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Linda Ward is a Writer and Life Coach living in Minnesota. She specializes in helping mature women find everyday happiness and satisfying life. She zeroes in on life after divorce, retirement transitions, and finding courage no matter what the circumstances. Her inspiring new eBook is called, "Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier. " Linda’s Professional background is Social Work and Counseling. Linda shares how she came to write her book: Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier and shares some of her favorites during our discussion!  Steps you can implement right now! No purchase necessary ( wink, wink)   During our conversation, Linda shared that it was through her own life circumstances that she found her inner courage. A difficult time where she had to dig deep to find and even surprised herself with how much courage she had in those times and still holds on to today!  Now Linda is passionate about helping others to find their inner courage!  Here is what else you will learn from our discussion We can often make finding happiness too complicated. It’s really simple!  There are simple things you can do each day to lift your mood. Parenting adult kids can be agony and the first step is to let go and how you can transition into parenting adult children!  Courage is needed in everyday life!   Linda shares how she found her inner courage and how you can too!     Throughout Linda’s experiences she has learned that even if life feels out of control, you can have the inner peace and courage to deal with it!   Resources and Links Connect with Linda Ward Linda’s Book:  Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

Jean Atman is a Consciousness Coach and Quantum Healer. Her greatest joy is to spark awakening and facilitate deep level healing in the collective. She has been called to reach beyond her beloved practice and is on a mission to assist in the ascension process on a grander scale.  Jean is passionate about sharing her wisdom, tips, and tools that have proven to be the most effective in influencing her journey as well as for her clients!  What You will learn in our conversation!  How to stop living on the basement floor and rise to a higher level of vibration!  You don’t need to sit and suffer!  Rise from the basement to the PENTHOUSE!   The first step towards raising your vibration!  Things in the universe are happening FOR us!  Who are you surrounding yourself with each day? Are you surrounding yourself with others that can help you rise to the next floor?   You are more powerful than you think! What you are resisting is the exact thing you need to sit with right now! 2022 is a powerful year for purging and letting go! How do we “uplevel”  and drop things off?  Letting go of old belief systems, pain, and hurt How does our subconscious mind hold all the old belief systems? Jean shares her group coaching program Limitless she will be launching on June 21st you are pop over to her website and check out!   Links and Resources  Connect with Jean Atman  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Cassie Christopher is a Registered Dietitian, Emotional Eating Expert, and owner of Cassie Christopher Health Coaching. She has a Master's degree in Nutrition and specializes in helping women in midlife and beyond find the Courage to Trust themselves around food. She helps women stop the cycle of all-or-nothing dieting that leads to numbing emotions with food so they can develop a supportive relationship with food, their body, and their health, so they can eat with joy instead of eating to seek joy. Cassie shares why an “all or nothing”  dieting causes women to struggle and that compassion for ourselves is the answer!  She has definitely turned her pain and life experiences toward helping others and has created a program to support her community!  In my conversation with Cassie, we explore the following Food is not the problem (  and neither are you )  It’s time to start listening to your body. It will provide you the clues so you can make choices that support you instead of numbing out and restricting your foods!  How to learn to have courage and trust surrounding food. How to “debrief”  after a situation where we have lost control or sense of “will power”.  What you can do instead of stress eating and how to calm your cravings! How to jump off the dopamine wagon with certain foods!   The Four Pillars of the Courage and Trust Method Calming the Nervous System Self Compassion Listening to Ourselves  Cassie shares her free resource:  You’re Done with Dieting but still want to heal emotional eating”  with the Calm the Chaos community!  The link to this resource is in the show notes!   Resources and Links  Connect with Cassie Christopher Debbie photo: https://cassiechristopher.net/about-me/#deb "You're Done Dieting but Still Want to Heal Emotional Eating": cassiechristopher.net/free Courage to Trust Method: https://cassiechristopher.net/courage-to-trust-method/ Book a free Compassionate Clarity Call with me: https://cassiechristopher.as.me/compassionate-clarity  Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook  

My guest this week is Sheree Clark, a Midlife Courage Coach who calls her practice Fork in the Road. Sheree says she became a courage coach because she believes “it takes guts to live the second half of your life for you when you’ve lived the first half for everyone else.” Sheree has written and presented on topics ranging from managing regrets and finding your passion to overcoming career burnout. A serial entrepreneur, Sheree owned a successful advertising agency for over 25 years before pivoting to become a life coach when she was in her 50s. But Sheree didn’t abandon the creativity of the advertising world when she started her coaching practice. She’s well-known for her fun talks and presentations as well as the unique exercises she’s developed to help clients in achieving their goals. In her personal time, Sheree enjoys spending time in her art deco home which has been featured in a variety of publications. Sheree and her Maine Coon cat Lotus also work on their yoga poses. Here are some things that Sheree shares with the listeners!  If you want something different for yourself you can absolutely have it! No matter what anyone else says, including the voice in your head!  Unhappiness or unmet potential is one area of your life that steals the joy from other areas of your life.  One thing you need to have in to be able to make changes or shifts in what you really want is courage. Courage can be created, renewed, and even borrowed.  At any given moment we are all at a Fork in the Road.  Sometimes it's a big decision or smaller choices that are just as important.  It takes guts to live the second have of your life! Especially when you’ve lived the first half for everyone else.   Trust the messages you get. They come through to you at any time.  Tune in and be present to yourself.   Links and Resources  Connect with Sheree Clark Link to Sheree Clark Summit:  Why Midlife is a Time for Action! Link here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

  Juggling life for years led Daniela Sulek to hit a wall. Her entire way of life and being changed when what she now calls “humaning” led to her developing serious illnesses while pregnant with her third child, and almost cost her her life. With her “play your way through life” philosophy, she now helps renowned yet unfulfilled leaders move into a permanent state of ease, joy, and passion. By transcending from the conditioned human to the consciousness of their true self, they shift into effortlessly creating by being, instead of creating by doing.    Daniela has been on the show before and is returning to share more wisdom about how to function at a higher level of consciousness! In our conversation, here is what you will learn How you can get off the bus of doing and start being in life!  How you can find a deeper sense of joy, peace, and passion in your days When you let go of the controlling and planning then you can find the joy in life! Anxiety and stress are a result of human conditioning Life is happening FOR YOU, not to you.   Tips on how you can begin to get into a state of being and some challenges for you to accept!     Maybe you are missing the joy and passion in your life and need to get off the bus and start BEING!  I invite you to reach out to me and schedule your free clarity call to discuss what’s holding you back!   Resources and Links Connect with Daniela Sulek Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

Julie Morgenstern is one of the leading experts on organization, business productivity, and time management. The author of six best-selling books, a consultant to large corporations, and a sought-after speaker, Morgenstern has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, and NPR’s Fresh Air and helped thousands of people transform their homes, businesses, and attitudes about every kind of clutter. The New York City-based Julie Morgenstern Enterprises has been successfully in business for over 30 years. What  You’ll Learn This book will help you clear the clutter for good!  Julie takes a different approach by using the SHED process. Moving beyond throwing things out and walks you thru the pitfalls of decluttering Declutter is identifying what’s obsolete and no longer serves you Organizing is designing systems that make  you more efficient where you are right now SHED stands for  Separate the Treasures Heave the Trash Embrace your Identity Drive yourself Forward Finding your Theme:  What is your big picture?  What do you want to express or experience in the future?  What do you need to let go of and where are you heading? Points of Entry!   Clutter is not junk!  Clutter is an attachment to something you are struggling to release. Ask yourself what does it represent?  Go in with love and tenderness for yourself.   Being in the present moment!   You can also use this process to evaluate your commitments,  schedule, and habits!   Resources Julie Morgenstern's Website here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here   

I recently had the opportunity to join Dr. Melissa Bordogna in her weekend event the Epic Self Project for Midlife!  This was a wonderful opportunity to connect with those that were looking for inspiration in a variety of topics from experts in their field.   With my expertise being in career and life coaching, I guided the participants into the importance of identifying your theme when moving into your next chapter!  We had a great discussion and wanted to give you the opportunity to hear it on the podcast!   For this discussion, I created a worksheet that you can access on my website:  https://www.deborahvoll.com.   Go to the Work with Me tab and click on the workbook.  You will see it offered mid-page!  Here are some of the reasons you will want to tune in this week for our discussion!  How creating an overarching theme for your next chapter is so important and how it will help you to stay focused on your “end goal” for your life!  I share my Theme for this next chapter and give examples on how I hold myself accountable towards that theme and how you can too!  What is the first step in this process?  What stories have we been telling ourselves what type of excuses have we been giving ourselves in moving forward? The tool for unlocking your inner desires Ideas on how you can hold yourself accountable towards your vision and theme How to step into the action and the doing!   How to show more compassion towards yourself in this process. I hope you will take the time to download your worksheet and complete it for yourself! If you begin working on the worksheet and feel that you need to be gently challenged to move forward, please reach out to me. I would love to be able to help you start this journey!  Resources and Links Connect with Deborah Voll Identifying Your Theme for Your Next Chapter Worksheet Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Grab Your Free Clarity Session today!  

 Diana Raab, Ph.D. is a memoirist, poet, blogger, thought-provoker, and award-winning author of ten books, including four poetry collections, including her latest, Lust. She blogs for Psychology Today, The Wisdom Daily, Thrive Global, Sixty and Me, and many others. Her most recent nonfiction book is Writing for Bliss. She teaches workshops on writing for healing and transformation. Her poetry chapbook, “An Imaginary Affair,” is forthcoming by Finishing Line Press Diana begins our discussion by sharing how she began her journey of journaling at a young age and that a tragic loss prompted the gift of a journal.   During our interview, we talk about the writing process and how to use writing to express our thoughts, gain insight into our emotions, and use it to heal to move forward.  We dive into these other discussions and Diana shares her insight on How to create rituals prior to writing and how that helps  you to get focused and grounded for the work you are yet to begin We dive into why storytelling unites us as humans How storytelling can be presented in your story to capture all the senses of the reader. How to find your true voice as a writer Why you would want to write a LOVE Letter to yourself!   How you can write for your emotional truth What if you want to write about others? What’s the best way to handle those types of situations.  How being fearful of writing something will dappen your creative process! Just go for it and write that first draft! At the end of the interview, Diana leaves us with a fun challenge so get out your pen and paper!   Resources and Links Connect with Diana Raab  Writing for Bliss the Book   Conversation Card here Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook

Stephanie Raffelock is the author of Creatrix Rising, Unlocking the Power of Midlife Women. She also penned the award-winning book, A Delightful Little Book of Aging A graduate of Naropa University’s program in writing and poetics, Stephanie was a contributor to the Rogue Valley Messenger in Oregon. She has blogged for Nexus Magazine, Omaha Lifestyles, Care2.com, as well as SixtyandMe.com  A recent transplant to Austin, Texas Stephanie enjoys an active life with her husband, Dean, and their Labrador retriever Mickey Mantle Raffelock.  For Stephanie, writing is an encore career!   Stephanie is passionate about her work and sees midlife as a bridge from one part of your life to another.  What we have seen in society over the years is the message that when you hit midlife, you’re done!  Stephanie is here to say that this messaging is not true!  Not only are women finding their voices, but they are also raising them!  This has become her work, to write about women and aging. How we see ourselves as we age and how we get stuck in the stereotypes of aging and how to break free from those stories!  We begin by discussing her book, Creatrix Rising!  Creatrix comes from the three Greek fates.  There was the spinner, the weaver, and the cutter. The weaver was the creatrix.  The word means a woman who makes things.  Stephanie felt that was a great word for what happens to us in midlife as we move out of the motherhood phase ( whether or not we’ve had children) We can then move into a phase of creativity.  We become women who make things, whether that’s leadership, gardening, or cooking.  Creatrix is a positive archetype that gives power and empowerment to women at midlife.   Stephanie shares one-story in her book about a woman named Austin. Austin lived life to the fullest until the very end.  She knew what it was to be a woman who makes things and never stopped.  She goes on to share that women need to reassure themselves in life that they grow psychologically and spiritually until the day they die. There is no endpoint!  We just need to change the way we talk to ourselves and how we perceive ourselves moving forward.   Our discussion continues to focus on the importance of staying curious and having gratitude in our life.  Stephanie feels that you grow old the day you stop feeling impassioned by the things you love and what you stand for in life.  We discuss a lot about how important mindset is moving forward into this next chapter and how we need to treat ourselves kindly and be careful on how we speak to ourselves! Perhaps look in the mirror each day and tell yourself, “hello gorgeous!  You got this! “.  What a beautiful way to start the morning!   Resources and Links Connect with Stephanie Raffelock Blog Article: We Matter at Every Age   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

 You are listening to Episode 112 of Calm the Chaos! In this episode, I am sharing an interview where I was the invited guest with  Nicole Christina from the Zestful Aging podcast!   It was a lot of fun!  Nicole has been a psychotherapist for over 30 years and has her own podcast: The Zestful Aging Podcast.  In her interview with me on Calm the Chaos, we talked about what is Zestful Aging, why are we here, and what type of legacy we will leave behind.   Today on her show, I am sharing my journey with my book, The Tell-All Guide to Airbnb Hosting, and the lessons I have learned about myself and others!  If you are considering ways to make some extra money and you’ve been thinking about short-term renting in your home or on the site then this is a great episode as I share my experiences!   If you are not interested in hosting then perhaps you use the Airbnb site as a guest?  This interview will also give you some insight on how to be the perfect guest on this type of platform.    Either way, fasten your seat belt because we take you on a journey!  In this interview, you will also get to know me better and how I continue to reinvent myself after the age of forty and continue to expand my horizons!   It’s important to stay curious and take a step if you are interested in learning more about something. You never know where the path will lead once you put yourself in motion!   Resources and Links Connect with Nicole Christina Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here  My Author Page to learn more about my Book 

Daniel Mangena is an International Speaker, Best-Selling Author, Broadcaster, and Coach. He is best known for his highly successful Micro2Millions program, being the author of Stepping Beyond Intention and his Do it With Dan and Beyond Success podcasts. He is completely self-made and has spent decades perfecting his world-class coaching methodology. His mission statement: “To spearhead an evolutionary uplift in universal consciousness, by awakening people to the importance of their unique role and enabling them to manifest their dream life.” Daniel has learned his lesson’s later in life through losing his fortunes not once but twice.  What he learned through this process is the importance of your energetic relationship with something and the importance of developing that relationship with something to allow it to stay. He focuses now on conscious deliberate creating. We discuss how to break free of emotional blocks to get that desired dream life that so many of us are seeking!  Daniel shares that our desires within ourselves are ready to be birthed and most of the time, we are not allowing it to be part of our world.  Daniel reminds us that everything we experience is a result of where we are in our environment. The actions we are taking, the habits, behaviors, and choices we make, and the people, places, and things that surround ourselves. We go on to discuss the conflict between our conscious and unconscious thoughts and how 97% of our behaviors are run by unconscious programs.  For the most part, the actions we take are not conscious choices. That’s why for many, we are misaligned with our thoughts and outcomes.  You may be ready to go out and achieve something new but most often our habits and behaviors are not matching the desired outcome.  The reason why is that our unconscious thoughts don’t match the desired outcome.  One way to get into alignment with our unconscious thoughts is to create an environment that supports us in getting in alignment with our thoughts and desires.  Our thoughts, fears, and desires are built from our environment from our journey from infant to today!  We need to understand that our environment can support us and if we curated it appropriately then the change will come easier and have the desired snowball effect.   Begin to ask yourself:  What do we want to manifest or create for ourselves and then how does my environment right now support the emotional state and outcome that I want to achieve? Ask yourself: Are your existing habits and emotions supporting my emotional desire or are these habits and emotions disrupting those desires and allowing me to step into something different. Changing your emotional state will change the quality of your thoughts!   We continue to discuss more opportunities to get in alignment with your unconscious and conscious thoughts and emotions by looking at how our environment and habits can support us I ask Daniel about a blog article he wrote about Rejecting the Cookie-Cutter Approach to a Life of Intention.  He encourages us to seize the day uniquely our own and not get lost in waiting for some big magical moment to show up for us!  Instead, listen to the small whispers that lead you to your big vision.  Play in those seemingly insignificant synchronicities that lead you to the outcome that you desire!     Daniel’s Challenge for you!   Ask Yourself How will you feel, what emotions will you experience when you have achieved your goal?  Write down those emotions! Does my environment support those emotions?  You may need to start to clean up your environment or start to create an environment that supports you in having the goal that you desire!  Resources and Links Connect with Daniel Mangena Special Link for Calm the Chaos Listeners Do It With Dan Podcast   Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here 

A descendant of Afghan nobles, Tareq Azim’s family was forced to flee their homeland in 1979. He assimilated in the United States through his love of sports, excelling in wrestling, boxing, and football. In 2004, Azim decided to visit his home country, and upon arriving, he discovered countless children living on the streets, waiting for the inevitable recruitment into terrorist networks and anti-peace militias. Azim’s close encounter with the ravages of a war-torn society taught him how pain can generate the most intense forms of fear, anxiety, and depression. He had found his salvation through sports and physical activity, and he knew these children could, too. Growing up with the fear of not having and not belonging.  Tareq was desperate to belong and asked himself, How do I belong?, how can I become a part of this American Society? For Tareq, it was the power of sport and physical activity. It was through organized sports in High School that he learned what embracing the discomfort meant and what it meant and how to challenge yourself and face your truth.  It was then that Tareq recognized what was preventing the rest of his community to feel this same way of belonging.  It was while playing football in high school that he experienced that feeling of acceptance from himself and others.   Once Tareq’s confidence was raised through sports, he pushed himself to do other things like running for ASB President. He continued to push through to do things even when it felt out of his comfort zone and scared.   He then came to the realization at age 17, what prevents the optimization of human capacity and capability is fear.  Now when he feels fearful he recognizes that this is where his opportunity lies within himself.   It was then that he started to hold himself accountable publicly and started using the fear of being judged by not completing his goal as fuel to pull the trigger on things that he felt were right for himself vs. falling victim to judgment.  He was using it!   Tareq believes that we have the freedom to define our own narratives and definitions of behaviors. He helps individuals to recognize the value of fear vs. fear being something you should avoid and allowing it to be a disease that decimates everything else in your life.  We use fear as an excuse on why we don’t move forward and we see individuals running away from the responsibility of being aware of what you’re fearful of. Once you are conscious of what it is and what's preventing you from being strong, you can then embrace the fear and define what it is for you at that moment. Tareq shares with us how to conquer the fear once we recognize it and call it out.  It’s when you identify it and make the decision to embrace it that you can move forward.  Give it a responsibility and give it permission to do what it is there to do for you.   Links and Resources   Grab Your Copy of Empower  by Tareq Azim  Tareq Azim on Instagram Connect with Deborah Voll Take The Midlife Quiz Passion and Purpose Digital Workbook Book Your Spot for the Free 60 minute Clarity Session here