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Learn about the Regulated & Secure Program here: https://regulatedandsecure.com/case-study-invite/ Send me an email: [email protected] I’ve talked about anxiety and depression before, but in this episode, I’m taking you back to what it actually looked like for me. There was a time when anxiety controlled almost every part of my life. I struggled to talk to strangers, avoided situations that made me uncomfortable, lived constantly in my own head, and genuinely wondered if this was just who I was going to be forever. It wasn’t. In this episode, I’m sharing my journey from that version of me to the person I am today—the things I had to face, what actually helped me change, and how I learned that healing wasn’t about never feeling anxious again. It was about learning how to stop letting anxiety run my life. If you’re in a season where you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like you should be further along by now, I hope my story reminds you that where you are right now doesn’t have to be where you stay. A lot can change when you stop believing that the way you’ve always been is the way you’ll always be.

In today's episode, I go back to a conversation I had with Thomas Waterman, back in 2022. I had the opportunity to sit down with Thomas and have a beautiful conversation about his story of leadership and, ultimately, his story of finding himself. This was one of my favorite conversations, and the universe brought it back around full circle. Follow Thomas on Social: IG: @thomasishuman Want to apply to be coached on the podcast? Go here: https://forms.gle/fYANDj6t9CtaS4518 Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Book a Discovery Session with Jaime: https://calendly.com/jaimecoaches/60-minute-discovery-session Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaimecoaches Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

If you’ve been feeling more anxious, on edge, exhausted, or emotionally flooded lately… you’re not imagining it. Between nonstop headlines, political tension, global uncertainty, and the constant stream of information hitting our nervous systems, many of us are living in a low-grade stress response without even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about what’s really happening in your body when the world feels chaotic — and how to come back to calm without disconnecting or shutting down. You’ll learn simple, practical ways to regulate your nervous system, reduce overwhelm, and stay grounded even when everything around you feels loud. We explore: Why constant news and uncertainty can dysregulate your nervous system The difference between caring and absorbing collective stress How chronic stress shows up physically and emotionally Simple tools to calm your body in real time How to create boundaries around information without avoiding reality Ways to reconnect with safety, agency, and inner steadiness This conversation blends neuroscience, emotional awareness, and practical tools to help you stay rooted in yourself — even in uncertain times. Because staying calm isn’t about ignoring what’s happening. It’s about creating enough internal stability to respond with clarity instead of fear. Take a breath, press play, and let’s come back to center together. Want to apply to be coached on the podcast? Go here: https://forms.gle/fYANDj6t9CtaS4518 Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Book a Discovery Session with Jaime: https://calendly.com/jaimecoaches/60-minute-discovery-session Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaimecoaches Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

Trying to manifest love but stuck in the same relationship patterns? In this episode, I share three neuroscience-based tips to help you manifest love without the woo — including how your Reticular Activating System filters partners, why you should manifest an experience instead of a person, and how aligned action rewires attraction. Want to join us for The Manifest Your Soulmate Mastermind? Learn More Here: https://jaimecoaches.com/manifest Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Book a Discovery Session with Jaime: https://calendly.com/jaimecoaches/60-minute-discovery-session Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaimecoaches Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

In this episode, I have a real, unfiltered conversation with my friend Ari during an impromptu coaching session that started over chili and turned into a powerful discussion about dating anxiety, subconscious patterns, and relationship triggers. Ari opens up about the fear and uncertainty she’s experiencing in her current dating life, and I walk her through simple, practical mindset tools to help interrupt old thought patterns, regulate her nervous system, and shift out of self-sabotage. If you’re navigating dating anxiety, overthinking, or repeating relationship patterns, this episode offers grounded coaching, subconscious reprogramming techniques, and actionable steps to help you manifest the relationship you actually want—rather than the one you’re unconsciously recreating. Want to join us for The Manifest Your Soulmate Mastermind? Learn More Here!: https://jaimecoaches.com/manifest Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Book a Discovery Session with Jaime: https://calendly.com/jaimecoaches/60-minute-discovery-session Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaimecoaches Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

This is a short and random one y'all... just some thoughts that came up for me this week that I decided to share. It might sound woo woo to some, but try to hear the deeper meaning of my words. Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

We love to call it chemistry.Passion.A “deep connection.” But sometimes what we’re really feeling is familiar chaos. In this episode, we unpack why emotionally intense, hot-and-cold dynamics can feel so magnetic — and why calm, steady connection can feel unfamiliar or even boring at first. We talk about how the nervous system gets conditioned to equate unpredictability with love, how culture romanticizes emotional rollercoasters, and what actually has to heal before healthy relationships become possible. This isn’t about blaming yourself or pathologizing attraction. It’s about understanding the pattern underneath the pattern — and learning how to stop confusing dysregulation with intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep choosing the same dynamic in a different body, this conversation will land. And if this topic hits close to home and you’re interested in working with me to untangle old patterns, regulate your nervous system, and build safer, more grounded connections, send me a message. Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

In this episode, we talk about how to stay calm and grounded when the world feels loud, polarized, and emotionally charged — without numbing out or pretending nothing is happening. I explore why passion often turns into nervous system overload, how outrage is amplified and monetized, and what it actually means to care without burning yourself out. This isn’t about disengaging or staying neutral. It’s about learning how to regulate your body so you can stay present, discerning, and human while facing hard truths. If you’ve felt pulled between staying informed and protecting your peace, this conversation offers a steadier way to hold both. Learn more about coaching → https://jaimecoaches.com Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

This episode reintroduces The Stories We Tell as a space for honest, awake conversation — about personal growth and the world we’re living in today. I explore how the narratives we carry aren’t just things we say out loud later, but quiet frameworks shaping our reactions, relationships, and sense of what’s possible. Feeling uncomfortable on purpose becomes an act of presence: choosing to notice hard truths with accountability, while still meeting yourself with self-love, grace, and acceptance. It’s not about hot takes or polished positivity — it’s about staying with what is, understanding how your nervous system influences the story, and learning to grow without punishment. If you’ve ever felt stuck between compassion and responsibility, this episode offers a way to hold both — and see how life begins to shift when you stop looking away.

Tired of starting over? In this episode, I’m breaking down what really keeps people stuck—and how The Momentum Method, my new 8-week coaching program, can help you build habits that actually stick. Learn more + join here → https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time! In this episode, I talk with Zara Barrie, a published author, writer, and podcaster who has been pouring her heart out on the internet for over a decade. She is the former Senior Writer for Elite Daily and former Executive Editor of GO Magazine, the nation’s preeminent lesbian print, and digital publication. In 2020 she published her first book to much critical acclaim Girl, Stop Passing Out In Your Makeup: The Bad Girl’s Guide To Getting Your Sh*t Together. Follow Zara on Social: TikTok: @ZaraBarrie IG:  @ZaraBarrie FB: https://www.facebook.com/zarabarriewords Twitter: https://twitter.com/FactoryGrrrl YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9VYgUD9lUnVI5USCY2mdcA Website: https://www.zarabarrie.com/ Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/ Interested in our Coaching Program? Go here: https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time! In this episode, I speak with actress Ayesha Harris about her career, life, manifestation, energy, and all the good vibes! Follow Ayesha on Social: IG: @ayesharaasheed Out Front Magazine Article: https://bit.ly/3FXEruK Follow me on Social:  IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/ Interested in our Coaching Program? Go here: https://www.jaimecoaches.com/

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time! In this episode, I speak with actress Olivia Stambnouliah about coming to terms with sexuality, her first experience in Paris, and growing up as a tomboy!  Follow Olivia on Social: IG: @oliviastambouliah Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina  Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/ Interested in coaching? Go here: https://www.jaimecoaches.com/

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time. In this episode, I speak with Jillian Abby, author of Perfectly Queer, about all things late in life lesbian. You can find more of her quirky storytelling at Reframe with Jillian Abby on Substack: https://jillianabby.substack.com/archive Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/ Interested in our Coaching Program? Go here: https://www.jaimecoaches.com

2 years ago I did this thing where after my initial podcast interview, I would go into something we called "The After Dark". This was a special interview for our Patreon Subscribers. I always knew we would eventually share them here as well, and now is the time. In this episode, I speak with Kirby and Ember from Tiktok about all things late in life lesbian. Follow all things Kirby and Ember: linktr.ee/mykirbygirl Follow Me on Social: IG: @jaimemessina Tiktok: @jaimemessina Club Lilles FB Community Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jaimemmessina/ Interested in our Coaching Program? Go here: https://www.jaimecoaches.com