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I had a wonderful talk with Carl Dalton, CEO of Dalton Associates, about how his Adlerian upbringing by his dad (and my mentor, Dr Dan Dalton) and his mom, Marilyn, shaped his approach to leadership, community care, and service design. The conversation centers on the history of the Dalton family’s involvement in working with First Nations’ communities and how that has led to Dalton Associates' work with First Nations communities in Northern Ontario. We also discussed how this integrated mental wellness model has been developed for police and public safety personnel. We explored what it takes to build trust across cultures, how to measure impact in community care, and why listening, humility, and continuity matter more than parachuting in with a preset solution. You can find Adlerian counselling services at Dalton and Associates here. Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 13 & 15 year old teen daughters are bonding over being rude and mocking mom. Op Ed: Some thoughts on AI and why parents should be submersive and gain direct experience. Op Ed: Important information about Canada’s bill C-34; “The Safe Social Media Act”. ********** Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alex Kopelman’s book focuses on how our children are born with an authentic self that gets socialized out of them. Through messages they hear from parents, classrooms, culture and beyond, children start to hide parts of themselves as a way to belong and survive. However, Alex also states that the change needs to begin with parents, or at least in a parallel process of dropping many of the “oughts and shoulds” of parenthood too. Listen in to learn more about the distinction he makes between just allowing a child to run wild and undisciplined versus encouraging them to be authentic while also learning how to get along with others. Check out Alex's new book, For Real: Helping Children Remain Their Authentic Selves in a Limiting World. Website: authenticityworks.org Book site: forrealbook.org LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/alexander-kopelman-701547 Instagram: www.instagram.com/childrensartsguild Facebook: www.facebook.com/childrensartsguild ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Meet Jeff Hittner! He is an executive coach and leadership expert working with CEOs and Fortune 500 companies on three continents. His journey into fatherhood made him change his definition of being a dad. He also made a conscious decision to use his team-building and leadership skills in his parenting approaches so he could be the best version of himself as a father. Now he has founded “Ambitious Dads” which shows fathers in the workplace how they can become better leaders by becoming better dads! We discuss the “Dad Gap” and how Dads often win at work and fail at home. He offers a new definition of success and the path for Dads to get there. You can learn more about Jeff Hittner by checking out his website: www.amitiousdads.com And on social media accounts: Substack https://ambitiousdads.substack.com IG @ambitiousdads Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffhittner/ ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. My 4 year old is trapping people with his legs and being a barnacle on my leg.   Q2. My daughter is playing me against my ex-wife in asking for money and I feel played. Q3. Should I use phone tracking for my daughter who is in first year uni? ********** Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you are raising boys, you need to listen to this episode. Dr Leonard Sax and I discuss the new content added to the latest edition of his book “Boys Adrift”. We discussed why boys fall behind their sisters in school and what parents and teachers can do about it. I also learned about the very real and scary reality of endocrine disruptors and how male testosterone levels are dropping which impacts many things, including motivation. He also gives some shocking information from his research where he had discussions with adolescent boys about pornography consumption and having AI girlfriends. Did you know that 39% of boys age 13 -17 have made deepfake porn of a classmate without her permission? Again, this is vital information for parents of boys. Please listen in and share.  You can learn more about Dr Leonard Sax and his latest edition of Boys Adrift as well as his other parenting books here:  https://www.leonardsax.com/books/boys-adrift/ ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all know connection is the basis of a relationship but what does it mean and how do we get it? Listen in! Valerie learned Adlerian parenting from me, and I learned about the Enneagram from her. She brings both together in order to gain a deeper understanding of what it means to really connect with our children, and she discusses her formula “Presence + Self Awareness + Self Compassion = Connection”. Valerie breaks it it all down and you get to hear about me as an example of being an Enneagram 2 - “The Helper” - and how that helps me as well as how it can be my saboteur!   Valerie also generously offered up a huge amount of value-add to our community of listeners which I highly recommend everyone take advantage of!  Here are the offerings she is gifting us:  1. FREE EXCLUSIVE GUIDE FOR ALYSON'S PODCAST LISTENERS. GUIDE INCLUDES:   Enneagram Type summaries and key takeaways discussed in the podcast 5 ways to discover your Enneagram TypeYouTube links to learn the strengths and challenges of each Enneagram TypeTop recommended parenting books according to Enneagram Type Tips for returning to presence & connection https://valerie-tih-at-joyfull-coaching.kit.com/067edae0f7 2.  $20 OFF VALERIE TIH'S ENNEAGRAM DISCOVERY PACKAGE:  Learn about your Enneagram Type and how to find your way towards Presence, Resourcefulness, and Connection.  Sessions are offered either over Zoom or an in-person "walkie talkie" through Cedarvale Ravine for those living in Toronto.  https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/1997776459168?aff=oddtdtcreator Use Code ALYSON at Checkout!  3.  GET DISCOUNTED ACCESS TO THE POSITIVE INTELLIGENCE (PQ) APP:  Reach out to Valerie to learn more: https://joyfullcoaching.ca/contact/ Follow Valerie on social media:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joyfullcoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JoyfullCoaching  Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerietih/  ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you familiar with Human Design? Kelly Flood, Parent Coach, joins me to explain what Human Design is and how it can help you as a parent. This field of study involves understanding people by knowing their unique energy blueprint. She explains that this level of understanding is not simply about putting people into typologies, although there are energetic styles to consider when looking at human behaviour and motivations. Kelly explains how she uses Human Design to help parents truly understand how their children are meant to operate in the world, which then helps to decide on the best approach to responding to conflicts in the family. This is a tool that is very helpful in learning how to deal differently when typical parenting conflicts like bedtime meltdowns occur. As well, it also helps improve everyday connection between family members. A fascinating conversation.                You can learn more about Kelly Flood and her parent coaching practice at www.kellyflood.ca, or on social media: IG: @coach_kelly_flood  LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelly-flood-767ba647/  ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 14 year old won’t shower – what to do?   Q2. Kids already complaining they are bored this summer, and it’s only 3 weeks into the break! Q3. 6 year old won’t get in the water for swim lessons. ********** Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With his signature humour and relatable storytelling, Dr Dan Dalton discusses the important concepts of winning a child’s cooperation rather than forcing their obedience. He reminds us of psychologists Alfred Adler’s and Rudolf Dreikurs’ major concerns for social equality in all human relations, including children. We also discuss how the counselling tool of asking parents to review a day in the life of the family as a way to discover dynamics at play. Dr Dalton also explains the 4 levels of discouragement and using parental emotions as the diagnostic clue to the purposiveness of the child’s behaviour.   You can find Adlerian counselling services at Dalton and Associates here.  Other Adlerian organizations we mentioned were:  NASAP  ICASSI  IAIP Adler Graduate School   ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Breaking the Boy Code” is Dr Katie Hurley’s latest book, following the success of the award-winning “No More Mean Girls”.  In this episode, Katie discusses how boys are socialized into a narrow description of manhood that is detrimental to their well-being. While that issue is not new – the “man-o-sphere” has created a world of social influencers who insidiously influence our young sons pushing them down a funnel of increasingly more severe beliefs about what it is to be a man including wealth, physique, dehumanizing women for sex / ra*pe. Katie has studied this system and explains how this online system is akin to brainwashing people into a religious cult. We discuss what a parent can do to help prevent and respond to this concerning situation.  Buy Katie’s book “Breaking The Boy Code” here.  Follow Katie on IG: @drkatiehurleylcsw Dr Hurley’s website can be found here.  ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Teen daughter home from uni assumes she can just take my car anytime.   Q2. 4 year old daughter is stealing and lying.   Q3. When should you start allowance?   ********** Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Margot Denomme is my guest on this episode, and she brings her 26 years of experience as a Crown Attorney where she saw first-hand how low self-esteem and social media can harm children, leading to mental health issues, bullying and legal troubles.   She discusses the importance of parents’ taking collective action to bring about the changes needed to protect our vulnerable children. She has founded an organization called “Raising Awareness About Digital Dangers” (RAADD) which offers a host of resources for youth and their parents, including her book “The Smart Phone Guide”.  Check out her book and all the resources at RAADD: https://raadd.ca/ You can find Margot Demonne’s RAADD movement of “Control The Scroll” on IG at @RAADDMovement  And Margot herself on LinkedIn ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you worry about your child’s weight and wonder if you are doing the right thing in how you encourage them to eat better and exercise more? Turns out sometimes so-called helpful prompts are not helpful. In fact, they could make matters worse. But what is a parent to do? Watch will their kiddo eats a bag of chips while gaming the day away?  I had the privilege of discussing the book, “Your Child Is Not Their Weight: Parenting in a Size-Obsessed World”, with the authors, Dr Joey Skelton and Dara Garner-Edwards. Their research at the Brenner FIT Program, and their approach in the book, recommends that we don’t focus on weight, but rather we need to emphasize a strong family connection, tackling lifestyle choices together as a family, and utilizing planning and structure with involvement from the children. Listen in to learn more!  Check out more resources at Dr Skelton’s website  www.BrennerChildrens.org/BrennerFIT  You can find Dr Skelton on social media here:  X: @DrJoeySkelton  Bluesky: @drjoeyskelton.bsky.social  Instagram: @brenner_fit  Facebook: Brenner FIT And purchase the book here:   Your Child Is Not Their Weight – Parenting in a Size Obsessed World ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Will Dobud’s book, “Kids These Days”, shines the light on how the emphasis on youth mental health has paradoxically resulted in more pathologizing, more labelling, more medication and more institutionalizing of young people – all while rates of youth mental health skyrocket.  Something is not right. He argues that our systems don’t support human flourishing and in fact create harm in youth. Dr Will is an advocate for co-adventure therapy and other forms of building egalitarian and respectful relationships with youth that allow them to be the hero of their journey and to face and overcome the hurdles of life through micro-adventuring.  The book: www.kidsthesedaysbook.com His website:  www.willdobud.com Follow Will Dobud on social media:  FB: https://www.facebook.com/WillDobudPhD  Instagram: @WillDobud  Instagram: @Kids_These_Days_Book LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-dobud-5209ab74 X: @WillDobud ********** Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row! Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to [email protected] and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast. Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.