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Have you discovered your husband has been unfaithful, and are you trying to make sense of a betrayal that has shaken your marriage, your faith, and the people you thought would walk with you through it? Or are you somewhere in the long middle of rebuilding, wondering why you still can't simply forgive and move on the way everyone around you seems to expect? For many Christian wives, healing after infidelity is nothing like the quick restoration church culture often hopes for, and it asks something very different of the wife who was betrayed than of the husband who caused the hurt. In this episode of The Grace Fueled Wife, I'm sitting down with Laura Lentz, a coach, co-host of the Lights On podcast, and co-author with her husband, Carl, of Overcoming Infidelity: Ten Conversations to Help Heal the Hurt. We talk honestly about what it took to heal after his affair became public and her family lost nearly everything overnight. We'll explore why your healing can't depend on your husband's choices, what it looks like when the spouse who caused the harm takes real ownership of his recovery, how trust is rebuilt through evidence and safety rather than promises, and how faith and therapy can work together. You'll also discover why forgiveness and reconciliation aren't the same thing, and why there is no timeline you're failing to meet. If you've ever wondered whether a marriage can survive infidelity, this conversation will help you understand what healing really asks of you and remind you that, whatever comes next, betrayal doesn't have to be the end of your story. About our Guest: Order the Book: Amazon Podcast, Lights On: Follow on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Want personal support before my coaching program opens? Email me at [email protected] with the word CLARITY in the subject line, and I’ll reply personally to talk through whether 1:1 coaching is the right next step for you. Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunityDownload the 5 Questions beneath Every ArgumentBecome an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!)I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Has sex started to feel like another chore on your never-ending to-do list? You love your husband, you value intimacy, and you want to feel connected. So why does the thought of sex sometimes leave you feeling more exhausted than excited? For many Christian wives, the issue isn't simply a lack of desire. It's that somewhere along the way, sex stopped feeling like an invitation to connection and started feeling like another expectation to fulfill. In this episode of The Grace Fueled Wife, we're unpacking three reasons sex might feel like a chore in your marriage: emotional disconnection, religious messages that turn intimacy into obligation, and the mental and physical exhaustion of carrying everyone else's needs. We'll explore how emotional safety influences sexual desire, why duty and pressure can undermine genuine intimacy, and how the invisible load of motherhood can leave your nervous system with little capacity for connection. You'll also discover why honoring your needs and limits isn't selfish or unbiblical, and why healthy sexual intimacy requires more than simply making sex a priority. If you've ever wondered why you struggle to desire sex even though you love your husband, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and begin making room for intimacy rooted in freedom, mutual care, and genuine connection. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Want personal support before my coaching program opens? Email me at [email protected] with the word CLARITY in the subject line, and I’ll reply personally to talk through whether 1:1 coaching is the right next step for you. Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. Join my community on Facebook: The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunityDownload the 5 Questions beneath Every ArgumentBecome an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!)I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Have you ever wondered when your marriage started to feel more like a partnership in logistics than a relationship? You may still love each other. You may not even be fighting that much. But somewhere between work, parenting, responsibilities, television, and scrolling on your phones, you stopped truly reaching for one another. In this episode, we’re looking beneath “roommate behavior” to explore why connection can begin to feel emotionally risky. Especially, when previous attempts to talk have ended in defensiveness, disappointment, or another argument. You’ll learn why another list of conversation starters may not solve the real problem, how couples sometimes create peace by avoiding vulnerability, and why not every moment of connection needs to carry the weight of repairing your marriage. You’ll also discover a gentler way to begin rebuilding companionship without making yourself responsible for manufacturing connection for two people. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coachingEmail: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunityDownload the 5 Questions beneath Every ArgumentBecome an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!)I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Do you actually struggle with communication—or have you learned to protect yourself when communication with your husband feels vulnerable? You may communicate beautifully with friends, coworkers, clients, and everyone else in your life, only to find yourself explaining, assuming, defending, escalating, or building a case the moment conflict starts with your husband. That’s because the person you love most also has the greatest capacity to hurt you. In this episode, I’m introducing the CARED framework, five protective communication patterns that can keep couples stuck in the same arguments: Courtroom Behavior, Assumptions, Rebuttals, Escalation, and Defensiveness. More importantly, we’re looking underneath each behavior to understand what it’s trying to protect. Because these patterns didn’t come from nowhere—and recognizing them isn’t about finding five more things you’re doing wrong. It’s about noticing the protection sooner so you can lead yourself differently inside the conversation. If you’re tired of having the same argument on repeat and want to communicate with more clarity, connection, and grace, this episode will help you identify what may actually be happening beneath the surface. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coachingEmail: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunityDownload the 5 Questions beneath Every ArgumentBecome an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!)I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

What if the argument you keep having with your husband isn’t actually about what you think it’s about? You may be fighting about money, being late, the kids, chores, his phone, or the way he spoke to you—but underneath those everyday disagreements are deeper questions you may not even realize you’re asking. In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation with my friend Dana Che from the Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast about the five questions beneath every argument in marriage. Rooted in attachment science and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), these questions can help you understand why seemingly small interactions sometimes trigger such big reactions—and why years of those little moments can eventually leave a marriage feeling lonely, empty, or disconnected. We also talk about my own marriage story, what I had to recognize about my contribution to our disconnection, why wanting to feel valued and cherished by your husband isn’t something you need to spiritualize away, and the vulnerability required to admit that you really do need each other. If you’ve ever wondered, Why do we keep having the same argument? this episode will help you look beneath what you’re fighting about and begin recognizing what you’re actually longing for from each other. Want the link to the questions we discussed? Get access Here Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coachingEmail: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunityBecome an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!)I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

What if your marriage hasn’t fallen apart - but somewhere along the way, you accidentally put your relationship on pause? In this episode, I’m joined by marriage coach Dr. Lee Baucom to talk about what happens when couples become so focused on kids, careers, responsibilities, and everyday life that they stop actively investing in their relationship. The marriage may continue functioning, but connection slowly fades until one or both spouses begin wondering, How did we get here? Dr. Lee explains why many of the problems couples identify - communication struggles, resentment, loneliness, and feeling more like roommates - may actually be symptoms of a deeper disconnection. We explore the three levels of connection that often disappear, how to begin rebuilding them, and why you don’t necessarily need your spouse fully on board before you start changing the relational system. We also talk about how to rebuild connection without chasing your husband or trying to force intimacy, what it means to move from “you versus me” to “we,” and why differences - including differences in faith - don't automatically mean your marriage is incompatible. If you’ve been waiting for your husband to participate before anything can change, this conversation will help you see where you still have agency and how small, intentional shifts can begin moving your marriage in a new direction. Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coachingEmail: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free. Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunityBecome an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!)I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Does your husband say he’s a Christian, but sometimes his choices leave you wondering if he really is? Maybe he doesn’t go to church, initiate prayer, read the Bible, or seem interested in growing spiritually - and you’ve started wondering what those behaviors say about his relationship with God. In this episode, I’m sharing a deeply personal part of my own marriage and challenging the way we sometimes interpret our husband’s faith through the behaviors we can see. We’ll talk about the difference between observation and interpretation, why outward spiritual practices don’t always tell us what we think they do, and how to discern what’s actually happening without lowering your biblical standards or taking responsibility for your husband’s relationship with God. You’ll also learn a simple three-question framework to help you separate what you actually know from the story you may have attached to it - so you can respond with more wisdom, confidence, peace, and grace. Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider (this is another way to have direct access to me because I read and reply to all responses!) I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Have you ever wondered if some of the marriage advice you've been following is actually making things worse? From "Never go to bed angry" to "If he loved you, he'd just know what you need," many of the messages couples receive sound wise - but can unintentionally create resentment, anxiety, and disconnection. In this conversation, I'm joined by relationship coach and author Monica Tanner to unpack some of the most common marriage myths couples believe and what to do instead. Together we explore why making clear requests is healthier than expecting mind reading, why small frustrations shouldn't be ignored, and how learning to communicate your needs can create more connection instead of more conflict. If you've ever felt stuck between "I don't want to nag" and "I don't know how to ask for what I need," this episode will give you a practical framework for communicating with honesty, kindness, and confidence - without criticism or resentment. You can find more information about our guest at : https://www.monicatanner.com/   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Have you ever looked at your husband and wondered, "Maybe we're just too different?" When conversations about politics, parenting, faith, finances, or family end in frustration, it's easy to assume you've discovered a fundamental difference in values. But what if emotional disconnection is distorting the way you see each other? In this episode, I'll help you discern the difference between a true values mismatch and the attachment wounds that can make loving couples feel fundamentally incompatible. You'll learn why emotional safety changes how we interpret disagreements, how to identify when you're reacting to hurt rather than reality, and five questions to help you determine whether you're facing a difference in core values or simply a breakdown in connection. If you've been wondering whether your marriage is beyond repair—or whether there's still hope beneath the hurt—this conversation will help you see your relationship through a new lens. Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Have you ever looked at yourself and wondered, What is wrong with me? Maybe you've been more irritable than usual, emotionally exhausted, struggling with brain fog, or snapping at the people you love—even though that's not who you want to be. In this episode, I'm joined by friend, Bekah Yawn, of the For Love of Hormones podcast, a hormone coach, FEMM educator, and doula to explore how hormone health can quietly shape your mood, communication, emotional regulation, and even your marriage. Together, we unpack what healthy hormone rhythms are designed to look like, how to recognize when something may be off, and why burnout, stress, and deeper health issues often show up through hormone imbalance. Whether you're navigating PMS, perimenopause, irregular cycles, or simply wondering why you don't feel like yourself anymore, this conversation offers practical education, compassionate insight, and hope. Understanding your body isn't just about feeling better—it's about caring for yourself well so you can show up with greater peace, presence, and grace. You can find the resources discussed at: Bekahyawn.com/beatriz   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email me: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

What if one of the most effective ways to encourage change in your marriage isn't another hard conversation? When you've been carrying the emotional load for years, the idea of praising your husband can feel frustrating - even unfair. You may wonder why you're expected to do one more thing when you're already exhausted from trying to hold your marriage together. In this episode, I unpack the psychology behind positive reinforcement and why appreciation isn't about ignoring real problems or pretending everything is okay. Instead, it's about learning how resentment quietly trains your brain to notice only what's missing - and how shifting your attention can influence both your marriage and your own heart. If you've ever wondered how to encourage your husband without nagging, criticizing, or feeling like you're manipulating him, this conversation offers a practical, grace-filled perspective on creating change through intentional encouragement rather than constant correction. Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email me: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Can a marriage heal after infidelity? And if so, where does healing actually begin? In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with Kristina Joy, host of the Intimacy After Infidelity podcast, to explore the often-overlooked side of betrayal—the story of the woman who stepped outside her marriage and the path that led her back to God, truth, and healing. Together, we discuss shame, radical honesty, personal responsibility, and why infidelity never happens in a vacuum. Kristina shares how learning to tell the truth about her own heart became the beginning of genuine transformation—not only in her relationship with her husband, but in her relationship with God and herself. Whether infidelity is part of your story or not, this conversation offers hope for anyone seeking deeper healing, healthier communication, and the courage to face difficult realities with both grace and truth.   Here are the Links to find our Guest: https://kristinajoycoaching.com/   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again - and neither of you understands why? Maybe one of you is constantly forgetting appointments, running late, making impulsive decisions, or becoming unexpectedly defensive during conversations. It's easy to assume these behaviors mean someone doesn't care, isn't trying, or simply refuses to change. But what if something else is happening beneath the surface? In this episode, I explore how ADHD can quietly shape communication, conflict, and emotional connection inside a marriage. Drawing from both my work as a couples therapist and my own late ADHD diagnosis, I share how understanding the way an ADHD brain works can transform frustration into compassion without removing personal responsibility. Whether you have ADHD, suspect your husband might, or simply want to understand your relationship more deeply, this conversation offers practical insight into one of the most overlooked influences on marriage. Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

What if some of the most practical marriage advice isn't new at all? In this conversation, I'm joined by author, speaker, relationship coach, and Rebuilding Us podcast host Dana Che Williams to discuss her new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples. Together, we explore what Scripture can teach us about real marriages—not idealized ones, but relationships marked by disappointment, loneliness, forgiveness, hope, and redemption. We talk about why so many Christian couples find themselves in what Dana calls "the marriage in the middle," how spiritual intimacy can transform a relationship even before circumstances change, and why God often leads us one faithful step at a time instead of revealing the entire path. Whether your marriage feels strong or you're wondering how to survive a season where love feels distant, this conversation offers biblical encouragement rooted in grace, honesty, and God's enduring faithfulness. Sometimes the next step toward healing isn't finding new advice—it's rediscovering ancient wisdom. Here is how to get your hands on the book: https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book/  Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly at [email protected] or Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife

Have you ever walked away from an argument wondering, How did we end up here... again? Maybe you started the conversation hoping to feel understood, but somehow it turned into criticism, defensiveness, silence, or resentment instead. In this episode, we're exploring the four communication patterns that relationship researchers Drs. John and Julie Gottman found can predict divorce with remarkable accuracy—and why simply knowing what not to do isn't enough to create lasting change. You'll discover what's happening beneath these behaviors, why your nervous system reacts the way it does, and how attachment needs often hide underneath criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Rather than offering another checklist for becoming a "better wife," this episode invites you to look beneath the surface and understand the deeper emotional needs driving your reactions. When you begin recognizing the pattern underneath the pattern, you gain something far more powerful than perfect communication—you gain the ability to respond with greater clarity, wisdom, and grace. Sometimes the greatest change in a marriage begins with seeing what's been there all along. Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Work with me: Schedule a 45 min 1:1 coaching call: https://thegracefueledwife.com/coaching Email: [email protected] Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news: https://thegracefueledwife.com/insider I want to hear all about you and your story! Reach out to me directly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegracefueledwife