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Episode Summary Two and a half months left in the year and nowhere near where you wanted to be? Amber Fuhriman breaks down why most goal setting fails, how frustration kills your ability to find solutions, and the exact strategy business owners need to stop waiting for January and start building real momentum right now. Key Topics Covered How to identify whether your goal-setting process is actually setting you up for failure or creating resultsWhy the brain is wired for comfort (not success) and how the voice in your head kills your goals before you even startHow to reset from frustration into a productive state so you can see solutions instead of problemsThe connection between gratitude and goal setting, and why building on what you already have beats constantly starting overHow to set specific, measurable goals with a real strategy instead of vague affirmations that go nowhere Notable Quotes "The brain is not wired for success. It's wired for comfort, and you are comfortable exactly where you are now.""Nobody ever accomplished their goals by focusing on what was wrong. They focus on solutions, not problems." "Nothing changes if nothing changes, and you get to decide when something changes. You're the only one that can." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary That voice in your head telling you you're not good enough, your prices are too high, and nobody wants to hear what you have to say? That's your b******t box, and it's quietly running your business. Amber Fuhriman breaks down exactly what the b******t box is, how it forms from a lifetime of programming, and why the excuses you don't even realize you're making are the real thing standing between you and the results you've worked so hard for. Key Topics Covered What the "b******t box" actually is: the gremlins, excuses, and unconscious beliefs that surface every time you're about to do something greatHow your compartmentalization box and your b******t box are connected, and why swapping them is the key to authentic connection and better business relationshipsThe specific ways your inner voice sabotages sales calls, pricing conversations, and referral asks before you even open your mouthWhy hiding your life experiences to appear "perfect" destroys the know-like-trust factor that drives every business decisionWhy struggling with sales, leadership, and communication is a results problem, not a strategy problem, and what to do about it Notable Quotes "My b******t box overflowed, I had an emotional breakdown, and in the process of learning to rebuild myself, I learned how to help others do the same.""If you're too busy hiding who you truly are from the world for fear of judgment or rejection, then how is anybody going to truly know you enough to know, like, or trust you?""It's not more strategy. It's not more techniques on what good leadership looks like. It's getting real about what's going on in your head right before you choose to show up.""The difference between where you are now and where you want to be is the conversation that you're having with yourself in your head about what you're capable of." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary The words you tell yourself every morning are quietly running your results. Amber Fuhriman breaks down how your internal language shapes the way you show up, why common phrases like "work in progress" might be deflating you, and the specific language shifts business owners need to stop shrinking and start showing up as the leader they actually are. Key Topics Covered How shifting from "I have to" to "I get to" changes your energy and results in business and lifeWhy your brain builds internal pictures from the words you use and how those pictures drive your behaviorThe hidden danger of calling yourself a "work in progress" and how it keeps you playing smallHow minimizing your inner voice as "little me" strips your confidence before you even walk into the roomWhy you must define what your own words mean to you instead of assuming everyone shares your definition Notable Quotes "Nothing about that bitch is little. She is strong, and she is powerful, and she is empowered, and she is motivating and inspiring and has the ability to empower and inspire and influence others. She's not little.""No, it's the way you've chosen to allow yourself to be. The beginning of getting different results, the beginning of changing the results in your life and business, is changing the way that you talk to yourself because the words that you say matter.""The worst thing that's been done to an understanding of human behavior is a dictionary because it assumes that people define words the same way." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Tired of buying course after course and seeing zero change? Amber Fuhriman breaks down why self-led programs fail when your internal programming stays the same and shows you exactly how to evaluate coaching formats so your next investment actually produces results. You will walk away knowing the difference between self-led courses, hybrid trainings, and live coaching, plus the hard truth about why the problem was never the course. It was you. Key Topics Covered Why buying course after course without results is a programming problem, not a course problem, and how to identify the internal beliefs sabotaging your follow-throughHow to honestly assess whether a self-led course will work for you or just become another purchase you never openThe critical differences between self-led courses, online hybrid programs with live Q&A, and in-person coaching, and how to choose the right format for your discipline levelWhy external sales scripts and communication tips will never increase your business success without first addressing your internal resistance, beliefs, and energetic patternsWhy spending more on coaching that challenges you in real time can cost less than repeatedly buying cheaper courses you never act on Notable Quotes "The difference in the ones that were really valuable to me and the ones that I didn't even open wasn't the course. It was me.""I am here to beg you to stop looking for the solution that is going to change your behavior without your involvement, 'cause it's not possible.""You cannot increase business success talking about external skills alone. There has to be a conversation about behavior, your behavior, your programming, and how to shift that.""Cost is only an issue in the absence of value.""Nothing changes if nothing changes. And if you want a different rest of this year and next year than you've had already, it starts with a conversation." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Stop treating an empty calendar like a vacation day. Amber Fuhriman breaks down why business owners lose momentum the moment their schedule clears, how to shift from a reactive employee mindset to intentional self-management, and the exact weekly planning framework that turns open days into revenue-generating action. Key Topics Covered How to use the first thought that pops into your head on an empty calendar day as a diagnostic tool for your relationship with successWhy transitioning from a deadline-driven schedule to a self-driven business is the make-or-break moment for new entrepreneursThe "big rocks" weekly planning framework: how to map out networking, personal development, sales goals, and admin work before the week startsWhy constantly putting out fires in your business makes you the arsonist, not the firefighter, and how to stop chasing your own tailThe truth about time management: why you cannot manage time and what you should be managing instead Notable Quotes "That voice is the difference between making money in your business and trying to figure out why you're constantly scrambling for the next little bit of success.""The reality is when you're constantly putting out fires, you're not the firefighter, you're the arsonist.""Success doesn't happen by accident. It is an intentional choice that is made every single minute, every single day, every single week, every single month, and every single year.""Stop trying to manage time and start learning how to manage you." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Ready to stop letting your corporate past define your future? Amber Fuhriman sits down with New York Life advisor Ashli Palmer to unpack 20 years of Walmart leadership experience, the hard truth about management versus real leadership, and the self-doubt gremlins that follow high performers into entrepreneurship. You will walk away with practical strategies for building community in any business environment, overcoming the fear of picking up the phone, and embracing the messy parts of being human while growing your business. Key Topics Covered How emotional intelligence transforms your ability to lead people who don't think you belong in a leadership roleWhy building genuine community beats chasing numbers and metrics in any business environmentThe critical difference between managing people and leading people, and how to know which one you are actually doingHow to stop assuming people don't want to work with you so you can start making the calls that grow your businessWhy being "too much" is not a you problem, and how finding the right people changes everything Notable Quotes Amber Fuhriman: "People don't leave bad jobs, they leave bad managers.""If you're all put together and everything's perfect, something's wrong with you. Humans are messy. We're supposed to be." Ashli Palmer: "When you stop worrying about the numbers and what goals you're supposed to hit and you start worrying about your people, your people will drive the experience.""I need to stop making that decision for other people. If you don't want to talk to me, you won't answer." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Guest Info Ashli Palmer is a financial advisor at New York Life and spent 20 years in corporate America with Walmart, rising from overnight stocker to HR and compliance leadership roles across nine states. She specializes in helping people who think they cannot afford financial advice find judgment-free guidance, and she is known for being the farthest thing from a stuffy financial advisor. Connect with Ashli on LinkedIn, where her phone number and email are listed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Tired of buying planners you never use and wondering why you're still not where you want to be? Amber Fuhriman breaks down the real reason smart, capable business owners resist goal setting, how the "b******t gremlin" voice in your head is sabotaging your progress, and why refusing to set goals is keeping you stuck in a cycle of spinning your wheels. Key Topics Covered How to identify the specific "b******t gremlin" voice that sabotages your goal setting before you even startWhy not setting goals leaves your unconscious mind without direction and keeps you spinning your wheels in your businessHow the resistance you feel toward goal setting shows up in every other area of your life, from health to money to planningThe road trip analogy that proves you need a destination before you can choose the right path to get thereA five-month challenge to set one goal, pay attention to the resistance that pops up, and use it to uncover the behavioral patterns holding you back Notable Quotes "You're not where you want to be yet because you don't know where you want to be because you did not set goals.""If you resist the unknown in one area of your life, you will resist it in every area of your life.""That voice, the one that we've been pushing aside, the one that we haven't been listening to, is the one that has the answers that you're looking for." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Ready to stop being the person who says "I'm not the type of person who can..."? Amber Fuhriman breaks down how the identity you built for yourself is quietly running your business results, why your b******t excuses feel real but aren't, and the framework for pushing past every identity boundary standing between you and what you actually want. Key Topics Covered How to recognize when a belief you treat as a fact is actually a choice you made, and how to choose something differentWhy every business milestone you've ever hit required breaking an identity you previously held as truthThe danger of staying stuck in either pure personal development or pure business metrics without ever connecting the twoHow your brain is wired for safety, not success, and what that costs you in sales, leadership, and growthThe step-by-step identity-breaking process Amber used to go from "I'm not an athlete" to a 24-hour endurance race, and how it maps directly to building a business Notable Quotes "Your life, business, relationships, and overall success start to shift the moment that you acknowledge that even though they feel real, they're not.""The excuses that you use to define your reality are not real. And let's assume for just a minute that they might be real. What would your life look like and feel like if you assumed they weren't?""If we are to create something we've never had, we have to be willing to be someone we've never been." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Tired of being busy but not making progress? Amber Fuhriman breaks down what intentionality actually means, why you're lying to yourself about how busy you really are, and the time-auditing framework every entrepreneur needs to stop spending hours on things that don't move the needle. Key Topics Covered How to use a time-tracking audit to uncover where your hours are actually going (and why you'll want to text Amber "F you" after doing it)The difference between spent time and invested time, and how to compound your hours instead of burning through themWhy being intentional with your choices doesn't mean being rigid, and how to balance planning with flexibility to catch unexpected opportunitiesHow to define what success looks like for every meeting, networking event, and activity on your calendar before you show upWhere manifestation meets action, and why thinking positive thoughts without a plan will never build the business you say you want Notable Quotes "The person that we lie to the most is ourselves, about our capabilities, about how busy we are, about what we've accomplished in the day.""We cannot just manifest success into our life without action. But we can't work success into our life without planning, and that is where intentionality and flexibility meet.""Anybody who says they love personal development isn't doing it right. Because it's not the book and the happy feel-good movie and the songs that make us feel great inside. It is the real, honest conversations that we have with ourselves about where we are supporting our goals and where we're letting ourselves down." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Still chasing a version of success you committed to years ago? Amber Fuhriman breaks down why your definition of success needs to evolve as you do, how childhood programming secretly runs your decisions, and the mindset shift required to stop building someone else's puzzle and start living on your own terms. Key Topics Covered How the jigsaw puzzle theory explains why success feels impossible to define (and why the picture keeps changing as you grow)Why asking "What do you want to be when you grow up?" programmed you to think success has only one answer (and how to break that pattern)How to give yourself permission to let go of goals and identities that no longer fit the person you are becomingWhy success coaching matters more than business coaching when your career wins but your life feels emptyHow your upbringing, religion, and society shaped your definition of success (and how to take responsibility for reprogramming it) NOTABLE QUOTES "Success is easy. We just make it hard. We make it hard by trying to complicate what it means. We make it hard by letting other people's judgments into what we think we should create. We make it hard by refusing to acknowledge what it is that we actually want.""What good is it to be good and successful in business if you feel like you suck in life? What good is it to create massive financial success if you're never there for your family?""You're not responsible for your upbringing. You're not responsible for how you were programmed. At some point in time, though, you are responsible for shifting that programming in a way that supports the life that you say you want to have.""Stop being so committed to the vision that you thought you wanted so that you don't have the flexibility to create what you were actually meant to have."CALL TO ACTION Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Still saying yes when every instinct is screaming no? Amber Fuhriman gets real about the hidden price of people-pleasing, scarcity-driven decisions and shows you how to get clear on what you actually want so you can start saying yes to the right things and stop burning out on the wrong ones. Key Topics Covered The real cost of saying yes out of desperation, including lost time, energy, sleepless nights, and resentment toward clients you never should have taken onHow scarcity mindset and FOMO push you into bad business decisions and what to do insteadWhy resentment toward difficult clients is actually about the yes you said, not themThe "hell yes or hell no" framework for evaluating opportunities before you commitWhat opens up in your business and your life when you get crystal clear on who you want to serve and what you want to build Notable Quotes "That FOMO is real. The scarcity mindset that comes along with that of I need to say yes to this because what if something better doesn't come along, that will burn you every single time.""When you say yes to something, you say no to an infinite amount of other things. You just don't know what they are. They haven't presented themselves to you yet." (quoting Rory Vaden, TED Talk: Procrastinate On Purpose)"If it's not a hell yes, it should be a hell no.""How is that the client's fault that you said yes? It's not, but we make it about them. We get frustrated with them because it's a lot easier to be frustrated with them than it is to be frustrated with ourselves." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Stuck thinking you have a sales problem when you actually have a lead problem? Amber Fuhriman breaks down the critical difference between the two and shows business owners exactly how to diagnose what's really stalling their revenue before they waste time and money fixing the wrong thing. Key Topics Covered How to tell the difference between a lead problem and a sales problem in your businessWhy an empty calendar means you can't sell, no matter how good your pitch isHow to spot a volume problem disguised as a "friendship" instead of a sales conversationWhere to look in your networking and follow-up process to find where leads are falling through the cracksWhy throwing money at marketing or sales won't fix the wrong problem Notable Quotes "You're trying to solve a problem that doesn't actually exist yet because you can't sell to an empty room.""It's not that your sales process doesn't work. It's that you don't have enough people to talk to because you have a lead problem." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Think your five-year goal is "being happy"? Amber Fuhriman calls it out: happiness, freedom, and success are choices you can make right now, not goals, and confusing the two is the number one reason your goal setting keeps failing. Key Topics Covered Why confusing a choice with a goal is the biggest mistake people make when goal settingHow to tell the difference between a feeling (happy, successful, free) and a real, tangible goalThe goal-setting process for turning a vague want into a measurable target with a deadlineWhy setting goals to please a spouse, family, or society instead of yourself guarantees failureHow to set tangible goals around money, business growth, relationships, and travel that actually require effort and time Notable Quotes "Happy is a choice. You can do it right now, you can do it tomorrow, you can do it the next day. Happy is not a goal. Happy is a feeling.""If you're not happy now, if you don't feel like you have freedom now, if you don't feel successful now, there's no goal on the planet that's gonna make you feel those things later. So stop confusing a choice with a goal.""It's really important, first of all, that when you set a goal, that it is something that you actually want." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Still flinching when you tell a client your price? Amber Fuhriman breaks down the internal beliefs and external market realities behind every pricing decision, showing business owners exactly how to stop undercharging and start setting prices they're actually congruent with. Key Topics Covered Why pricing conversations trigger deep beliefs about worth, value, and money programmingHow to find the middle ground between what you think you're worth and what the market will bearThe difference between internal pricing blocks (self-worth, fear of judgment) and external pricing factors (market rates, competitors)How to structure pricing based on one-to-one time versus scalable, recorded, or course-based offersWhy over-explaining your price signals insecurity and how to shift your energy when quoting rates Notable Quotes "If money conversations make you uncomfortable, pricing decisions will always be difficult.""What I think doesn't matter, because if we set a price that's above what they think they're worth, they are going to sabotage every single sales conversation they have.""For a very effective coach that knows what the f**k they're doing, $2,000 a month for one-on-one coaching is peanuts.""If you don't know that number, then how the hell are you gonna set your prices?" Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary Feel like you're putting in the same effort but getting worse results? Amber Fuhriman breaks down why your close rate stalls, exposing the hidden income ceiling and unconscious sabotage keeping ambitious entrepreneurs stuck, and shows you exactly how to track the real data behind your sales instead of relying on feelings. Key Topics Covered Why tracking your close ratio (not your feelings) reveals the truth about your business growthHow to recognize an income ceiling that's unconsciously sabotaging your sales resultsWhy generic sales scripts kill your natural flow and disconnect you from clientsHow to spot the exact moment in a sales conversation where your energy shifts and deals fall apartAdjusting your follow-up strategy for today's trust recession and shrinking attention spans Notable Quotes "I didn't ask you what you felt. I asked you what the numbers say.""Your brain is not wired for success. Your brain is wired for safety.""Sales scripts don't work... a script presumes that every single person processes information the same way... and they just don't.""There is no secret to the reason that we feel like we need things." Call to Action Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.