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Send us Fan Mail Have you ever had one hard day and suddenly started questioning everything about who you are?  Alison explores the difference between a state and an identity, and how the beliefs we formed as children shape the way we think, feel, react, and love as adults. Here's what you'll learn. How to tell the difference between a hard moment and who you really areWhy today's events often wake up old stories instead of creating new onesHow childhood survival strategies like people pleasing, achieving, and humor still run your adult lifeWhat your children are learning from you, even when you think they're not watchingHow to stop punishing yourself and start building evidence for a new storyWhy confidence often comes after you move, not beforeHow to respond to sarcasm and passive communication without getting pulled inYou have the choice to rewrite your story. This episode shows you where to begin. Lager Counseling Services has offices in Wantagh, Bellmore, and Huntington, New York, with virtual sessions across New York and Maryland and a nationwide virtual department on the way. Their approach is built on empowering people, not defining them by a diagnosis. If this episode spoke to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs it today. Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Alison Answers, Alison sits down with Cheryl Donaldson, a therapist, leadership expert, global lecturer, and author of the guided journal Lead From the Soul, for a powerful conversation about what it means to reconnect with your soul and lead your life from that deeper place. Cheryl explains the soul as the truest part of ourselves. The place where we connect to meaning, hope, compassion, courage, clarity, calm, and something bigger than us. Together, Alison and Cheryl talk about the wounds, experiences, conditioning, shame, grief, fear, and protective parts that can cover that place inside of us and make us feel like we have lost ourselves. This conversation is deeply personal for Alison, as she shares what it felt like after losing her husband and realizing there were moments when she could not “get back to Alison.” You’ll hear: What it really means to lead from the soulHow pain, grief, and life experiences can disconnect us from ourselvesWhy healing often begins with compassion, not criticismHow Internal Family Systems can help us understand the parts of us that are trying to protect usWhy some behaviors that look unhealthy may have started as protectionHow therapists, parents, and leaders can hold hope for someone until they can hold it for themselvesWhy connection is essential in parenting, leadership, and healingHow to help children build identity and self-worth from the inside outWhat it means to stop letting outside evidence define who you areHow to begin finding your way back to your truest selfIf you have ever felt buried under grief, shame, anxiety, expectations, or the weight of what life has done to you, this conversation is a reminder that you are still in there. You are not gone. There is a deeper place within you that can still be reached, strengthened, and led from. In this episode: 00:00 What does it mean to lead from the soul? 00:50 Meet Cheryl Donaldson 03:00 Raising emotionally intelligent children 04:48 Getting to the heart of what activates us 07:06 Cheryl’s path into soul work 09:36 When someone needs you to sit with their soul 12:52 What is the soul? 15:04 Alison opens up about losing herself after grief 16:18 How to strengthen the soul 17:58 Holding hope for someone who has lost it 21:38 Leaving your burdens in the room 23:35 Internal Family Systems and soul work 27:34 Understanding the parts that protect us 31:08 Compassion, forgiveness, and self-understanding 34:07 The deeper place beyond yourself 36:19 Living from a surrendered and purposeful state 37:07 Why some people become deeper after pain 39:22 Alison’s viral conversation about suicide 46:04 Finding peace by connecting with the soul 47:46 How leaders can lead from the soul 50:16 Why connection comes before correction 52:21 How childhood labels shape identity 53:31 Choosing how you see your own value 56:05 Breaking the evidence that says you are not enough 01:00:06 A simple way to reconnect with your soul 01:01:43 Alison’s experience meeting her higher self Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail There may be a need right in front of you that you have not noticed yet. A child who needs to be seen. A family carrying more than anyone realizes. A moment that feels small, but could become something much bigger if you choose to act on it. In this episode of Alison Answers, Alison sits down with Luke Mickelson, founder of Sleep in Heavenly Peace, to talk about the moment that changed the direction of his life. Luke had reached success. He had built a good life. But something still felt missing. Then one child’s story opened his eyes to a hidden need in his own community and what began as one simple act of service became a movement that has impacted hundreds of thousands of children and families. This conversation is about so much more than beds. It is about purpose. It is about identity. It is about the children and families we may not see until we are willing to look closer. And it is about how serving someone else can sometimes bring us back to the part of ourselves that has felt lost. You’ll hear: * How one child’s need became the beginning of a global mission * Why success does not always create fulfillment * How service can shift your perspective when you feel stuck or disconnected * Why children cannot carry adult-sized problems alone * How small moments of compassion can become life-changing * What happens when your purpose grows bigger than you * How founders, parents, helpers, and leaders can struggle when their identity begins to shift * Why helping others can awaken healing, meaning, and purpose in your own life If you have ever felt like you should be happy, but still feel like something is missing, this conversation is a reminder that purpose is not always found by searching harder. Sometimes, purpose begins when you notice someone else’s need and decide, “Not on my watch.” Watch the full episode of Alison Answers now. In this episode: 00:00 Success does not always mean fulfillment 02:21 Luke Mickelson and the mission of Sleep in Heavenly Peace 05:41 How Luke’s story began 13:57 The moment he heard children were sleeping without beds 16:05 Why service changes your perspective 23:43 Meeting Haley, the child who changed everything 27:17 Why this became more than just a bed 31:24 How the mission began to grow 37:39 From local project to hundreds of chapters 38:08 Reaching hundreds of thousands of children 39:46 Founder syndrome and losing your identity in the mission 49:33 Why being needed is not the same as being valued 52:47 Redefining your role when your purpose evolves 01:17:28 What to say to someone who feels hopeless 01:19:19 Why service can lead to true happiness 01:20:15 The power of tiny moments 01:25:56 How to get involved 01:29:25 Why your life and your actions matter Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail "Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship?" In this episode of Alison Answers, Alison explores why we can keep repeating the same dating and relationship patterns, even when the names and faces change. This conversation is not about blame. It is about awareness. Alison breaks down how identity, emotional programming, and familiar feelings can shape who we choose, what we tolerate, and why certain relationship patterns keep showing up again and again. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep attracting the same kind of person, why healthy love can feel unfamiliar, or why you find yourself people-pleasing, over-explaining, rescuing, chasing, or settling, this episode will help you look at the pattern with more honesty and compassion. Because the deeper question is not always, “Why does this keep happening to me?” Sometimes it is, “What version of me keeps choosing this?” In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize repeated relationship patterns, understand what your behavior may be pointing to, and begin asking the questions that help you choose from a healthier version of yourself. Watch or listen to the full episode of Alison Answers now. In this episode: 00:00 Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship? 02:28 Identity, pattern recognition, and emotional programming 05:51 Looking at the pattern instead of just the person 07:18 The feelings you keep repeating in relationships 10:23 Why familiar does not always mean healthy 16:05 When calm feels boring and chaos feels like love 21:14 How identity shapes what you tolerate 24:41 Why awareness is only the first step 27:24 Who do I need to become to choose differently? 33:08 Questions to ask yourself about love and identity 36:13 Taking responsibility for your relationships Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail When you look around your life, is it the life you really want to live? In this episode of Alison Answers, Alison talks about what it really takes to create the life you want, and why so many people stay stuck wanting more without ever stepping into it. This episode is about identity, honesty, awareness, and the patterns that quietly shape your results. Because before you can change your life, you have to be willing to look at where you are, get honest about what you want, and ask a deeper question: Who do I need to become to create the life I say I want? If you’ve been feeling stuck, repeating the same patterns, or wanting more but not knowing how to move forward, this episode will help you start seeing your life with more clarity and power. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:17 Is this the life you really want? 03:31 The Whole Life Inventory 05:16 Awareness, acceptance, and action 07:27 Getting honest about what you want 13:03 Meeting the part of you that feels stuck 20:10 Finding the program running your life 23:20 Deciding who you are becoming 28:34 Changing the identity keeping you stuck Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail We all have moments where we don’t feel like ourselves. In this episode of Alison Answers, I’m talking about discouragement, why it can quietly build over time, and what to do when your mind starts focusing more on what’s not working. If you’ve been feeling off, flat, stuck, or disconnected from yourself, this episode will help you pause, reflect, and take one small step back toward you. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 00:35 Feeling discouraged 03:29 When you don’t feel like yourself 05:04 What have I stopped doing? 07:35 The habits that keep you grounded 13:00 You don’t need more information 14:18 The power of movement 16:35 Why simple things change your life 17:24 Why your brain focuses on the negative 20:11 Recording your wins 21:40 Why thinking more is not always the answer 23:40 Joy is medicine 27:58 What to ask when you feel discouraged 29:04 Do the next right thing 31:20 Creating new meaning around painful dates 33:05 Dating, discouragement, and staying open Purchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call” 👉 https://a.co/d/0dVsdKP4 Connect with Alison: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/@alisonanswers/ | https://www.instagram.com/@lagercounseling/ Website: https://www.LagerCounseling.com Facebook: Alison Lager Lcsw Casac Alison Answers Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/alisonanswers Women of Excellence FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenofexcellencechallenge Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail In this solo episode of Alison Answers, I’m answering a question I get asked all the time: "How do I choose the right therapist?" Therapy should not be a place where you simply rehearse your pain every week. A good therapist should help you feel safe, understand yourself more clearly, notice your patterns, and begin building the life you actually want. If you are thinking about starting therapy, looking for a new therapist, or wondering if the therapy you are in is truly helping you grow, this episode will give you a clearer way to choose. You’ll learn what to look for, what to pay attention to, and why the right therapist should help you become more empowered, not more attached to your pain. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 00:41 How do I choose the right therapist? 04:00 Five tips for choosing the right therapist 04:24 A good therapist helps you become empowered 10:58 You should feel safe enough to be honest 20:07 You are not a checklist 22:04 A therapist helps you discover patterns 26:20 A therapist should help you build the life you want 37:06 Closing message Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail This episode is about something I believe quietly destroys more lives than most people realize. It is not always trauma. It is not always failure. It is not always lack of opportunity. Sometimes, it is our unconscious reaction to everything. In this solo episode of Alison Answers, I’m talking about the difference between reacting to life and intentionally creating it. Because so many of us think we are thinking things through, but what we are really doing is reacting. I share insights from my book The Wake Up Call and walk through how we move from reaction mode into creation. In this episode, I talk about: - Why most people are reacting more than they realize - Why worry is a form of visualization - How your brain prepares your body for what you repeatedly focus on - Why fear can start to feel like wisdom - How hypervigilance trains the brain to search for danger - Why calm can feel unsafe when your nervous system is used to chaos - How language shapes identity - Why mediocrity is so expensive - How repeated thoughts become practiced identity - Why creation requires action, not just wishful thinking - How to stop rehearsing fear and start creating the life you actually want If you have been feeling anxious, tired, stuck, uninspired, or like you are constantly reacting to life instead of leading it, I want this episode to be a wake-up call. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:58 Stop reacting and start creating 02:41 The thing quietly destroying people’s lives 03:28 Thinking vs reacting 04:18 Old programming, fear, and childhood conditioning 05:21 Rehearsing disaster and worst-case scenarios 06:40 A tool to calm the body and interrupt reaction 08:26 Reacting to life vs creating it intentionally 09:03 Rehearsed fear vs rehearsed future 10:03 Worry is visualization 11:18 What world is your brain preparing you for? 12:33 How focus strengthens neural pathways 12:57 Hypervigilance and searching for danger 15:08 When rehearsed fear starts to feel like wisdom 17:06 Why people become addicted to reaction 18:53 Why calm can feel unsafe 20:09 Creation requires presence 21:55 Letting go of struggle and seeking wisdom 22:21 Why society rewards mediocrity 23:49 Wanting more does not make you shallow 26:14 How people slowly settle for less 27:47 The real cost of mediocrity 30:01 Identity is built through repetition 30:51 Why language matters 31:55 How to interrupt painful identity patterns 33:30 Creation requires action 35:08 Life is built one thought, one feeling, one breath at a time 37:08 The inherited story vs the consciously created story 38:11 Are you reacting or creating? 39:24 Take charge of your life 39:51 Closing message and how to support the podcast Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve been trying to stop a behavior, break a pattern, or change something about yourself but it keeps coming back, this episode is for you. Maybe it’s people-pleasing. Over-explaining. Avoidance. Anger. Perfectionism. Shutting down. Or a behavior you keep promising yourself you’re done with. But no matter how much you understand it, hate it, or try to force it away, a part of you still goes back to it. In today’s solo episode of Alison Answers, Alison Lager breaks down the psychology behind why some behaviors are so hard to stop, and why what looks like self-sabotage may actually be a protector part trying to keep you safe. This episode invites you to stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking a deeper question: What is this protecting me from? Alison explains why certain behaviors become survival strategies, how the nervous system can mistake change for danger, and why trying to remove a coping strategy too quickly can cause another pattern to take its place. You’ll learn why your body may choose protection over happiness, why willpower alone often isn’t enough, and how to begin meeting these parts of yourself with curiosity instead of shame. By the end of this episode, you’ll understand: - Why “bad behaviors” can be hard to stop even when you want to change - How protector parts form around pain, shame, rejection, and fear - Why your nervous system may resist letting go of old patterns - How people-pleasing, over-explaining, anger, avoidance, and perfectionism can become protection - Why attacking the behavior can make shame worse - Why removing a coping strategy too early can backfire - The question that can help you understand what the behavior is really protecting - How to let your adult self, higher self, or grounded self lead instead of the scared part - Why healing begins with safety, not self-attack If you’ve been beating yourself up for the same pattern over and over, this episode will help you see it differently. Maybe the behavior is not the whole story. Maybe the pattern has a purpose. Maybe the part of you you keep fighting was once the part trying to save you. Watch the full episode of Alison Answers to understand the psychology behind why you can’t just stop bad behaviors, and what your nervous system may be trying to protect. In this episode 00:00 Intro 01:05 What protector parts are 02:36 Why attacking the behavior can backfire 03:26 What happens when a protector is removed too soon 05:49 Why coping strategies need to be understood first 06:26 Why the protector part is rarely the enemy 06:53 Protector parts as exhausted bodyguards 09:04 How unhealthy behaviors can regulate the nervous system 09:27 Perfectionism, anger, people-pleasing, over-explaining, and dissociation 10:32 Why there may be nothing “wrong” with you 11:20 What to do instead of attacking the behavior 12:23 Questions to ask your protector part 13:15 Why the goal is not to destroy the protector 14:51 Using visualization to understand younger parts 16:03 Letting the adult self lead 18:07 Why the behavior is not the whole story 18:40 Getting out of the thinking brain and into the body 20:29 Awareness without judgment 21:20 Learning to ask yourself better questions 21:45 Becoming steady, grounded, and peaceful Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail Victoria Volk went from a lifetime of “healthy positivity” and people‑pleasing to realizing she was carrying deep, unprocessed grief, emotional neglect, and unresolved relationships trapped in her body and energy field. In this episode, you’ll see how childhood loss, emotional hunger, and years of over‑functioning shaped her life and how her grief‑recovery method “Do Grief Differently,” Human Design, and biofield tuning helped her finally drop the “backpack of rocks” she’d been carrying. You’ll learn how to stop confusing constant movement with strength, why people‑pleasing and perfectionism often hide unfinished grief, and how the same emotional themes keep showing up in love, work, and identity until you finally face them. Watch this if: 👉 You feel spiritually or emotionally “blocked” under your sternum (solar plexus) despite your success 👉 You keep repeating the same relationship patterns or feel unseen in your wisdom 👉 You struggle with approval, loneliness, or people‑pleasing without knowing why 👉 You experience grief from sudden loss, suicide, divorce, or emotional neglect 👉 You want to understand how your childhood losses shape your adult energy, boundaries, and healing You’ll walk away with: ✅ A clearer understanding of how childhood and emotional loss shape adult relationships and energy ✅ A practical way to map your history of loss and find the core relationships that hold your pain ✅ Insight into how Projectors and other Human Design types are built to heal, not to hustle ✅ A new perspective on forgiveness that doesn’t require confrontation with the other person ✅ Tools to notice how your body and energy field respond to grief, energetic work, and service ✅ A deeper sense that there is nothing to fix Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail Victoria Volk went from being the ultimate "strong friend" and a functional binge drinker to realizing she was trapped by a low-level frequency of unresolved childhood grief. In this episode, you’ll see how losing her father at age eight, experiencing early trauma, and stepping into an adult emotional caretaker role at a young age shaped her life and how excavating her past, breaking generational patterns, and mastering sound healing helped her finally break free. You’ll learn how to stop confusing a busy life with a healed life, why being the shoulder everyone cries on often hides your own deep pain, and how unprocessed emotional wounds act like a silent background hum, sabotaging your health, habits, and relationships until you look them in the face. Watch this if: 👉 You are always the "strong one" everyone leans on, but you secretly feel empty or unsupported. 👉 You use alcohol, work, or busywork to numb a constant, low-level anxiety in the background. 👉 You’ve noticed that your friends or family get uncomfortable or distance themselves when you start changing. 👉 You want to understand how childhood losses (beyond just death) silently dictate your adult choices. You’ll walk away with: ✅ A radical new definition of grief that explains why you might be mourning lost dreams or expectations. ✅ The chilling reason why 75% of your adult emotional responses were already hardwired by the time you turned three. ✅ Insight into how emotional trauma physically stores itself in the body, and how sound frequencies can clear it. ✅ A raw, honest framework for becoming a generational chain-breaker so your children don't inherit your wounds. Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail Alison Lager reveals why your brain may be creating the conflict you think you are trying to solve. In this episode of Alison Answers, Alison explains the neuroscience behind perception, relationships, emotional reactions, and personal transformation. She breaks down why the brain does not simply record reality, but constructs it through past experiences, emotional states, beliefs, expectations, and unconscious filters. This is why two people can be in the same room, have the same conversation, and still walk away with completely different versions of what happened. Alison explains how this shows up in marriage, parenting, friendships, work, and everyday conflict. Instead of trying to prove who is right, she teaches how to slow down, take accountability for your inner world, and ask questions that create clarity instead of defensiveness. She also shares the principle of Kaizen, a Japanese concept rooted in small, consistent improvement. Alison explains how 1% daily shifts can change your habits, relationships, mindset, home, emotional responses, and life over time. In this episode, Alison explains: ◼️ Why your brain does not record reality  ◼️ How your past shapes what you think is happening now  ◼️ Why two people can experience the same event differently  ◼️ Why couples get stuck arguing over whose version is “true”  ◼️ How to stop the attack-and-defend cycle  ◼️ Why better questions create better relationships  ◼️ How to take accountability for your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs  ◼️ Why Kaizen is one of the most powerful ways to change your life  ◼️ How small 1% improvements compound over time  ◼️ Why waiting for a breakthrough may be keeping you stuck  ◼️ How to shift from living in the problem to living in the solution  ◼️ Why love is power, discipline, structure, and choice If you have ever felt misunderstood, defensive, stuck in conflict, or overwhelmed by the size of the change you want to make, this episode will help you see your relationships and your life through a clearer lens. The way you see things may feel true, but it may not be the whole truth. And one small shift today may be the beginning of a completely different life. Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail Angela Goodman went from looking like she had it all together to realizing she was deeply lonely, driven by approval, and trapped in repeating relationship patterns. In this episode, you’ll see how childhood divorce, emotional neglect, control, and years of over-performing shaped her life and how self-awareness, faith, and pattern recognition helped her finally break free. You’ll learn how to stop confusing success with healing, why people-pleasing often hides deeper pain, and how the same emotional wounds keep showing up in love, work, and identity until you finally face them. Watch this if: 👉 You feel successful on the outside but empty on the inside 👉 You keep attracting the same relationship patterns 👉 You struggle with approval, loneliness, or people-pleasing 👉 You want to understand how childhood wounds affect adult choices You’ll walk away with: ✅ A clearer understanding of how childhood shapes adult relationships ✅ A better way to recognize emotional triggers and repeating patterns ✅ Insight into why overworking and performing can hide deep loneliness ✅ A more honest view of healing, growth, and self-awareness Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail Ronald Zion Roseboro shares how trauma, wrongful accusation, prison, and years of silence shaped his life and how he turned pain into purpose through healing, faith, and a shame-free path forward. You’ll hear why so many men stay trapped in silence, how sexual addiction often masks deeper wounds, and what it really takes to break free and rebuild. Watch this if: 👉 You want to understand the hidden trauma behind addiction and shame 👉 You’ve struggled with silence, pain, or emotional suppression 👉 You care about men’s mental health, healing, and restoration 👉 You want a raw, honest conversation about purpose after suffering You’ll walk away with: ✅ A deeper understanding of how childhood trauma affects adult behavior ✅ Insight into why men often hide pain instead of asking for help ✅ A clearer view of how sexual addiction can be rooted in unmet emotional needs ✅ A powerful reminder that healing begins when silence ends Watch on YouTube [https://youtu.be/rWUrvGNYyEk] or listen on your favorite podcast platform! Check the links on my bio! Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

Send us Fan Mail Chelsea Horton, somatic powerhouse and Healing Embodied founder, transformed burnout and family chaos into body-led freedom—shaking out shame, pole-dancing past judgment, and sniffing trauma lies with 10-minute emotion shifts that bypass talk-therapy traps. Alison (her eating disorder shake-free moment as proof) dives in for raw somatic demos, child protection truths, and play-powered hacks: fingertip neutrality to "cringe" outfit confidence. No BS—just energy-in-motion magic proving your body's the real healer. Watch if: 👉 Trauma, anxiety, or eating disorders trap you in head-stories, not body wisdom 👉 Sexual abuse shame whispers "your body betrayed you"—time to uncouple it 👉 Parents/kids: You're forcing "no's" or outfits, killing their self-trust early 👉 People-pleasing suffocates your silly—crave pole-dance-level freedom now You’ll gain: ✅ Somatic starter: "If this emotion borrowed your body, how would it move?" (Instant unstuck) ✅ Neutrality bridge: Rub fingertips first—rewire "enemy body" to living ally ✅ Kid-proofing: Normalize choice ("Your fault? Never") without forcing disclosure ✅ Inner bestie hack: Feel judgment discomfort—hold yourself, no contort needed Connect with Alison: Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources: Lager Counseling Services Call: 516-221-2123 Text: (914) 363-0381 Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential) Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org