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Send us Fan Mail Most messages aimed at young men today split into two dead ends: become a sensitive, apologetic non-threat, or go to war and reclaim dominance. Zan thinks both camps hold a fragment of truth and neither offers a boy anything to actually hope for — which is why, more and more, he finds himself wanting to talk to thirteen-to-eighteen-year-olds instead of grown men. In this episode, Jordan asks Zan directly: what’s the message? What do you actually say to a generation of boys who’ve been told their masculinity is the problem, who are retreating to their rooms, whose only two options seem to be surrender or rage? Zan’s answer moves through some of the widest philosophical territory this podcast has covered — the concept of worship, stripped from religion and rebuilt around beauty itself. Petrarch and Dante, both of whom had their entire life’s work ignited by seeing a woman he barely knew. The 1,500-year-old volcanic winter that blacked out the sun across Europe, and how people found meaning through it anyway. The uniculture problem — why knowing about every disaster on Earth simultaneously might be worse for the human nervous system than knowing only what happened in your own village. And a genuinely moving true story: a twelve-year-old boy, a short walk to a candy store, and one sentence from Zan that a mother said changed her son for weeks afterward. Watch until the end for what Zan calls the real message underneath everything — not optimism, not denial, but gratitude for what you have precisely because it won’t last. 🔗 A Full Year — Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice — to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild __________________________________________________ Ars Amorata, Summer ’26: Text Her — Stan's course on apps and messaging: from swipe right to archetype.  https://amorati.me/courses/text-her/ Amorati Guild Summer Holiday — A beach weekend in Vama Veche with Zan. 21-23 August, Romania. https://arsamorata.com/guild/ The Hidden Sides of Seduction — Jordan’s ‘Movie Masterclass’, diving into the psychology of attraction and sub-communication. On-demand. https://arsamorata.com/movies-mastery-2024/ ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men have been trained to see the “male gaze” as something to apologize for — a coarse, objectifying reflex to suppress or perform your way out of. Either you’re the bro who can’t see past a woman’s body, or you’re the guy in the loafers and matcha latte performing a “female gaze” so hard it becomes its own kind of costume. In this episode, Jordan revisits a line from The Alabaster Girl that’s followed him for thirteen years — women have a beauty song — and asks Zan whether it still holds. What follows is one of the most philosophically dense conversations on the podcast: gratitude as the lens that transforms looking into witnessing, the difference between a woman posed as a nude and a woman caught naked and unguarded, and why Zan refuses to be embarrassed about the fact that his eyes are drawn to the female form. They get into the man in the coffee shop who watches a woman order her latte and lets her walk out the door without chasing her — and why Zan calls that moment “code complete.” The phrase Zan wrote in his new book: a woman’s walk is the oldest promise in the world. Freud’s split between exhibitionism and voyeurism, and why every peep show needs a pervert. And Zan’s answer to the discourse around male gaze versus female gaze — which he’d never even heard of before Jordan brought it up. Watch until the end for Zan’s real-time reinterpretation of John Berger’s “nude vs. naked” distinction — and his own bikini-versus-underwear version of it. __________________________________________________ Ars Amorata, Summer ’26: Text Her — Stan's course on apps and messaging: from swipe right to archetype. Opens soon. https://amorati.me/courses/text-her/ Perception, Openness, Beauty — Online weekend intensive with Jordan, 18-19 July. Inside the Guild. https://arsamorata.com/guild/ Desire in the Afternoon — Private salon-consultation with Jordan. 25-26 July, Bali. (Two-day option with embodied women's feedback newly added.) https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/ Amorati Guild Summer Holiday — A beach weekend in Vama Veche with Zan. 21-23 August, Romania. https://arsamorata.com/guild/ ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail A Guild member sent in a message that stopped this episode cold. A friend of his — married, still in love with his wife — confided that she won’t have sex with him anymore. Not even a goodbye kiss. He found out she’s been using a vibrator. He can’t understand why she won’t let him be the one. And the group of friends around him, hearing this, offer the usual advice: book a weekend away, drop the kids at her sister’s, get her alone. Jordan and Zan don’t offer that advice. Instead, they take the story apart piece by piece — and land somewhere much harder and much more honest than “just try harder.” They get into what it actually means when a woman stops admiring her husband — not respect, something deeper — and why that, once gone, cannot be incremented back with flowers and date nights. The devastating truth that all the desperate gestures a man makes at 3am to save a dying relationship are exactly what he should have been doing all along, when things were good. Why “relationships are work” and “relationships are compromise” are, in Zan’s words, b******t — and what he believes actually holds a marriage together instead. And the brutal timing problem: the moment a man finally feels the fear is usually the exact moment it’s already too late to act on it. Watch until the end for what Zan calls his gunslinger coaching — for the men who are in it right now, and need someone to ride in fast and find out if it’s still redeemable. 🔗 A Full Year — Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice — to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild __________________________________________________ Ars Amorata, Summer ’26: Text Her — Stan's course on apps and messaging: from swipe right to archetype. Opens soon. https://amorati.me/courses/text-her/ Perception, Openness, Beauty — Online weekend intensive with Jordan, 18-19 July. Inside the Guild. https://arsamorata.com/guild/ Desire in the Afternoon — Private salon-consultation with Jordan. 25-26 July, Bali. (Two-day option with embodied women's feedback newly added.) https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/ Amorati Guild Summer Holiday — A beach weekend in Vama Veche with Zan. 21-23 August, Romania. https://arsamorata.com/guild/ ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail You go for a drink with a buddy, and he unloads what’s happened with his girl. A lot of push-pull, ignored texts, mood swings, drama. He wonders what’s going through her mind, and enlists your help in figuring her out too. What do you say? Do you engage your own anxious brainwaves, and try and decipher her motives? Or do you tackle the real issue on display: Never mind the woman… what’s going on with you? I don’t believe pondering a woman’s motives and feelings is entirely a fool’s game. But it’s amazing how men get caught in this loop. All day, all month, thinking of her, wondering what to text, how to approach the issue, how to get what you want without losing the little you already have. We all know what happens when we overthink things. Action ends up awkward. Whatever we end up saying or doing, it seems to drive her away. When it comes to drama, pulling away, mixed messages, heightened emotions, many men feel a subtle distress. And it’s the distress that drives these endless questions. What if, instead of the week lost chasing her in your mind, you could find tranquility amidst the storm? Today’s episode is about exactly that. Because in the end, 90% of drama resolves by itself. Let her unravel and come to you in good time. __________________________________________________ If you're working with the patterns of a lifetime, and want to learn to hold yourself steady when desire and drama collide: I'm running a small private coaching afternoon called Desire in the Afternoon. An intimate consultation about your past, present and future with desire, lust, and love. DITA is a breakthrough session for a man dedicated to finding mastery in the themes of attraction and love. Oxford — Saturday June 27. Paris — Saturday July 4. Max. three seats per city. Details and application here: https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/ Or, to go all in with me and Zan for a full calendar year, join The Guild: https://arsamorata.com/guild ~ Jordan __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy #attraction #menandwomen #bodylanguage  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail We all know it’s not about what you say to her.  It's the inner coherence, the calmness of vibration in your body, that shapes the interaction before your words do. One of our Guild members wrote about a moment at the gym. He saw a woman, was instantly spellbound, a little frozen. He approached, took his shot, and asked for feedback. His story is one we can all relate to — great, great desire… and the wish to connect with her with delight and transparency. Zan is so inspiring when he talks about this. But the coolest line in the world doesn't land when your body is in turmoil. Today we dive into that interior territory. How do you deal with the sheer force of your own desire? Can you align the embodied experience of your attraction so you communicate in the most compelling way? There are women here and there, and there is beauty that makes you quake. If you want to learn to walk the tightrope of your most intense feelings, a timely invitation: I'm running a small private coaching afternoon called Desire in the Afternoon. An intimate consultation about your past, present and future with desire, lust, and love. DITA is a breakthrough session for a man dedicated to finding mastery in the themes of attraction and love. Oxford — Saturday June 27.  Paris — Saturday July 4. Three seats per city. Details and application here. https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/ ~ Jordan __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy #attraction #menandwomen #bodylanguage  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail There is far more attraction in the world than most of us are able to perceive. And far more women into you than you might ever notice. Today’s episode unpacks how the ego distorts our ability to perceive the signs of mutual attraction. This is a deep-dive about how we get in our own way, and what becomes possible when we ‘cleans the windows of perception’. If you’re listening to this, and you recognise how your ego patterns are diminishing the quality of attraction in your life, here’s an invitation: I'm running a small private coaching afternoon called Desire in the Afternoon. Three men, four hours, a private room. We work directly with your life’s story around desire, the particular patterns your ego is making, and what a completely different future for your intimate life can look like. DITA is a breakthrough session for a man on the cusp of understanding his pattern and ready to shift it. Oxford — Saturday June 27.  Paris — Saturday July 4. Three seats per city. Details and application here. https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/ ~ Jordan __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men leave an interaction having done everything right — approached, connected, built rapport for forty-five minutes — and then walked away without ever pulling the trigger. They got the number. They didn’t invite. And those are not the same thing. In this episode, Zan and Jordan return to one of the most fundamental and most overlooked principles in the Ars Amorata: the invitation. Not as a technique for scheduling a meeting, but as a spirit — a way of being that tells every woman in your orbit, I would rather have you near me than not. They get into why most men’s invitational energy has an invisible ceiling on it: come close, but not too close. The father archetype Zan reaches for when explaining how a man can contain feminine chaos without walling himself off from it. The David Deida debate — whether the male nervous system is inherently stressed by female proximity, or whether that’s just a man who hasn’t found gratitude yet. And the single sentence that Zan says captures everything: I don’t know you at all, but I would love to have you around me. Watch until the end for the practical layer: when to invite, how to invite, and why it doesn’t matter at all whether she says yes or no. 🔗 A Full Year — Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice — to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men arrive at a retreat, a workshop, or a pilgrimage to the mentor with the same silent demand underneath everything else: make it click. They’ve read the books, done the programs, sat through the silent retreats. They’re well-theorized. Now they want it to land — permanently, finally, done. In this episode, recorded the Friday before Zan’s ten-day training week in Bucharest, Zan and Jordan pull apart what the click actually is, whether it’s even possible to engineer it, and what to do in the long dark stretches when nothing clicks at all. They get into the man who travels across the world for ten days hoping something will permanently shift — and why the pressure of that hope is exactly what blocks it. Jordan’s 19-year-old diary, rediscovered in a childhood bedroom: three months backpacking Southeast Asia, parties until sunrise, pages of email addresses from strangers across the world — and a pervasive feeling throughout all of it that he was lonely and missing out. The spiral of workshop-after-workshop that kicks in when nothing clicks and a man decides he must be broken. And Zan’s answer to the question everyone asks him: when did you finally get it? I never did. I’m still trying. Watch until the end for Jordan’s biggest click — the one that freed him from second-guessing every interaction — and the homework Zan and Jordan leave you with. 🔗 A Full Year - Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice - to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild/  __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men reading Zan’s work assume the Ars Amorata vision is a soft one — all light and ease, women as fluttering butterflies, every interaction kissed by poetry. But there’s a shadow side to the archetype that gets quietly ignored, and an answer to a question that almost nobody dares to ask: what would the world actually look like if every man embodied this philosophy? In this episode, Jordan brings a question from a Guild member known only as X — a sweeping, visionary inquiry about what happens to relationship forms, dating culture, and the wider social fabric if all boys grew up versed in these principles. Zan and Jordan take the question seriously, and the conversation moves into territory neither expected. They get into Zan’s heresy that women are a reflection of the men in society — and why he doesn’t coach women at all. The dividing line between a man who’s angry at women (workable) and a man who hates women (closed). The middle-of-the-road guy with no role models, caught between the gun-toting carnivore podcaster and the matcha-latte male feminist. The institutionalised hatred of masculinity in certain cultures that some Guild members are quietly writing in about. And Zan’s growing conviction that his future work belongs with thirteen-year-old boys, not thirty-year-old men. Watch until the end for Jordan’s take on what would actually change in a world full of Amorati men — and the one global shift he believes would matter more than any other. 🔗 A Full Year - Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice - to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild/  🔗 What Would Zan Do — Live in Bucharest: http://www.arsamorata.com/wwzd/ __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men preparing for an encounter with a woman are reaching for the wrong tool: a script, an opening line, a prescribed posture. They walk in armoured with a battle plan, hands at their sides, leaning back on their heels — and wonder why nothing sticks. In this episode, Zan and Jordan unpack what’s actually moving underneath a magnetic interaction: the rhythm a man carries in his body, the poetry of his presence, and the strange truth that a man’s greatest asset in a room is everything that arrives with him before he speaks a word. They get into the four-hour coaching session where a guy was animated, alive, full of stories on his couch — and then turned into a statue the moment he stepped onto the street to approach women. The therapeutic frame that tells you your humour is a “shield” — and why that frame might be costing you the very thing that makes you compelling. The musician who has rhythm in his fingers but shuts it off the second he tries to flirt. And the question Zan asks every man he coaches before they even get to “the situation”: what do you love, what do you do with leisure time, what are you looking forward to? Watch until the end for the practical layer: how rhythm actually shows up in the body — the rock step, the in-and-out, the slow-then-quick — and why men who learn this stop needing techniques altogether. 🔗 A Full Year - Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice - to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild/  🔗 What Would Zan Do — Step Under the Spotlight, in Bucharest: http://www.arsamorata.com/wwzd/ __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights re Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Every once in a while a new paradigm of thinking enters your mind, reformats your worldview, and blows your sense of what’s possible in life wide open. A friend of mine used to refer to these as brainquakes, and they might only happen once every few years. Zan gave many of us such a brainquake with his initial Ars Amorata philosophy. Now, a brainquake has happened unto Zan. The mathematician-philosopher Alfred North Whitehead spent his life trying to understand the nature of reality. His conclusion: beauty is the purpose of the universe — and God’s entire project is forever luring you toward more beauty. The upside of this is that every single event in the cosmos happens as an invitation… ushering us, ever deeper, into moments of wonder, beauty, awe, enchantment. However, every time you stay in your seat, delete the message, swallow your truth — you’re not just missing an opportunity. You’re choosing inertia over beauty. And inertia, argues Zan, is evil. My inner critic was already giving me stick for not talking to that beautiful woman; now you’re telling me my failure to approach her is evil?! Well, it takes a lot of energy to suppress God’s plan of beauty. On the other side: the more courageous the jump, the more beauty can come. 🔗 The Amorati Guild: arsamorata.com/guild __________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men chasing the writer’s life have the same fantasy: quit the corporate world, escape to Paris, find the bohemian enclave where great work just happens. But that Paris doesn’t exist anymore — and Zan would argue it never quite existed the way we imagine it. In this episode, Jordan presses Zan for an update on his next book (still no release date — sorry, you’ve been warned), and Zan opens up about the slow, painterly way he writes: six hours a day in the chair, no Substack dribbles, no early drafts shown to anyone. Then the conversation turns to a question many men in our audience are quietly wrestling with: how do you hold a creative life and a corporate life in the same body, without one suffocating the other? They move through the four archetypes of the would-be artist, the romance of place (Paris in the 20s, Brooklyn now, Bucharest, Bali), and the strange truth that even with the internet “democratising” creativity, most of us are working alone — without that gentle rivalry between Picasso and Matisse looking over each other’s shoulders. Watch until the end for Zan’s plans for a literary retreat in Venice this autumn, haunting the ghost of Casanova through the city that shaped him. 🔗 Step into the Guild world: https://arsamorata.com/guild/ 🔗 What Would Zan Do — Live in Bucharest: http://www.arsamorata.com/wwzd __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  __________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.   Ars Amorata ®️, The Amorati ®️, Casa Amorata ®️, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men who want more sexual energy are refusing to sit on a stallion that’s already inside them. That wild horse energy is already there — it always was. The question isn't how to generate more of it. It's how to feel it breathe beneath you as you step out of your bedroom. It’s about letting it purr during small-talk: with enough force to be felt, and enough restraint to be respected. In this episode, Zan and Jordan explore what it actually looks like for a man to move from suppression to full expression — without tipping into the shameless, invasive territory that makes everyone uncomfortable. Many of our viewers say they don’t have a single man in their lives that gives an image of full, wide-hearted male sexual vitality. Here, we do our best to provide a concrete image for those who say they've never seen this sort of energy up-close before. 🔗 We're going deeper into this territory in April — inside the Guild: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild ____________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ ____________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ ____________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity ____________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. ____________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... ____________________________________________________ Copyright © 2025 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.   Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Most men who find our work say they want the same thing: more sexual energy. It seems like the way to avoid being felt as a nice-guy and to escape the friend-zone. But the downside of our sexual desire is the agony that it brings up: physically, mentally, emotionally. It’s handy, therefore, that our subconscious engages in sexual repression, to keep this angst at bay. In this episode, Zan and Jordan touch on entitlement, blame, and distress as three aspects that keep our sexual desire feeling painful, and how to access ‘pure, life-giving desire’ as a way out of this angst. Watch until the end, and get some concrete examples of what sexual energy channelled into a creative force actually looks like. 🔗 Want to release and purify the way eros runs through you? http://www.arsamorata.com/guild __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  __________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2025 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.   Ars Amorata ®️, The Amorati ®️, Casa Amorata ®️, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Who Longs More: Women or Men? The words “longing” and “yearning” have become mainstays in our recent conversation with men. Strange - these are terms you find in Rumi’s mystic poetry, or in femininity goddess work, not the male dating arena. But here we have it: men owning their longing for relationship, and all the poetic wisdom that the longing itself contains. At the same time, more men than ever are voicing their discomfort with terms like “certainty” and “conviction”. These are classic ‘masculine qualities’. Sure, it’s dicey to claim certainty and conviction over anything in today’s world… but will any great love affair take off if both parties are restricted to yearning, and neither embodies a bit of conviction about their feelings? Today, Zan and Jordan explore this well-worn language used in today’s ‘conscious’ or ‘spiritual intimacy’ circles. Zan debunks a number of definitions of these terms. I, Jordan, don’t necessarily agree. What do you think? 🔗 Ready to jump into the Amorati world? http://www.arsamorata.com/guild ____________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy  ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ ____________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ ____________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity ____________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. ____________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bid.... ____________________________________________________ Copyright © 2025 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.   Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL. Support the show