Advertise on podcast: Boldly Becoming You Podcast

Are you exhausted by constantly feeling like you're behind? In your life, your health, your business goals…there's NEVER 'enough' time. But what if we told you… Feeling behind isn't actually about time. And it's not solved by "getting caught up". There are multiple layers of urgency wired into your mind-body loop and in this episode we dig into one of them that shows up in perfectionism frequently. It's about all the invisible parts and pieces of your daily life that "steal focus" and aren't accounted for when you look back at your productivity for the day. The goals you didn't know you had, the open loops and the "normal" parts of life that actually take up a lot of mental, emotional and even physical space. We have a simple 10 minute exercise toward the end for you to see where some of these moments have occurred for you. Brandon describes his 'wipe off' lol regulation technique (he's gonna smother me for calling it that here 😂) There is also a weird audio issue for the last 5 minutes of the episode so we apologize for the wonky volume issues and static.  If you want to get on the waitlist for the fall 2026 Boldly Becoming You Workshop, DM us WAITLIST so you get early access to deals and can save the date as soon as we know.

You want more money and you've thought about it a hundred times but are terrified to say it out loud, and today we get into exactly why. This episode is about the belief that making real money will turn you into someone gross, corrupt, or unrecognizable, that quiet story that's been hijacking your income without your permission. We talk about the specific rules perfectionists and high achievers carry about money, why "enough" keeps moving the second you hit it, and the different ways money trauma gets passed down to women versus men. Brandon gets honest about the money he made and got rid of just so he wouldn't have to feel like a slimy person. You'll walk away with one specific thing to say out loud today, and it's going to feel more uncomfortable than you think it should but SO eye opening. Unshakeable Entrepreneur is open now for our last cohort of the year, DM us if this conversation lands for you. Follow us on Instagram or Facebook to connect on recovering from burnout, to unfollow the rules that don't serve you and build a foundation that makes your success in business and creativity inevitable

Profit Over Perfectionism Workshop REPLAY We walked through: ✅ Exercise 1: Why your to-do list makes your chest tighten before you've even started — and what your body is telling you about "lazy" and "behind" that has nothing to do with either ✅ Exercise 2: The real capacity audit — where your CLCs are quietly draining hours you've been budgeting like they don't exist ✅ Exercise 3: The difference between income-producing activities and the busy work that just makes you feel productive — plus the one boundary most of you have never let yourself set You'll walk away knowing exactly where perfectionism and burnout show up in your body, why "just do it scared" has never worked for you, and what to do the moment you feel yourself stall out. Timestamps 00:00 - Welcome + why we built this workshop 05:00 - The math behind how fast a sale actually closes 11:00 - What we're covering (and why "do it scared" advice never worked) 16:00 - Exercise 1: Body-Based To-Do List Check-In 22:00 - The Four Perfectionism Stress Responses 28:00 - Why Mindset Work Alone Has Never Fixed This 42:00 - Exercise 2: Real Capacity Baseline Audit 53:00 - Exercise 3: The Boundaries Audit 1:08:00 - Recap + the real reason you keep abandoning your to-do list 1:14:00 - Introducing Unshakeable Entrepreneur Important Links: Ready to take this past a 90-minute workshop? Get on the list for Unshakeable Entrepreneur, our next cohort kicks off soon. DM us CURIOUS to chat about what that looks like

This is a deep dive for coaches, service providers, entrepreneurs and creatives who use social media to sell their body of work. By the end of this episode, you'll know exactly why you can write the sales post and still not hit publish - and it's not because you're lazy, or undisciplined, or need a better planner. Trust us, we tried the planner. For years.  You'll walk away actually knowing how many touchpoints it takes for someone to buy from you (spoiler: way more than one Story), why your first launch attempt is allowed to be a s****y first draft, and why quitting on day 10 might mean you bailed right before the moment someone was finally ready to say yes. Fair warning: there's a Darren Hardy joke Brandon refuses to elaborate on, and a rant about "the last minute" that will genuinely wreck your launch-day anxiety, in the best way.   Grab your seat at the Profit Over Perfectionism Workshop here DM us the word PROFIT on Instagram or Facebook and we'll send you the link.

This episode is a real-time look at what happens when you stop planning for your calendar and start planning for your capacity.   Tasha walks through how she timed a hard task around her cycle and her nervous system instead of muscling through it, and Brandon breaks down why soothing yourself and actually stabilizing yourself are two completely different things.    You'll hear the two questions they use to help them move forward when business, life and their health are challenging, and why most people never even ask them.  If you've ever had "enough" time but still couldn't get the thing done - listen to this one today  DM us CURIOUS to chat about The Unshakeable Entrepreneur, our 4 month small group coaching program to build a business that doesn't fall apart every time real life happens.

If you're staring at the back half of 2026 and convinced everyone else is six steps ahead of you, start this episode today.    Brandon and I walk you through the 4 questions we ask every business owner with a goal and a complex life    If things aren't going according to plan and the only solution you can come up with is to "do more", "work harder", "pull longer hours", or "just start over" …   …these 4 questions are the mid-year audit you need  DM us the word SUMMER on Instagram or Facebook and we'll send you the 4 questions to keep on hand

I was 37 years old, bedbound, and absolutely furious that I had spent 15 years jumping through hoops for rules I never agreed to and had nothing to show for it.   That rage is where Rules & Rebellion started. The moment I realized the thing I actually loved doing had nothing to do with the makeup, the heels, the performing, any of it. And Brandon looking around at the life we'd worked so hard for and asking, why in the world would we ever want to go back to a place that got us here?   This episode is about how Rules & Rebellion started and evolved to what we do today. What we were really looking for when we started this. Why every version of the business has looked different. And what finally made it click when we stopped trying to make someone else's blueprint work for our actual life.   Seven years, a lot of iterations, and more than a few things we built that we realized later we didn't even want, that's what we get into today.   DM us the word CURIOUS on Instagram or Facebook and we can chat about The Unshakeable Entrepreneur.

If you've ever rewritten a sales email eleven times, let a brilliant content idea rot in your notes app, or word-vomited through an entire discovery call trying to prevent a question nobody asked yet, this episode is going to make a lot of things click. The sales email you can't send, the post you can't publish, the price you over-explained before anyone complained, that's not a discipline problem or a character flaw. That's your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do under high stakes. And in business, every income-producing activity can feel like high stakes. We get into the four specific flavors of perfectionism that show up in business, including the sneaky one that high achievers almost never recognize in themselves, and why knowing about them isn't enough to change them. This episode is especially a must-listen if you're a coach, healer, or service provider who knows what they're doing, shows up for every client, and still can't figure out why the business side keeps feeling like crap. Make sure to register for our free Profit Over Perfectionism Workshop, on June 30th at 10 AM PST DM us the word PROFIT on Instagram or Facebook and we'll send you the link or grab your seat here

The last two weeks were a lot, demanding but the good kind of hard, the kind you actually work toward for years. If you've ever looked at your life and thought, I am doing everything right and I am still completely wrecked, why is this so hard? Push play now. Brandon and I pulled back the curtain on what it actually looks like to run a business, show up for your kids, navigate your own health, and try to take care of yourself all at the same time, without pretending any of it was graceful. There's something we talk about in this episode that I don't think gets enough airtime: the moment you realize a goal you've been holding onto has to go on the shelf for a bit, not because you failed, but because something bigger needed your WHOLE attention. And what happens in your nervous system when you finally let yourself do that. Brandon gets real about something he's been quietly navigating for a long time, and why taking it seriously right now is one of the hardest things he's done, harder, he says, than getting sober.  We talk about what it costs to add one new thing to a life that's already full, why "just do the healthy thing" is some of the most tone-deaf advice on the planet, and what it actually looks like to make decisions from your values instead of your anxiety when your CLC score is through the roof. This one's raw and if you're a high-achieving entrepreneur trying to figure out how to not lose your shit, or yourself while your life is actively demanding everything you've got, we get it. DM PROFIT on IG or FB to register for our free Profit Over Perfectionism Workshop on June 30 Compression socks I mentioned: https://vimvigr.com/

You're running a business through summer while managing a complex life, and you're already anxious about the next three months, the guilt, the interrupted routines, the pressure to be present everywhere at once and have the MOST fun ever? Push play now.  You've felt like this about summer for years because no one told us this 3 months needs a completely different plan than the rest of the year AND one built for your actual capacity.  Brandon and I dig into why desire and capacity are not the same thing, why your nervous system regulation practice is always the first thing to go when the schedule gets unpredictable, and how to build a summer that moves your business forward without showing up to September like you survived a natural disaster. Consistent doesn't have to mean rigid, and a good summer doesn't have to mean you abandoned yourself to have one.  For the entrepreneur who wants to show up for their life and their business this summer, without holding their breath that they didn't enough of the "right" things in either one - make sure you call all 3 specific tips. DM CLC score on Instagram or Facebook and they'll send you the free PDF so you can find out where you land. DM START for the Guide on How to Start Hard Conversations DM CURIOUS to learn more about The Unshakeable Entrepreneur 2026 summer cohort  Connect with us on Instagram and Facebook

If your life is genuinely more complicated than most business advice was built for, this episode is going to feel like someone finally said it out loud. We get into what it actually looks and feels like to run a business when you're managing chronic illness, a neurodivergent brain, kids with their own CLCs, unpredictable energy, and a body that doesn't operate the way the productivity world assumes everyone's body operates. Because nobody talks about this: the more Complex Life Circumstances you're carrying, the more invisible labor you're doing every single day before you even open your laptop. And most of the burnout advice out there was never built for the math of your real life In this episode, we talk about: What Complex Life Circumstances actually are and why the stack matters more than any one thing on its own Why it feels so much harder for you than you think it should, and why that's not you being dramatic The real cost of not accounting for your CLCs in your business decisions (we've lived this) What changes when you stop pretending your life and body operate like someone who doesn't have your CLCs Capacity-based decisions, client load limits, and why fewer offers is often the smarter move The ripple effect of unpredictable energy on your relationships, date nights, family plans, the guilt loop Why acknowledging your CLCs is not the same as complaining about them The homework: pick one CLC this week and just watch where it's showing up and how it impacts other parts of life and business, no judgment This episode comes with a listener homework assignment and a free CLC checklist. DM us "CLC checklist" at @rulesandrebellion and we'll send it to you. If you've ever cancelled plans because a work day used everything you had, or watched your business goals get derailed by something nobody else could see, this one is for you.   Ready to stop building a business that doesn't account for the life you're actually living? 👉🏼Learn more about Unshakeable Entrepreneur: DM CURIOUS 👉🏼Book a clarity call: 30 min chat 👉🏼Free CLC checklist: DM @rulesandrebellion "CLC checklist" 👉🏼Follow us on IG @rulesandrebellion and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion

Your business problem probably isn't a business problem. That's where we start this episode If you've bought the programs, followed the frameworks, tried to stay consistent, and you're still hitting the same wall... the issue was misdiagnosed from the start.  What looks like a strategy problem, a consistency problem, or a mindset problem is almost always a dysregulated nervous system problem. And no amount of content calendars or launch plans is going to fix that. They get into all of it in this episode - including what it actually took for them to stop pouring money into the wrong solution, what was really happening those years they couldn't get themselves to complete the last 20% of every program they bought, and why "doing it scared" and "doing it terrified" are two completely different things that the business coaching world consistently fails to distinguish.   In this episode: Why your business problem is probably a nervous system regulation problem - and how to tell the difference The misdiagnosis that costs burned-out entrepreneurs thousands of dollars and years of momentum What happened when Tasha and Brandon finally got regulated enough to stop buying programs and start actually using them The 20% of tasks you keep avoiding - and what's actually behind that pattern Why you can't fix your messaging, your content, or your launch strategy from a dysregulated nervous system How chronic illness, ADHD, and complex life circumstances completely change what "doing the work" looks like - and why most programs are built for people who don't have any of those things The four perfectionism patterns that keep high-achieving entrepreneurs stuck in survival mode A real example from inside The Unshakeable Entrepreneur of how nervous system regulation rippled into a client's health, her business, and her capacity to finally advocate for herself with her doctor Download the Four Perfectionism Patterns guide in the show notes to start identifying which stress response patterns are showing up in your business — and what to do about them. Unshakeable Entrepreneur is opening soon - a small, intimate group program for burned-out entrepreneurs ready to stop treating the wrong problem.  DM us "curious" on Instagram to start a conversation. No pitch, no pressure. Follow us: on IG @rulesandrebellion  On Facebook

If you've tried every productivity system out there and still feel like you're failing at your own goals, this episode is for you. Tasha sits down with ADHD coach, Bianca Faricy, to get real about why neurotypical goal-setting frameworks don't work for ADHD brains, what burnout recovery actually looks like when you're neurodivergent, and how emotion-first goal setting changes everything. From This Episode: Bianca got her ADHD diagnosis at 47, burned out of a 25-year teaching career, and rebuilt her life from scratch. Here's what she and Tasha unpack: Why ADHD goal-setting is a completely different game than what you've been taught How a lifetime of masking disconnects you from knowing what you actually want The problem with discipline and willpower-based goals for high-achieving entrepreneurs What emotion-first goal setting looks like in practice Why "self-sabotage" isn't real - and what's actually happening when you hit a wall How nervous system regulation is the missing piece in your goal-achievement strategy Why ADHDers are ambitious as hell and just need the right tools The shame of feeling behind, and how to stop letting it run the show How boundaries for business owners are built on nervous system capacity, not willpower Links & Resources Connect with Bianca: http://www.biancafaricycoach.com   Follow Bianca on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biancafaricyadhd/   Boldly Becoming You Workshop: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/boldlybecomingyou  Book a clarity call: https://calendly.com/tashaskillin/clarity-call-30 Follow us on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion

We're BACK. It's been about nine months since our last episode and Tasha is on day 21 of her cycle so… buckle up. In this episode, Tasha and Brandon get real about what it actually looks like to re-enter something you love after a long pause, why getting crystal clear on who you're talking to changed everything for their business, and how the life you've been dreaming about is probably closer than you think → you're just not clocking it. In this episode: Why they stopped recording (and what finally got them back) hint: Instagram Lives were the baby step into podcasting again The truth about showing up in your luteal phase energy (and why it's actually a superpower, not a liability) How getting obsessively clear on their ideal client set them free from trying to help everyone - aka stop trying to save your mom The "evidence collection" method that rewires your brain to see how close you already are to your goals BIG identity shifts and the actions that come with them: waking up at 5:30am, no phone before 6am Updating your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) - and why Brandon realized he was still operating on an old stress response that no longer applied Why talking about your pain and struggle on repeat is keeping you and your audience stuck The AM/PM routine that keeps Tasha grounded through every phase of her cycle and perimenopause The Bold Becoming You Workshop (happening April 25 & 26!) - link below  The homework from this episode: Write out your ideal Tuesday (workday) AND your ideal Saturday (day off).  Get specific: What are you waking up excited about? Who are you with? What are you not doing? These exercises alone give you more clarity than you expect. Links & Resources: 🔗 Bold Becoming You Workshop - April 25 & 26, 9am - 12pm PST → [Register here] 📲 Follow us on Instagram for weekly Lives [Insta]  💬 DM us or drop a comment, tell us what landed for you in this episode

In this episode, we break down the most foundational practice in our entire framework, and answer the question almost every client starts with: "I know I need nervous system regulation… but how the f**k do I actually do that with the life I have?!" We talk about why NSR is not just for the meltdown moments, how it quietly transforms your relationship with productivity, parenting, partnerships, and purpose, and how Brandon went from never regulating to knowing with full-body certainty that he'll never drink again. We touch on: Why 30–60 seconds of nervous system regulation might be more life-changing than 30 minutes What happened when Brandon finally felt his feelings, after 18 years of numbing The trap of "doing it right" and how it keeps perfectionists stuck Four micro NSR techniques you can do literally anywhere (yes, even in a meeting) Why consistency isn't the goal, capacity is What two clients in totally different life stages (30 and 60) had in common with burnout, dread, and the exact same NSR win after 4 weeks Plus, we unpack the real reason so many smart, high-achieving people don't start NSR (hint: if you've ever said "I don't need it right now," this one's for you). Whether you're bedbound like Tasha was, burnt out like Jane was, or just stuck in the doom-scroll loop like Dela, we've got you. ✨ Ready to start regulating in 5 minutes or less? Grab the Regulated AF Mini Series for just $5 Need personalized support? Book a clarity call and let's see if we mesh