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You know what can be downright hard? Feeling your “negative” emotions. It can be tempting to try to push them away or skip feeling them. After all, they can feel uncomfortable, overwhelming, and even scary.  But doing so only creates more issues and gives those feelings extra staying power.  They need to be felt if you’re truly going to move on from them. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why you can’t skip feeling most emotions, The true physiological length of an emotion and why they often last longer,Why it’s so important to feel what you feel,The power of renaming a feeling and how that helped Claire become a professional ballet dancer,What to do when you have the urge to push away your feelings,Techniques to let go of emotions once you’re ready,And more! Get your free copy of the I-hate-being-an-empath-antidote here! Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

Have you ever told yourself a story in your head that made you feel absolutely terrible? It might have gone something like “I’m just terrible at this,” or “I’m so ugly,” or “I can’t do this.” Those words probably felt pretty crappy. So then, you might have flipped it to the opposite, with something such as “I’m amazing at this,” or “I’m gorgeous,” or “I can do this.” And again, it might have felt kinda icky… what’s up with that?! The truth is when it comes to what you tell yourself, black and white is rarely the answer. That’s why in the episode we’re talking about how shifting to grey is the way to go! In it, you’ll hear: Why “grey” thinking is often the way to go,The reason that black and white thinking rarely feels good,Why positivity can feel fake,The importance of remembering that grey lets in the light too,How to flip the stories in your head so you can feel better, And more! Get your free copy of the I-hate-being-an-empath-antidote here! Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

We’re living in an empathy crisis.  It doesn’t take much to see it. Just turn on the news, open Facebook, or even just people-watch the next time you’re out and about. Thankfully, more and more of us are realizing that it’s time for a change…  It’s time for an empathy revolution! (And as sensitivities, we’re ready).  At the front of the revolution is Rob Volpe, CEO and Chief Catalyst at Ignite 360 and author of Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time. What does an empathy revolution look like and how can you help? That’s what Rob is here for! In this episode you’ll hear about: The empathy crisis we’re living in,The airport realization that spurred him to write his book,His experiences with sensitivity,The promising data that shows that we’re ready for more connection and empathy than we were pre-pandemic,Why sensitives are needed (and ready) to help solve the empathy crisis,The power of bringing empathy into a conversation,And much, much more! Check out his website: https://www.ignite-360.com/ Connect with him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathy_activist/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rmvolpe Twitter: https://twitter.com/rmvolpe Buy his book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-More-About-That-Conversation/dp/1774580896 Buy his book at Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/tell-me-more-about-that-rob-volpe/1139304331 Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

We all have expectations that are placed on us, whether it’s from loved ones (such as parents, a partner, friend group)  at work, or even just from society. People come to expect certain things from us and the time can come when those patterns and expectations aren’t helpful or are even downright hurtful or toxic. And then it’s time to stop following the rules and break those patterns. This can be tough for us as sensitives since many of us can become people-pleasers in the attempt of keeping the peace around us.  But it’s not helpful or kind.  So… what happens when you don’t follow those rules? What do you do? That’s what this episode is all about! In it, you’ll hear: Ways to handle the discomfort of breaking patterns,Why it’s not your job to fix it so others feel okay,How to remain focused on why you’re choosing a different response,The reason expectations aren’t always fair,How to safely explain to others why you’re doing what you’re doing,Why you can be the adult in the room, And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

You know what can be really hard sometimes? Communicating when you’re overwhelmed and feeling too much.  But you know what has to happen anyway? Communicating when you’re overwhelmed and feeling too much.  It’s just a reality of life. Perhaps you’re having a difficult conversation that is sending you down the road of emotional overload. Or maybe you’re overwhelmed with the amount that’s on your plate and you need to communicate that to a loved one.  No matter the reason, it’s important that you’ve got tools ready and waiting for you in your back pocket for the next time you’re feeling way too much but still have to communicate. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why you can’t assume that others are picking up on your overwhelm,The importance of remembering why you care about the person you’re communicating with,How to figure out and then communicate your needs,Red flags to be aware of,How your thoughts can get in the way, A bonus tip for when you really need to get the right words out,And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

Ready to hear something you might not like to hear? You can’t know exactly what someone else is thinking or feeling. *gasp* As sensitives, we’re pretty good at reading other people. Many of us absorb others’ feelings and feel them as our own. And sometimes this can make us feel like we know others’ feelings to a tee. The reality? We probably can’t.  And you know what? It might not actually be very fair on them. Or us. Listen to this episode to hear: Why we can’t truly know what someone else is feeling,The reasons that it may not be very not fair,What you can do instead,Why thinking you know someone else’s feelings might actually be taking an opportunity for deeper connection away from both of you,Why we’re like onions and avocados (don’t worry, this will make sense later),And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

Have you ever experienced a time where it felt like you just didn’t have the connection you wanted in your life?  Maybe it felt like your partner, family member, or loved one just wasn’t there for you. Maybe you wanted something more that you just weren’t getting. Or maybe you were looking for someone to share your life with. This is totally normal. And most likely, as a human you’ve experienced it at least a few times.  Luckily, there’s a simple change you can start making today that will empower you during those times, while also creating more love in your life. What is it? Well, it all starts with changing your focus. In this episode you’ll hear: How changing your focus brings the feelings you want into your life,The reason that giving what you wish to receive changes everything,Why this has nothing to do with manipulation,How Cheryl learned this at a time when she felt unappreciated, Why this applies to so much more than just your relationships,And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

Being sensitive (like anything) comes with its liabilities and its strengths. And while there are many ways and techniques that you can use to help you with your sensitivity, one of the simplest (and also hardest for some), is simply daring to make a choice. What kind of choice, you be asking? A choice about how your feel about your sensitivity.  Join us in the episode as we talk about: Why daring to make that choice is the sensitivity key we all need,How to figure out if you’re telling yourself stories about your sensitivity that don’t serve you,How to choose to love and accept your sensitivity, with all the different aspects it brings,And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

Have you ever had one of those times where you’re going about your day feeling like you’re owning who you are and are there to be met by the world with enthusiasm?  I hope you have, because goodness, does it feel good.  You feel empowered. You feel good. You feel like your best self.  Believe it or not, what you wear can directly influence that experience. Because the truth is, when you’re wearing the clothes that represent who you are, make you feel good, and bring you joy, you’re going to show up differently in the world.  Why? Because you feel DIFFERENT. You feel like YOU.  And that’s exactly what Jordan Stolch does. Through her virtual styling business and online course, she helps women (including us!) discover their own style while also changing their mindsets so they can become more confident in themselves. And let’s be real… who doesn’t want that? In this episode you’ll hear: How Jordan went from styling celebrities to helping everyday women find confidence through mindset and style,Her experience with being sensitive and growing up in a private ballet boarding school,Why mindset is the first step to great style,How she’s learned to accept who she is and what she needs to feel her best, Why it can feel like there’s a script in life that we didn’t get, The power intuition has when it comes to style,And so much more!Check out Jordan’s website HERE at mikadopersonalstyling.com Or check out her Instagram HERE Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

The holidays are over. The new year has moved in. And now you might be left feeling the effects of it all. (The after-holiday decompression is real, y’all!) Whether it was in person or over Zoom, it’s possible that you had some time with family and/or friends. And while that can be wonderful, a lot of old stories, triggers, and traumas can easily resurface. So if you’re feeling the aftermath of those very things… this episode is for you!  In it you’ll hear: 4 steps you can take to deal with the exhaustion, triggers, stress, and old stories that showed up over the holidays, How to release those post-holiday feels,How to reframe past stories into new stories that serve you better,Why it’s easier to slip back into old patterns during the holidays,And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

2021 is drawing to a close. And that can come with a lot of different feelings.  This past year may not have, in any way, shape, or form, gone how you expected or hoped (or maybe it did!). Or perhaps, it slipped by and you know it was filled with some amazing moments, as well as some not-so-great times. Regardless of how this past year went, now is the time to look back so you can celebrate all that you’re proud of and grateful for, process the challenges, setbacks, and growth that came, all while giving yourself grace for anything that didn’t go how you had hoped… we are still living in a global pandemic after all. When you give yourself a chance to look back, you give yourself an opportunity to release and grow from all that’s happened in the past 365 days so that you can move into the next year ready to focus on what’s most important to you and show up in the way that you truly want to, allowing 2022 to be a year filled with joy, ease, care, love, and growth. And let’s be real here, who doesn’t want that? In this episode you’ll hear: 3 questions to help you celebrate and release 2021,The magic of journaling and why we love it so frickin’ much,4 questions to head into 2022 with excitement and clarity,Why you deserve to give yourself all the love and compassion as you look back on the past year,And much more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)

Do you ever feel like you just don’t belong? That no matter what, you just don’t quite fit in?  As if everyone else just… belongs while you’re on the outskirts looking in? Whether you’re somewhere where you actually don’t fit in or it’s simply a feeling you can’t quite shake, this can come up a lot for empaths and HSPs.  We feel this way too, which is why we hit record and started talking about this very thing. And while there is no easy fix, we’re sharing a different perspective that might just help you change the story you tell yourself about not fitting in! In this episode you’ll hear: Why empaths and HSPs often feel like the odd duck out,What your boundaries can have to do with it,A recent experience Cheryl had that made her feel like she didn’t belong, How you can change your story about not fitting in,And more!Support the show (https://buymeacoffee.com/empathup)