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Over-functioning can be hard to stop, even when you know you're doing too much. Michelle A. Bourque goes one layer deeper than episode 399 into the science underneath it. You can know you don't need to answer the text right away or jump in and fix the problem, and still feel a strong pull to do it. In this episode, Michelle talks about what may be happening in your nervous system, including hypervigilance and the fawn stress response, how early relationships and attachment can shape the strategies we learn, and how your brain's reward system can reinforce a loop of problem, fix, relief, repeat. Then she gets to the layer she thinks might be the biggest one: identity. What happens when being the capable one, the dependable one, the one everyone counts on, becomes part of how you know yourself? This isn't about doing less or caring less. Michelle talks about the difference between "I want to help" and "I can't tolerate not helping," why the behavior can look the same from the outside and feel completely different on the inside, and one small practice to try this week. In this episode Why knowing you're over-functioning doesn't always make it stop Hypervigilance and living on "yellow alert" Fawn, the fourth stress response How medical device sales can reward over-functioning Attachment, and the strategies we learn when they work The brain's reward loop: problem, jump in, fix it, relief, repeat Identity: "I'm the one people can count on" Where it shows up beyond work The difference between choosing it and feeling like you have to A one-second pause to try this week Timestamps (ESTIMATED) 00:00 Welcome back and what episode 399 left open 01:40 Why knowing you're doing too much isn't enough to stop 02:30 Hypervigilance and living on yellow alert 04:05 Fawn, the fourth stress response 05:50 Why awareness alone doesn't change the behavior 06:05 Attachment and the strategies we learn 08:15 The brain's reward loop 10:15 Identity: who am I if I'm not the one everyone counts on? 11:40 Where it shows up beyond work 12:30 This isn't about doing less 14:00 One thing to try this week 15:55 Closing Questions to sit with this week Where do you step in before anyone has asked you to? When you feel the urge to check, fix, or send one more text, what happens in your body if you don't? Is this something I'm choosing, or something I feel like I have to do? About Michelle Michelle A. Bourque is a Certified Life Coach and the host of It's Your Time. After more than 20 years in medical device sales, she coaches high-performing women through Michelle Bourque Coaching. If this one made you think of someone, send it to her. And if you enjoy the show, a rating and review on Apple Podcasts helps other women find it.

Work can matter a lot to you without becoming who you are. Michelle A. Bourque talks with Marisa Burnett about work and identity, self-worth, and learning to trust yourself as you decide what success looks like next.  If you're good at your job, it's easy for the job to start answering the question "who are you?" Marisa, who spent more than 20 years in sales and sales leadership, says she is still working out how to introduce herself without a title or an organization attached. They also talk about what it took for Marisa to step into leadership when the leadership team didn't look like her, why leadership is influence you're probably already using, and a simple reset she reaches for when she feels anxious about a conversation. Because it came up, they also get into how Marisa is using AI to save her energy for the work only she can do. In this episode How work and identity get tangled up Stepping into leadership when the leaders around you don't look like you Leadership is influence: taking inventory of where you already have it Noticing the quiet nudges that something needs to shift Separating your worth from your results Taking the time to decide what's next Using AI to save your energy for the work only you can do One belief about success Marisa is rewriting Upgrading the strategies that built you: "Is there a next iOS?" A gratitude reset for anxious moments   Timestamps (estimated) 00:00 Welcome and meet Marisa Burnett 01:50 Marisa's path: sales rep, district manager, and national training 08:45 Leading when the leadership team doesn't look like you 12:45 Leadership is influence (and you're already doing it) 17:10 Nudges, whispers, and the three-year move 20:45 Separating your worth from the number 23:45 Taking the time to choose what's next 28:55 Using AI to save your energy for the work only you can do 36:00 One belief about success Marisa is rewriting 37:20 Being the same person at home that you are at work 38:55 "Is there a next iOS?" Upgrading the strategies that built you 40:30 A gratitude reset 42:55 Where to find Marisa, and Michelle's closing thought   Questions to sit with this week Where am I already influencing people, whether or not it's in my job title? Can I be the same person at home that I am at work? What would I say if someone asked who I am without my title?  About Marisa Burnett: Marisa is a commercial leadership executive with more than 20 years of experience in medtech sales and sales leadership. She most recently served as director of US Commercial training at Medtronic, where she led commercial leadership development across multiple portfolios and trained more than 1,000 sales and clinical professionals. A proud Southerner and farm girl at heart, she now lives in Southern California and is a stepmom to three teenagers. She's passionate about authentic leadership and developing others. Find her on LinkedIn: CLICK HERE   If this one made you think of a friend, send it to her. And if you enjoy the show, a rating and review on Apple Podcasts helps other women find it.

You can be ambitious, successful, and well paid without giving your whole life to your career. In this solo episode, Michelle A. Bourque talks about how work became the center of the calendar for so many high-performing women, and a better question to start with. If you're good at what you do, you care about your work, and you like succeeding, this one is for you. Michelle isn't here to talk you out of any of it. She's asking who decided your career gets the whole table. She starts with a funny story about putting dinner in the wrong car, then gets into something she's been seeing people talk about on LinkedIn: performance, success, and what happens when work is the thing everything else fits around. Think about your week. You know when your meetings are and what your customers, your boss, and your team need. Where does the workout go? Lunch with a friend? The doctor's appointment? Work goes on the calendar first, and everything else gets what's left. This isn't only a time management problem. It's more of a "what do I believe success requires from me?" problem. Overworking can work, which is why it sticks. So the question becomes: not "do I want to stop being successful?" but "do I want to keep being successful this way?" In this episode Why work becomes the center of the calendar The beliefs behind it: if I'm available, I'm valuable; if I take care of it myself, it gets done right Why "after this quarter" never arrives in sales and medical device Becoming very successful at a life you never consciously chose Choosing to work hard because it matters vs. working harder automatically to prove your value A different question to start with: what do I want my life to look like, and how do I want my career to fit into it? Timestamps (estimated)  00:00 The Jersey Mike's story 02:45 Success without giving your whole life to your career 04:00 When did work become the center of everything? 06:15 Not a time management problem 09:00 "After this quarter" and the scoreboard that resets 12:30 Becoming successful at a life you never consciously chose 16:30 You can want an extraordinary career and an extraordinary life 19:15 A different question to start with 22:00 Imagine this 25:30 What Performance Rewritten means, and one question for the next 5 to 10 years Questions to sit with this week Where am I automatically saying yes? What am I carrying that isn't mine? If I believed I could be wildly successful without giving my whole life to my career, what would I start doing differently? If this one made you think of a friend, send it to her. And if you enjoy the show, a rating and review on Apple Podcasts helps other women find it. Want to talk it through? Book a free 20-minute connection call with Michelle:Connection Call Get the free weekly RISE Report: Free RISE report More episodes: Click here

You'll focus on your health after the holidays. After this project. When work settles down. If that sounds familiar, this conversation about midlife women's health, hormones and behavior change with Kelly Killen is one you'll want to hear. Kelly is a board certified behavior analyst, certified wellness coach and menopause coach, licensed binge and emotional eating specialist, and former natural pro figure competitor. She's spent decades studying why knowing what to do usually isn't the problem. Doing it when life is busy and imperfect is. In this episode ✨ Why "now isn't a good time" is the story that keeps so many women stuck, and why real change happens in the middle of real life ✨ What Kelly calls "mucky movement": why 30, 40 or 50% is better than zero, and how to let go of all-or-nothing thinking ✨ Kelly's take on midlife nutrition: prioritizing protein, no "good" or "bad" foods, and why she says 80–90% of results come from what you eat ✨ How to advocate for yourself around hormones and bloodwork, and why a baseline bone density scan in your 40s and 50s matters ✨ Restaurant portions, "responsible nourishment," and who's really deciding how much we eat ✨ The First Annual KK Wellness Consulting Women's Wellness Conference, happening November 13–14 in Palm Beach The takeaway So many of us are disciplined and capable at work, and then put our own health at the bottom of the list. Kelly's point is simple: it isn't selfish to put yourself on the list. You don't need a perfect plan to start. You need ownership of one thing you can do differently today. A little mucky movement, as Kelly calls it. RISE Method connection This one is all about E, Empowered Self-Trust: taking ownership of your health and trusting yourself to start before everything lines up. Resources mentioned Atomic Habits by James Clear Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter  The First Annual KK Wellness Consulting Women's Wellness Conference: November 13–14, Palm Beach Convention Center, with keynote Dr. Kelly Casperson (details at kkwellnessconsulting.com) Connect with Kelly Killen KK Wellness Consulting: kkwellnessconsulting.com · Instagram: @kkwellnessconsulting Listen, share, review If this conversation got you thinking, share it with a friend who keeps waiting for the right time. And if you have 30 seconds, leave a rating and review. It helps more women find the show.   🎧 [Apple Podcasts] · [Spotify] · [YouTube] Timestamps (approximate) 00:00 Welcome and intro to Kelly Killen 03:00 Kelly's introduction and why she wrote her book 05:00 Victim mentality, accountability and comfort zones 09:00 Why "now isn't a good time" keeps women stuck 12:00 All-or-nothing thinking and why diets fail 15:00 The "sport of eating": midlife nutrition and protein 19:00 Alcohol, family meals and making change in real life 21:30 Hormones, primary care and advocating for yourself 25:00 Bone density, longevity testing and biological age 29:00 Restaurant portions and responsible nourishment 32:00 Peptides, GLP-1s and why coaching still matters 35:00 The first annual KK Wellness Consulting Women's Wellness Conference 40:00 Michelle's takeaways: one imperfect action

Episode 402: More Than a Recipe — Family Legacy and Entrepreneurship with Katie Potter You don't have to hate what you have to know there's something more. That might be the most important thing Katie Potter's story teaches us — and it's a lesson that lands differently when you realize she left a 16-year career that she genuinely loved. About This Episode Katie Potter, owner of Newport Chowder Company, didn't build her business from a breaking point. She built it on weekends, with a family recipe, and a mother's legacy as her fuel. From spice packets sold right before Covid to a national co-packing partnership with Blount Fine Foods — Katie's story is a masterclass in trusting your gut, reinvesting in what matters, and building something that honors where you came from. In This Episode ✨ Why leaving something good takes a very specific kind of courage — and what finally made Katie jump ✨ How she built Newport Chowder Company for three years while still working full-time, producing 90 gallons of chowder on the weekends ✨ The mindset shift from corporate sales that changed how she scales: focus on one thing and hire experts at what you're not ✨ How she found her Director of Operations at Aldi's — and why he's on track to become a part-owner ✨ The financial discipline that made the business sustainable: never take the family's money, reinvest every dollar ✨ The ripple effect — how Muriel's legacy (and the risks she took in the 1960s) lives on in Newport Chowder Company today   Connect with Katie: 📩 [email protected] 🌐 newportchowdercompany.com 📱 @NewportChowderCompany The Big Takeaway Katie didn't need a burning platform to make her move. She needed proof of concept, a team she trusted, and the courage to see what was possible. That's the kind of self-trust that doesn't come from certainty — it comes from knowing you've done the work.   This one is all about E — Empowered Self-Trust. The kind that lets you bet on yourself before you have all the answers.  Take a listen today.   Timestamps 00:00 — Welcome + Introduction to Katie Potter and Newport Chowder Company 03:30 — Muriel's story: French nursery school, Muriel's restaurant, and three Chowder Hall of Fame wins 12:00 — How Newport Chowder Company was born: spice packets, pivoting through Covid, and 90 gallons a weekend 18:30 — What 14+ years in corporate sales taught Katie about building and leading 25:00 — July 1, 2022: the moment she made the leap and what finally made it click 31:00 — Building the team — finding Jose Coto at Aldi's and why relationship-first leadership is the secret 38:00 — Partnering with Blount Fine Foods and carrying Muriel's dream of going national 43:30 — What success looks like in this season + Katie's three rapid-fire answers

What do Taylor Swift, binary code friendship bracelets, and 10,000 people walking into a mall in Indianapolis have in common? A CMO who said "yes, and" to a wild idea from her team — and watched it become one of the most talked-about brand activations of the year. This week I'm joined by Kelly Hiller, Chief Marketing Officer at Purdue University, and we get into everything. Kelly has spent 22 years at Purdue — not because she played it safe, but because she kept reimagining what the next chapter could look like. Including the day her predecessor resigned and she fired off an email that said: "You don't need to initiate a search. The solution is right here." She got the job. We talk about all of it — the career moves that felt risky, the moment she realized hard work alone has a ceiling, and what happens when you have to lead people you used to grab lunch with as peers. CONNECT with Kelly What You'll Take Away ✨ The real reason the hardest workers don't always get ahead — and the one thing that actually changes it ✨ Behind the scenes of the Taylor Swift STEM activation that welcomed 10,000+ people (for free) ✨ How to build a personal brand rooted in core values that actually hold up as your career evolves ✨ The exact way Kelly navigates the awkward shift of leading former peers — and why she says just address it head on ✨ A "make them jealous" AI adoption strategy that's actually getting her team on board ✨ What 22 years at one organization taught her about ambition, momentum, and paying it forward The One Thing I Want You to Take Away Reimagining what's possible isn't just a work strategy. It's a life practice. Whether it's your team, your personal brand, your career path, or how you show up as a leader — the women who keep moving forward are the ones who stay curious and keep asking: what if we tried something different here? This one is all about S — Success Strategy and E — Empowered Self-Trust in the RISE Method. Get the weekly RISE Report: www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport Timestamps 00:00 — Intro: What this conversation is really about 03:15 — Kelly's 22-year journey and the email that got her the CMO role 10:45 — The Taylor Swift STEM activation: binary code, elf cosmetics, and 10,000 people 20:00 — Personal branding: why your core values are the only foundation that lasts 27:30 — How to lead former peers (and actually address the awkward) 34:00 — AI on your team: the "make them jealous" strategy 42:00 — Why advocating for yourself is the career skill nobody teaches you

You've built the career. You're doing all the right things. On paper, life looks pretty good. And yet — something on the inside still doesn't quite match what everything looks like on the outside. This milestone episode starts right there, and goes somewhere I could never have predicted when I recorded episode one from Marc's closet. What You'll Learn in This Episode ✨ Why changing your circumstances isn't the same as changing yourself — and the realization that shifted everything for me ✨ The difference between running from something and choosing to move toward it (this one is everything) ✨ What "Think. Feel. Do." really means — and the piece nobody talks about: can you actually receive it? ✨ How the compound effect creates a completely different life through small, consistent internal shifts ✨ The real reason high-achieving women stay stuck in performance mode even when everything looks fine ✨ What Performance Rewritten is, who it's for, and why episode 400 is the most excited I've ever been - www.michellebourquecoaching.com/performance The Takeaway Four hundred episodes later, the biggest thing I know is this: we take our brains with us. No new job, no new city, no new milestone will change how you feel on the inside if the inside work hasn't happened first. And when it does? The external world starts to catch up in ways you couldn't have imagined. RISE Method Connection This one is rooted in E — Empowered Self-Trust. It's about learning to lead from the inside out, and deciding that your worth isn't determined by what you accomplish next.      Timestamps 00:00 — Celebrating 400 episodes and what this milestone really means 03:00 — Where it all started: Marc's closet, the wine, and the original podcast 08:30 — What was really underneath the wine — and why I recognized her 14:00 — Why I thought leaving Medtronic was the answer (and what I found instead) 20:00 — The compound effect, the spirals of growth, and learning the same lesson again 27:00 — Think. Feel. Do. — and the capacity to actually receive more 34:00 — From beach visualization to living in Florida: how it actually happened 40:00 — Officially introducing Performance Rewritten - www.michellebourquecoaching.com/performance

You're hitting your numbers. Your customers love you. Your manager can't stop singing your praises. But inside? You're tired. Maybe even a little resentful. And somewhere underneath all of it, you're starting to wonder why a career you've worked so hard to build requires so much of you.   That's the conversation we're having today. In This Episode ✨ Why high performance and over functioning look identical from the outside — and the one thing that separates them ✨ How your brain gets wired to need being needed (this is neuroscience, not a character flaw) ✨ The invisible rule most high-achieving women are living by without knowing it exists ✨ What "borrowed fuel" is and why it eventually gets expensive, no matter how successful you are ✨ The exact questions to ask yourself this week to start separating compulsion from conscious choice ✨ How to stay exceptional — and ambitious — without needing to be indispensable to prove your worth The Big Takeaway Over functioning can make you wildly successful, at least for a while. You get rewarded for it. You win the awards, you make the money, and people tell you how amazing you are. But when being indispensable starts to cost you access to your own life, it's time to look underneath the performance — not at it. The rewrite isn't doing less. It's doing from choice. RISE Method Connection This one lives at the heart of R — Resilient Mindset. The invisible rule "if I can handle it, I should" is a belief we absorbed so early it feels like a fact. Untangling it is some of the most important mindset work there is.   Ready to go deeper? Get on the weekly RISE Report email list at www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport Timestamps 00:00 – High performing or over functioning? Introducing the question 03:30 – What over functioning looks like in a high-reward industry (and why it gets celebrated) 07:00 – When indispensable starts to cost you 10:15 – The real difference: same behavior, completely different driver 14:00 – The invisible rule: "If I can handle it, I should" 18:30 – The neuroscience of being needed and how it becomes a survival strategy 22:00 – Rewriting the rule — from compulsion to conscious choice

You hit the number. You got promoted. You built something people look at and call impressive. And somewhere along the way, a quiet voice started asking — why doesn't this feel like enough? Today's episode is about the invisible rule that might be behind all of it: My worth comes from my achievement. And here's why this one matters — it's not just another mindset pattern. It's the root rule underneath all the others. What You'll Learn in This Episode ✨ Why "my worth comes from my achievement" is the rule underneath all the other invisible rules — and how several patterns trace directly back to this one belief   ✨ How this belief gets wired in through thousands of tiny moments — not one dramatic event — and why that makes it so hard to spot   ✨ What "borrowed fuel" is, how to recognize when you're running on it, and what it's actually costing you   ✨ The neuroscience of why the win never quite lands — and what your brain is actually doing in the chase   ✨ A CBT reframe to separate your results from your identity (this one is a game-changer)   ✨ The one question to sit with this week that reveals what you actually want — apart from anything you feel like you need to prove The Big Takeaway This episode is not about dialing back ambition. There is nothing anti-ambition about Performance Rewritten. It's about relocating where your worth comes from — so you can achieve from a place of strength instead of for external proof. When you make that shift, the whole thing feels different.   This one is all about E — Empowered Self-Trust in the RISE Method.   Get on the list for the weekly RISE Report at www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport       Timestamps (approximate)   00:00 – Intro: Why this might be the rule underneath the rules 02:30 – How the belief gets wired through thousands of small moments 07:00 – Why it stays invisible — because it works 10:00 – Borrowed fuel: what's actually powering your performance 14:00 – The neuroscience + the CBT reframe 18:30 – What happens when achievement disappears 23:00 – Achieve from worth, not for worth + mindful recognition practice

You crushed your quota, hit every metric, and by Thursday afternoon your body whispered, "I need a minute." Your brain said, "Not yet." If that loop sounds familiar — this episode is for you.   This week kicks off a brand-new series called The Invisible Rules. These are the rules nobody handed you on paper, the ones you didn't consciously choose, but have been living by anyway. Rule #1: I have to earn rest. And it's running more high performers into the ground than almost anything else. What You'll Learn ✨ What "contingent self-worth" actually is — and how it quietly controls your relationship with rest ✨ The neuroscience behind the push-produce-rest loop and why stopping feels physically wrong ✨ The real cost beyond burnout — how this rule chips away at your judgment, your vision, and your identity ✨ Why rest is receptive, not passive — and what that means for your performance ✨ A gut-check question to find out if this rule is running your operating system right now ✨ One small, practical first step to start rewiring the loop this week The Big Takeaway Rest is not the reward for your work — it's evidence of your worth. You rest because you matter, not because you earned it. And once you see how this invisible rule has been running the show, you can't unsee it.   This one is all about E — Empowered Self-Trust, with a strong thread of I — Inner Energy woven throughout the RISE Method.   Join me for more free tools to help you feel as good on the inside as life looks on the outside -  Get on the weekly list at www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport   Timestamps:   00:00 – Introduction: The Invisible Rules Series Begins 02:15 – Rule #1: I Have to Earn Rest — What It Is and Where It Comes From 06:30 – The Neuroscience of the Push-Produce-Rest Loop 11:00 – The Real Cost: Decision Fatigue, Vision, and Identity 16:45 – Rest as Receptivity — An Energy Perspective 20:30 – Getting Curious Instead of Compliant: The Practical Rewrite

How many times this week have you said "I just don't have time for that"? The workout. The follow-up. The lunch you keep skipping. This episode is here to tell you — gently, but directly — that sentence is a lie. And the moment you see it differently, everything changes. What You'll Learn in This Episode ✨ Why "I don't have time" is never really about time — and what you're actually saying instead ✨ The Time Warrior framework from Steve Chandler and why high performers manage themselves, not the clock ✨ What flow states and gamma brainwaves have to do with your best performance days ✨ The difference between being busy and making real progress — and how to tell which one you're in ✨ Two practical tools for a time + energy audit, including Molly Fletcher's color-coded Energy Cloth ✨ Why protecting your non-negotiables isn't rigidity — it's the actual strategy The Big Takeaway The problem isn't that you don't have time. It's that you haven't decided what matters enough to protect. When you stop outsourcing your choices to a calendar you built — and start owning them — the whole game shifts. The RISE Method Connection This one is all about S — Success Strategy. Because the resource you're managing isn't time. It's you.   Ready to go deeper? Get on the list for the weekly RISE Report at www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport       Timestamps   00:00 – "I don't have time" — why that sentence is a lie 04:15 – Steve Chandler's The Time Warrior: managing yourself, not the clock 09:30 – Flow states, gamma brainwaves, and what happens in peak performance 14:00 – Busy vs. progress: are you in motion or in momentum? 18:30 – The time + energy audit and Molly Fletcher's Energy Cloth (green/yellow/red) 24:00 – The coach who wouldn't let Michelle keep her story 28:00 – "Even inmates get an hour for lunch" and the reprogramming work

You know you need to make a change. You can feel it. And somehow — despite wanting it, despite knowing it matters — nothing happens. Here's what I need you to hear: that's not a willpower problem. That's your brain doing exactly what it was designed to do. And once you understand it, you cannot unsee it. What You'll Learn in This Episode ✨ Why your brain is literally wired to resist change — and why that's not a character flaw ✨ The status quo bias: why familiar misery feels safer than uncertain growth, and what to do about it ✨ How to stop personalizing setbacks and start treating every "failure" as data that moves you forward ✨ Why nervous system regulation isn't optional — it's the foundation for building any new habit ✨ The Future Self identity shift (from Benjamin Hardy) that changes the way you make decisions ✨ A simple habit stacking formula from James Clear you can put into practice today The Big Takeaway Failure is not a verdict. It's information. When you lost that account, when the pitch didn't land, when you hit snooze for the seventh time — that was data, not a definition of who you are. The resilient mindset doesn't pretend setbacks don't sting. It mines them for what's actually useful and keeps moving with more information than before.   This one is all about R — Resilient Mindset. It's the foundation of the RISE Method, and this episode goes deep.   Ready to go deeper? Join the weekly RISE Report at www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport   Timestamps 00:00 — Intro + Michelle's real-life change story (mid-move chaos from NY to FL) 02:30 — The Motivational Triad: the three drives your brain runs on 24/7 06:00 — Status quo bias and why familiar misery beats uncertain growth in your brain 09:00 — Reframing failure as data — the Edison mindset shift 13:00 — Nervous system capacity: why you can't just "push through" into new habits 17:00 — Future Self identity and the decisions she's already made 21:00 — Habit stacking: the one small action to take before this week is over

You don't have to be the loudest person in the room to be the best one in it. If you've ever hit your numbers, done the work, and still walked away from a meeting feeling like you weren't enough — not because of your results, but because of how you showed up — this episode is exactly what you need to hear. What You'll Learn ✨ Why quiet confidence is not a weakness — and what self-determination theory says about how we actually perform best ✨ The "should statements" trap from CBT that keeps high achievers stuck in self-monitoring instead of executing  ✨ How to recognize when you're measuring your success by someone else's ruler ✨ Why relationship, deep listening, and quiet preparation are real success strategies — not consolation prizes ✨ How to reclaim agency and choose how you show up — on purpose, not by default ✨ How to hold hard seasons with grace and trust that what's being built in you is real Key Takeaway You don't have to perform your confidence for it to be real. The question has never been whether you have a success strategy. The question is whether you trust yours.  RISE Method Connection This one is all about E — Empowered Self-Trust. Because the moment you stop measuring yourself by someone else's metrics is the moment everything shifts.   Ready to go deeper? Join the weekly newsletter at michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport   Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro + the guy at lunch who sparked the whole conversation 04:15 – Early career story: when her success strategy (not her results) was questioned 08:30 – Self-determination theory: intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation 13:00 – CBT + "should statements" — the leak in the performance engine 17:30 – Quiet confidence in action: relationship, consistency, and listening as strategy 21:00 – Living from agency, not reaction 26:00 – Grace in hard seasons + the magnetic frequency of quiet knowing 30:00 – Three reflection questions to take with you this week

Episode 393: Stop Dismissing Your Symptoms: Women's Health, Worth & Wisdom (Replay) with Jessica Arias You've been running on empty for so long it started to feel normal. The symptoms keep stacking — the fatigue, the brain fog, the sense that something is just off — and yet every appointment ends the same way: "Your labs look fine." You're not imagining it. And you're not broken. This week is a special replay of one of those conversations that is just too good to hear only once. Michelle sits down with Jessica Arias, board-certified functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner and what she calls a "mystic midwife for women's health," for a deep, honest discussion about what it really takes to restore your health from the inside out — and why so much of it starts with trusting what you already know. What You'll Learn ✨ Why women's symptoms get dismissed — and what functional labs actually look at differently ✨ The difference between "common" and "normal" when it comes to how you feel (this one will stick with you) ✨ How self-worth is woven into chronic health patterns, and what starts to shift when you address it ✨ The gut-brain connection — and why your 40s might be when it all shows up at once ✨ How to stop asking "what's wrong with me?" and start asking "what do I need right now?" ✨ Why Jessica calls your 40s a calling, not a crisis — and what that reframe changes   Follow Jessica: IG: @jessicahealthandhealing 00:00 – Why this replay is worth hearing again 03:30 – Introducing Jessica Arias and her "mystic midwife" approach to women's health 08:00 – When symptoms stack and doctors don't have answers 16:00 – The self-worth and health connection women don't talk about enough 24:00 – Your 40s: a calling, not a crisis 32:00 – The gut-brain axis, perimenopause, and the role of the liver 42:00 – Jessica's closing invitation: get curious, not critical   RISE Report:

Your power's out, your routine is gone, and your brain is already writing the story that you failed before the day even started. Friend, that moment — the one where everything you count on just disappears — is not the moment you fall apart. It's actually the moment that reveals who you are. What You'll Learn ✨ Why your brain treats a broken routine like an actual threat (and what's happening in there when it does) ✨ The "minimum baseline" concept that keeps you in the game when life gets messy ✨ Why all-or-nothing thinking is quietly costing you more than you realize ✨ How this applies directly to your sales pipeline when your territory gets disrupted ✨ The real definition of confidence — and why it has nothing to do with having a plan ✨ Why the "pilot light" version of a habit is more powerful than the version you skip entirely Key Takeaway Consistency was never about the perfect routine. It's about the smallest version you're willing to protect no matter what — ten minutes instead of forty-five, five calls instead of twenty, one page instead of the whole chapter. That's the version that keeps the pilot light lit. And a pilot light that stays lit can always turn into a full flame. RISE Method connection: This one lives squarely in Resilient Mindset — rewiring the all-or-nothing thoughts that convince you disruption means defeat. Ready to go deeper? Grab your free weekly copy of the RISE Report for more ways to help your feel as good on the inside as life looks on the outside: www.michellebourquecoaching.com/risereport Listen now   Timestamps: 00:00 – The storm story: when the routine falls apart 04:30 – Why your brain treats disruption like a threat 09:15 – The habit loop and the "minimum baseline" fix 16:00 – Redefining success in the middle of the storm 21:30 – Bringing it back to your pipeline 27:00 – The real definition of confidence