02:42 Joy discusses the three main components of self-compassion 04:12 Nicole talks about the challenges of focusing on yourself 07:03 Jeremie discusses how socialization affects our views on self-compassion 09:01 Why Joy finds self-compassion so challenging 13:16 Why Nicole finds self-compassion so challenging 17:02 Jeremie’s experience with self-compassion 23:18 How Joy practices self-compassion 28:22 How Jeremie practices self-compassion 32:46 How Nicole practices self-compassion 41:01 Team’s final thoughts 44:46 Outro

In this heartfelt episode, our founder, Indrani Goradia speaks to Ajmal Qureshi, a former diplomat and proud father about raising strong daughters, the power of education and what it means to build a lasting legacy—rooted in love, equity, and intentional parenting. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:05 Ajmal Qureshi introduces himself 03:05 Indrani shares why Ajmal and his daughter’s story resonated with her 04:30 “What did you realize early in your career that you knew you had to teach your daughters, so they would grow up to be as strong as they are today?” 07:28 “What did you know, as a young man, about girls and women that informed how you showed up as a father?”” 13:40 Ajmal shares what he would tell other young men to help them honor the girls and women in their lives 18:10 Jeremie poses the question: “What do you do when you see someone treating women in a way that doesn’t reflect how you raised your daughters?”” 23:54 Indrani recounts a story where she chose to advocate for a young woman rather than stay silent 26:45 Ajmal’s final thoughts 29:25 Outro

In today’s episode, Jeremie Miller is talking with the authors of Ditch the Ditty: Doing What Matters Instead of Doing it All about their work and how it applies to the work of advocates. Episode Time Codes 01:28 Introductions 04:26 Can you share the story that lead to the concept of ditties and the importance of ditching them? 08:22 “Ditch the Ditty” focuses on the unique dynamics women face, can anyone be impacted by ditties? How do these hidden pressures show up differently for caregivers, first responders, and other helping professionals? And How does the book help people recognize when they’re taking on more than they should? 10:35 The four Ds: ditties, delights, duties, and deeds 14:11 Do you have any suggestions on how to make ditties a team effort? 20:43 What role do differences in power play when trying to ditch a ditty? How can I possibly ditch a ditty that my boss is handing out? Or as a leader, how can I navigate the difference between delegation, which is something I’m supposed to do? 31:20 How can colleagues and teams help each other avoid taking on unnecessary ditties? 38:26 Do you have a suggestion on how to handle people who are struggling with this new version of you both at work and family and friends? 44:39 Can you give some ideas on how an organization can work towards changing the culture of ditty distribution and acceptance of ditties in an equitable fashion? 51:39 Get more information about the book and the authors Resources Ditch the Ditty: Doing What Matters Instead of Doing it All by Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, and Miriam Novotny

In today’s episode, the RAFT team is talking about PERMA, a simple, but powerful, way to think about well-being and resilience. It comes from Dr. Martin Seligman, a leader in positive psychology, and it’s all about five key elements: Positive emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. During the conversation, the RAFT team unpacks what PERMA looks like in our work and lives, why it matters for advocates, and how we can use it to build sustainable joy and resilience in a field that demands so much of us. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:25 RAFT intros 02:45 What is PERMA? 05:50 The team shares personal stories and how they reflect the PERMA categories 19:27 Using PERMA at work 33:10 Final thoughts from the RAFT team 36:00 Outro Resources Advocate Resources

In this episode, the RAFT team is joined by survivor, author, and advocate Emily Bernath. She shares her survivor story, how she healed through spirituality, and how that led to her book series, Broken Lenses. Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about sexual violence and assault, including personal survivor experiences. We encourage you to prioritize your well-being while listening. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Trigger Warning 00:55 Gratitudes 05:00 Who is Emily Bernath? 06:55 How Emily’s writing started 09:30 Emily discusses levels of healing through her advocacy journey 15:15 “How do you know that it’s love?” — How did you know who to trust through this journey 16:15 “Coincidences don’t just happen” – Emily speaks about faith leading her journey 19:10 “Freedom brings healing” 21:10 “The world hasn’t given survivors a lot of hope to report” 21:30 How Emily knew she was being sexually assaulted 23:15 “As soon as a survivor comes to me – the one thing I can not do is nothing” 25:38 Emily shares how she found her trust in her faith 33:05 “What do you believe is the biggest challenge in the sv/dv field?” 39:00 Emily speaks on trusting and obeying the voice of God. 46:15 Emily discusses a peak point of advocacy 49:50 Emily discusses her books. 52:55 Should everyone write/share their story? 57:10 Emily tells us more about her social work/grad school journey 1:00:55 “How do you stay healthy and balanced?” 1:03:35 Nicole talks about leaning into our strengths & Emily shares her individual strengths 1:11:00 What’s in the future for Emily? 1:12:55 Appreciations 1:14:35 Outro

Join Jeremie, Nicole, and Joy as they focus their conversation around human-centered workspaces, specifically what a workspace that is human-centered looks like, and how it’s done at RAFT. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:05 RAFT’s mission statement 01:50 What is a ‘Human-Centered Workspace?’ 06:01 The 4 principles of Human-Centered design 13:10 Designing A Human-Centered Workplace: 13:35 Planning for job outcomes 21:20 Launching a collaborative work group 28:50 Learning from your employees 37:15 Designing and testing solutions 51:00 How RAFT can help you create a more Human-Centered Workplace 52:00 Outro

Join Joy, Sophie, Mariam, Jeremie, and Nicole on the RAFT Team as they discuss the RAFT core values—1) Fail, Learn, Grow; 2) Support; and 3) Transparency—and how those values impact their mission and teamwork. Episode Time Codes 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – RAFT’s 3 core values 01:05 – Value #1 – Fail, Learn, Grow 01:35 – Joy’s take 03:00 – Sophie’s take 03:45 – Mariam’s take 04:20 – Jeremie’s take 06:53 – Nicole’s take 08:40 – Is there a downside to Fail, Learn, Grow? 13:10 – Value #2 – Support 13:40 – Joy’s take 16:30 – Sophie’s take 18:40 – Mariam’s take 19:12 – Jeremie’s tale 20:50 – Nicoles take 23:10 – RAFT’s DEI survey and how we used it to support each other 24:55 – Are there any downsides to our support value? 30:30 – Value #3 – Transparency 31:00 – Nicole’s take 32:22 – Joy’s take 34:20 – Sophie’s take 35:55 – Mariam’s take 36:30 – Jeremie’s take (being a transparent leader) 45:15 – What are any unofficial values in how we work together as a team? 50:35 – Contact RAFT at [email protected] to learn how we can help you discover your organization’s core values 51:00 – Outro

How do you take care of your mind, body, and spirit when you don’t have the time, money, or resources? Join the RAFT team as they share their own budget-friendly self-care tips. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Welcome 01:05 RAFT Team Intros 02:40 What would you do on a self-care day but you had no money to spend? 07:40 Match your time available to what you’re trying to do 10:20 Being present in the moment is very free self-care 11:00 Being clear on what you want from your self-care activities 13:47 Scheduling in self-care is self-care in itself 17:50 What do you do when you NEED to leave the house, but just don’t have a lot of money? 27:35 Self-care is a learned journey 28:50 What do you do when you need “alone” self-care time? 35:20 What’s a self-care thing we can do to help out our future financial self? 46:10 Outro

Join Maegan, Nicole, Sophie, and Joy as they come together to reflect upon Women’s History Month and answer questions about what womanhood means to them, inspiring women, strengths, and advice they received and wish to share with others. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:25 Welcome 00:55 RAFT Team Intros 02:55 What does womanhood mean to you? 03:05 Maegan 04:05 Nicole 06:25 Sophie 07:50 Joy 10:15 What does it mean to us to be women in the anti-gender-based violence movement? 10:30 Joy 12:10 Maegan 13:50 Nicole 33:20 Sophie 17:20 Who is a woman you know personally who has greatly inspired you? 17:30 Sophie 17:58 Nicole 18:30 Maegan 21:50 Joy 24:15 Nicole 26:20 Who’s a famous woman that you greatly admire? 26:30 Nicole 29:44 Joy 31:45 Maegan 33:25 Sophie 35:30 What’s a special power that women have? 35:35 Maegan 37:25 Joy 38:50 Sophie 39:20 Nicole 41:03 The best advice we’ve gotten from a fellow woman 41:10 Nicole 42:15 Joy 43:30 Maegan 45:10 Sophie 46:35 What’s some advice that you would share with other women? 46:50 Joy 49:50 Nicole 51:15 Maegan 53:25 Sophie 54:15 THINK FAST Questions 1:00:00 Outro

In this episode, the RAFT Team comes together to reflect upon their personal highlights of 2023 and discuss all things gratitude. From embracing gratitude through challenges and reminding yourself to practice gratitude, you will learn a few ways to incorporate gratitude in your daily life. Episode Time Codes 0:00 Intro 0:35 RAFT Team Intros 01:20 Reflections on our personal highlights of 2023 01:30 Nicole 02:10 Jeremie 03:10 Joy 04:55 Sophie 05:55 Maegan 07:30 Embracing gratitude through challenges 07:55 Joy 09:50 Maegan 11:20 Joy 12:45 Nicole 16:10 Sophie 18:45 Jeremie 22:15 How do you remind yourself to practice gratitude? 22:35 Maegan 23:45 Jeremie 25:00 Nicole 26:50 Sophie 28:10 Joy 30:40 How will you lead with gratitude in 2024? 30:50 Joy 31:45 Maegan 32:15 Nicole 33:20 Sophie 34:35 Jeremie 36:00 Thank You! 36:50 Outro Resources New Year Gratitudes Worksheet

You’ve seen changes you want to make in your organization, you’re collaborating with co-workers, but now you might be wondering, “What are the leaders thinking about and looking for with change initiatives?” Join Jeremie and Amber as they continue discussing how to make organizational changes by focusing the conversation around the leadership’s point of view. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:00 Jeremie recaps part 1 episode and highlights topics of episode 2 02:25 Amber introduces herself 04:45 How to respond, as a senior leader, to a passionate pitch 07:25 How to encourage gratitude and be positive without making someone think you’ve said “Yes” 10:35 How to prioritize a good idea when it’s bad timing 14:15 How to empower your team member after the first pitch meeting 18:30 Tips for leaders on how to reflect on their own biased 21:55 How to push through the hesitancy and let go when you should say “Yes” 27:05 Your responsibility, as a leader, to announce a new idea to your team 28:15 How to continue the thread of change and support your team member when the change works out 30:40 What to do, as a leader, when the change maker’s goal fizzles out, and they aren’t prioritizing their initial goal 32:50 What can leaders do when the change pilot flops 37:20 “What happens when the pitch comes in and it’s just not going to work?” 41:25 Final Thoughts 44:15 Outro

Join Jeremie in a conversation with Charlie Gilkey about principles from his book, Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results, including small actions that bring lasting change and creating a team that can solve problems without you. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 00:40 Jeremie highlights talking points and welcomes Charlie 01:40 Charlie introduces himself 04:55 Charlie shares his view on the challenges of trying to make a big change / Broken Printer analogy 08:10 Grants and development challenges 10:15 Time allocation and management 12:30 Eight Categories of Team Habits 15:10 Feeling a sense of belonging in an organization with a high turnover rate 20:30 Cynicism as an effect of burnout 22:40 A different approach/breaking down a challenge into pieces 25:25 Three dimensions of power in an organization 37:00 “When you go into an organization, you treat changing team habits like you’re walking on someone’s land that they have been tending and cultivating” 44:25 “Am I being affected by the inertia that we’ve just always done it this way?” 46:15 How to get through “If we try to change this and break it, that’s not good” 49:40 Future-ready your business by creating a team that can solve problems even without you 52:10 Charlie’s last thoughts 54:25 How our partners and listeners can receive a copy of “Team Habits” gifted by RAFT 55:10 Outro Resources Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results by Charlie Gilkey

Have you ever seen something you want to change in your organization, but not sure how to get others involved or talk to your boss about it? Join Jeremie in a conversation with Amber Beam about making changes in your organization by collaborating with co-workers and successfully bringing ideas to leadership. Episode Time Codes 00:00 Intro 01:40 Amber introduces herself & speaks on her passion for closing the gender gap 02:55 What is it that makes a winning pitch when trying to make a change in your organization? 06:45 How can you approach speaking to your leader, & how to prepare for that conversation? 10:10 What’s one thing most people who bring a new idea to leadership ignore? 11:50 Should we go in as an individual or bring in co-workers who support the change? 14:15 How to bounce back from a soft-no 16:20 How to use your strengths and your team’s strengths to strengthen your pitch 19:00 Accountability and Responsibilities between yourself, team, & leadership 21:00 Fail, Learn, Grow 23:00 How to manage pushback/conflict from other team members 26:00 How to coordinate the team’s “big ideas” for change and not overwhelm leadership 30:00 What do you do when they say no? 37:00 Final thoughts & Amber’s words of wisdom 40:00 How to contact Amber 41:15 Outro