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Have you ever wanted to seek help to improve intimacy, only to be held back by some fears?  This is very common, and is sadly that thing that keeps us stuck and keeps us from feeling closer to our spouse faster. Listen in on today's episode where we dive into the top 5 fears that prevent improvement in the challenging topic of intimacy.  These are the fears that my clients wish they would have addressed sooner... before things got so bad that they were just feeling desperate and even considering divorce.

Have you ever wondered what contributes to having the best sex ever?  While we might think it comes when we fulfill a checklist of sorts, it might come as a surprise that it can happen under even the most challenging and unexpected circumstances. Listen in as we take a closer look at some of the surprising elements that led to such an experience.  It was not planned in advance and it did not involve any elaborate or large romantic gestures.  But it did come through the process of two adults actually facing some hard challenges in their life.  Don't miss out on what you could be putting into your life to create more opportunities for the best sex ever!

Do you know what the most researched topic is when it comes to Valentine's Day?  It might not be what you think it is.  With all that is going on in the world today, people seem to be wanting to get back to their roots, and are wondering what love really is. Listen in as we remind ourselves with love really is, the things that might sabotage it during Valentine's Day, and what we can do to feel the love even more.  Don't limit love, but instead, put more into your week on purpose with the following 5 tips!

Have you ever felt like you were longing for a little bit more from you intimate experience?  If so, you are not alone.  In a world of instant gratification, it should come as no surprise when we sometimes feel like something is lacking that may require just a little more of our time. Listen in on today's episode where we explore how sexy it is to slow the intimate experience down, include the senses, and involve the brain as well as the body.  Heightening the journey to pleasure can be a total turn on for women and can help to increase the level of fulfillment experienced.

Did you know that there is a National Spouse's Day?  Don't worry, I didn't know either, until very recently.  But how cool is that?  This is not the same as Valentine's Day.  Since most people don't even know about it, there aren't any expectations to plan elaborate romantic dates or buy expensive gifts. It's just a day to celebrate your spouse.  You can choose to celebrate any amazing aspect about them.  We get to tap into our creativity and celebrate any way we want. Listen in on today's episode as we share some quick and easy ways to include this fun and unique holiday into our lives.  And you never know, adding some fun and spontaneous celebrations might be just the thing that our relationship needs to get the sparks ignited again.     

Have you ever wondered why so many wives don't seem to have as strong of a desire for sex as their husband?  While a huge difference in their natural and normal  hormone levels does exist, there is often a different kind of connection that is missing. It's interesting to note that while husbands and wives are pretty much having the same amount of sex with each other, the husbands are experiencing much more pleasure than their wife... leading them to want to have more of it.  Sadly, their wife is having a less than pleasurable experience, leading her to want to have less of it. But it doesn't need to be that way.  Listen in on today's episode where we dive deep into the connection between the pleasure we are having during sex, how it creates the desire for more of it, and how a missing chemical reaction in the brain could easily be at the heart of it all! 

Have you ever felt like certain parts of you were being ignored by your spouse while other parts were getting all the attention?  It's fairly common to have thoughts like this from time to time and it can easily lead to us feeling a bit down in the dumps. Listen in as we dive just a little bit deeper into what it actually means to be ignored and what we can do when we feel we need more attention than we're getting.  The options available to us on how we can respond are pretty simple and easy to implement. And to make things even better, we will also take a closer look at what it means to be ignited about something... even certain aspects about ourselves.  Being ignited is a much more fun experience and certainly a much more empowering approach to our relationships.

Have you ever found yourself feeling used by your spouse?   It's not a fun feeling.  For a lot of women, they often feel like they are being used by their husband for sex.  And for many husbands, they feel like they are being used for their money. But what if that is not actually the case?  Sadly, we can easily think these kinds of negative thoughts and make assumptions and interpretations about our spouse that just aren't true.   This just leaves us feeling miserable. Listen in on today's episode where we take a closer look at what the world tells us to do when we are faced with a situation like this, and then we will explore a more effective coach-approach.  Let's go!

Have you ever held back your dreaming when it comes to your marriage or intimacy?  Sometimes, we do this is as a way to protect ourselves... hoping to avoid getting hurt, just in case they don't come true. And then sadly, over time, we often stop dreaming all together.  And when we stop dreaming, it can become harder to take positive steps to improve things.  We can then lose the joy that we once experienced in our relationship. Listen in on today's episode where we take a closer look at what it means to dream, what it means to bring the FUN to those dreams, and some simple steps we can take to make the whole process more enjoyable.  Let's dream big for 2024!

Did you know that there are three stages of marriage?  While many people have heard about the love languages or the seasons of marriage, we may not be as familiar with the stages of marriage.  Not to worry. Listen in on today's episode where we will define and explore these three stages.  There are some simple signs that will help us learn if we are feeling stuck in one of the stages and are operating from a place of resentment and resignation. Learn the signs and what to do when you feel stuck.  Marriage can be better than it is right now, and a coach-approach can make all the difference.  

Have you ever felt like something was missing from your intimate experience?  If so, you are not alone.  This happens to most couples from time to time and is totally normal. Listen in on today's episode where we take a closer look at the reproductive systems of men and women, where they line up (or should we say where they don't line up), and why its easier for men the be pumped and primed and ready for action. Discover why things are bit more challenging for women when it comes to arousal and learn what to focus on so that the female pleasure system can get fair representation in the experience.  This small but significant shift make a huge difference!

Have you ever felt overwhelmed or weighed down by the challenges you are facing with intimacy?  Maybe, as you start to think about the lack of interest in sex or the lack of initiating it, you realize that it leads to thinking about how unfair things seem to be, which leads to thinking about another negative aspect of the intimate experience.  And before long, it all seems too big and too complicated to solve. If you have ever felt this way, you are not alone.  Its actually quite common and normal.  The challenge we will face when we feel overwhelmed or weighed down is that we will get stuck, almost paralyzed, not knowing where to start making improvements... which usually means that we don't start at all. But today is the day that all of that changes!  Listen in on today's episode where we discuss how easy it is to start and where to start.  This momentum can become very powerful.  As you start to feel the relief of knowing where to start, you will be naturally motivated to take the next step needed to improve your intimacy challenges.