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How often do you find yourself saying, "Maybe I'll do it"? In this encore episode, I'm revisiting the idea that we can't change our lives while staying stuck in a state of maybe. Whether you're considering a career change, a new opportunity, a relationship decision, or simply a different way of living, indecision can keep you standing at the starting line. We'll look at why we get stuck in maybe, including the paralysis of too many options, the comfort zone conundrum, and the illusion that we have unlimited time. I'll also share three ways to move forward: asking what would have to be true to say yes, considering the cost of saying no, and using smaller decisions to build momentum. You don't need to have everything figured out before you move. Sometimes, you just need to make a decision and take the next step. Show Highlights: Why I'm bringing back this encore episode now. [00:39] My seven-year lesson in the power of "maybe." [03:49] How indecision can keep us stuck at the starting line. [07:24] How your comfort zone can keep you from making bold changes. [09:24] The illusion that you have more time than you actually do. [11:34] Asking, "What would have to be true to say yes?" [14:20] The hidden cost of never making a decision. [18:15] Why a clear no can be just as powerful as a yes. [19:27] Using small decisions to build momentum toward bigger changes. [20:22] Why we can't change our lives with a maybe. [21:46] Apply to the BOLD 2027 Cohort: https://brilliant-balance.com/bold Come to a BOLD Open House: https://brilliant-balance.com/openhouse  Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle  Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

What if creating the life you want isn't about doing more, but about creating the capacity to make space for what comes next? In this episode, I'm sharing stories from my recent retreat at Canyon Ranch and the moments that reminded me what real growth can look like. From allowing yourself to receive and step away from the demands of daily life to building the infrastructure that makes that possible, we're looking at what it takes to create more room for the things you want. I'm also giving you a closer look at BOLD, my 12-month advisory experience for accomplished women navigating the complexity of ambitious careers and full family lives. I'll walk you through who BOLD is designed for, how the experience works, and why creating capacity is about much more than finding more time. If you're ready for something different in your next chapter, this episode will help you think about what you want, what's getting in the way, and what it might take to make room for it. Show Highlights: What stood out to me most from my recent Canyon Ranch retreat. [01:58] The surprising signs of growth I noticed in the women I work with. [02:45] Why creating space starts with allowing yourself to receive. [03:22] How BOLD evolved from a short-term coaching program into a 12-month experience. [07:42] The four reserves of capacity: time, energy, headspace, and emotional bandwidth. [11:51] The BOLD promise: creating capacity for what you want next. [14:56] The three phases of BOLD: design, staff, and execute. [16:03] Why getting results through others is essential to reaching your next level. [18:24] What's different about the synchronized 2027 BOLD cohort. [21:17] The power of having a personal board of directors. [28:14] Why you shouldn't take yourself out of the running before you apply. [29:45] How to explore BOLD for 2027 and take your next bold step. [32:29] Apply to the BOLD 2027 Cohort: https://brilliant-balance.com/bold Come to a BOLD Open House: https://brilliant-balance.com/openhouse  Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle  Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

What happens when you step away from your career to make room for family life? In this episode, I'm joined by Neha Ruch, author of The Power Pause, to explore how a career pause can become an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and a new sense of purpose. We're talking about how to navigate identity shifts, redefine success, and make intentional choices about work and family without feeling like you have to give up your ambition. Discover how to approach a career pause with agency, maintain your sense of self, and create space for what matters most in this season of life. Whether you're considering a career break, already navigating one, or rethinking what comes next, this conversation will help you see that your next choice doesn't have to be your forever choice. Show Highlights: Neha's career journey and the inspiration behind The Power Pause. [01:15] Challenging the outdated stereotypes of stay-at-home motherhood. [05:30] How to use a career pause for personal growth and exploration. [10:00] Redefining success and navigating financial independence within a family. [16:00] The difference between a pause and a power pause. [20:00] How to reclaim your identity and find the right language for your current season. [23:00] Why women face different expectations and pressures in at-home parenthood. [28:00] Rethinking career breaks, pivots, and returning to the workforce. [33:00] How changing the conversation creates more options for women. [39:00] Resources Mentioned Order The Power Pause book: https://link.amazon/B08AVZBeP  Follow Neha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neha_ruch/  Connect with Neha on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nehaleelaruch/  Subscribe to Neha's Substack: https://substack.com/@neharuch  Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle  Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Boundaries don't make you selfish or unkind. They help you make intentional choices about where you give your time, energy, and attention. In this episode, I'm talking about why saying yes to someone always means saying no to something else. We explore people-pleasing, the pressure to be agreeable, and why it can be so difficult to recognize what we actually want. You'll learn how to start strengthening your boundary muscle, reconnect with your own preferences, and create more space for the things that genuinely matter to you. Show Highlights Include: Why boundaries aren't about being selfish. [01:00] How generosity can become an automatic yes. [03:00] What the fawn response has to do with people-pleasing. [05:30] Why women are often conditioned to prioritize others. [07:30] Why neutrality matters when we say what we want. [09:30] The idea that every yes has a no. [11:30] Why only you can balance the equation. [13:30] Why saying no can be harder when you have nothing else planned. [16:30] Two ways to rebuild your ability to choose. [19:30] How radical clarity can help you identify what you really want. [21:30] Why boundaries and generosity can coexist. [24:00] Resources Mentioned: Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: https://brilliant-balance.com/explorecoaching  Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Building a business and raising a family can feel like two competing priorities. But what if the business you build could actually support the life you want? In this episode, I'm joined by Beth Mazza, co-founder of Female Mavericks and a serial entrepreneur who built and sold two consulting firms while raising four children. Beth shares the lessons she and her business partner, Victoria, learned about choosing the right business model, protecting personal non-negotiables, and building a company that can grow without depending entirely on you. We also talk about delegation, building a strong support network, setting a clear north star, and why women need practical business strategies, not just encouragement. Show Highlights: Beth's entrepreneurial childhood. [02:00] Why she left corporate life. [06:00] The lesson she learned from selling her first business. [10:00] Building a business around personal non-negotiables. [16:00] Choosing the right business model. [18:00] Why exit strategy matters from the start. [21:00] The power of delegation. [24:00] Why practical experience matters. [29:00] Balancing business and motherhood. [33:00] The mission behind Entrepreneur Like a Mother. [38:00] Resources Mentioned: Learn more about the Female Mavericks: http://www.femalemavericks.com/ Connect with Beth on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethmazza/ Follow the Female Mavericks on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femalemavericks/  Purchase Entrepreneur Like a Mother, at a discounted price using code Maverick25: https://femalemavericks.com/entrepreneur-like-a-mother/ BOLD 2027 is coming. Visit https://brilliant-balance.com/bold to be the first to know. Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

When life gets busy, thinking time is often the first thing to disappear. But without space to step back, we can easily end up moving through life without checking whether we're actually headed in the right direction. In this episode, I'm talking about the power of taking an entire day to think, plan, and solve problems with intention. I share how this practice became part of my own life, how it evolved into strategy days with clients, and why dedicated time and a thought partner can help you find clarity, perspective, and momentum. If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure what to do next, this episode will help you see the value of creating space to think before you act.   Show Highlights Include: Why thinking time matters. [02:00] The inspiration behind thinking days. [04:00] How a thought partner can change the process. [07:00] What happens during a strategy day. [14:00] How to get to the root of a problem. [17:00] Turning clarity into a plan. [19:00] Why sequencing matters. [23:00] The value of an outside perspective. [25:00]   Resources Mentioned: Private Consulting Day with Cherylanne in Cincinnati, OH: https://members.brilliantbalance.net/private-consulting-day-cincinnati  Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/ Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Nearly 40% of American mothers are now primary earners, but the culture hasn't fully caught up with what that actually requires. In this episode, I'm joined by Alexis Contos, founder of The Breadwinners, a community built around the realities of building a career while raising a family. Alexis shares why she walked away from a 20-year corporate career, how one dinner at South by Southwest turned into a growing movement, and what she's learning about creating a different path for working mothers. We also talk about guilt, ambition, integration, personal agency, and why we need to stop trying to do everything perfectly. Show Highlights: What Alexis was like growing up and how relationships shaped her. [02:30] Why Alexis left her 20-year corporate career without knowing what she'd do next. [07:10] How one dinner at South by Southwest became the beginning of The Breadwinners. [10:05] Why women showed up to the dinner and why they needed that community. [13:05] Why Alexis prefers "integration" over "balance." [19:00] How Alexis defines a breadwinner as someone who brings important things into the home. [25:00] Why ambition is about aligning your time with your values. [27:15] How to replace guilt with confidence, agency, and community. [28:30] How Alexis structures her day to make space for both work and family. [34:00] Why aspiring breadwinners are joining the community and helping write a new playbook for working mothers. [38:00] Resources Mentioned: Find Alexis on Substack (and get a discounted subscription) at: https://wearethebreadwinners.substack.com/738ea8e9 Find Alexis on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/wearethebreadwinners/ Learn more about The Breadwinners: https://thebreadwinners.co To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explorecoaching Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/ Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Have you ever looked at your calendar and realized you've created a week that works for everyone else, but leaves very little space for you? In this episode, I'm exploring how we end up in this pattern and what it takes to create a week that supports the life we actually want. I'm talking about why "life is full" is a more empowering way to think about busy seasons, and why waiting until everything else is done before making time for yourself often means that time never comes. Together, we'll explore how to rethink your priorities, protect what matters most, and create more room for the things that help you feel like yourself. Show Highlights: ● Why full and busy are not the same thing. [04:42] ● How we accidentally create weeks that leave us out. [08:10] ● Why the "work first, play later" mindset stops working. [12:32] ● The hidden costs of constantly putting yourself last. [19:40] ● How losing touch with yourself happens over time. [24:58] ● The power of "crowding out" what doesn't serve you. [29:44] ● How to put the most important things into your week first. [33:22] ● Creating a week that works for you, too. [42:10] Join The Coaching Circle to attend the September masterclass, Run Your Week Your Way, and learn the complete system for designing a week that reflects your priorities. Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: https://brilliant-balance.com/explorecoaching  Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/ Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

We all have good intentions. The challenge is turning those intentions into action. In this episode, I'm revisiting one of the very first episodes of the Brilliant Balance podcast because the message is just as relevant today as it was then. As I navigate a busy season of travel, family transitions, and sending another child off to college, I'm putting this principle into practice myself. If you've ever wondered where the time went or why the things that matter most keep getting pushed aside, this episode will show you a simple shift that can help your calendar reflect your priorities. Show Highlights: Why I'm bringing back one of the earliest episodes of the podcast. [00:00] The simple principle that has guided my planning for years. [02:00] Why it's not enough to know what you want to do. [08:00] How to use your calendar to protect what matters most. [11:30] The difference between a to-do list and a real plan. [20:00] Why scheduling your tasks reduces procrastination and increases follow-through. [29:30] The biggest mistake people make when they become more productive. [39:30] How to align your calendar with your values and priorities. [34:00]   Resources Mentioned: Join The Coaching Circle to attend the September masterclass, Run Your Week Your Way, and learn the complete system for designing a week that reflects your priorities. Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explorecoaching Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Change is hard. But it isn't because people resist it. In this episode, I'm joined by Kristy Ellmer, Managing Director and Partner at Boston Consulting Group and co-author of How Change Really Works. We explore why so many personal and organizational changes fail, what behavioral science teaches us about making change stick, and the simple shifts that can help us move forward with more confidence. Whether you're leading a team, navigating a career transition, or trying to create new habits at home, this conversation will change the way you think about transformation. Show Highlights: How Kristy's early career shaped her approach to uncertainty and change. [04:15] Why most transformations fail and what "change distance" really means. [10:20] The surprising role agency plays in helping people embrace change. [15:10] Why rituals matter more than willpower when creating lasting change. [23:30] The biggest misconception about how people respond to change. [34:15] How curiosity creates an opportunity for change to succeed. [36:45] What the IKEA Effect teaches us about getting people to buy into change. [42:30] Why a "fresh start" can be the key to rebuilding momentum. [1:05:10] How understanding your emotions can reduce cognitive load during periods of change. [1:16:40]   Resources Mentioned: How Change Really Works by Kristy Ellmer, Julia Darr, and Philip Jamieson: https://amzn.to/3S1UZuO  Connect with Kristy Ellmer on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristy-r-ellmer-b25b7a23/  Follow Kristy Ellmer on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristy_ellmer/  To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: https://brilliant-balance.com/explorecoaching  Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

What does it take to build an ambitious career without losing sight of what matters most? In this episode, I'm joined by Betsy Hamm, former CEO of Duck Donuts and founder of Loud & Lifted. Betsy shares the unexpected career moves that took her from marketing iconic brands to leading a company through rapid growth, private equity, and international expansion. Along the way, she opens up about the invisible rules she had to rewrite, both at work and at home. If you're navigating a season of growth, leadership, or reinvention, this conversation offers a refreshing reminder that success doesn't have to come at the expense of your values. Show Highlights: How Betsy's career evolved from Hershey to Duck Donuts. [08:30] What it was like to help grow Duck Donuts from 20 to 200 locations. [26:10] Why she stepped into the CEO role during one of the most challenging seasons. [45:15] The pressure of leading through private equity, rapid growth, and COVID. [49:30] The invisible rules she had to let go of at home and at work. [1:00:20] Why delegating at home was harder than delegating at work. [1:02:15] What she learned about building the right leadership team. [1:10:30] How leaving the CEO role led to an unexpected new chapter. [1:20:45] The mission behind Loud & Lifted and creating spaces where women support women. [1:28:20] The legacy Betsy hopes to leave for her daughters. [1:40:15] Resources Mentioned: Learn more about Betsy Hamm: https://betsyhamm.com Listen to the Loud & Lifted Podcast: https://loudandliftedpodcast.com Connect with Betsy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/betsyhamm/ To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explore Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

How many decisions do you make based on what you think other people will think? In this episode, I'm unpacking the quiet fear of judgment that shapes so many of our choices. Whether it's speaking up in a meeting, showing up at a reunion, making a career change, or simply deciding what to wear, we often act as though everyone is watching our every move. The truth is, they're usually much more focused on themselves. We'll explore why this happens, what it costs us, and how to stop performing for an audience that mostly exists in our own minds. Show Highlights: The surprising lesson I learned from a summer full of high-stakes moments. [05:20] Why we overestimate how much other people notice us. [15:10] The psychology behind the "spotlight effect." [21:40] The hidden cost of performing for an imaginary audience. [31:15] Why fear of judgment keeps us from pursuing what we really want. [40:20] What to do when people really are judging you. [50:45] A simple mindset shift that can change the way you make decisions. [59:10] How to stop asking, "What will people think?" and start asking a better question. [1:05:30] Building the emotional resilience to move forward anyway. [1:11:20] Join The Coaching Circle to attend the August masterclass on Emotional Resilience and apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explore Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Have you ever finally done something you've been putting off and immediately wondered, Why did I wait so long? In this episode, I'm exploring what avoidance really is and why so many of us stay stuck, even when we know exactly what we need to do. From difficult conversations and health decisions to everyday life admin, avoidance often looks like being busy or waiting for the "right time." But underneath it is usually something else. If there's something you've been circling for weeks, months, or even years, this episode will help you understand what's keeping you stuck and how to start moving forward. Show Highlights: The personal health decision I avoided for years and what finally changed. [04:30] Why avoidance is more than procrastination. [14:10] The hidden emotional cost of putting things off. [20:45] Why difficult conversations rarely get easier with time. [27:15] The surprising ways avoidance shows up in parenting, health, and everyday life. [36:50] How the "complexity illusion" keeps us from taking action. [47:20] Why the things we avoid are often easier than we imagine. [55:40] What avoidance teaches us about ourselves and why it always comes with a price. [1:02:30] One simple question that can help you take your next step. [1:08:10] Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explore Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

What makes someone command a room? It isn't having the perfect script. In this episode, I'm sharing what I've learned from hundreds of speaking engagements, including the biggest mistake I made at my very first live event. It taught me that presence doesn't come from memorizing every word. It comes from connection. Whether you're leading a meeting, giving a presentation, interviewing for a job, or stepping onto a stage, these lessons will help you communicate with more confidence, connect more naturally, and hold the room without trying to perform. Show Highlights: The painful lesson from my first live event and what it taught me about presence. [04:20] Why speaking is always a two-way conversation. [16:15] The audience signals every speaker should learn to recognize. [23:40] How to stop letting one disengaged person steal your attention. [32:10] Why connection should come before credentialing. [37:55] The hidden cost of over-scripting your message. [46:20] How to prepare for high-stakes moments without memorizing every word. [55:10] Simple ways to calm your nervous system before you speak. [1:02:45] The habits that help you show up with more confidence and presence. [1:09:30] Planning an event? Learn more about booking Cherylanne for keynotes, workshops, coaching roundtables, and fireside chats: https://brilliant-balance.com/speaking To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explore Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/ Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki

Can you be both warm and ambitious? Kind and confident? Supportive and successful? In this episode, I'm joined by organizational psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Alison Fragale to talk about why women often feel like they have to choose between being liked and being respected. We unpack the science behind status, influence, and reciprocity, and why the most successful women learn to build both warmth and confidence at the same time. If you've ever worried about being "too nice" or "too much," this conversation will change the way you think about leadership, relationships, and the way people experience you. Show Highlights: How Alison's childhood shaped her understanding of warmth and assertiveness. [06:10] Why being liked is one of the most overlooked sources of influence. [15:20] The difference between status, power, and respect. [27:45] What it really means to be a "Likeable Badass." [33:30] Why women don't have to choose between confidence and connection. [43:15] The surprising truth behind feedback like "you're too nice" or "you're too aggressive." [53:40] Practical ways to build stronger relationships without feeling transactional. [1:08:10] Simple daily habits that strengthen your network over time. [1:17:20] Alison's favorite status-building practice that anyone can start today. [1:24:40]   Order your copy of Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve by Dr. Alison Fragale : Paperback: https://amzn.to/4vgAMQw  Hardcover: https://amzn.to/449v9aK     Kindle: https://amzn.to/4uCUBjy To book an exploratory call and learn about coaching options: http://brilliant-balance.com/explore Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe for weekly content from Cherylanne straight to your inbox: https://brilliantbalance.substack.com/ Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki