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“I’m just not attracted to Christian men!” Ouch. I’ve heard this from many Christian women who want to get married to a CHRISTIAN MAN! This is a dangerous place to live because it’s massive self-sabotage. In today’s episode I cover quite a few thoughts about why you may fee this way. I also ask many questions for you to ask yourself so that you can find out exactly what it is that you’re not attracted to. If you want to get married and you’re struggling with being attracted to the right types of men, please listen to today’s episode. I think it’ll be very helpful in guiding you to discover exactly why you’re not attracted to Christian men and what to do about it. Starr’s Resources:
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Have you ever told yourself, “Well, not everyone gets married!”? People will say that to remind themselves that they aren’t alone in their singleness. They say it to make themselves feel better and to remain logical, rather than emotional in their desire for marriage. I’m sure there’s many other reasons, but these are the top ones that come to mind. However, when people say this is triggers an unbelief and doubt that rears it’s ugly head. It would be considered human reasoning. Unbelief, doubt, and reasoning don’t partner well with the power of God. If we need the power of God in our lives to provide breakthrough, we need to operate in a belief that God is all-powerful and able to perform miracles. But how we we believe that when our mind is filled with human reasoning? In fact, 2 Corinthians 10:4 in the NLT says this: We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ. What this is say is that our human reasoning and false arguments actually create a stronghold and are considered a proud obstacle that keep us from knowing God. It also says that those thoughts are considered rebellious and we need to teach them to obey Christ. Wow! I’ll break this down even more in today’s episode and discuss how to pull down strongholds and see breakthrough in your life! Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]

The Truth About Marriage … and 6 Myths About Marriage You’re Probably Believing   Today I’m talking all about the realities of marriage. I want to break down 6 different myths that you may be believing about marriage and share the truths.   Myth #1: We do everything together   Myth #2: He Will Never Change   Myth #3: Marriage will Fix you, Heal you, be Magical, keep you from being lonely   Myth #4: Marriage will meet all your expectations   Myth #5: Strong, Healthy Marriages should come naturally   Myth #6: Your Husband Can’t Be Your Everything all the time (your God, your Fixer, your Leader, your Priest, your EVERYTHING)   Definitely tune in to learn about the realities of marriage and truths behind these myths!     Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]

The journey of the Perfectionist to the altar can be a long one. Today, I’m talking about the standards a perfectionist has for how she should be treated. There are a few mindsets that are hindering women when they date, meet men, and even after they’re already in a relationship. These mindsets start out as innocent, but if we aren’t careful they become very self-centered. If you’re a perfectionist and are wondering if some of your thought patterns or beliefs are actually hindering you, please tune in to today’s episode!   Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]  

The journey of the Perfectionist to the altar can be a long one. Today, I’m talking about the standards a perfectionist has for a man and how it can slow down her progress toward marriage. I truly believe perfectionism is a blind spot many Christians have. Single Christians always want to pursue godly qualities in their search for an amazing Christian man, but what if you’re actually being a perfectionist with perfectionistic expectations in your search for the “perfect” husband? Tune in and share especially if you think your standards and attractions are erring on the side of perfectionism. Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]  

Have you ever run into the same type of guy over and over?   And then over and over again?   And again?   When this happens, you begin to believe that “all men” are ________ (fill in the blank). But that’s simply not true because you haven’t met “all men,” have you? ;-)   As this pattern continues, even Christian women begin thinking … “All guys want is sex!” “How do I stop attracting the wrong men?” “What am I doing wrong?”   If you’re a successful woman, you may find it difficult to find someone who matches your level of success, or maybe even someone who actually has goals and ambitions. That doesn’t seem like too much to ask for when you’re 35 years old!   On today’s episode, I tackle this frustrating topic of what to do when all the guys you’re attracting only want sex and/or don’t even have the goals or success that you’re desiring.   I’ll go over the difference between attracting these types of men and entertaining them. I’ll also explain how to discern if you’re being status-driven in your search for the successful, ambitious man or if you’re genuinely searching for someone who simply matches your values and work ethic (hint: there’s a big difference between searching for status and searching for a man who’s respectable and matches your work ethic).   Thanks for listening!     Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]      

Are you the one hindering your progress toward marriage or is it other factors that are slowing you down? Do you find yourself wondering, “Is it my fault I’m single?” or “Why am I not married yet?” As women, we tend to blame ourselves and constantly think about what to fix. However, it’s important to accurately diagnose what’s hindering your progress toward marriage. Sometimes it is you. Sometimes it’s not. But how do you know if it is or isn’t? Today, I’m asking questions to help you figure out if you’re the common denominator in your singleness or it’s it’s truly other factors. Or maybe it’s a mix of both! I’ll give advice on who you can ask to help you determine if you’re the one slowing yourself down, how to look at your surroundings and figure out if they’re hindering you (and what to do about it!), and how to look inward to see if you have mindset shifts that need to happen. If you want to have a clear understanding of what, or whom, is slowing you down on your journey toward marriage, please tune in!   Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]  

We all understand how important timing is, but do we understand how important being in the right place is? What I’ve learned to do as a love coach to single christians is to learn more about their surroundings. Is their church a dry and dead atmosphere for potential christ-centered, romantic relationships? Is it never going to happen in their workplace regarding love and marriage? Do they have anyone setting them up or believing for marriage for them? Do they fit into their surroundings? Does anyone ever pursue them or ask them out? Is anyone ever getting asked out? Is their schedule the same day-in and day-out and they’re constantly surrounded by dead ends? It’s so important to know if you’re in the right environment in order for a relationship to begin. On today’s episode, I’ll go over how to know if you’re in the right or wrong place and how to get in the right place! And yes, we’ll even cover how to know if you’re the common denominator, or if your environment is what’s hindering you. We’ll even discuss the importance of discerning a wilderness season where nothing visible is happening, but it’s the place God has for you for right now. Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]

The 4 things I want single Christian women to know: 1) Sometimes it’s you, sometimes it’s not. Know which side of the track you’re on. 2) How to culture of dissatisfaction is affecting singles! 3)Discover if you’re in the right place. 4) Stop blaming God for your singleness. If you’ve ever asked, “Why am I still single?” or “What am I doing wrong?” then you’ll want to tune in! Sometimes there are things we can change, sometimes there are not. This episode digs deeper into the complexities of singleness, why some women remain single, how our culture impacts our singleness, how sin impacts our singleness, how to know if we need to change or if there’s nothing for us to change. As I delve into these 4 areas, I hope you’ll have insight into your own life. Starr’s Resources:
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https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me:
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Let’s talk about emotionally unavailable men … What does that mean? How can you tell if a man is emotionally unavailable? What should you do if you realize the guy you’re talking to is emotionally unavailable? In this episode, I answer all these questions! You’ll find out that you’ve been on dates with, or dated, emotionally unavailable men. It’s not as hard as you think to detect them, it’s more difficult to cut them off and move on. If you’re a woman who is ready for marriage and looking for that marriage-minded man, then don’t waste your time with someone who can’t be in a relationship. If you feel like you can’t get to know that man you’re talking to, or you’re confused by him, it’s possible he’s emotionally unavailable. Tune in to learn how to identity emotionally unavailable men and what to do about them! Starr’s Resources:
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Have you ever wondered where the line is between being too passive or too aggressive as a single woman? It can be hard to know what “waiting” looks like, what “putting yourself out there” looks like,” what “dropping the hanky” looks like, and what pursuing a man looks like. Not to mention what the right approach is for your specific situation. It doesn’t have to be this confusing! In this episode, I discuss why you should look for a man (husband), HOW to do this, and what it looks like when you’re looking for a husband! Tune in and share! Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]

If you’re the type of woman who needs more than just butterflies and love to get married, then this episode is for you! Some women make the decision to commit when there is mutual love and magnetic attraction, other women are more hesitant to commit and take a longer time making the decision. Those women need more than just love. In this episode, I discuss 3 important things to look for in addition to love. I also cover 3 things NOT to prioritize when you’re looking for more than just love. Lastly, I talk about important to be aware of (or BEWARE of) that could prolong your journey toward marriage. Tune in and share!! Starr’s Resources: The Marriage-Minded Online Dating Academy: www.StarrBurroughs.com/MODA Get 10% off your first month of Faithful Counseling (Sponsored): https://www.getfaithful.com/confidentsinglewoman Join our free Facebook Community: The Confident Single Woman Starr's Book: The Ineligible Bachelorette: Taking A Hard Look At Why You Haven’t Found The One 7 Questions To Help You Identify Your Standards [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards The 7 Most Common Roadblocks To Love [Free]: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/gift Follow me: Facebook Instagram Email: [email protected]