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Send us Fan Mail You leave lunch with a few friends, and it hits you on the drive home. Not one person asked how you’re doing. You listened to everybody, you laughed in the right places, and you walk away thinking they don’t really know you. Nobody took the time to ask. Join Anna and Tim as they get honest about friendships that start to feel one-sided, the ones where you’re always the one hosting and the one who texts first. Anna admits something she didn’t like about herself. Somewhere in her late 30s and 40s, she started keeping score. Tim pushes back on what actually makes a friendship mutual, and the two of them don’t land in the same place. They get into the difference between a friend in a hard season and a friend who’s just like this, the secret test so many of us run on our friends without saying a word, and why a friendship breakup between women can cut deeper than anyone expects. This Episode Covers: Always being the one who hosts and makes the plans.Keeping score, and what Anna noticed in herself when she started.What makes a friendship feel mutual, and where Anna and Tim see it differently.Is this a hard season or an ongoing pattern?The friend who turns your story into a story about them.The secret test we run on friends who have no idea they’re in it.Why guys handle friendship friction so differently.Fading versus ghosting, and when a close friend deserves an explanation.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail You get in the car after lunch with a friend and realize they never asked you a single question. Not one. You know about their job, their kids, their mother-in-law, all of it. By the time you walk in your front door, you’re not that interested in doing lunch again anytime soon. And you never said anything. Join Anna and Tim as they pick back up on the relationship questions Anna has been asked for decades, this time digging into resentment and what to do with it before it starts coming out in your tone and your texts. Anna gets honest about a friendship that turned into a monologue for more than a year, and Tim gets called out, in front of everybody, for holding things in because he’s worried about how the other person will feel. From the lunchroom to the leadership seat, it’s a real look at the hard conversations most of us keep putting off. This Episode Covers: Why “it’s not that big of a deal” keeps you quiet until it is one.The mind reading that kicks in when you decide they should already know.What happens when you finally speak up after a year, and they get mad back.Saying “don’t worry about it” when you mean the exact opposite.How worrying about the other person’s feelings can hold you back.The difference between never speaking up and speaking up and getting dismissed.What Anna writes down before walking into a hard conversation.How leaders teach people whether it’s safe to bring them bad news.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail The yes that should have been a no. The little dig at dinner that nobody called out, and the whole drive home spent yelling at them in your head. The text you're dying to send, or the fight that never actually got finished. These are the relationship questions Anna hears over and over, from clients in her office and from the people closest to her. Join Anna and Tim for part one of their toughest relationship questions answered, where they get into both sides of it: what happens when you can't say what you mean, and what happens when you say way too much. They get honest about which one of them does which in their own marriage. Tim opens up about the yes that left him never wanting to teach spin again. Anna talks about what taking the high road actually looks like when you're ready to go off on someone. They wrap it up with a role-play that lands a little close to home. This Episode Covers: Why did I say yes to that, and the people-pleasing behind the automatic yes.Bringing up a comment that hurt without it turning into a fight.Did you set a boundary, or were you hoping they'd notice one you never said out loud.What a Nordstrom Rack credit card has to do with saying no.Saying too much vs. not saying enough, and who in their marriage does which.What's happening in your brain when you want to go off on someone or shut down.The text you write and the text you send.Holding your ground when someone says you're making a big deal out of nothing.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail A lot of dads look at the mom and daughter bond and quietly decide they're not really needed. They show up a little less, let the weekends slide, and call it giving her space. Michael Steven went the other direction and kept showing up, even on the days when mom and daughter ganged up on him. Join Anna as she sits down with Michael, a coach for single girl dads who has had 50/50 custody of his daughter for 15 years. They get into the energy shift that happens when a kid moves between two homes, the advice from Michael's own dad that sounded simple and turned out to be really hard, and why so many good dads end up getting run over. He's honest about the moments he didn't handle well in his late 20s, what changed when he stopped reacting, and the compliment from his now 16-year-old daughter that stopped him in his tracks. This Episode Covers: The energy shift when a daughter comes home from her mom's house.Why "give her 20 minutes" is so much harder than it sounds.Finding an outlet that actually regulates your energy.Taking accountability for who you created a child with.Why most of the dads Michael works with are too nice.Getting pulled in to play part-time referee between mom and daughter.What a real repair sounds like after you've said the wrong thing about her mom.What a daughter learns from watching how her dad handles people.Connect with Michael Steven: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelstevenmindset YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@michaelstevenmindset Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michaelstevenmindset TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@michaelstevenmindset  Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail The dishwasher is right next to the sink. Right there. And the dish still ends up in the sink, and before long Anna is barking orders about the dishes and the stuff piled on the stairs, Tim swears he has never once left a dish in there (there was that one time), and everyone in the house has somehow ended up crew on her pirate ship. Join Anna and Tim as they get honest about what raising five kids in a blended family taught them about control, and how little of it they actually had. The kid with a real arm who couldn't have cared less. The one who walked away from football and wrestling in the same year. Career and faith decisions that had their heads exploding. Years of Anna being a character in a story told in a room she would never be in. And the question she still asks herself, and her clients, when she feels her grip tightening. She still wants the dishes in the dishwasher, though. This Episode Covers: What's really going on when a dish in the sink turns into a whole thing.Expectations you're holding that nobody else in the house knows about.Why you can be right about your kid's potential and still have no say in it."Why did you let me quit?" and the things adult kids remember differently.How kids can tell a real boundary from anxiety wearing a boundary costume.Being the stepmom in a story you'll never get to correct.Staying close enough to influence someone you didn't get to design.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail You know better. You knew you shouldn't have raised your voice, shouldn't have gotten defensive, shouldn't have interrupted, and you did it anyway. Then it's over, and there's no resolve, just the wreckage of a conversation that went sideways fast. Join Anna and Tim as they get into why knowing your communication skills and actually having access to them in the moment are two completely different things. They talk about what's really happening in your body before a hard conversation goes off the rails, the signals most people ignore until it's too late, and why telling someone to calm down might be the worst thing you can do. Tim pushes back with his own real-time examples from their marriage, and Anna walks through what it takes to catch yourself before the fight turns into a fight to win. This Episode Covers: Why knowing your communication skills and having access to them when you're activated are two completely different things.The physical signals that show up right before you say something you can't take back.The four words Anna repeats to herself before every hard conversation.Why "calm down" and "relax" are the two words you should never say to someone who's upset.What a real break looks like versus a door slam and a "screw you, I'm done".How your nervous system can react to the past while you're arguing about something totally different.The question Anna asks herself that changes the whole direction of a hard conversation.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail Confidence is a feeling. Competence is evidence. And when the evidence changes, the feelings don't always catch up. Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what Anna's calling the imposter phenomenon, not syndrome, and why it doesn't fade with success; it gets louder. They talk about the corrupt accounting system that discounts every win and magnifies every mistake, what happens when your identity lags behind a new role, and why some high achievers have been running on anxiety without realizing it's the only thing keeping them going. Tim pushes back with a football analogy Anna isn't fully buying, and they land on the five questions worth asking yourself the next time the doubt creeps back in. This Episode Covers: Learning to separate what actually happened from the story you add to it within seconds.Using internal family systems to notice which part of you is driving the reaction, not the whole self.Realizing the real question under most fights is: are you there for me? Can I reach you?Naming the cycle as the actual problem instead of each other: the pattern where one pursues, and the other withdraws.Choosing to be effective over being right, even when you have the receipts to prove you're correct.Noticing the small daily bids for connection instead of waiting for the big romantic gestures.Making the repair instead of chasing perfect communication.Recognizing that a partner cannot be responsible for managing your entire inner world.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail You can know every framework for connection and communication and still lose it the second your partner looks at their phone instead of you. Three seconds later, your brain has already built a whole story about what that means. Join Anna and Tim as they break down five things marriage has actually taught them about emotional intelligence, the kind you only learn by living it, not by studying it. They get into the difference between a feeling and the story you build around it, the real question hiding underneath most arguments, and why choosing to be right can quietly cost you the thing you actually wanted. This Episode Covers: Learning to separate what actually happened from the story you add to it within seconds.Using internal family systems to notice which part of you is driving the reaction, not the whole self.Realizing the real question under most fights is: are you there for me? Can I reach you?Naming the cycle as the actual problem instead of each other: the pattern where one pursues and the other withdraws.Choosing to be effective over being right, even when you have the receipts to prove you're correct.Noticing the small daily bids for connection instead of waiting for the big romantic gestures.Making the repair instead of chasing perfect communication.Recognizing that a partner cannot be responsible for managing your entire inner world.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail There's a version of new motherhood nobody posts about. The one where the thoughts get darker than "I'm tired," and a mom goes quiet instead of saying them out loud, because she's scared of what people will think, or scared her kid will be taken away. Join Anna for this conversation, where therapist Kristin Mize breaks down what actually separates the baby blues from postpartum depression, anxiety, and psychosis, and why so many women never get the language to name what they're feeling in time. Kristin talks through the fear that keeps women silent, the toll of judging your own thoughts on top of already struggling, and why she tells every client walking through her door that there's zero judgment in the room. It's not a lecture on symptoms. It's a real look at why women stay quiet, and what happens when they finally don't. This Episode Covers: The real difference between postpartum blues, depression, anxiety, and psychosis.Why so many women are afraid to say what they're actually thinking or feeling.The line "if you're not speaking it, you're storing it".Why postpartum isn't capped at six weeks and can stretch well past a year.How judging your own thoughts on top of already struggling buries you deeper.Why a NICU stay or birth trauma raises the risk of a postpartum mood disorder.What it looks like for high-achieving, type A moms when motherhood takes away control.Mentioned in this episode: Postpartum Support International - https://postpartum.net/ Connect with Kristin Mize: Website - https://www.kristinmize.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/calmmomcollective/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/calmmomcollective  Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail You've already had this argument. In the shower, in the car, at 2 am when you can't sleep. You've explained your side perfectly, anticipated every comeback, and won every round. The only problem is the other person was never actually in the room. Join Anna and Tim as they talk about why most people don't avoid hard conversations because of the actual issue. It's because you can't control what happens once you say it out loud. They get into the slow retreat that happens instead: the distance, the sarcasm, the twelve smaller arguments instead of the one real one, and what it actually takes to finally have the conversation you've been avoiding. This Episode Covers: Why the argument you've perfected in your head never goes the way you planned it.The moment avoidance stops being peacekeeping and starts being resentment.What happens in a relationship when one person pushes, and the other shuts down.Why waiting six months to say something changes nothing except how it lands.The difference between wanting someone to understand you and needing them to.What it actually means to own your part without taking the blame for everything.The line between someone needing a minute and someone punishing you for talking.Why confidence has nothing to do with controlling how the other person reacts.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail There's a gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it, and most people live in that gap far longer than they need to. Jayne Havens doesn't. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, she says her brain just doesn't do the "should I, shouldn't I" loop, she treats her business like a video game she's playing against herself, one level beaten so she can get to the next one. The strategy part was never really the hard part for her. The hard part is making the call in the first place. Join Anna as she talks with Jayne, a sleep consultant who built a business, then built a second business teaching other people how to become sleep consultants, about what actually separates people who follow through from people who stay stuck. It's not a better plan or more information. It's deciding, outsourcing what isn't your strength, and trusting yourself enough to keep going before you have it all figured out. This Episode Covers: The advice from her father that made spending money on her business feel easy instead of scary.Why she still gets burnt out carrying the weight of her clients' anxiety, even when she loves the work.The boundaries she puts in place so a trip abroad doesn't put her business at risk.Why she believes hiring people who don't show up the way you would can quietly destroy a business.The moment she felt embarrassed to tell her own family that she wanted more.Her take on the worst advice you can follow: someone else's plan for your life.What she wishes more people understood about why entrepreneurs actually do this work.Connect with Jayne: Website - https://thesnoozefest.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/snoozefestbyjaynehavens Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/SnoozeFestbyJayneHavens/  Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail Twenty feet from the nearest buoy, chop so bad she couldn't see the kayak, panic creeping in fast. That's where Anna found herself mid-swim at a national championship race, the one time in her life she got genuinely scared out there. She got on her back, caught her breath, and kept going. It's not the kind of moment that shows up on a podium. Join Anna and Tim as they trace 20+ years of racing back to what it actually built in them: not medals, not finish times, but the ability to keep moving when the plan falls apart. They get into why feelings are terrible predictors of performance, the real difference between discomfort and danger, and the voice that shows up in your head telling you to slow down right when it matters most. This Episode Covers: Why Anna wasn't born disciplined, and how it took her until 27 to find it.The moment in Lake Erie when the chop got so bad she couldn't see the kayak, and what she did to keep from panicking.Why feelings are terrible predictors of whether a workout or a race is actually going to go well.The real difference between being uncomfortable and being in danger, and why most of us confuse the two.What it sounds like when your brain starts negotiating halfway through something hard.Why even elite athletes deal with self-doubt, and what actually separates them from everyone else.What outlasted every medal Anna ever won.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail It takes about fifteen seconds for a TikTok video to convince you that your mother is a narcissist, your ex is a borderline, or you finally have the ADHD diagnosis you always suspected. Join Anna and Tim as they break down what gets lost when a real clinical process gets compressed into a fifteen-second hook. Anna draws on thirty years as a therapist and a coach, including two client stories where a label someone brought in from the internet turned out to be nowhere close to the full picture. She digs into the research behind why so much popular mental health content on social media gets it wrong, and makes the case that the problem was never the information itself; it's what happens when nobody checks whether it actually fits you. This Episode Covers: Why a shortage of licensed mental health providers helped create the wellness influencer boom in the first place.The actual numbers behind how much popular ADHD and autism content on TikTok gets wrong.Why people are five to eleven times more likely to inaccurately self-diagnose than to get it right from content like this.Two real client stories, one convinced his wife was a narcissist, another told by another therapist that a partner was a borderline.What actually separates a working diagnosis from a label picked up in under a minute.Why Anna says the friction in real therapy is the system protecting you, not failing you.The difference between someone moving through a narcissistic season and someone with an actual personality disorder.Mentioned in this episode: Quiet the Noise group coaching cohort: https://www.annamarcolin.com/coaching-packages/p/quiet-the-noise Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail It's gotten almost impossible to disagree with someone anymore without it turning into a referendum on who they are. Anna's been noticing it everywhere: in politics, in parenting, in that strange shift where a difference of opinion starts to feel like a personal attack. Somewhere along the way, people stopped just having opinions and started becoming their opinions. Now criticism doesn't register as information, it registers as danger. Join Anna and Tim as they break down why this is happening, from the neuroscience of social rejection to what Anna calls identity fusion, the blurred line between what you believe and who you are. They talk about what changes when you stop confusing what you do with who you are, and the four things emotionally intelligent people learn to keep apart: who they are, what they think, what they feel, and what they do. This Episode Covers: Why politics, wellness, motherhood, and even anxiety have quietly become identities instead of just parts of life.Why criticism can feel like it's about who you are, not just what you did.What elite athletes know about separating a bad performance from their worth.Why insight alone rarely changes behavior, even when you understand exactly why you do something.The difference between "I'm anxious" and "I have anxiety," and why it matters.Tim's real-time realization that this conversation describes someone he knows.Why rest, boundaries, and being wrong can start to feel dangerous when they clash with your identity.The one question Anna wants you asking before you say "that's just who I am".Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com

Send us Fan Mail For years, Anna thought her ability to control everything was a strength. Organized. Reliable. Prepared. Turns out it was anxiety, dressed up as competence, and it took a rug-pulling moment in her own life to show her the difference. Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what control is actually costing you, your presence, your intimacy with the people you love, your creativity, your ability to bounce back when things don't go the way you planned. They talk about the difference between influencing a situation and controlling it, why chasing certainty is not the same thing as chasing excellence, and the coaching question Anna asks her clients the moment they catch themselves gripping too tight. What am I actually afraid would happen if I let this go? This isn't about eliminating uncertainty from your life. It's about becoming someone who can be okay without it. This Episode Covers: Why being organized, reliable, and always prepared can actually be anxiety in disguise.How control turns into emotional insurance, and why that insurance quietly becomes a prison.The real difference between pursuing excellence and pursuing certainty.What the research on intolerance of uncertainty actually says about who struggles with chronic anxiety.The coaching question to ask yourself before you white-knuckle your way through something hard.Why influence and control are not the same thing, and why that distinction matters.Anna's five power moves for loosening your grip, including trusting yourself more than your plan.The family of origin patterns that make feeling controlled hit so personally.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth. Mad love! Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coaching The podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYqu Don’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform! CONNECT WITH ANNA: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolin Email [email protected] Website https://www.annamarcolin.com