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Are you open enough? Are you authentic with your words and feelings? Do you offer what you need to offer to make your priorities happen?

Humans are at their best when they experience a wide range of emotions in life. O'erweening positivity can deny the validity of many not-so-positive emotions and minimize the human experience.

Some people seem to think that friendship is an action you perform to get sex out of someone.

If we have different best ways of learning, perhaps we have different best ways of receiving information from others that are similar.

I'm not sure I have ever really been as deep in the trenches of the men versus women war as I was on this day.

Trying to find that vanilla love (which is a multi-billion dollar industry) and on top of that, adding in the extra desires (needs) of kink and it's 31 (31,000?) flavors can be pretty daunting.

In January of 2016, I wrote about recovering from trauma, and I sometimes go back to that writing that I did for someone else to help them—to help myself.

This clip made it all so clear to me: the 3 stages of working through trauma.

What you want in this moment from this conversation will make a HUGE difference in how and what you communicate.

YOUR "No" is allowed to mean anything you want it to. "Banana" can mean no. Or yes. Or "remember that time that we were at the zoo, and that money made a rude gesture with it's banana?"

A lot of dating advice says something like, "Be realistic in your expectations," and they are right. Not RIGHT, but right.

"Do you think consent equates to no harm?" Obviously not. People say there are no stupid questions. But there are. This is one of them.