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After 6 years and nearly 400 episodes, we are bringing 10 Things To Tell You to a close. Thank you. For everything. You can find me writing and hosting community conversations over on Substack at Secret Stuff. Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine Stay subscribed to this feed for any future podcast announcements. **** The 10 most important things to tell you: READ SHARE NOTICE MOVE DECORATE DRESS DOCUMENT PRACTICE LISTEN THANK ...and I share one very special 11th thing in the episode. Thank you for listening. It has been my honor to be in your ears for the last 6 years. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's my birthday week! Which means it's my annual birthday episode. This year I'm sharing the phrase that keeps running through my mind and the many ways I'm applying it to my past and my present. (Plus there's a special announcement at the end of this one. Don't miss it.) JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 265: How Have You Changed in the Last 10 Years? (with Meg Tietz) Ep 259: 10 Questions for the Anniversary of a Big Event Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections from 15 Years Working on the Internet Ep 225: Change Happens When You're Looking the Other Way (a birthday episode!) Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44 Ep 122: Don't Give Away Your Power (Thoughts On Turning 42) Ep 70: Age is just a number, right? Ep 21: 10 Thoughts On Turning 40   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wondering why all of your favorite creators, journalists, and writers are moving to Substack? Have you signed up for a few but are basically confused about how to navigate the Substack universe? This episode is for you. I moved my longtime newsletter the Secret Posts and membership community Secret Stuff to Substack back in December, and I have lots of thoughts about this trend and how to make it your Substack user experience better. Click HERE to sign up for the Secret Stuff Substack, where you'll get all my Secret Stuff essays for free or can upgrade for the Book Club & Symposium meetings, plus lots of other goodies. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Secret Stuff Substack Substack Tutorial post (with screenshots) How to listen to Substack podcast episodes in my podcast app   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me to talk about the best books we've read (so far) in 2025! Join SECRET STUFF on Substack for our BONUS conversation and for Stephen King Summer We've created special lists of all the books we talk about on amazon and on Bookshop FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Laura's Best Books of the Year (so far): Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib Show Don't Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld Didion and Babitz by Lili Anolik Yasmin's Best Books of the Year (so far): Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams Entitlement by Rumaan Alaam It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki Steph's Best Books of the Year (so far): Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson Mutual Interest by Olivia Wolfgang-Smith Like Mother, Like Mother by Susan Rieger ALSO MENTIONED: The Chani App You Were Born for This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance by Chani Nicholas The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You! FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to mark your special day with a dedicated Birthday Journal. Whether you're celebrating on your actual birthDAY, or your birthday week, or taking your whole birthday month to look back and look forward on your life, these ideas and prompts will help you make the most of this period of introspection. The 4 sections of the birthday journal: Timeline Who I Was Who I Am Who I Want To Be FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 249: 4 Ways To Journal (For People Who Don’t Like Journaling) ALL JOURNAL PROMPT EPISODES Other episodes about journaling: Ep. 9: 10 Ways to Journal Ep. 62: Should you reread or burn old journals and letters? Ep. 103: Journaling for GrownupsEp. 127: “You read my journals?” (A conversation with my mom)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy. In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."  This is a tender and important conversation.  This episode originally aired in 2021. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this important conversation. 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Please take care while listening. SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is a conversation with my husband, Jeff, and our two teenagers Lucy and Finch. We're answering listener questions about family dynamics, living in LA, how the kids feel about their parents' careers, and what they picture for their futures. Other Tremaine family episodes: Ep 59: Marry the person you could quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello from lockdown) Ep 69: 22 Things Out Family Watched in Quarantine BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From One Year of the Pandemic Ep 138: 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids (with Lucy & Finch) Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract for Teens FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Mentioned in this episode: Ep 255: Making R-Rated Art As A Mom (with Stacy Rukeyser) *** SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1! Join us as we deep dive on the world's greatest living story teller. For Stephen King Summer 2025, we're reading: THE SHINING (1977) Under the Dome (2009) And we're watching: Christine (1983) Episode 1 of The Outsider (2020) Doctor Sleep (2019) Stephen King Summer is a part of my Secret Stuff book club & membership community. Browse Stephen King Summer MERCH Not sure where to start with Stephen King? Jump right into Stephen King Summer OR listen to this episodes for book recommendations: Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit Ep 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read And What To Skip) Hope to see you over on Secret Stuff for the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I had no idea how much I needed this conversation with actor, producer, director, writer, and musician Fiona Rene. In just one hour she taught me the value of believing in yourself above all else, more than anyone else, almost to the point of delusion. You might know Fiona Rene from her roles on Lincoln Lawyer, NCIS: Hawaii, I Know What You Did Last Summer, and her leading role in the #1 CBS show Tracker, but Fiona and I immediately connected over our Oklahoma roots. In this ONE THING conversation - where I ask my guests about the ONE THING they would tell you - we talk about self-confidence, the balance between "being" and "doing" and why believing in yourself above all else is the key to success. Follow Fiona Rene on Instagram Learn more about Grandma's House FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode with my friend Amy Ortloff originally aired in August 2021 with the title Teaching People To Grieve With Me. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this conversation, which is one of the most important I've ever shared. Content warning: Child loss and suicide In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten.  As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community.  Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.  This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff.  If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.  Please share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it. SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My favorite topic, any time of year. Join the SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB where we're about to kick off the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Books I'm Looking Forward To Reading: The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick Playworld: A Novel by Adam Ross Broken Country by Clare Leslie Hall Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson Three Biographies: Sister Sinner by Claire Hoffman Mark Twain by Ron Chernow Manson by Jeff Guinn Best Books Lately: There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib Americanah by Chimimanda Ngozi Adichie Parable of the Sower by Octavia E. Butler Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner The Tell by Amy Griffin Victorian Psycho by Virginia Feito Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy ALSO MENTIONED: Ep. 258: Best Books Lately with Liz Hein NYTimes 100 Best Books of the 21st Century Ep. 98: How To Start a Book Club SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is the very core of what 10 Things To Tell You is about: reflection, growth, and great conversations. And this conversation happens to be with one of my oldest friends and very favorite person to be on the microphone with: Meg Tietz. We're talking through the many ways we've changed in the last 10 years - since 2015 - in our home & family, career, and spiritually/emotionally. We have so much to say about our mid-30s, mid-2010s selves, and we're encouraging YOU to reflect on your own changes from the last decade. Meg is a writer, speaker, voice over artist, and internet pioneer. I have been following in her footsteps since high school, and she is responsible for giving me my first shot at podcasting when she launched the Sorta Awesome show in 2015. Together we created and produced Smartest Person in the Room and now we're both creating regularly on Substack. Read Meg's Substack Gemini Wrongs Hire Meg for voice over work FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Meg's Deconversion Series on Substack (Part 1) and Part 2 and Part 3 Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine Ep 235: 4 Lessons After Publishing 2 Books Ep 34: The Robbery Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever felt underestimated? Of course you have. Maybe YOU'VE underestimated yourself (which can somehow feel worse). My friend and fellow podcaster and author Mary Marantz joins me to talk about her new book Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift To Quit Playing Small, Name The Fear, and Move Forward Anyway. I just love Mary and love what she has to say about taking our future into our own hands. Click HERE to get Mary's preorder bonuses Learn more about Mary Marantz Follow Mary Marantz on Instagram Buy Underestimated FULL SHOW NOTES HERE ALSO MENTIONED in this episode: Dirt by Mary Marantz Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots Take the Achiever Quiz Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense with Dr. Becky Kennedy   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You'll love this conversation if you've ever wrestled with the fact that achieving your dreams can look and feel different than you expected. Annie B Jones is most well known for owning The Bookshelf bookstore and for her book-focused podcast From the Front Porch, but now she's on the other side of publishing industry as she releases her debut book of essays Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying Put. In this conversation, Annie and I talk about how dreams don't always look the way you planned, like living near your hometown, owning a bookstore, even (especially?) writing a book! Our lives look so different from one another, but we found so many parallels. Follow Annie B Jones on Instagram Buy Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying Put FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have been waiting for the right moment to feature this conversation with interior designer Michelle Fahmy, founder of Haus of Meeshie, about bringing bold color and unique style to your home and life. For the past two years, Meeshie has helped bring fresh life to our family's home in Los Angeles, bringing a whole new vibe to our living spaces. Since I've long preached the power of our spaces on this show, I knew Meeshie (with her very bold style) would be the perfect person to talk us through this topic. But this conversation ended up being about way more than just paint and wallpaper. Meeshie's own career trajectory and leaps of faith make this an inspiring message for how to create the colorful life you want. Follow Haus of Meeshie on Instagram Follow @laura.tremaine on IG for peeks of my personal home Check out the EXTRA THINGS conversation with Meeshie on Laura Tremaine's Secret Stuff Episodes that pair well with this one: Ep 236: Discovering what was always there BONUS: 5 Rules To Create A House You Love FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.