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There's a quote by Pearl Bailey that says, "A crown, if it hurts, is not worth wearing." We've taken the label "selfless" and turned it into a crown that inevitably hurts us; a badge of honor that dishonors our own needs and desires. Understand, there is no honor in having little to no concern for one's self and focusing on the needs and warfare of others. How can you adequately take care of anyone if you are falling apart? You can't. You're doing yourself and the people are trying to love a disservice by deprioritizing yourself to make them happy and comfortable, because the more you do, the more is expected. This lesson is about making yourself a priority again and letting people figure it out. Not being careless, but caring less about what everyone else needs are before you care about your own. Let's get into it!

Making love is better when you're naked, but so is sharing love. Have you ever been skin to skin WITH intention with a person you love? This is a feeling that not much compares to. Imagine that feeling in emotional and mental forms. Not just skin uncovered, but hearts unguarded, souls unhidden; two people present enough to be completely seen. Naked in love is skin without layers, nothing hidden, nothing between you and the other person. The deeper nakedness; the kind where the soul is uncovered. In this lesson, we’ll explore what it means to share love from a place of true vulnerability, and how we begin the journey of getting there, there being NAKED. Let's get into it.

Since the beginning of time, girls and women have been split into two impossible categories and identities: the Good Girl  and the Bad Girl. The "good girl" - she's obedient, self-sacrificing, and pleasing and the "bad girl" - she's rebellious, outspoken, risky, and “too much.” Me, Indie, I was the "Bad Girl." However, most women carry both inside of us, but we naturally, and sometimes forcefully, lean more into one or the other depending on who we are at our core and the expectations of our environments. They both come with their own set of stigmas, shame, and judgement, so we actually never win when we stay in this confines of these expectations. This lesson explores how these inner identities are formed through natural propensity, family expectations and dynamics, experiences, culture, religion, relationships, and survival; how they silently shape our choices in love, work, self-worth, and so much more. We'll also discuss how we break out of these CAGES and finally get free! Let's get into it!

Let’s talk CAPACITY and BOUNDARIES! Let’s be real here… they are the unsung heroes of every healthy relationship and an overall healthy life! How many times have you modified your capacity or altogether axed your boundaries to accommodate other people? How did that end? Terrible? I know. Same! In this episode, we’re going to have a little conversation about a big problem plaguing people, women and men, universally. Learning to protect your capacity by setting boundaries and sticking to them, even when it’s inconvenient. This is the lesson we all NEED to learn in order to have healthy relationships with ourselves and others. Let’s get into it!

After a two-year hiatus, we are officially back!! Ready to teach, share, and continue learning the life lessons that really matter. It only felt right to start with an open conversation about where I’ve been… and whew, chile. Life has been LIFE-ing, and the lessons have been lessoning all across my universe. In this episode, we’re simply catching up. From professional shifts, to motherhood, to the deeply personal, I’m sharing it all, candidly, before we dive back into the lessons ahead. Let’s get into it!

In this episode we take a look at what expectations really are and look for the answers to the question, "do expectations ruin relationships?" I hear and read so much about how expectations ruin relationships. When I first read and heard this, I thought that it was very misleading and more harmful to our happiness within relationships. So, I decided to really look into what expectations really are and after reading, I thought to myself, is it expectations alone that ruin relationships or is it unhealthy, unfair, & unrealistic expectations that destroy and ravage relationships? This is where standards come in. Setting a foundation for what we know we need and desire in relationships. Our standards become guides that lead us to what we want and what we don't want. Listen and let's get into it!

In this episode we talk about the influence of LOVE & FREEDOM! There are so many things that we build hope and fidelity in. This includes people, relationships, careers, even our own bodies and abilities, but today we’re going to focus on people and relationships. We make space for people out of need, desire, connection, companionship, attraction, and compatibility, right? We spend time getting to know people and we trust, we place our reliance on and in them and move with the presumption they’re being honest about who they say they are and what they say they want and how they say they feel. That's a huge risk, but we take it anyway! Why?? Because, it is our human nature to desire love; to give it and to receive it. Let's get into it with this lesson!

In this episode we discuss The Journey Back To Ourselves. Where does it start? WHY does it start? How do we recognize when we’ve lost ourselves? What are the indicators? One night I was journaling about some experiences that I was going through and attempting to understand and conceptualize the feelings I was having, which lead to me ask myself all of the aforementioned questions. I, then, went on to write down eight questions that opened so many things up for me and I'm sharing those things with you in this lesson. Have your notebook and your pen ready. You'll need to write these down to ask yourself!

In this episode, we discuss intimacy. What is intimacy? Do you create intimacy, do you invite it, or does it naturally happen through connection? What does it mean? How does it look? How does it feel? What are the initiators of true intimacy? What is false intimacy and what are the signs of false intimacy? Intimacy is one of the most overused, while being simultaneously misused, words in the world right now. We think intimacy means sex, we’ve deduced and reduced it to something explicitly physical and sexual when intimacy, in its most euphoric form, is not limited to the physical at all. If anything, it causes the physical and sexual side of itself to manifest in a much more gratifying, sensual, and passionate way. There is so much pleasure in TRUE intimacy, right? But, have you ever experienced the betrayal of false intimacy? We're going to talk about both the beauty and the beast of both in this episode.

Welcome to Season 4 of the Life Lessons Podcast! We're starting this season off where everything starts: CHOICE! And, in order to make a choice, you first have to have a made-up mind. So many of US don't realize we don't make choices with CONSCIOUS INTENTION! Our choices are often made out of desperation and short term relief. Question: how often have you made choices without even processing the picture that you would like to see the choice develop? When you're taking a picture, you pose based on what you want to see reflected back after the moment is gone and the picture is taken. You choose your expression, your background, your garb based on what you want to be translated from your mind and the moment to the picture, right? We have to start using this same principle when it comes to life choices. First thinking and considering what we want see when we "look back at it." Then, only placing ourselves in positions and around things that yield the best outcome or sketch what we foresaw in our minds. Making sure the outcomes match the desires! Making choices that feed your passions, not your phobias. Let's talk about it.

We all have experiences in life, some good some challenging, however we don't have to allow those experiences to dictate what we expect and the results we receive. It may have gone this way last time the experience happened, but that doesn't mean it HAS to go the same way when it comes back around. In this episode, I speak about the lessons I have learned in marriage, divorce, and primary parenting and the importance of  finding those lessons in the things we experience and then being adamant about changing our fate.

In this episode, I talk about learning to keep moving when we need to and also learning to trust and let go when we need to. Sometimes, we feel the need to control things and hold them. We fear what might happen if we let go, even for a moment. Surrender takes more strength than movement in some moments. Yet, as we surrender, we find ourselves being able to hear more clearly. When we float, when we trust the foundation underneath us, we can find peace and answers there.

In this episode I Am discussing the inevitability of relationships/partnerships. Do you believe it is predestined and almost certain that your relationships will start off great, yet experience inescapable declination? Are we stuck in a continuum of defeat no matter who we are having the experience with? I deeply believe in the ability and strength of Love. To me, it is the infinite power of God, that is with and within us. Even though I've experienced heartbreak, betrayal, and divorce I still trust in Love and believe that I will experience it in it's fullest.   I also speak on the need for us to become more proactive instead of reactive when it comes to matters of the heart. Being just as visionary with relationships as we are with careers. Having the same expectations of growth and success for our current partnerships as we do our currency. I believe when you find the right fit, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE TO THEM THAT BELIEVE. I believe the potential for that relationship does not come without opposition, but the opportunity is greater depending, on your focus. What you SEE, is what you GET. What are you looking FORWARD to? Greatness or grief? Take a listen.

In this episode I go a little further into my experiences with divorce and some of the reasons. DIVORCE IS NOT THE EASY WAY OUT. It's such a painful experience for you and if there's kids involved, it's even deeper. But, sometimes, you have to put away the fear of "what if" and be more afraid of "what is." I was more afraid of things being the same way they'd been for the past 6 years, than I was about how they would be for the next 6 if I didn't make the choice to choose myself. I Am not a divorce advocate, I Am an advocate of self-love, self-preservation, self-appreciation, true happiness, and fulfillment. My life, your life, our lives should be joyful. We should be experiencing connections that bring us closer to ourselves, not further away. Being the mother of 2 girls, I understood the importance of not only telling my daughters they need to love and stand up for themselves, but also the importance of showing them what that looks like, even when the choice is hard.

Welcome back to the Life Lessons PodCLASS! This season I will be sharing my experiences and the lessons I've acquired through those experiences over the past year. This first episode is about my journey into PRIMARY PARENTING. How I've had to learn a new way of parenting and living, altogether. How I've had to navigate my own healing while trying to help and nurture my girls through their own. Finding ways to help my oldest daughter release the things she's felt through this process has been paramount for me and also a HUGE lesson on not needing to be the "good guy." I share tips and advise other women/men who are in the thick of primary parenting, and those who may have friends, siblings, or extended family members that may be trying to find a balance with it.  Welcome Back! Class is in session!