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42 episodes
Language
EnglishPublisher
Jordan GonsalvesExplicit
Yes
Date created
2020/01/18
Latest episode
2026/09/23
Average duration
52 min.
Release period
7 days
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Unshaming highlights the silenced voices of society through storytelling. You'll hear the stories of people who have hidden themselves — now loudly visible. You should listen if you are fascinated by the perseverance of the human spirit. Hosted by Jordan Gonsalves. #StayUnshaming with us at Instagram.com/unshaming and UnshamingPodcast.com. Tell us what you're unshaming at [email protected]!
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#1 Divorce Lawyer: After 1,000 Cases, 1 Technique Actually Saves Relationships
2026/09/23
James Sexton has facilitated over 1,000 divorces as an attorney based in NYC. He is a best selling author, having made recent blockbuster appearances on Diary of a CEO and The Mel Robbins Podcast. In this episode, he discusses the #1 technique you can use TODAY to strengthen and revive your relationship: “Hit Send Now.” He talks about how shame can sabotage this framework and how shame has been woven into his own life.
We cover:
The #1 technique you can use today to save and grow your relationship How shame shapes our childhoods and relationshipsWhy James almost cancelled our interview then used the technique on meWhy bravery will lead us to our truth
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Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Special thanks to:
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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"Squeeze the Sh*t Out of Life": 9/11 Son's Guide to Grief
2026/09/16
David Ferrugio’s father was one of the nearly 3,000 victims in the September 11th attacks. He was working on the 105th floor of the first tower that fell. The plane struck floors 93-99. 25 years after the attacks, his son tells his story in detail and what his grief can teach you. David is the host of the “Dead Talks” podcast, which you can listen to on YouTube. His new book is called "You're Not Dead Yet: How Grief and Loss Can Teach You to Live.” You can find it at deadtalks.net/book.
We cover:
The 1 word that can help you get through grief What loss can teach us about how to liveHow shame can prevent the grieving processThe most awkward part of grief that no one talks aboutThe importance of humor in grief
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Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Special thanks to:
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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Young, Successful Men are Hiring Escorts. Here’s Why.
2026/09/09
1 in 7 American have paid for s*x work, according to the National Institute of Justice. If the oldest profession in the world is still so popular, why is it so stigmatized? Former escort Thea Rose dishes why. Thea is the host of one of the most popular sexuality podcasts in America called “Seggs Talk Radio.” She recently came out publicly as a former escort, and you can watch that YouTube video here. She became an escort to fund her startup “Testie,” and revolutionize STI testing.
We cover:
Why so many men are paying for escortsWhat a former escort can teach us about being a better lover and partnerThe life of a s*x worker no one seesHow s*x work impacted Thea’s dating life
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Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Special thanks to:
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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The Evolutionary Reason You’re So Sensitive w/ Dr. Sasha Hamdani
2026/09/02
Have you ever felt too much? Or like your feelings are so big compared to others? Board certified psychiatrist and an ADHD clinical specialist Dr. Sasha Hamdani joins Unshaming to discuss the science behind it. She recently published a book on the understudied area of ADHD called Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria or RSD. And she’s going to share everything she learned.
We cover:
The evolutionary reason you feel so sensitiveThe evolutionary strengths of having an emotionally sensitive brainWhy ADHD brains are most likely to have RSDWhat happens in the brain when a situationship doesn't text backThe most impactful thing you can do when triggered by rejectionADHD hacks for better sleep, brain health, and productivity
Check out Dr. Hamdani’s new book wherever books are sold: “Too Sensitive: Rejection, Resilience, and the Science of Feeling Deeply"
Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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How to Have the Best Anal Sex Ever w/ Dr. Goldstein
2026/08/26
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Groundbreaking proctocologist Dr. Evan Goldstein has changed thousands of lives. His mission is to destigmatize or “unshame” butts and “everything that goes in them and out of them.” He has definitive information on how to have the best poops and how to have the best bottoming experiences.
We cover:
Why most people should having “no wipe” poops in 30 seconds or less - and how you can tooThe fiber craze and everything you need to know about itThe ideal diet for bottomingThe 3 types of buttsHow to have pain free, fun bottomingWhy there’s so much shame around anal and why it’s pleasurable from an anatomy perspective
Check out Dr. Goldstein’s book “Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure and Everything In-Between”
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Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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Why You Need Shame To Find Your Purpose w/ Melissa Petro
2026/08/19
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Shame journalist Melissa Petro thinks almost all your problems are because of shame. She’s no stranger to it. She was once earning money as a call girl. Years later, she embarked on a healing journey that ended in her becoming a public school teacher. But the NY Post found out about her past, and embarked on a public shaming campaign against her that forced her to resign. Since being publicly humiliated, Melissa has become a student of shame: why it’s so prevalent in culture and why women are so susceptible to it.
We cover:
The life changing consequences women pay for higher rates of shameThe 4 ways your nervous system responds to shameWas Taylor Frankie Paul a victim? Was Amber Heard?Melissa’s healing journey from sex worker to shame expertWhy Donald Trump likely feels intense shameWhy you need shame to live your best life
Check out Melissa’s book “Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of Mortification”
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Jordan Gonsalves
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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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Is OnlyFans Brainwashing Men to Quit Romance? w/ Gracie Canaan & Leon Neyfakh
2026/08/12
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Men are burning their cash to pay for OF. But why? I sat down with OF creator Gracie Canaan and legendary journalist Leon Neyfakh to find out. They just released an explosive podcast called “OnlyFantasy” exploring the psychology of OF and all the sides of it they don’t want you to know about. What they found is that OF is using shame to rewrite the rules of human intimacy. Watch to find out how.
We cover:
Why men would rather pay for OF than watch corn for freeThe mutli-million dollar secret industries that are being created by OnlyFansThe disturbing rise of e-pimps How OF is changing modern dating forever
Listen to OnlyFantasy here: https://open.spotify.com/show/3HmSbXPy9Ype5VXhAcQ6gd?si=1eb94f464b3d4d68
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Jordan Gonsalves
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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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America Doesn’t Value Family w/ Suzy Welch
2026/08/05
I sat down with America’s #1 career expert Suzy Welch. Her approach to careers isn’t about resumes though; it’s about values. She has the best data set on human values in the world. I wanted to understand what her research could tell us about shame.
We cover:
Why only 7% of people know their valuesHow you can become part of the 7%America’s #1 value isn’t what you think it isWhy Only 2% of Gen Z is hirableThe connection between values and shame
THE 16 HUMAN VALUES
1. Agency: Need for self-determination and making decisions.
2. Scope: Desire for a big, chaotic, adventurous life versus a small, secure one.
3. Affluence: Importance of financial wealth and money.
4. Achievement: Drive for visible success and personal validation.
5. Belonging: Need for community, friends, and your people.
6. Belovedness: Value placed on romantic love.
7. Work Centrism: Making work the primary lens of your identity.
8. Family Centrism: Organizing your life and decisions around family.
9. Eudaimonia: Focus on self-care, personal wellbeing, pleasure, and fun.
10. Beholderism: Caring about how things and people look.
11. Radius: Drive to change or blow up large social systems.
12. Cosmos: Reliance on faith and spirituality.
13. Voice: Need to be heard and express yourself.
14. Luminance: An inner desire for wide recognition, fame, or legacy.
15. Nonsibi: The internal drive to give back, be altruistic, and help others.
16. Place: The deep importance and grounding of a specific physical location.
TAKE THE VALUES BRIDGE ASSESSMENT
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Deanna Chapman
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Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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How to Heal From Shame w/ Tim Fletcher
2026/07/28
I sat down with Tim Fletcher, a counselor and researcher specializing in Complex Trauma recovery with over 30 years of experience. The goal: how do we heal our shame and reclaim our lives?
We cover:
Why 100% of the Population Struggles with ShameThe #1 thing to heal from shameHow Shame Shows Up in Dating: Fawning and Self-AbandonmentWhy We Subconsciously Date People Like Our ParentsHow to Regulate Your Nervous System and Silencing the Inner Critic
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Jordan Gonsalves
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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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How to Talk to Strangers w/ Markian B
2026/07/22
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I sat down with legendary YouTuber Markian B about how to talk to strangers. His entire brand and life story has been built on understanding what belonging is and how to find it. His biggest tip: talk to strangers more. Talking to strangers is our best chance at finding our people and finding ourselves.
We cover:
Why talking to strangers in person is a life hackHow to talk to strangersThe best prompts to start a conversation How to overcome the fear of rejection and judgment How to stop identifying with your feelingsThe work required to build authentic friendships Why you should smile at strangers moreWhat is belongingHow to make inner peace your north star
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Jordan Gonsalves
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Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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Gen Z’s Church Revival w/ Lauren Jackson
2026/07/15
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I sat down with New York Times spirituality journalist and host of the Believing newsletter Lauren Jackson. We talked about what's really driving the cultural movement back to church. Headlines like "Gen Z’s Catholic Revival" and "Young Adults Packing the Pews" have flooded our feeds. I myself decided to go back to church? But what's driving it?
We cover:
The surprising data that contradicts the "religious revival" headlinesHow AI is capitalizing on America’s longing for GodWhat MAGA and the Eras Tour have in commonThe benefits of religion and the costsWhy women who attend church are less likely to die of cancerWhy countries like Indonesia and the Philippines outrank the US on human flourishing — despite being far less wealthyHow this movement will impact America’s politics and how it already has
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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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The Anxious-Avoidant Trap w/ Kati Morton
2026/07/08
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Do you feel either anxious or suffocated in your relationship? Then this episode is for you.
I sat down with licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton to discuss attachment styles. She explains why we are constantly chasing emotionally unavailable partners, how we can finally break that cycle, the biggest dating green & red flags in dating and more.
We cover:
Why less than 10% of the population grows up with a secure attachment styleHow your romantic attachment style is completely formed within the first five years of your lifeThe "anxious-avoidant trap" and why toxic relationships feel like high highs and low lowsWhy feeling intense "butterflies" on a first date is actually a massive red flagThe deep connection between childhood emotional neglect, shame, and the fear of expressing your needsThe exact steps to heal your attachment style
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Deanna Chapman
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Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
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The Predatory Forces Behind Credit Card Debt w/ Debt Heads
2026/07/01
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Are you or a loved one in credit card debt? Then this episode is for you.
I sat down with debt journalists Jamie Feldman and Rachel Gayle Webster to discuss the biggest finding from their year-long investigation into America’s $2.27T credit card debt crisis. They host the award winning podcast Debt Heads, which chronicles their investigation in debt. And the villain isn’t who you think.
We cover:
Why the economy literally depends on you staying in debtThe 1978 Supreme Court decision that created America's debt crisis (Marquette National Bank of Minneapolis v. First of Omaha Service Corp.)Why the "get out of debt" industry needs you to stay in debtHow your childhood shapes your relationship with money before you were old enough to know itThe hidden connection between debt, shame, and belongingHow to stop blaming yourself and start seeing the full picture
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Deanna Chapman
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Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
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Sexless Relationships w/ Ian Kerner
2026/06/24
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Do you have sex/intimacy issues? Then this episode is for you.
I was in a sexless relationship with my dream man. For years, I couldn’t understand what I did wrong, until this conversation. I sat down with Ian Kerner, sex expert and licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex. He’s the author of the New York Times best-selling book She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has changed so many of friend’s sex lives. But I discovered through his last book which really changed my outlook on sex. It’s called So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex.
We cover:
The #1 sex issue couples face
Why porn might actually be a good thing
How to build your sexual intelligence
Why most of us go into sex only 50% aroused
How to talk to your partner about sex when shame makes it feel impossible
Why men in their 20s have more ED than men in their 50s and 60s
How to fix your sex issues
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Jordan Gonsalves
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Deanna Chapman
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Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
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Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
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Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
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David Vogel
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Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
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Homophobia in the Catholic Church w/ Father James Martin
2026/06/17
If religion ever made you feel like you didn't belong, this episode is for you.
I grew up gay, Catholic, and deeply ashamed. And most of my shame points back to the church. For the very first episode of Unshaming, I sat down with the one person who started to change that for me — Father Jim Martin, one of the most outspoken advocates for LGBT people in the Catholic Church today.
He is also the author of a new book called Work in Progress and leads “Outreach”, the ministry bringing LGBTQ Catholics back to the Church. He has over 1 million followers across social media and has become one of the most important and controversial figures in American Catholicism.
What we cover:
Religious trauma origin storiesThe Church's treatment of LGBTQ peopleWhy the transactional God doesn’t existThe recent sexual abuse settlements Father Jim grieving his mother who passed away this yearForgiveness and mercy
If this resonated, please share it with someone who is on their unshaming journey, and subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman, Multitude
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Podcast reviews
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Un italiano all'estero 2026/10/10
Rather one sided
The premise of this podcast is interesting, but the execution is disappointing. There is a meaningful conversation to be had about shame, social expec...
Aburkedesigns 2022/10/25
Fantastic show - bringing light to astigmatisms
I really enjoy this podcast. It brings many different topics and astigmatisms to the spotlight and sheds light on them. We can only grow and accept ou...
Radha_on_the_dance_floor 2021/08/26
The best thing to happen to Podcasts
Brilliant execution of such the most unique narratives very honestly put forth, making this podcast relatable to every age, mood and phase in life. My...
70 yr. old and white! 2021/07/11
Inspired!
Every episode, I am taken in by Jor’s soothing speaking voice and wonderful interviewing style. He asks every question that I wish to know, while gett...
byron urgiles 2021/07/07
The unshaming should be ashamed
My brain died listening to this
KO12345678910111213 2021/06/25
Wow! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
This podcast provides a wonderful platform to hear some incredible human stories. Jor’s passion is palpable in this space for historically marginaliz...
milono2 2021/05/27
Great listen!
Very inspiring podcast. Would highly recommend!
Yourbrothersroomate 2021/05/12
People need to listen
So many people have judgements and biases that they don’t even realize or acknowledge. But, stories expose those biases. And Jordan brings us those ...
SilverChart 2021/05/10
Excellent
Excellent podcast that brings to light the devastating emotion of shame. As someone who has dealt with his own deeply internalized shame, I admire the...
rubington the third 2021/04/14
Amazing
What a powerful podcast. Thank you so much.
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