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Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James sit down to talk about people coming into the Church, suffering, disc golf, sports, community, friendship, Pokémon  prayer, a desire for beauty and more. Casual.  They don’t ignore the hard parts. Alongside conversion stories, they wrestle with how pain can become the place where mercy breaks through and community becomes essential. If you’re praying for someone to return to faith, we offer grounded counsel: be bold, invite again, offer to go with them, stay patient, and let God do what only God can do. Who is one person you could invite and walk with this week? ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE What would change if we built a rule of life that actually fit our days and led us to Jesus? Join Jayce and James as they discuss what this could look like.  We unpack “rule” as a trellis, not a cage—simple anchors that help prayer, work, family, and rest breathe. New Year energy is helpful, but the real move is choosing one priority and letting everything else take its proper place. That’s where fasting and asceticism come in. From Exodus 90’s cold showers and media fasts to the Daniel Fast’s clarity, we share the honest early struggle—headaches, hunger, fidgety evenings—and the surprising fruits: easier yeses to our kids, a renewed desire for the nightly examen, and a heart that listens without forcing. Along the way, Jeff Cavins’ challenge hits home: if you have “priorities,” you don’t have a priority. Spouses and children matter immensely, yet the center cannot hold unless we order our lives to the will of the Lord. We explore how daily Mass becomes a fixed star, why saying no creates real freedom, and how fasting sharpens spiritual hearing.  ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James sat down with Father Will Banowsky, judicial vicar and pastor, for a candid look at annulments, prenuptial investigations, and the habits that help couples keep vows. We explore cultural myths about marriage, unpack a Scripture mistranslation, and share concrete ways parishes can form and protect marriages. • what a judicial vicar does and why it matters • how annulments and appeals actually work • why prenuptial investigations safeguard consent • the role of parish marriage files and documentation • a paperwork mix‑up that teaches big lessons • praying for young couples facing cultural pressure • indissolubility of marriage versus easy exit mindsets • the impact of mistranslating biblical texts on divorce • mentor couples as the backbone of marriage prep • learning to be comfortable being uncomfortable • “nothing worth having comes easy” applied to vocation ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James talk with author Roxane Salonen about "What Would Monica Do?" and the hidden grief of parents whose children step away from the Church, turning shame into solidarity and sorrow into steady hope. Her story shifts the focus from fixing kids to surrendering, praying, and making home a haven where love speaks louder than debate. • the friendship and shared heartache that sparked the book • why the story became about parents’ conversion • Saint Monica’s tears as intercession and model of hope • moving from arguments to witness and presence • home as haven: dinner, blessing, and steady love • guarding boundaries and building a real support group • naming shame, rejecting secrecy, choosing solidarity • preparing the table and leaving the light on • trusting God’s timing through long seasons of waiting ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James continue exploring the FACT framework, trade birthday stories, garage rock tumblers, and sports mishaps before turning to the heart of FACT: why teachability might be the hardest and most vital trait for disciples and teams. We map the D1–D4 learning journey, name wounds and pride, and offer simple steps to receive correction with humility, curiosity, and courage. • Family rhythms that make celebrations work • Why teachability matters more as you get better • D1–D4 model for competence and confidence • How wounds distort feedback and trust • Pause, curiosity, and naming emotions • Detachment from outcomes and secure identity • Team health when feedback is safe and direct • Discipleship as lifelong apprenticeship to Jesus • Two challenges: find a mentor, pray through past correction • FACT audit for honest self-review ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE Jayce and James sat down with Peter Andrastek from Evangelical Catholic at the 2025 Discipleship Conference for the Archdiocese of Oklahoma City to draw a bright line between ministry and apostolate and then show how to form the laity to live mission where life actually happens. Peter from Evangelical Catholic helps us imagine parishes as workshops for friendship, holiness, and real-world witness. Learn more about Peter and Evangelical Catholic here: https://evangelicalcatholic.org/  • ministry as public, structured service tied to holy orders • apostolate as outward mission flowing from baptism and confirmation • reducing mission to volunteering as a common trap • mission ready friendship as a practical path for evangelization • training versus lifelong formation and conversion • lay co responsibility and the laity’s office in the world • building parish imagination beyond programs • start with faithful, available, teachable, normal people • resources for forming laity in everyday mission ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE Jayce and James sat down with Dr. Karlo Broussard from Catholic Answers at the 2025 Discipleship Conference for the Archdiocese of Oklahoma City to share why conversions are surging in Tulsa and how credible witness, patient timing, and deeper dialogue are changing evangelization. Real stories, practical tactics, and a hopeful read on where the Spirit is moving. • live from the discipleship conference floor • Karlo’s Tulsa partnership and parish missions • proclaiming why Jesus is Lord across the diocese • training in evangelization, tips, and tactics • conversion stories from pastors, evangelists, and families • how to talk to loved ones far from God • discernment and relationship with the Holy Spirit • shifts from atheism debates to deeper Protestant dialogue • credible Catholic witness and shared language • cultural pressure prompting a search for truth ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James explore how the FACT framework (Faithful, Available, Contagious, Teachable) serves as both a barometer for disciple readiness and a personal examination tool for those leading others toward Christ. Have you ever wondered what truly makes someone ready to be a disciple-maker? This episode dives deep into the first half of the powerful FACT framework – Faithful and Available – that serves as both a barometer for discipleship readiness and a personal examination tool for spiritual growth. • Faithfulness includes alignment with Church teaching, honest acknowledgment of struggles, and consistent striving toward holiness • Being faithful requires humility and obedience rather than elevating personal opinions above Church teaching • True availability doesn't mean an empty calendar but rather a heart oriented toward what truly matters • Availability means being present in the moment, putting down phones, and prioritizing prayer despite competing demands • Our availability or lack thereof reveals "who we are bowing to" - what we truly worship • A "schedule conversion" may be necessary if we're too busy for prayer and silence • Seeking counsel from trusted friends provides essential perspective on our blind spots • Making even small adjustments can significantly align our lives more closely with Christ's call ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James share real stories of bringing people into the Church with a question, like an agnostic who came for the music and said yes to OCIA after a gentle ask; a seeker who loves liturgy but hesitates because of family wounds; a friend wrestling with the Eucharist and the early Church.  Along the way, they name what’s working—and why. Reverent worship that lets people pray without a sales pitch. Access to thoughtful sources like the Didache, the catechism, and the Church Fathers. A culture where the Holy Spirit leads and we follow with patience, courage, and love. Instead of trying to “win,” we learn to keep the door open, ask honest questions, and offer timely invitations. If you’ve ever wondered how to walk with someone who’s curious but cautious, this episode offers a field guide. They also cover thresholds of conversion, practical tools like a simple “pick five” intercessory list, and how to speak without jargon so friends actually hear the good news.  Lastly, they talk about when to be bold, when to be quiet, and how prayer reshapes hard conversations. The result is a hopeful picture of evangelization grounded in beauty, truth and real friendship. ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James sit down with Chris Scaperlanda, a father, attorney and friend, to wrestle with Ross Douthat's New York Times article, "An Age of Extinction is Coming. Here's How to Survive," all about how technology dulls desire, rewires dating, and thins out community, then offer concrete ways to choose presence, prayer, and embodied friendship. They strive to offer a grounded, hopeful take on resisting the virtual treadmill and building a human life that lasts. • why distraction deadens desire for God and others • tech as bottleneck replacing real practices with simulations • dating apps, risk, rejection, and thin relationships • McLuhan, Pascal, and the medium shaping attention • junk food analogy for addictive digital design • practical resistance: books, sports, gardens, live music • parenting guardrails and tech-free formation • community as inhale and exhale, parish at the center • prayer off the phone, rhythms that restore attention • ending with “choose life” as a daily practice Article: "An Age of Extinction is Coming. Here's How to Survive.": https://www.nytimes.com/2025/04/19/opinion/extinction-technology-culture.html ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James explore how the FACT framework (Faithful, Available, Contagious, Teachable) serves as both a barometer for disciple readiness and a personal examination tool for those leading others toward Christ. Have you ever wondered what truly makes someone ready to be a disciple-maker? This episode dives deep into the first half of the powerful FACT framework – Faithful and Available – that serves as both a barometer for discipleship readiness and a personal examination tool for spiritual growth. • Faithfulness includes alignment with Church teaching, honest acknowledgment of struggles, and consistent striving toward holiness • Being faithful requires humility and obedience rather than elevating personal opinions above Church teaching • True availability doesn't mean an empty calendar but rather a heart oriented toward what truly matters • Availability means being present in the moment, putting down phones, and prioritizing prayer despite competing demands • Our availability or lack thereof reveals "who we are bowing to" - what we truly worship • A "schedule conversion" may be necessary if we're too busy for prayer and silence • Seeking counsel from trusted friends provides essential perspective on our blind spots • Making even small adjustments can significantly align our lives more closely with Christ's call ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James are joined (again) by Jared Williams, a FOCUS missionary at the University of Memphis, who shares his transformative experience living on mission and the beautiful intersection between personal holiness and evangelization efforts on campus. • Campus outreach strategies including move-in assistance and root beer float stations • "The little way" of evangelization through genuine friendship and authentic relationships • Daily prayer routines incorporating Mass, holy hour, and rosary as the foundation of missionary life • Intercessory prayer as a powerful tool in campus ministry • The rewards of watching students embrace their faith and begin to lead others • Learning to surrender when faced with rejection or unexpected outcomes • How mission transforms the missionary even more than those being served • The inseparable connection between holiness and evangelistic mission • Practical ways anyone can build Catholic community in their parish Ready to take the next step in your faith journey? Look into opportunities like Zeal in Oklahoma City, or simply introduce yourself to someone at your parish you've seen but never met. "You can't expect to have good Catholic community and grow in your faith if you're by yourself." ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James are joined by Josh Paiement to discuss authentic community from its theological roots to practical application in our parishes and ministries. Building real community means moving beyond surface-level gatherings to sharing our authentic selves with one another. • Community finds its origin in the Trinity as the original communion of persons • The root word "communio" combines "with/together" and "gift/service" – pointing to communion as mutual contribution • Authentic community goes deeper than social activities to real relationship and vulnerability • Josh shares his step-by-step approach: meet individuals, befriend them, introduce to others, help them integrate • Taking off our "masks" and being vulnerable is essential but challenging for community building • A major pitfall is the "hot tub mentality" where communities become comfortable but closed and sterile • True community naturally leads to mission – without outward focus, communities stagnate • We need both "breathing in" (receiving formation) and "breathing out" (mission) for healthy community • Personal invitations and investments matter more than large events or programs We invite you to reflect on your own approach to community. Are you keeping people at a surface level, or allowing yourself to be truly known? Consider one relationship you could deepen this week by taking a small step toward greater vulnerability. ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE In this episode, Jayce and James are joined by author and speaker Carrie Gress to share her powerful testimony and discuss faith, family and feminism. Imagine if someone told you that the framework of dignity and equality you've been taught to champion might actually be undermining the very foundations of your faith. In this thought-provoking conversation with author and speaker Carrie Gress, Jayce and James explore the profound tension between feminism and Catholicism that many modern women feel, but struggle to articulate. Through personal stories of evangelizing her own family and navigating the transition from career focus to motherhood, Carrie offers practical wisdom for those trying to live authentic Catholic womanhood in a culture that misunderstands it. She reminds us that evangelization succeeds not through winning arguments but through loving people exactly where they are—a lesson she learned through her own failures. • Carrie's journey from secular Oregon to Catholic faith following her father's death • The challenge of transitioning from individual spirituality to motherhood and finding new ways to pray • How feminism promotes autonomy as an idol while Christianity celebrates relationship and vulnerability • The "shadow church" of feminism with its own theological virtues of envy, contempt, and rage • Why evangelization succeeds through loving people where they are, not through intellectual arguments • The importance of magnanimity for men and rejecting the "fear of discomfort" that enables dysfunction • How Our Lady provides the perfect model of authentic womanhood through humility and surrender • God's providence in preparing Carrie for her mission despite opposition Find more from Carrie at carriegress.com or visit theologyofhome.com for her blog with daily content offering an alternative to the feminist narrative. ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE During this episode, Jayce and James are back! Join as they dive into powerful stories of discipleship and mission through the lens of recent guest interviews, exploring the transformative moments that shape authentic Christian witness and community building. • Bold leadership decisions make space for the lost, as demonstrated by a youth minister who chose struggling teens over volunteer convenience • Creating time and space for authentic response to the gospel is crucial, particularly in retreat settings where distractions are minimized • Having five invested, faith-filled adults in a young person's life significantly increases the likelihood of maintaining faith beyond high school • The "art of Christian living" forms the foundation of effective missionary work, focusing on internal growth that fuels external ministry • Ordinary settings like sports teams and family gatherings provide opportunities to model virtues over outcomes • Observant, intentional relationships create openings for divine encounters, as seen in Weston's six-hour breakfast with Jared • Boldly extending invitations beyond comfort zones often results in unexpected growth and mission opportunities • True discipleship requires scandalous amounts of time and investment that may seem counterproductive but yield profound fruit Jayce also announces that he's leaving the archdiocese for a new position and we wish him all the best! ************ Links and other stuff from the show: Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected] The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa