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If you've been thinking, "If I could just fix myself, they'd come back," this episode will hit close to home. You'll hear a real story from a client who started her breakup convinced she needed to become prettier, more successful, or more "enough" to win her ex back—and how that mindset kept her stuck in the pain. What shifted everything wasn't becoming someone new for him, but learning how to reduce the desire and attachment that were keeping her emotionally hooked—and redirecting that energy into building a life that actually fit her. In this conversation, we walk through what that process looked like in real time, what changed internally before anything changed externally, and why the outcome surprised her the most. If you're still hoping your ex will come back, this episode will give you a completely different way to approach that desire—and show you what becomes possible when you do. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opens June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ Learn more about Nyree: IG: @beauty_energy_exchange Website: https://www.beautyenergyexchange.com/

If you're stuck in the loop of "I know they're not right for me… but I still want them back" or wondering if fixing yourself will somehow make your ex return, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Instead of forcing yourself to "move on" before you're ready, we break down what's actually driving that pull toward your ex—and why trying to think your way out of it hasn't worked. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything, so you can finally get out of the mental tug-of-war and start showing up differently. Not from desperation, but from a place where you're building a life that feels better than the one you had with them. If you secretly don't want to move on yet—or you're tired of feeling like you're the problem—this episode will show you a smarter way forward that puts you back in control of what happens next. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opening June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

In the past two episodes, I walked you through the 4 stages of heartbreak and the specific remedy that moves you from one stage to the next. But what does this actually look like when someone applies it in real life? In this episode, you'll hear a conversation with a Braveheart who used this exact framework after her husband unexpectedly ended their 22-year marriage. She shares what it felt like to move through the devastated stage, how identifying her stage changed the way she approached healing, and the specific shifts that helped her move forward much faster than she thought possible. If you've been wondering how to actually apply the stages and remedies to your own breakup and whether this process can really work when the relationship was long, serious, and deeply intertwined, this episode gives you a real example of what happens when you identify your stage, apply the right remedy, and get the right support along the way. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Last week's episode helped you identify which stage of heartbreak you're in, this episode will show you what to actually do about it. One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is using the wrong solution for the stage they're in, trying mindset work when their nervous system is still in survival mode, or trying to build a bigger life when they're still secretly attached to their ex. No wonder nothing sticks. In this episode, I walk you through the exact remedy that corresponds to each stage of heartbreak so you can stop guessing and start moving forward with the strategy that actually works for where you are right now. When you match the right solution to the right stage, healing speeds up dramatically and the path to being truly free from your ex becomes much clearer. If you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and understand the next step in your healing process, this episode will give you the roadmap. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If you feel like you've tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, journaling, therapy, working out, staying busy, but nothing is actually working, this episode might explain why. After helping people heal heartbreak for nearly a decade, I started noticing a pattern: most people are trying to heal using strategies meant for a completely different stage of heartbreak. In this episode, I break down the four stages of heartbreak I see over and over again in my coaching practice and how each stage has a completely different problem to solve. When you understand exactly where you are in the process, everything starts to make more sense and the path forward becomes much clearer. If you've been wondering why healing feels harder than it "should," this conversation will help you finally diagnose what's really going on and point you toward the next step.

If you've ever wondered whether your breakup means you manifested the wrong person or somehow "did manifestation wrong," this episode will challenge that belief in the best way. I'm joined by manifestation and money mindset expert Jamie Berman, and we unpack one of the most common fears people have after heartbreak: Did I create this? Did I mess it up? Jamie offers a completely different lens on manifestation, explaining why painful events like breakups don't mean you failed at manifesting and how looking at them that way can actually keep you stuck in shame and self-doubt. Instead, she shares a perspective that helps you move forward with clarity, compassion for yourself, and a deeper trust in what's still possible for your life and relationships. If you've been questioning yourself, your choices, or your ability to create the love you want after a breakup, this conversation will help you rethink what manifestation really means and why your story might be unfolding exactly the way it needs to. Learn more about Jamie Berman: Website: https://jamieberman.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/jamieberman_/ Private Podcast: The Abundance Reset: https://jamieberman.com/5-day-abundance-reset/  

If you've ever caught yourself saying "it's fine" about something that clearly isn't, this episode is going to hit. Maybe it's staying in contact with your ex because it's "temporary." Maybe it's continuing to sleep with them, keep their hoodie, answer their late-night texts, or stay in a living situation that drains you because "it won't be forever." On the surface, it feels mature. Low drama. Logical. But underneath? It's costing you energy, confidence, and momentum toward your Bigger & Better Life. In this episode, we unpack why "it's fine" is often just settling in disguise and how that mindset quietly keeps you from feeling lit up right now. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything: becoming open to micro upgrades. The small, immediate decisions that elevate your present moment instead of waiting for some future version of your life to finally feel good. If you're tired of surviving the in-between and ready to stop postponing your own joy, this conversation will challenge you, and show you what's actually possible starting today. Applications for the Bigger and Better Life Mastermind is Open: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "I shouldn't still feel this way by now" whether it's a wave of sadness years after the breakup or a gut-punch reaction to something like divorce paperwork, this episode will hit home. We're unpacking why judging your emotions is the exact thing that keeps you stuck and how that quiet internal pressure adds a second layer of suffering most people don't even realize they're creating. I share a powerful assignment I gave a client inside the GOYE program, that completely changes how you relate to your feelings and why building this emotional foundation makes everything else in healing move faster. If you're tired of fighting your reactions and wondering what's wrong with you, feeling like this healing journey is taking forever, this episode will feel like a deep exhale and give you a practical place to start this week.

If you're exhausted by the same breakup advice, wait for time to heal, go no contact, just focus on yourself, this episode is your permission slip to think differently. I'm sharing the heartbreak takes I usually keep to myself: the unconventional beliefs and strategies I've seen actually change people's lives after nearly a decade of coaching through real loss, real attachment, and real comebacks. This isn't about doing what everyone else is doing; it's about what happens when you approach heartbreak like the top 1%—with a sharper lens, more agency, and methods that challenge the status quo. If you're ready for ideas that might feel bold, a little controversial, and surprisingly freeing, you're going to want to hit play. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

If your ex's words say one thing but their actions say another and you keep replaying every text, conversation, and mixed signal trying to "figure it out", this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down why confusion isn't a sign of love or depth, it's a defense against a harder emotion your brain doesn't want to feel yet and how it quietly drains your agency, momentum, and self-trust. If you're tired of overanalyzing your ex instead of moving your life forward and you want clarity you can actually act on, this episode will help you drop the confusion and take your power back. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/

If you're trying again with your ex and suddenly your friends and family are questioning your judgment, warning you not to repeat the past, or flat-out refusing to support the relationship, this episode will help you breathe again. We're talking about what to do when the relationship feels right to you this time but the people closest to you are skeptical, protective, or openly disapproving. I break down a clear three-step process to help you stay grounded in your decision, stop over-explaining or defending yourself, and shift the dynamic so others either get on board or fade into the background without blowing up your relationships.  Get your question answered on the podcast! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/podcastquestion/  The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex  The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/ 

Valentine's Week doesn't have to be something you do alone. Feb 9-13, I'm opening The Breakup Hotline. 5 days of live support and real-time coaching to help you create clarity and closure in your breakup so you can feel confident in a better future. Free to attend. The line opens Monday, February 9th. Register here and submit for coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/hotline/ 

Dorothy sits down with Kirstin Sarfde, expert binge eating coach and host of How to Stop Binge Eating, to talk about why breakups so often trigger binge eating and what actually helps when willpower, distraction, or "just stop" advice doesn't work. We break down how heartbreak dysregulates your nervous system, why food becomes the fastest coping mechanism in moments of emotional overwhelm, and the specific shifts that help you interrupt the binge–shame cycle without turning food into another thing you're fighting. This conversation is practical, grounded, and deeply compassionate, especially if you're scared something is "wrong" with you because you can't stop binge eating after your breakup. Kirstin shares tools you can start using immediately to feel more in control, less ashamed, and more supported as you heal. Find Kirstin Sarfde Here: Website: https://coachkir.com/  Podcast: https://coachkir.com/mypodcast/  Instagram: @stopbingeeatingcoach

If you're in the middle of a divorce and quietly afraid that standing up for yourself will turn you into someone angry, bitter, or unrecognizable, this episode is for you. We're unpacking the very real fear of shrinking to keep the peace or swinging to the other extreme just to feel protected and why neither is actually power. I walk you through a real client scenario and the exact four-step framework we used to help her stay grounded, clear, and self-advocating throughout the divorce process without relying on anger as fuel. This episode is a practical guide to turning your power on, calmly, intentionally, and sustainably so you can move through divorce without losing yourself in the process. Check out our breakup toolkit (a breakup first aid kit that not only helps you get over your ex but also takes you beyond your breakup): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/ 

If you're spiraling about dating after your breakup, convinced there's no one out there for you, replaying every fight you had, and quietly wondering if the things your ex disliked about you mean you're asking for too much, this episode is for you. We're unpacking why the exact issue you used to argue about in your last relationship might not be a flaw at all, but a signal of misalignment, and why that same trait could become the foundation of real connection in your next relationship. You'll learn how incompatibility gets mistaken for unworthiness, why your brain keeps turning past arguments into evidence against your future, and how to stop shrinking yourself to feel chosen. This episode will help you see your desires clearly again. Not as liabilities, but as clues and restore hope that the right relationship won't require you to change who you are, only to be more of it. Check out our free breakup clinic (go beyond your breakup to build your bigger and better life): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/