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Episode Description "Grief is already painful. But the way you're trying to survive it might be making it harder." In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down what most people unknowingly do in the first year of grief that increases their suffering. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about loss. It is about what happens when you're left trying to survive something no one ever taught you how to process. The first year is the most confusing. The most painful. And the year you get the worst advice. Stay strong. Keep busy. Don't think about it. But these strategies do not heal grief. They delay it. In this episode, Sharon walks through four common patterns that make grief heavier: avoiding your emotions, pretending you're okay, comparing your timeline to others, and staying busy to escape the pain. She explains why these responses make sense, why your brain uses them to protect you, and why they end up keeping grief stuck and louder over time. This conversation is not about doing grief perfectly. It is about becoming aware of what is actually happening. Because you are not doing it wrong. You were just never taught how to do it at all. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why the first year of grief feels the hardest How avoiding emotions actually increases suffering Why pretending you're okay creates isolation The danger of comparing your grief to others How staying busy keeps grief from being processed Why your reactions make sense (even if they're not helping) Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What emotions have I been avoiding since the loss? Where am I pretending I'm okay when I'm not? Have I been comparing my grief to someone else's timeline? When do I actually allow myself to sit with my grief? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "What have I been doing to avoid my grief?" Then answer honestly. Not the strong answer. Not the version that sounds like you're handling it well. The real one. Because awareness is where healing begins. Resources + Next Steps If this episode hit you, it's because something in you is ready to stop avoiding and start understanding your grief. You don't have to figure this out alone. 👉 Get the book: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool 👉 Join The Story Room Because healing doesn't happen when you run from grief It happens when you finally face it.

Episode Description "Your brain is not trying to hurt you. It's trying to understand what just changed your entire life." In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down why your mind keeps replaying the moment your person died. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just emotional. It is a full body and brain experience that records life-altering moments with intense detail. The phone call. The hospital room. The last words. These moments stay vivid not because something is wrong with you, but because your brain is trying to make sense of what happened. In this episode, Sharon explains how trauma and memory work together, why your brain keeps returning to the same moment, and how shock and disbelief keep the story from fully settling. She also breaks down the connection between thoughts and emotions, why painful memories keep triggering emotional waves, and how speaking your story out loud helps the brain begin organizing the experience. This conversation is not about stopping the replay instantly. It is about understanding why it is happening. Because when you understand your grief, you stop being afraid of your own mind. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why your brain replays the moment your person died How trauma impacts memory and emotional intensity Why grief feels like a full body experience The connection between thoughts and emotional pain Why shock and disbelief keep the memory looping How talking about your story helps your brain process it Why you are not broken for thinking about it Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What moment does my mind keep going back to? What part of that story still feels unfinished or unclear? Have I been afraid of my thoughts instead of understanding them? Where can I safely begin to talk about this out loud? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "This is the moment my life changed." Then describe it. What you saw. What you heard. What you felt. Not to relive it. But to begin organizing it. Because what your brain keeps replaying is what it is still trying to understand. Resources + Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, it is because your mind is trying to process something that has never been fully spoken. You don't have to do that alone. 👉 Join The Story Room: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool Because healing begins when your story finally has a place to land.

Episode Description "The part of your grief that hurts the most is often the part you never say out loud." In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about the stories grievers carry but rarely share. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about missing someone. It is also about the moments that changed everything—the phone call, the hospital room, the last words, the unanswered questions. These are the parts most people don't talk about. Not because they don't want to. But because they don't feel safe to. In this episode, Sharon explains why grievers stop sharing their stories, how silence builds over time, and what happens when those memories have nowhere to go. She breaks down how the brain replays painful moments, why these memories stay stuck, and why speaking them out loud is one of the most important parts of processing grief. She also introduces The Story Room, a space created for grievers to share the full truth of their experience—without judgment, interruption, or being corrected. This conversation is not about making grief smaller. It is about giving it a place to be heard. Because healing does not begin when the pain goes away. It begins when the story is finally spoken. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why grievers are afraid to share certain parts of their story What happens when grief stories are kept inside Why painful memories replay over and over again How silence increases isolation and emotional weight Why telling your grief story helps the brain process it The importance of being witnessed in your grief How The Story Room creates a safe space for real grief Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What parts of my grief have I never said out loud? Am I holding back my story to protect other people's comfort? What memories keep replaying in my mind? Where do I feel like I have no place to share this? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "This is the part of my grief I've never said out loud." Then write it. Not the edited version. Not the acceptable version. The real one. Because what stays unspoken stays heavy. Resources + Next Steps If this episode spoke to you, it is because there is a part of your story that needs to be heard. You do not have to carry it alone. 👉 Join The Story Room: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool Because your healing begins when your story is finally witnessed.

Episode Description "Grief doesn't feel confusing because you're broken. It feels confusing because no one ever showed you how to understand it." In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down one of the biggest gaps in grief support: no one actually helps you understand your grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full body experience that affects your sleep, your thoughts, your memory, your identity, and your daily life. And yet, most people are never given the space to look at it. Instead, they are given comfort. They are given timelines. They are told to keep going. But what they are not given is understanding. In this episode, Sharon introduces the purpose behind the Grief Assessment—a structured conversation designed to help you finally look at your grief honestly and begin to make sense of what you are experiencing. She explains why grief feels so overwhelming, why your mind keeps replaying moments, and why talking through your story is one of the most important parts of processing it. This conversation is not about fixing you. It is about helping you understand what is happening inside of you. Because healing does not begin with answers. It begins with understanding. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why most grievers never get a real understanding of their grief How grief affects your body, mind, and daily functioning Why your brain keeps replaying painful moments The role of telling your grief story in healing What the Grief Assessment actually is and how it works How patterns like avoidance, guilt, and isolation show up Why confusion decreases when you begin to understand your grief Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. Have I ever truly been asked about my grief? What parts of my story have I not fully spoken out loud? Where is my grief showing up in my body and daily life? What patterns am I noticing in how I handle my grief? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "How is my grief actually showing up in my life?" Then answer honestly. Not the short version. Not the version you tell others. The real one. Because understanding your grief is the first step to moving it. Resources + Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, it is because something in you is ready to understand your grief on a deeper level. You don't need to keep guessing. You don't need to figure this out alone. 👉 Take the Grief Assessment: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool Because your healing starts when your grief finally makes sense.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id= "request-69b4436f-8e58-8321-a0e7-71e602bf0813-0" data-testid= "conversation-turn-34" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Episode Description "You're not stuck because you still love them. You're stuck because of the attachment." In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with a narc recovery coach and author of Toxic Charm to break down one of the most confusing and painful relationship dynamics people experience. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about death. It shows up anywhere attachment is broken. And when narcissistic patterns are involved, that attachment becomes even more intense, unstable, and hard to walk away from. Together, they unpack what narcissism actually looks like in real life, why it feels like love one moment and disappears the next, and why so many people stay stuck trying to figure the other person out instead of coming back to themselves. They explore how these relationships create emotional highs and lows, how patterns repeat, and why clarity—not more guessing—is what begins to shift everything. This conversation is not about labeling people. It is about understanding patterns. Because sometimes the hardest truth is this: You can love someone… and still be stuck in something that is hurting you. What You'll Learn in This Episode What narcissism actually is in plain language Why these relationships feel intense, addictive, and confusing The difference between selfish behavior and narcissistic patterns Why you do not need a diagnosis to begin your healing How attachment and grief keep you tied to the relationship Why "just leave" is not as simple as it sounds How to start rebuilding self-trust after losing yourself Why patterns matter more than labels Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. Am I holding on to who they are… or who I hoped they could be? What patterns have I been ignoring or explaining away? Have I been trying to understand them more than I understand myself? What would it look like to choose clarity over confusion? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "What patterns did I experience that I kept trying to explain away?" Then answer honestly. Not the version that protects them. Not the version that minimizes what happened. The real one. Because you cannot break a cycle you are still trying to justify. Resources + Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, it is because something in you is ready for clarity. You do not need to keep guessing. You do not need to keep decoding. You do not need to keep losing yourself trying to make it make sense. 👉 Find more resources and support at: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool  

Episode Description "Grief does not get louder because you are weak. It gets louder because it has nowhere to land." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about something most grievers never receive after loss: a true witness to their grief story. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is the mind and body trying to process something life changing that the world around you quickly moves on from. While everyone else returns to their normal life, the griever often finds themselves living in what Sharon calls the alternate universe of grief. And when there is no safe place to speak the story out loud, the grief does not disappear. It loops. It replays. It grows louder inside the nervous system. In this episode, Sharon explains why the brain keeps replaying painful memories after loss, how unspoken grief stays trapped in the body, and why having a witness is one of the most powerful parts of healing. She also introduces The Story Room, a space created for women to share their grief story out loud in a room of people who understand, listen without judgment, and hold space for the truth of what loss actually feels like. This conversation is not about fixing grief. It is about finally giving it a place to land. Because grief does not need to be corrected. It needs to be witnessed. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why every griever has a grief story that needs to be told What happens when grief has no witness Why the brain keeps replaying painful memories after loss How silence can keep grief stuck in the nervous system Why speaking your grief story out loud can begin to shift the pain What makes the Story Room different from typical grief support spaces How witnessing someone else's grief can help you process your own Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. Let them sit with you. When did my grief story actually begin? Have I had a place where my grief could be spoken without correction or comparison? What parts of my story have I been editing or keeping quiet? What is my grief still trying to say? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "This is the part of my grief story I have never said out loud." Then start writing. Not the version you tell people. Not the shortened version. Not the strong version. The real one. Because sometimes the first step in healing grief is simply letting the story be heard. Resources + Next Steps If this episode spoke to you, the place Sharon created for this work is called The Story Room. It is a guided grief space where women can share their story, be witnessed, and begin processing grief in a room that understands. The Story Room meets the every Thursday. 👉 Learn more and join here: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Episode Description "Unprocessed grief does not disappear. It shows up in the way you attach, the way you fear, and the way you love." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Sean Walker, a faith-based relationship coach who helps men and women understand attachment patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and stop repeating the same painful relationship cycles. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is what happens when love has nowhere to land. And that same injury can show up after death, divorce, breakup, abandonment, or the loss of a connection that was never safely formed. Together, Sharon and Sean unpack the powerful overlap between grief and attachment. They explore how early relationships shape the way we love, why people cling or shut down, how labels can help but also keep people stuck, and what it really means to heal at the soul level instead of just trying to fix the relationship. This conversation is not about dating tricks. It is about internal rewiring. Because sometimes the real heartbreak is not just who left. It is the pattern that keeps getting repeated. What You'll Learn in This Episode How grief and attachment are deeply connected Why breakup pain is often more than "just a breakup" What anxious and avoidant attachment can look like in real life Why people over-identify with labels instead of doing the healing work How unprocessed grief can keep showing up in dating and relationships Why you can still love someone and know the relationship is not right for you What it means to build security that lasts beyond marriage or romantic love Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to answer these quickly. Am I grieving a person, a relationship, or a version of safety I never had? What patterns do I keep repeating in love? Have I been using labels to understand myself — or to avoid feeling? Do I want love from a place of wholeness, or do I need it to prove I'm okay? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "What am I really grieving in love?" Then answer honestly. Not the polished answer. Not the spiritual answer. Not the one that makes you sound healed. The real one. Because you cannot heal what you keep misnaming. Resources + Next Steps Find Sean Walker on social media at Coach Sean Walker Explore his resources, including Feel to Heal and Beat the Breakup 👉 Find everything at https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Episode Description "Grief deserves care. It does not deserve to be shoved in a corner." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, pulls back the curtain and finally answers the question: What actually is The Grief School? After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned the hard way that grief is not something you "get over." It cracks your heart open. It shifts your identity. It leaves you standing in the aftermath asking, What the hell am I supposed to do now? The Grief School was built for that moment. This episode walks you through every layer of the community — from the free Facebook spaces to the Story Room, Courage Club, Processing the Pain of Grief, Forever Changed, Honor Society, and beyond. Sharon explains how each space is designed to help women stop performing, start telling the truth, and finally process what actually happened to their hearts. This is not about moving on. It is about healing a broken heart in community. Because grief is heavy enough. Carrying it alone makes it heavier. What You'll Learn in This Episode What The Grief School actually is — and who it's for The difference between the free community spaces and the private university How the Story Room creates a safe place to speak the truth What happens inside Processing the Pain of Grief What Forever Changed really means — and why integration matters Why grief healing requires structure, community, and courage Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. What has happened in my life that cracked my heart open? Have I been trying to carry this alone? Where do I need to be witnessed instead of fixed? Am I ready to learn the truth about my grief? Homework for You Ask yourself: "Where is the safest place for me to begin?" Maybe it's listening. Maybe it's joining the free Facebook group. Maybe it's coming to the Story Room. Just take one step. Healing doesn't start with perfection. It starts with showing up. Resources + Next Steps Join the private Facebook group: The Grief School Sign up for the Story Room or Grief 101 using the links below 👉 Find everything at clickhereforhope.com

Episode Description "Healing happens in moments. And sometimes one moment changes everything." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Emily, founder of Moment Cares — a full-service recovery and mental health support organization helping individuals and families navigate substance use, trauma, and emotional crisis. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It lives in the body. It hides in addiction. It shows up as anxiety, avoidance, overworking, numbing, and survival mode. And in this powerful conversation, Sharon and Emily connect the dots between grief, trauma, addiction, and the nervous system. With 18 years of personal sobriety and 15 years of professional experience, Emily shares how her own recovery journey revealed something deeper: alcohol and drugs are often not the root problem — they are the symptom. Underneath is unprocessed pain. Unfelt grief. A nervous system stuck in fear. Together, they explore the head–heart connection, why so many people live disconnected from their bodies, and how learning to sit with emotion — even for one minute — can begin to change everything. This episode is not just about addiction. It is about grief, trauma, community, and connection. Because healing does not happen in isolation. It happens when someone says, "Me too." What You'll Learn in This Episode How addiction and numbing behaviors are often responses to unprocessed grief Why sitting with emotion feels terrifying — and why it actually sets you free The difference between intellectualizing pain and feeling it in the body How trauma disconnects us from our own nervous system Why community is one of the most powerful tools in recovery How mental health, grief, and substance use are deeply connected Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to answer these all at once. What have I been using to avoid feeling? Is my struggle really about the surface behavior — or something deeper? Where did I learn that my emotions were not safe? Who is safe enough for me to begin telling the truth? Homework for You The next time you feel overwhelmed, pause. Ask yourself: "What am I feeling in my body right now?" Not what you're thinking. Not the story. Just the feeling. Sit with it for one minute. Watch what happens. That minute might be your moment. Resources + Next Steps Learn more about Emily and Moment Cares at momentcares.com 👉 Find grief support and resources at https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Episode Description "You may not get to choose what you feel. But you do get to choose what you practice." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down something most grievers have never been told: You have choices in your grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief feels automatic. The memories. The body reactions. The waves that hit before you're even fully awake. It can feel like something is happening to you — and you are stuck. But what if you are not stuck? This episode walks through 10 real choices every griever faces — not fluffy mindset shifts, but nervous-system level decisions that shape whether you stay in survival mode or begin moving toward healing. From avoidance vs. engagement, to isolation vs. regulated support, to surviving vs. living again — Sharon challenges the belief that time alone heals and invites you into active participation in your own healing. This episode is not about forcing feelings. It is about practicing safety. Because grief healing is not passive. It is something you participate in. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why you cannot always choose your emotions — but you can choose your response The difference between avoidance and true engagement How isolation keeps the nervous system in threat mode Why intellectualizing grief is not the same as processing it What it actually means to retrain your nervous system How survival mode becomes a habit — and how to slowly shift out of it Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. Where am I avoiding instead of engaging? Am I waiting for time to fix this — or am I participating in healing? Who feels safe enough to witness my grief without trying to fix it? What am I practicing daily — survival or safety? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "What am I practicing in my grief?" Then list your honest answers. No shame. No judgment. Just awareness. Then circle one choice you are ready to practice differently this week. Healing does not happen by accident. It happens by repetition. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Find everything at https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Episode Description "Your grief is not a burden. Your silence is." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, asks a hard but necessary question: What is your grief costing you? After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief does not just take the person you love. It takes your energy. Your focus. Your sense of self. And when you start hiding it, it takes even more. Many grievers believe staying quiet makes them strong. They believe pretending to be "okay" protects the people around them. But silence does not protect you. It isolates you. It disconnects you. It keeps you stuck in survival mode. This episode explores the hidden cost of emotional suppression and why grief needs a place to land. This episode is not about falling apart. It is about telling the truth. Because healing does not happen in hiding. It happens when your pain is seen. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why hiding your grief drains your energy and disconnects you from support How silence keeps you stuck in survival mode The difference between protecting others and abandoning yourself Why grief needs space, air, and honesty to begin healing Simple, practical ways to start telling the truth about your pain Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. What has my grief been costing me emotionally? Where have I been pretending instead of telling the truth? Who feels safe enough to hear even a small piece of my pain? What is one thing I need to say out loud this week? Homework for You At the top of a page, write: "What my silence is costing me." Be honest. No performing. No minimizing. Just tell the truth. Then circle one small step you can take this week to let your grief have a place to land. That is where the shift begins. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Find everything at https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Episode Description "Grief does not disappear when you ignore it. It just gets heavier when you carry it alone." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, opens an honest conversation about men, grief, and emotional pain. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full-body experience that affects thoughts, emotions, and the nervous system. And while grief impacts everyone, many men are taught early that strength means silence. This episode challenges the belief that "big boys don't cry" and explores what really happens when men are never given space to feel, talk, or be witnessed in their grief. Sharon is joined by Coach Martize of The Frazier Group, who brings his personal story and professional experience into the conversation. Together, they unpack how emotional suppression is learned, why avoidance is not weakness but survival, and how outdated beliefs keep people stuck long after the loss. This episode is not about fixing grief. It is about creating space for it. Because pain does not need to be handled. It needs to be held. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why emotional pain is often avoided, not because of weakness, but because of conditioning How men are taught to survive instead of feel The difference between strength and emotional suppression Where beliefs about toughness and vulnerability come from Why grief needs space, not silence Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to answer these quickly. Where did I learn that showing emotion was unsafe? What feelings have I been pushing down instead of listening to? How has "being strong" shaped the way I grieve? Where do I need space instead of advice? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: "What I was taught about emotions." Now finish the sentence honestly. No fixing. No explaining. Just notice what comes up. That awareness matters. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Find everything at clickhereforhope.com

"She was more than her ending. And healing didn't mean letting her go. It meant letting the pain stop running the show." In Part 2 of this deeply personal episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, continues the raw conversation with Nikki about grieving a mother who was also her best friend. This episode moves beyond the loss and into what happens after the world keeps spinning and you're still stuck. Nikki shares what it was really like to resist grief work, to believe that suffering was the only way to honor her mom, and to carry guilt she didn't even realize she was holding. Together, Sharon and Nikki unpack one of the most painful grief lies of all: "If I heal, it means I didn't love them enough." You'll hear how healing finally began when Nikki stopped protecting the pain and allowed herself to tell the truth about what she lost, what she carried, and what she deserved next. This episode is about releasing unhealthy grief, honoring the full life of your person, and learning how to live again without betraying the love that came before. What You'll Hear in This Episode Why many grievers believe suffering equals loyalty How guilt hides inside grief and keeps you stuck What it means to be "more than their ending" Why healing doesn't erase love, memories, or connection How letting the pain soften creates space to celebrate your person again Questions to Sit With After Listening You don't have to answer these perfectly. Just honestly. Where have I believed that my pain is protecting my person? What part of my grief feels unhealthy, even if I don't want to admit it yet? Am I afraid that healing means leaving them behind? If my person could speak to me right now, what would they want for my life? What would it look like to grieve and live at the same time? Gentle Homework Write this sentence at the top of a page: "They were more than their ending." Now finish it without rushing. Let memories come. Let truth come. Let the love show up. You're not erasing them. You're letting their whole life matter again.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-6920a090-ad04-8322-ba7a-5ec27567cc94-1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-64" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> "You were never meant to grieve quietly. Your emotions didn't show up to hurt you. They showed up to help you process what just happened." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Nikki to talk about a kind of loss that cuts straight to the core. The loss of a mother who was also a best friend. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn't one-dimensional. There are layers. And one of the most overlooked layers is the grief that comes from losing the person who knew you, guided you, and helped you make sense of life. In this conversation, Nikki shares the story of her mom Cheryl. Not just who she was, but how deeply intertwined she was in every part of her life. From daily texts and phone calls to faith, caregiving, unanswered prayers, and the shock of having no time to prepare. This episode explores what happens when grief collides with faith, when anger at God feels unavoidable, and when the foundation you were raised on both supports you and breaks your heart at the same time. We talk about the reality of caregiving, the trauma of watching someone you love decline, and the quiet ways people stay connected after loss. Keeping a phone on. Sending messages that will never be answered. Letting grandchildren leave voicemails. Choosing connection instead of rules. This is an honest, raw conversation about layered grief, unfinished moments, and learning how to live in a world where your anchor is gone. You're not doing grief wrong. You're responding to something that mattered deeply. Let's grieve that shit together. What You'll Hear in This Episode • Why losing a mother who was also a best friend creates a second layer of grief • How caregiving changes the grief experience before death even happens • What it's like to have no time to process before everything changes • How faith can both comfort and anger you after loss • Why staying connected in your own way is not wrong • The difference between healing and erasing the relationship Reflection Questions Take your time with these. There's no rush. Who was your person to you beyond the title they held in your life? What part of your grief do you feel most people don't understand? Where has faith supported you, and where has it felt complicated or painful? What unfinished moments or conversations still live in your body? What connection are you holding onto that brings you comfort, even if others wouldn't understand it? If you stopped judging your grief, what would you allow yourself to feel? Gentle Homework Write this sentence at the top of a page: "What hurts the most about losing them is…" Let yourself finish it without fixing, explaining, or softening the answer. That honesty is part of your healing. Resources + Next Steps 🎥 Watch Sharon's grief teachings and video overviews 🎧 Explore deep-dive podcast episodes like this one 📘 Access study guides, journal prompts, and grief education 🧠 Continue your work inside The Grief School 👉 Everything lives at clickhereforhope.com You don't have to rush this. You don't have to be okay. You just have to be honest.      

"Your brain didn't break when your person died. It's just doing what it knows—trying to protect you from pain. But grief doesn't live in your brain. It lives in your heart." In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, dives deep into one of the biggest truths about grief: you can't think your way out of it. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon discovered firsthand that grief isn't logical—it's emotional. Your brain tries to reason, fix, and explain the unexplainable, while your heart just breaks wide open. That war between the head and the heart? It's exactly why you feel like you're spinning. This episode unpacks the difference between intellect, emotion, and sensation—and shows why healing can only happen when you stop trying to "figure it out" and start feeling it. Sharon shares the same lessons that inspired her book This Is Grief and walks you through how to finally calm your mind so you can listen to your heart. Because the truth is: your heart already knows what your brain keeps trying to solve. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why grief is emotional—not intellectual—and how that changes everything The silent war between your brain and your heart after loss Why logic and reason can't fix what's broken in your soul How thoughts like "Why didn't I go?" or "I should have done more" keep you stuck in pain What it really means to "drop into your heart" and let it speak Homework for You If you've been spinning in your thoughts, here's your assignment: Grab a sheet of paper and write down one question that won't stop looping in your mind—like "Why me?" or "Why didn't I answer the phone?" Now write your honest answer. Don't edit. Don't analyze. Just let your heart respond. Then underneath that answer, finish this sentence: "What I really feel is…" That's where your healing begins—not in your thoughts, but in your truth. Resources + Next Steps 🎥 Get the 4-Part Video Series "This Is Grief" — Walk through Sharon's full teaching on what grief is, where it lives, and how to heal. 📖 Read the Book "This Is Grief" — The definition Sharon needed when Austin died. 🧠 Join The Grief School's Study Hall — Weekly live support where you can share, learn, and heal together. 👉 Download or watch it all at clickhereforhope.com