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Pat Finn is a well-known actor, comedian, and writer with over 25 years of experience in the entertainment industry. He's appeared in numerous TV shows and movies, including The Middle, Seinfeld, "It's Complicated," and the "I Am Chris Farley" documentary.  He has an almost endless list of professional accomplishments, and I wanted him on the show because he's also a husband, father, and regular guy who really seems to "get" the whole jewelry thing.  Here is Pat's IMDB link: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0278156/ We're going to discuss his own experience of buying an engagement ring, how he was clueless about the whole process, and how sometimes you just have to trust the experts.   He called me a "Sherpa," in this episode, and you know what?  I kinda liked it.  His company is Improv+Ability: https://www.improv-ability.com/ GoFundMe for the Finn Family: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-the-finn-family-through-pats-fight If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at [email protected]. I'm happy to personally help you find the right jewelry for your special occasion, or put you in touch with a jewelry pro that's closer to home. Or, you can shop online at my jewelry store right here: https://www.koehnjewelry.com/ Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

You survived the first round—now it's time for the next level of buying her a ring. In Part II, Andy and Carter Eve dive into the stuff most guys never ask: setting a real budget (without three-months-salary BS), the truth about lab-grown vs. natural diamonds, and why having a trusted jeweler is your secret weapon. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to set a budget you won't regret (and why it's nobody's business but yours) The pros and cons of lab-grown vs. natural diamonds—what actually matters, and what's just hype How to redesign family rings without losing the sentimental value Why "character" and human touch beat perfection every time The real value of having a jeweler you trust—someone you can text, call, and rely on for life Key Quotes from Carter: "Never go into debt for an engagement ring. You can always upgrade down the road." "Lab-grown diamonds let you get the look you want for less—if that's what matters to you." "Imperfect isn't bad. That's character. That's what makes it yours." "Having a 'jewelry guy' (or girl) means you've always got someone in your corner." Why This Episode Matters for Guys Buying Rings: If you want to avoid rookie mistakes, overspending, or getting lost in the lab vs. natural debate, this episode gives you the real-world answers: How to make heirlooms work for your fiancée's style (without pissing off the family) How to get the best value—no matter your budget Why independent jewelers still matter in a world of big brands and online shopping Carter's Top Advice: Don't let anyone pressure you—take your time and ask questions Admit what you don't know and get educated Trust your gut: if you click with your jeweler, you're in the right place Who Is Carter Eve? Carter Eve is a custom jeweler and goldsmith known for heirloom redesigns, value-driven sourcing, and a straight-shooter approach. She helps guys get the ring right—no hype, no pressure. Resources Mentioned: Carter Eve's Instagram & email: @carterevejewelry and [email protected] Andy's book: The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring available on Amazon Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Need real, honest help finding a ring or a jeweler you can trust? Email Andy at [email protected]    Website: buylikeaguy.com Instagram: @buylikeaguy Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

Ever feel like buying an engagement ring is a minefield? You're not alone. In this episode, Andy talks with Carter—a custom jeweler who's helped hundreds of guys get it right—about the biggest mistakes men make, how to actually get her the ring she wants, and why the "surprise" isn't what you think it is. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The #1 mistake guys make when buying a ring—and how to avoid it Why just "surprising her" is mostly dead (and what actually works now) How to figure out her style (even if she sends you a million new ideas after you buy) The right way to use family stones and heirlooms without losing meaning How to handle the money talk (and why the price is nobody's business but yours) Real-world advice for guys who feel lost or overwhelmed by the process Why finding "your jeweler" matters more than any brand or store Key Quotes from Carter: "The most common mistake guys make is thinking they know what she wants, instead of actually checking with her—or her mom, sister, or best friend." "Jewelry is personal. If it's not her style, she won't wear it, even if you love it." "Don't let anyone pressure you. Take your time, ask questions, and get educated." Why This Episode Matters for Guys Buying Rings: If you're worried about blowing it, or just want to get it right the first time, this episode gives you the real-world playbook: How to get her style right (even if she "changes her mind" halfway through) What to do with family rings and old gold How to set a budget you're actually comfortable with—no three-months-salary BS Why collaborating with a jeweler you trust makes the whole process easier (and way less stressful) Carter's Top Advice: Don't guess. Ask her, or ask her inner circle. If she says "surprise me," a classic round solitaire is your safest bet. Check her Pinterest or Instagram—the answer is probably there. Set your own budget—never go into debt for a ring. Find a jeweler who feels like "your guy"—someone you can text, call, and trust. Who Is Carter? Carter Eve is a custom jeweler, trained goldsmith, and owner of Carter Eve Jewelry, known for heirloom redesigns, value-driven sourcing, and an authentic approach to jewelry design.  She helps guys get the ring right—without the hype or pressure, which makes her a perfect guest for the show.  Resources Mentioned: Carter Eve Jewelry: https://carterevejewelry.com/ Andy's book: The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring available on Amazon. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Need real, honest help finding a ring or a jeweler you can trust? Email Andy at [email protected]    Website: buylikeaguy.com Instagram: @buylikeaguy Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

Ever wonder how a diamond actually gets from deep in the earth… to a jeweler's case… to her hand? Part II of Andy's conversation with Ari Jain from House of Diamonds uncovers the real, behind-the-scenes process of how natural diamonds are mined, cut, graded, and selected — long before a consumer ever sees them. If you've ever held a diamond and thought, "Why does this tiny thing cost so much?" This episode gives you an honest, insider explanation. Ari's eight-generation lineage, starting in Jaipur's royal courts, brings a rare perspective on craftsmanship, authenticity, and what truly determines a diamond's value. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How a natural diamond gets to the showcase: The full journey — mining, sorting, rough planning, cutting, polishing, grading, and wholesale — and why each step matters for quality and value. Why two diamonds with the same certificate can be totally different: The human decisions, artistry, and limitations of grading systems that make every stone unique. What "value" in a diamond really means: How to look beyond price and paper to find a stone worth owning. The role of independent jewelers: Why reputable independents reject most stones they see, and how that benefits you as a buyer. How reputation drives the diamond industry: From miners to cutters to retailers, the best people only work with those they trust. Why a diamond should be personal, not perfect: Meaning, story, and character matter more than flawless specs. Key Quotes from Ari: "The consumer only sees the final diamond in the case. They never see the hundreds of hours and decisions that came before it." "A lower-color stone or a stone with visible inclusions can actually be more beautiful. It gives the diamond identity." "Reputation is the most valuable currency in the diamond industry." "When you buy from an independent jeweler, you're getting accountability — and someone who actually cares." "Jewelry isn't just financial. It centers you. It makes you feel something. That's worth paying for." Why This Episode Matters for Engagement Ring Buyers: If you're shopping for an engagement ring — or weighing natural vs. lab-grown — this episode will help you avoid: misunderstanding diamond pricing relying too much on certificates choosing the wrong stone based on specs alone falling for "perfect" stones that look average in person overlooking diamonds with true personality and beauty Understanding the journey of a natural diamond will help you appreciate what you're really buying — and why no two stones are ever the same. Who Is Ari Jain? Ari is part of an eight-generation jewelry legacy originating in Jaipur's royal courts. Today, he's a key member of House of Diamonds, a New York–based natural diamond firm focused on authenticity, transparency, and ethical sourcing. He represents a new generation blending heritage with modern insight. Resources Mentioned: House of Diamonds: https://www.hod.live/ Contact Ari:  [email protected] Andy's book: The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring, available on Amazon Connect with Andy: Need help finding a trusted jeweler? Email Andy at [email protected] and I'll point you in the right direction.   Andy's Jewelry Store: Koehn & Koehn Jewelers Instagram: @buylikeaguy, @koehnjewelers, @andykoehn Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

Thinking about buying an engagement ring — or trying to decide between a natural diamond and a lab-grown diamond? This episode cuts through all the noise, hype, and half-truths in the diamond world.   Part I of Andy's conversation with Ari from House of Diamonds (an eight-generation diamond expert with roots in Jaipur's royal gemstone trade) dives into the emotional, spiritual, and practical realities of buying a natural diamond — from the meaning behind natural stones to why warmer colors are making a comeback.   If you're a guy trying to buy the right stone for the woman you love, this episode will calm the nerves and sharpen your instincts. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The story behind natural diamonds: Why Ari calls them "nature's greatest masterpiece," and why the story matters Natural vs. lab-grown — the truth: Is one "better"? Or are consumers being pushed in the wrong direction? Why J-color or K-color natural diamonds might be your best choice: How guys are saving thousands by choosing warmer stones with real character The spiritual side of diamonds: Yes, energy is real — and Ari has the stories to back it up How to choose a jeweler you can trust: Why independent jewelers beat mass-market retailers every time Key Quotes from Ari: "Natural diamonds are nature's greatest artwork — billions of years old. When a man is making a sacred bond with a woman, he should give her something rare, real, and born of the earth." "People have been preferring warmer color diamonds. They want G to J color because they want to show it's natural." "The jeweler you buy from matters more than the certificate. Trust the person who does this every day." "The world has become too financial and not personal enough. Jewelry is still personal — it's emotional. And that matters." Natural vs. Lab-Grown (The Real Difference): Natural diamonds: Billions of years old, finite supply Hold value over time due to rarity Carry emotional and symbolic weight Can be passed down with a real story Lab-grown diamonds: Created in weeks in a factory Unlimited supply, depreciating value Chemically identical, but no origin story Ari's take: "When a man is making a sacred bond with a woman, he should give her something rare, real, and born of the earth." The Warmer Diamond Secret: Warmer natural diamonds (J, K, L color) are becoming more desirable because they have character and look distinctly natural. They're significantly less expensive than colorless stones and look beautiful in yellow gold or vintage settings. Ari's insight: "People are calling me for three-carat-plus stones, but they don't want G color. They'll pay me more for J to K color." Why Independent Jewelers Matter: Ari's take: "I think all consumers should prioritize independent retailers. The owners are always in the store. They care about the store. That shows you the owner actually cares about it." The difference: Independent jewelers build lifelong relationships They have accountability — reputation is everything They personalize and customize jewelry Mass-market retailers only push profit, not education or trust Who Is Ari? Ari is part of an eight-generation gemstone and diamond family whose roots trace back to Jaipur's royal courts. Today, his company House of Diamonds specializes in natural diamonds, rare color stones, and ethical sourcing. Resources Mentioned: House of Diamonds: https://www.hod.live/ Contact Ari:  [email protected] Want Personal Help? Email Andy directly: [email protected]   Read the book: The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring - available on Amazon.   Subscribe to Buy Like A Guy on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

Thinking about buying your first real watch? Here's what the dealers won't tell you about ghost listings, fake prices, and why that "deal" you found online doesn't actually exist. Part II of Andy's conversation with Christian Bruhn from The Art of Time dives into the messy reality of buying luxury watches in 2025 — where online listings lie, auction prices mislead, and first-time buyers get burned by doing their own "research."   What You'll Learn in This Episode: Ghost listings exposed: Why that Rolex Daytona you found online for $8K cheaper probably doesn't exist (and what luxury drop-shipping really means) The trust problem: How to find an honest watch dealer when everyone online claims to be an expert Watches as art, not commodities: Why buying for resale value is the wrong approach for your first luxury timepiece The secondary market advantage: How to get a better watch for 25-40% less than authorized dealer pricing (with full warranty transfer) First-time buyer mistakes: What guys get wrong when shopping for Rolex, Omega, Breitling, and other high-end watches Where to actually start: The 3 questions you need to answer before you spend $5K-$50K on a watch Key Quotes from Christian Bruhn: "You'll have individuals interested in a watch doing their own research, and their research leads them to ghost listings that aren't in stock and bottom auction pricing that isn't realistic. Then they come to me saying they want it for X, Y, and Z." "For first-time buyers, I would say trust the dealer. Trust the person doing this every day, because it's getting harder and harder to tell what's real online." "When you go into a boutique and walk outside, that watch settles into the secondary market and is now competing against every single boutique in the mall versus just the one you walked in." Why This Matters for First-Time Watch Buyers: If you're the guy who's always said "someday I'm gonna get a nice watch," this episode will save you thousands of dollars and massive headaches. Christian breaks down: How online watch pricing is flooded with fake listings for SEO purposes Why authorized dealer pricing doesn't reflect real market value The smart way to buy gold watches as an investment (hint: melt value matters) How to avoid the hype and buy what actually fits your style and lifestyle Christian Bruhn is a former 75th Ranger Regiment member who founded The Art of Time, a luxury watch dealership focused on authenticity, education, and helping collectors buy smart. He sources rare timepieces, navigates the secondary market daily, and calls out the BS that confuses first-time buyers. Resources Mentioned: The Art of Time: Christian's luxury watch dealership (https://www.theartoftime.com/) Contact Christian: [email protected] | Instagram: @theartoftimehq Part I of this conversation: "The Art of Time: How to Buy a Real Watch with Christian Bruhn" (Episode #89, October 30, 2025) Luxury Bazaar: Roman Scharf and Adrian's content on watch market realities Platforms discussed: Chrono24, Grailed auctions, gray market dealers Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Need help finding a trusted jeweler? Email Andy at [email protected] and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth.   Read the book: The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring (available on Amazon)   Subscribe to Buy Like A Guy on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

When a guy decides he wants a real watch — something with meaning, quality, and story — he walks straight into a jungle of hype, counterfeits, and confusion. In this two-part conversation, Andy Koehn talks with Christian Bruhn, founder of The Art of Time and former member of the 75th Ranger Regiment, about the world of luxury watches, collecting with intention, and buying your first Rolex or high-end timepiece the right way. They cover everything from building trust in a world full of fakes to spotting real value, avoiding ghost listings, and understanding what makes a watch worth collecting. Whether you're deep into watch collecting or just curious how to start, this episode will help you see timepieces as art — not commodities. Guests: Christian Bruhn — Founder, The Art of Time Host: Andy Koehn — Author of The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring and creator of Buy Like a Guy If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at [email protected] and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

Episode Overview Andy takes on the YouTube critics and industry cynics head-on, delivering a family legacy perspective on why dismissing diamonds as "bad investments" completely misses the f*****g point. From his grandfather's 1919 start in the business to today's lab-grown revolution, this episode cuts through the financial advisor b******t to reveal what diamonds are really worth. Key Takeaways The Investment Reality Check: Not once has Andy heard someone say "I'd like your finest appreciating asset, please" Diamonds end up on fingers of teachers, truck drivers, accountants - people marking moments, not building portfolios That "worthless investment" often outlasts first houses, careers, and everything else people own Ask anyone celebrating their golden anniversary if their diamond was a good investment Historical Truth Bomb: Diamonds in engagement rings since the 1400s - Archduke Maximilian started the trend in 1477 That's 400 years before De Beers existed, 500 years before marketing executives were even a thing "A Diamond is Forever" amplified the tradition but didn't create it Humans have always been drawn to rare, beautiful shit that lasts - it's why the Louvre isn't full of Dollar Store crap The Hidden Logic: Hardest natural substance on the planet (perfect 10 on Mohs scale) Transparent - light passes through without distortion Forged under intense pressure deep within the earth Unlike other gems that fade or cloud, diamonds stay brilliant for generations Customer brought in grandmother's 1923 diamond - after cleaning, sparkled like brand new Natural vs. Lab-Grown Investment Reality: Lab-grown are chemically identical but prices are in free fall Natural diamonds: billions of years to form, millions to find and extract They're finite, ancient, with history predating humanity Natural values historically increase; lab-grown prices dropping fast Like owning a Monet vs. owning a poster of a Monet The Artistry Factor: Diamond cutting isn't automated factory process - it's generational craft Cutters visualize how to release a rough diamond's potential Weeks of precise cuts to maximize brilliance One wrong move = thousands lost in value Gabi Tolkowsky: "I imagine myself inside the crystal and see where I want the light to go" Value Beyond Balance Sheets: Sold diamonds to multimillionaires and kids who saved forever Sometimes big-ass diamonds carry expected weight, sometimes tiny stones pack the biggest punch Favorite customers return yearly, sharing proposal stories and struggles to afford their ring Diamond becomes physical embodiment of shared history Memorable Quote "Some things in life aren't meant to be measured on a balance sheet. When you're 90 years old, you won't be calculating compound interest you missed out on - you'll be remembering the moment you proposed and all the years that followed." The Bottom Line When you're 90, that diamond will still be sparkling, still carrying the weight of your shared history. Whatever you paid will seem like the bargain of a lifetime because some investments pay dividends that can't be measured in dollars. What's Next Lab-grown diamonds: The new kid on the block - time to clear up what they actually are and if they're right for you. Contact Andy Email: [email protected] For personal jewelry and diamond consultation About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 4 coming soon - Lab-grown diamonds: The new kid on the block. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts. Book available on Amazon Show notes compiled from episode transcript

Chapter 2: The Four C's (Part 2)  Episode Overview Andy finishes the Four C's conversation with Clarity and Carat Weight, delivers his legendary Diamond-to-Steak conversion chart, and cuts through the industry's microscopic b******t to give you what actually matters when you're standing in that jewelry store. Key Takeaways The Clarity Reality Check: She doesn't need a flawless diamond unless she specifically asked for one - she just wants it to look that way Clarity grades are determined by gemologists with microscopes, not naked eyes in natural lighting The difference between technically flawless and "looks flawless" can save you thousands 99% of diamond inclusions are invisible without specialized equipment Focus on VS2-SI1 for best value - they look identical to higher grades but cost significantly less Carat Weight - Size vs. Reality: One carat = 0.2 grams = about one Skittle (finally, a measurement that makes sense) Carat measures weight, not size - two diamonds can weigh the same but look completely different Diamond cutters face a constant battle: preserve weight (money) vs. create ideal proportions (beauty) The real artists sacrifice weight for performance every time The Money-Saving Secret: Diamonds jump in price at half and whole carat marks A 0.9 carat might cost 20% less than a 1.0 carat of identical quality Nobody can spot the difference with the naked eye Buy just under those magic thresholds: 0.9 instead of 1.0, 1.4 instead of 1.5 The Quick Decision Guide: Cut Grade: Excellent/Ideal worth every penny, Very Good is the sweet spot, Good or lower proceed with caution Color: G-H is the sweet spot, I-J smart value, D-F if you have the budget and appreciate the difference Clarity: VS2-SI1 best value, SI2 can work if inspected, Flawless-VVS for bragging rights The Diamond-to-Steak Conversion Chart: Cut = Chef's Skill: Best beef poorly cooked is a travesty, average beef perfectly cooked is a religious experience Color & Clarity = Grade of Beef: Prime costs more than choice, you're paying for rarity within rarity Carat Weight = Portion Size: An 8-ounce filet costs more than a 6-ounce of the same quality Memorable Quote "A good diamond will be good forever. A bad diamond will be bad forever." - Andy's reminder that this decision has permanent consequences. What's Next The "investment value" of diamonds - and dear Lord, they've got it so wrong. Contact Andy Email: [email protected] For personal jewelry and diamond consultation About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 3 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Book available on Amazon Show notes compiled from episode transcript  

_*]:min-w-0 !gap-3.5"> Episode Overview Andy breaks down the diamond industry's "sacred scripture" - the Four C's - but cuts through the BS to give you what you actually need to know. This is part one of a two-part deep dive into diamond grading, focusing on Cut and Color. Key Takeaways The Bottom Line on Diamond Education: You'll spend roughly 2 hours of your entire life discussing the Four C's Don't overthink it - learn enough to have an intelligent conversation with a pro Find someone you trust to guide you through the rest Why the Four C's Exist: Created by GIA in the 1940s to standardize diamond grading Before this, buying diamonds was like the Wild West Gave everyone a common language (that's why color starts at D) Cut - The King of the Four C's: Cut is everything - it's what makes a diamond come alive Not about shape (round, oval, etc.) - it's about proportions and craftsmanship A great cut can make a diamond worth twice as much as a poorly cut one Andy's advice: "Get the best damn cut you can afford. Everything else is negotiable." Color Demystified: Scale runs D (colorless) to Z (noticeably yellow/brown) D-F: Exceptional white, priced accordingly G-H: Looks white to most people I-J: Still looks great, especially in yellow gold Most people can't tell D from H without training and special equipment The Reality Check: Your fiancé won't be carrying master stones around to compare Don't pay for colorless if near colorless looks the same to you But some guys want top shelf just for the satisfaction of knowing what they have Memorable Quote "I'll know." - The client who taught Andy that sometimes it's not about what others can see, it's about personal satisfaction. What's Next Part 2 will cover Clarity and Carat Weight - the remaining two C's that complete the diamond grading system. Contact Andy Email: [email protected] For personal jewelry and diamond consultation About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 2-Part 2 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Book available on Amazon Show notes compiled from episode transcript  

  Episode Overview Andy reads Chapter 1 from his new book, "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" - a no-b******t diamond and ring buying guide for guys who'd rather be anywhere else than a jewelry store. This episode covers the single most important piece of advice for buying an engagement ring without getting screwed over. Key Takeaways The Golden Rule: Find a jewelry store where you feel comfortable going. That's it. That's the secret. Why This Matters: Walking into most jewelry stores feels unnatural for guys Everything's behind glass, salespeople hover like vultures You suddenly don't know what to do with your hands It's a special kind of hell for men who've fallen in love Finding Your Unicorn Jewelry Store: Ask friends who actually know you and get your style Search for independent jewelers online Check their reviews, website, and social media Look for their vibe - stuffy/formal vs. laid back/approachable How to Find Your "Guy on the Inside" Three Methods: Email the store - Tell them you need help. If the response feels too formal or generic, move on. Call them - A good jeweler on the phone is like a good first date - there's either chemistry or there isn't. Walk in and get down to business - Most terrifying but nothing beats face-to-face. You'll know within 5 minutes if it's your place. What Your "Guy" Should Do Ask questions about her taste and what you want to give her Address your budget head-on (it's part of the equation) Guide you like that bartender who remembers your drink and steers you toward the good stuff Make you feel like a human being, not a walking wallet with commitment issues Andy's Controversial Advice When it feels right - buy it. Don't do the "I need to look around" dance that fear makes you think you have to do. When it clicks, it clicks. Pull the trigger and be done with it. Why this works: Saves weeks of second-guessing Prevents comparing minute details that won't matter in 5 years You don't need to become a diamond expert - you need someone you trust who does this for a living The Bottom Line Find a jewelry store where you don't feel like you're standing there with your zipper open (but check that before you go in, just to be safe). Connect with someone who speaks your language, not "diamond-ese." When it feels right, trust your gut and pull the trigger. About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 2 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Book available on Amazon Show notes compiled from episode transcript

This is the first installment of the audiobook version of my book The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring. I'll be releasing one chapter a week, right here in the podcast feed. If you'd rather read the whole thing now (because waiting is for people in line at the DMV), you can grab the full book on Kindle or paperback by clicking here.  Full transcript below (Oh and hey! This is all copyrighted so don't steal my shit.)  This is the "Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring- Irreverent Wisdom From an Industry Insider. Short, Simple, and Straight to the Point." Introduction: I don't care what's under the hood of my car. I'm pretty sure there's an engine in there, but I'll be damned if I know what it's about. And frankly, I don't care. I wanna go fast when I need to and slow when I don't. That's it. Good to go. Some guys get off on knowing every detail about their engine. The compression ratios, the torque curves, the whole mechanical circle jerk. They're the same guys who can tell you the exact temperature their bourbon was aged at or why their guitars, pickups are superior to every other pickup ever manufactured. But here's what 30 years in the trenches of the diamond business has taught me. Buying an engagement ring isn't about becoming an expert. It's about doing something incredible for someone you love. Somewhere between the YouTube rabbit holes about ideal cut grades and the forums full of guys comparing certification numbers like fantasy football stats, we've lost the plot. You are not here because you woke up thinking, man, I really need to learn about crystalline structures today. You're here because you found someone who makes your, he beat faster and you want to do this right? The problem is the diamond industry has turned what should be one of life's most romantic moments into something that. Feels like studying for a final exam you never signed up for. And that's why I wrote this book, not to turn you into some diamond grading savant, but to give you just enough knowledge to work with someone who actually knows their stuff. Think of it as your cheat sheet for navigating this world while keeping your sanity intact. And yes, I'm mostly addressing the guys buying rings for their girlfriends in this book. But if you're buying for your boyfriend or you're a woman buying for your girlfriend, the advice works just the same. The diamond doesn't give a damn who's wearing it and neither do I. What matters is what that ring symbolizes between two people who found something that's worth keeping. I've spent years watching guys walk into my store looking like they're about to face a firing squad. Armed with printouts of diamond specs and enough anxiety to power laws Vegas for a week. There are shell-shocked veterans of a war they never needed to fight. . So here's what I'm going to do. I'm gonna cut through the b******t and tell you what actually matters. Not the marketing hype or technical jargon, but the real deal, the stuff that makes a difference when you're standing there ring in hand, heart pounding about to ask the biggest question of your life. We'll cover just enough technical stuff to keep you informed, but more importantly, we'll talk about finding someone you can trust to handle the heavy lifting. Because this isn't about becoming a diamond expert, as I've said, it's about making a moment unforgettable. There are plenty of great professionals who live. For helping people like you create those perfect moments. Your job isn't to become one of us. It's to find one of us. You click with. So grab a beer, get comfortable, and let's cut through the noise together. By the time we're done, you'll know exactly how to handle this whole ring thing without losing your mind, your savings or your romantic soul in the process. Now buckle up and let's do this. If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at [email protected] and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

Andy here with an announcement. I'm taking a break for the next couple of months so I can line up some guests I plan on having on the show. I plan on being back in October, ready with new episodes hot off the press so stay tuned for that. I want to make sure I'm delivering value in these episodes, so if you've learned something or know of someone who would be a great fit for the show definitely let me know! If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at [email protected] and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987 

I'm going to share something I learned first hand about what you should not do when you buy and give something as special as an engagement ring, an anniversary gift...hell...any gift for that matter.  I get right to the point when I tell you, "Don't tell her how much it cost. Not even a hint." Telling her what you paid for something can quickly turn a special moment into an awkward one. She's not going to feel cherished, loved, or appreciated if you disclose the price tag.  It'll be more along the lines of uncomfortable embarrassment.  I want to be clear, this isn't one of those "men are stupid" rants that are ubiquitous on the interwebs these days.  Nah...this comes from a real-life experience, and while you think I would know better...I'M the guy that did it!  (I gave my wife a gift and on more than occasion I hinted at how it cost much more than she would've thought.  What a boob I was.  So stupid.)  And have to tell you, this advice applies to all gifts. The price tag is none of her business. I understand where this desire to reveal the cost comes from – sometimes, we're just genuinely proud of what we're giving her and we want a significant reaction. That's okay, but remember that it will come over time, in stories, maybe some bragging, or perhaps a sweet moment when she says, "You shouldn't have." When you give her those earrings, that engagement ring, or whatever it may be, keep the price to yourself. There's never a time when it's chivalrous to tell how much you've spent on her, so don't do it. On a related note, when you give her the gift or she sees her engagement ring for the first time, give her a little time to absorb it all. Her reaction may not come immediately, and that's perfectly fine. Sometimes she needs a few moments to process all the glitter and glory that's been bestowed on her, so relax, and let the moment unfold naturally. Now, for the ladies listening, here's something our sales associate, Lindsay, asked me to mention: when your significant other gives you fine jewelry that might not be your style, accept it gracefully, even if it's not your style.  In almost every case it's better to accept the gift, and remember why he gave it (because he loves you) and keep it. That's how I was brought up – a gift is a gift, and it's the thought that counts.  Of course I understand that fine jewelry often involves a significant investment, and if it's not your style, you probably won't wear it much. Nobody wants that, so if it's just too hideous for you to wear, an exchange is probably in order.  If you do decide to exchange the gift, please be gentle when you tell him. You don't have to say it "right out of the box," as they say; give him a moment to feel proud of what he did for you. Then, when the time feels right, you can thank him for the gift, and explain that you'd like to exchange it for something more your style. This way, he won't feel like a failure in your eyes. You can guide him, teach him about your style, and even fill out a Wish List while you're exchanging your gift for the next big occasion. 😉 If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at [email protected] and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987  This episode was originally published in October 2023.

In this episode, I'll talk about the concept of the commitment ring, that beautiful bridge between dating and engagement. Whether you're sipping beers at a cookout or pondering your future, this episode dives into the emotional significance of giving and receiving a ring that says, "We're in this together." Join me as I discuss why a commitment ring is more than just jewelry—it's a powerful declaration of love and dedication.  Here's the link to Episode 35: Why Independent Jewelry Stores are Better Than Chain Stores and Online Joints. If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at [email protected]. Or if you'd like help finding a jewelry store closer to home, drop me a line and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head.  They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987