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The Hidden Pain Behind Every Breakup Rejective Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) Episode 140 HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary This episode dives into Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)-an intense emotional response to rejection often linked to ADHD, trauma, and early life experiences.Jim and Mike unpack why some people feel devastated by breakups, criticism, or abandonment, and how this pain can lead to people-pleasing, toxic relationships, and self-sabotage.They connect the dots between childhood wounds, fear of being alone, and adult relationship patterns, while offering practical tools like emotional awareness, self-talk, and the “28-day reset” to rebuild self-worth.At its core, this episode is about turning emotional pain into self-awareness-and finally breaking the cycle. “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by;Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack

COPS ARE CONDITIONED TO STAY SILENT For years, cops and first responders have been conditioned to believe that asking for help means you’re weak. The truth is, the things we see and carry from this job don’t just disappear. We bury them, we ignore them, or we try to numb them, until eventually the bucket overflows. I know because it happened to me. After 19 years in law enforcement, I stayed silent out of fear of the stigma and nearly lost everything before I finally asked for help. This video is for the first responders out there who are still carrying it alone. You’re not weak for speaking up; you’re human. “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by; Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Dan Lebowitz-Open and Closed Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Don’t Fake the Badge (When “Trauma-Informed” Isn’t Enough) With Dennis Carradin Jr. LPCMH, NCC, BCETS HALT and Call for Backup Episode 138  Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary Being “trauma-informed” isn’t the same as being trauma-experienced-and first responders know the difference immediately. In this episode of Positive Connections Radio / Halt and Call for Backup, we sit down with licensed trauma therapist and former first responder Dennis Carradin to talk about what actually works in trauma care for police, fire, EMS, and healthcare professionals. We break down the critical difference between trauma-informed, trauma-experienced, and trauma-practiced clinicians, why credibility can’t be faked, and how underqualified therapy can do real harm. Dennis shares hard truths about cumulative trauma, trust, stigma, and what first responders need from mental health professionals-not theory, not buzzwords, but real-world understanding.If you work in a high-stress profession, or support those who do, this conversation cuts through the noise and gets honest about trauma, resilience, and staying human in the job. Takeaways "It's about not feeling terrible.""You have to gain that experience.""I'm here to carry the weight until you're ready to carry the weight.""We need to talk to the younger ones.""You can actually cost someone's life because of your ineptness.""The average age of therapists is in the high 50s, low 60s.""You have to understand the hardship that somebody is going through.""I always tell folks, look, I'm your humble life guide.""You have to ask the hard questions.""It's about connection-based type of thing." Chapters00:00  Introduction to Dennis Carradin: Trauma and Resilience 04:14 Dennis Carradin's Background and Experience 08:40 The Importance of Mental Health in High-Stress Environments 13:03 Building Connections and Humor in Therapy 17:52 The Role of Support Systems in Trauma Recovery 19:37Dennis's Journey: From Firefighter to Therapist 21:45 The Importance of Trauma Work for First Responders 28:35Building Trust: The Therapist-Client Relationship 30:24 The Challenge of Inexperienced Therapists in Trauma Work 36:35 Understanding Trauma Therapy for First Responders 40:51 Vetting Trauma Therapists: Key Questions to Ask 47:54 The Importance of Experience in Therapy 50:40 Carrying the Weight: Supporting First Responders 55:23 Beyond the Call: Writing and Sharing Experiences 01:01:15 Connection and Understanding in Mental Health 01:06:23 Future of Mental Wellness for First Responders “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack denniscarradin.com traumasurvivorsfoundation.org Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Summary In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Mike Koch and Jim McLintock dive into the emotional complexities surrounding the concept of making amends. They encourage listeners to reflect on the feelings associated with unmade amends and the impact of holding onto resentment. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing these feelings and exploring the paths they lead us down, ultimately guiding towards emotional healing and personal growth. This step involves making a list of those we have harmed and having the willingness to make amends.  Takeaways Reflecting on unmade amends can evoke strong emotions.Holding onto resentment can affect our life paths.It's important to recognize feelings associated with harm.Not everyone will make amends, and that's okay.Letting go of negative feelings is a crucial step.Understanding the damage caused by unresolved issues is vital.Exploring these feelings can lead to personal growth.Emotional healing often requires confronting painful memories.The journey of forgiveness is personal and unique.Recognizing where these feelings manifest in our lives is essential. “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Your Inner Critic Is Lying to You-and It’s Been Controlling Your Life Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) Summary Former police officer Mike Koch discusses the challenges of dealing with the inner critic, the importance of self-compassion, and the journey of recovery. He emphasizes the need for vulnerability in relationships, the significance of patience and change, and the value of building a supportive community. Throughout the discussion, he shares personal insights and practical advice for navigating life's struggles and fostering emotional well-being. TakeawaysAcknowledge and confront your inner critic.Practice self-compassion and kindness towards yourself.Vulnerability is essential for meaningful relationships.Recovery is a personal journey that varies for everyone.Change requires stepping out of your comfort zone.Patience is key in the recovery process.Building a supportive community can aid in recovery.Expectations can lead to disappointment; focus on progress instead.Taking small actions can lead to significant changes over time.Reaching out for help is a crucial first step.  Chapters00:00 Confronting the Inner Critic02:32 The Importance of Self-Compassion 05:45 Navigating Vulnerability and Relationships 08:28 The Journey of Recovery 11:20 Embracing Change and Patience 14:12 Building a Supportive Community 16:55 Taking Action and Making Changes “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 135 Breaking the Chains Part-2 Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this episode, Jim McLintock and Mike Koch discuss the struggles of first responders dealing with alcohol addiction and its impact on their relationships. They emphasize the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility for one's actions. The conversation highlights the fear and shame associated with addiction, the need for immediate action, and the significance of finding support within the community. The hosts encourage listeners to confront their issues and seek help, reminding them that recovery is possible and necessary for a healthier life. TakeawaysAlcohol is often used as a coping mechanism by first responders.Fear of losing loved ones is a common concern for those affected by addiction.Setting boundaries is crucial for both the person struggling with addiction and their loved ones.Communication is key in relationships impacted by addiction.Immediate action is necessary to address addiction issues.Support from peers and the community can aid in recovery.Trust is difficult to rebuild after addiction-related issues.The journey to recovery requires personal responsibility and effort.Recognizing the signs of addiction early can prevent further issues.It's important to figure out solutions together or individually.  Chapters 00:00 The Importance of Recovery and Personal Responsibility 11:13 Mental Health Challenges in Emergency Services 15:19 The Impact of Alcohol on Relationships 17:32 Consequences of Addiction and Regret 20:29 The Importance of Honesty and Accountability 22:59 Finding Purpose and Community in Recovery 24:24 Taking Ownership and Moving Forward “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 134 Breaking the Chains Part-1 Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this episode, Jim McLintock and Mike Koch discuss the struggles of first responders dealing with alcohol addiction and its impact on their relationships. They emphasize the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility for one's actions. The conversation highlights the fear and shame associated with addiction, the need for immediate action, and the significance of finding support within the community. The hosts encourage listeners to confront their issues and seek help, reminding them that recovery is possible and necessary for a healthier life. TakeawaysAlcohol is often used as a coping mechanism by first responders.Fear of losing loved ones is a common concern for those affected by addiction.Setting boundaries is crucial for both the person struggling with addiction and their loved ones.Communication is key in relationships impacted by addiction.Immediate action is necessary to address addiction issues.Support from peers and the community can aid in recovery.Trust is difficult to rebuild after addiction-related issues.The journey to recovery requires personal responsibility and effort.Recognizing the signs of addiction early can prevent further issues.It's important to figure out solutions together or individually.  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Alcohol Struggles in Emergency Responders 04:40 The Impact of Alcohol on Relationships 09:48 Understanding Codependency and Boundaries 15:07 The Consequences of Alcohol Dependency 20:36 The Bad Moon Rising: Trends in Substance Abuse 25:41 The Importance of Recovery and Personal Responsibility “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 133 Step-7 "Revised" Rebuilding From the Inside Out Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup (Video) https://youtu.be/mX3zkYWJ2sg Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Jim McLintock and Mike Koch dive into Step Seven of the recovery process, focusing on the themes of humility, letting go of harmful patterns, and the importance of self-awareness. They discuss both the traditional and secular interpretations of the step, emphasizing the need for action and community support in the journey of personal growth. The conversation highlights the significance of recognizing and addressing character defects, the challenges of change, and the empowerment that comes from choosing to surrender to a higher power or the process itself. Ultimately, the episode serves as a motivational guide for those seeking to transform their lives through recovery. Takeaways Step seven is about humility, not humiliation.Letting go of harmful patterns creates space for growth.It's important to recognize what no longer serves us.Change starts with self-awareness and willingness.You don't have to fix everything alone; community support is vital.Progress is more important than perfection in recovery.Life is an inside job; real change comes from within.Letting go of the past is essential for moving forward.Choosing to change is more empowering than feeling forced to change.Building new habits takes time and patience. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Step Seven 02:46 The Secular Perspective on Step Seven 05:23 Encouragement and Support in Recovery 08:04 The Importance of Self-Awareness 10:49 Transformation Through Humility 13:25 Building New Patterns 15:57 The Inside Job of Recovery 19:00 Choosing Change Over Comfort 21:30 Conclusion and Call to Action “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 132 Step-6 "Revised" The Shift from Excuses to Action Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup (Video) https://youtu.be/6IXE97oHnwA Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Mike Koch and Jim McLintock explore Step Six of the recovery process, focusing on the secular perspective of personal transformation. They discuss the importance of readiness for change, letting go of resistance, and the role of community support in the recovery journey. The dialogue emphasizes the empowerment that comes from acknowledging one's imperfections and the necessity of self-care. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the therapeutic value of the steps and the importance of being open to change and growth. TakeawaysStep six encourages readiness for transformation.Letting go of resistance is crucial for change.Empowerment comes from acknowledging imperfections.Community support plays a vital role in recovery.Self-care is essential for personal growth.Therapeutic insights can enhance the recovery process.Willingness to change is the first step.The steps provide a framework for personal growth.Intentions matter in the recovery journey.Choosing to rescue oneself is a powerful act. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:53 Understanding Step Six: The Secular Perspective 03:15 Readiness for Change and Acceptance of Imperfection 06:05 Empowerment and Letting Go of Resistance 08:54 The Role of Community and Support in Recovery 11:35 Flexibility and Taking the Leap of Faith 14:07 Growth and the Process of Change 16:49 Therapeutic Applications of Step Six 19:41 Conclusion and Reflections on Recovery 20:31 Building Connections and Support 32:11 Self-Awareness and Personal Growth “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma. ”Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 131 The Holiday Trifecta: 3 Challenges, 1 Season Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this episode of Positive Connections Radio’s H.A.L.T. and Call for Backup, hosts Mike Koch and Jim engage with Trevor Flores to discuss the challenges faced by first responders during the holiday season, termed the 'Holiday Trifecta.' They explore the emotional demands of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's, emphasizing the importance of coping tools, awareness, and support systems. The conversation highlights the unique experiences of first responders, the need for self-care, and practical strategies to navigate the holidays effectively. The episode concludes with a reminder of available resources for those in recovery and the significance of community support. Takeaways The holiday season can be emotionally demanding for first responders. Coping mechanisms can be adaptive or maladaptive; awareness is key. It's important to have an exit strategy for holiday gatherings. Building a support system is crucial for mental health. Self-awareness can help manage stress during the holidays. The cyclical nature of emotions means ups and downs are normal. Planning ahead for the holidays can alleviate stress. First responders often face unique challenges during holiday shifts. Utilizing available resources can aid in recovery and support. It's never too late to reach out for help or support. Chapters00:00 The Holiday Trifecta Introduction 08:31 Navigating the Holiday Stressors 17:11 The Shift in Holiday Experiences for First Responders 22:24 Preparing for the Holidays in Recovery 25:34 Navigating Holiday Stress as First Responders 29:00 Communication and Planning for Holiday Challenges 32:24 Strategies for Managing Holiday Expectations 37:45 The Importance of Support Systems 41:52 Overcoming Guilt and Shame in Recovery 45:44 Cyclical Nature of Emotions During Holidays 51:18 Practical Strategies for Clinicians and Responders 01:01:23 The Importance of Starting Now 01:02:41 Support Networks and Resources 01:06:06 Reaching Out for Help 01:07:00 Final Thoughts and Encouragement “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Video B-Roll: “They Come” Honoring First Responders (Lancaster Baptist Church) Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 130 Step-5 "Revised" The Power of Being Known Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Mike Koch and Jim McLintock dive deep into Step Five of the secular version of the 12 steps, focusing on the importance of speaking your truth. Speaking your truth doesn’t make you broken. It makes you brave. In this step, we stop pretending, stop hiding, and start connecting-with ourselves and with someone safe. It’s not about perfection; it’s about honesty, healing, and moving forward. “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 129 The Promises "Revised" Courage Fuels Change Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this episode of Positive Connections Radio, hosts Mike Koch and Jim McClintock dive into the Promises of Recovery, inspired by Alcoholics Anonymous, but reimagined through HALT and Call for Backup to make them secular, inclusive, and accessible to anyone ready to change their life for the better. Together, they explore the deeper meaning of these promises, learning how to let go of regret, turn past struggles into growth, and find strength through self-awareness and support. Mike shares his personal insights and unique take on the promises, while Jim offers thoughtful reflections on the ongoing journey of recovery. It’s an honest, hopeful conversation about transformation, courage, and connection. Takeaways:The promises of recovery are transformative and achievable.Contempt prior to investigation can hinder personal growth.It's essential to not regret the past but learn from it.Selfishness can be redefined as intelligently selfish in recovery.Facing fears can lead to exciting new experiences.The journey of recovery is about helping others with your experiences.Personal growth often comes from discomfort and challenges.The promises are not just words; they require action to be fulfilled.Support from others is crucial in the recovery process.Embracing change is a vital part of personal development. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Promises 02:55 Understanding the Promises of Recovery 05:33 Contempt Prior to Investigation 08:23 The Importance of Not Regretting the Past 11:12 Transforming Regret into Growth 13:47 The Role of being Intelligently Selfish in Recovery 16:41 Mike's 15 Promises of Recovery 19:09 Encouragement for Newcomers 22:06 Facing Fear and Embracing Change 24:50 Conclusion and Next Steps “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma. ”Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 128 Step-4 "Revised" Taking off the Armor Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) HALT and Call for Backup Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Mike Koch and Jim McLintock dive deep into Step Four of the secular version of the 12 steps, focusing on the importance of taking an honest look at oneself. They discuss the challenges many face when confronting their past, the emotional honesty required, and the significance of support systems like sponsors and therapists. The dialogue emphasizes the need for self-reflection, accountability, and the tools that can aid in this process, such as journaling and open communication. Ultimately, the conversation highlights that recovery is a personal journey that requires courage and commitment. Takeaways Step Four is about taking an honest look at ourselves. Many struggle with Step Four due to emotional honesty. Self-reflection is crucial for personal growth. Support from sponsors and therapists is invaluable. Resentments can hinder recovery and personal growth. Writing down thoughts can aid in self-inventory. Understanding our past helps shape our present actions. Communication with loved ones is essential during recovery. Recovery is a personal journey, not a competition. Progress is more important than perfection. Chapters 00:00 Step Four: Honest Self-Reflection 04:54 The Challenge of Facing Our Past 10:04 Taking Responsibility for Our Actions 15:26 The Importance of Self-Awareness 20:04 Tools for Effective Self-Inventory 23:05 Therapeutic Approaches to Recovery 29:05 Communication and Grace in Recovery “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma.” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Episode 127 Step-3 "Revised" Strong Enough to Surrender HALT and Call for Backup Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock Summary In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Mike Koch and Jim McLintock discuss the third step of recovery, focusing on the importance of personal growth, letting go of control, and the challenges faced by individuals, particularly first responders, in their journey towards recovery. They emphasize the significance of vulnerability, connection, and the need for support in overcoming addiction and mental health issues. The discussion also highlights the role of medications in recovery and the courage required to seek help and make a commitment to change. Takeaways Personal growth requires a commitment to change. Letting go of control is essential for recovery. Vulnerability fosters connection and healing. Recognizing signs of alcohol abuse is crucial. Support and accountability are key in recovery. Addiction can be life-threatening and needs urgent attention. Medications can aid in managing cravings and recovery. Courage is necessary to admit problems and seek help. Practicing the steps can improve overall well-being. It's important to trust the recovery process. Chapters 00:00 Embracing Personal Growth and Change 03:11 The Struggle with Control 05:41 Isolation and Vulnerability 08:01 Self-Will and Consequences 10:37 Letting Go vs. Giving Up 14:31 The Reality of Addiction 16:53 Medications and Recovery 20:54 Courage in the Journey “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma. ”Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup

Positive Connections Radio (Podcast) Episode 126 Step-2 “Revised” From Control to Connection HALT and Call for Backup-Episode (126): Coast to Coast with Mike Koch and Jim McLintock In this 12-Step Podcast Series, Mike Koch and Jim McLintock discuss the importance of acknowledging the need for support and tools in recovery, particularly in the context of the 12-step secular program and Step-2. They explore the significance of vulnerability, the power of sharing experiences, and the journey of transformation that individuals undergo in recovery. The discussion emphasizes the importance of community, understanding, and the willingness to seek help as essential components of healing and well-being. Takeaways We need support and tools beyond our current resources. Acknowledging our problems is the first step to recovery. Finding new tools is essential for restoring well-being. Sharing experiences helps reinforce our recovery. Vulnerability is key to building connections in recovery. Judgment can hinder our ability to connect with others. Transformation in recovery is a journey worth taking. Not everyone in recovery is a 'loser' or 'dirt bag.' Attending meetings can lead to meaningful connections. Gratitude for the present moment is crucial in recovery. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Step Two: The Need for Support 03:00 The Importance of Acknowledging Our Problems 05:51 Finding Help and Resources 08:35 The Power of Sharing and Giving Back 11:13 Overcoming Judgment and Embracing Vulnerability 13:42 The Journey of Recovery and Connection 16:47 Transformative Experiences in Recovery 19:24 Encouragement to Seek Support 22:07 Final Thoughts on Recovery and Gratitude “Be Strong, Stand Up, Speak Your Truth, and Break the Stigma” Music by Rod Kim-Let’s Play-Soundtrack Firstresponderwellness.com MentalHealthNewsRadionetwork.com Positiveconnectionsradio.com McLintockcounseling.com http://www.youtube.com/@HALTandCallforBackup