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"It's just cheating." "Aren't you over it by now?" "You need to heal and move on." These are some of the harmful narratives used around intimate partner betrayal. Intimate Partner Betrayal is a serious matter. It is a form of relational abuse that violates the safety of the relationship. This awareness day exists to change the narrative and the responses to betrayal. IP Betrayal Awareness Day is a time to name the harm publicly, so that no one has to suffer silently.

After being blindsided by divorce papers, Alessia Madkins discovered the truth about her marriage. Her former spouse was living a double life and left her to pick up the pieces while she was caring for two young children. Through her faith and a renewed sense of hope, Alessia has built a life that is better than she imagined. Alessia's message to betrayed partners is powerful; it's declaring that healing is possible, hope is alive, and no one's story has to end where their heartbreak began. Alessia is an LPC and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist with APSATS. You can connect with Alessia via her website www.compassguided.com.

What happens when the time you thought would be your "golden years" turns gray? "Gray divorces", divorces that happen over 50, are on the rise. When betrayal occurs in the latter years of life, there are multiple factors the betrayed partner has to consider. Julie Calhoun, APSATS CPC, Trauma-Informed Certified Coach, shares the questions, the concerns, and the compassion that those walking the path of gray divorce may have. You can contact Julie at [email protected].

The discovery of intimate partner betrayal is earth-shattering. For some partners, that discovery comes as a result of law enforcement showing up at their doors. The betrayed partner is not only facing the betrayal, but the legal system, as well. Casey Allison, ACC, CDGC, CPC, PSAP, TICC, has walked through the devastation with many of these partners. Casey approaches this topic with compassion and empathy, while helping partners find a healing path forward. You can learn more about Casey here: Come Awake Recovery and Education, www.comeawakecoach.org, [email protected]. Casey is also offering 50% off her Come Awake Recovery Roadmap Agreement Assessments. Discount code: HALF https://www.comeawakecoach.org/2026/06/summer-special-come-awake-recovery.html?m=1

When life deals you a bad hand, you can quit or you can play to win. That's what Dr. Barbara Steffens chose to do when she discovered intimate partner betrayal. She not only changed the game in her own story, she changed the game for every betrayed partner after her. Dr. Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, author of "Your Sexually Addicted Spouse", and a pioneer in helping to change the narrative around intimate partner betrayal. Her courage, strength, and wisdom have paved the way for so many coaches and counselors to understand betrayal trauma and help others heal.

"This isn't what you wanted." These are the powerful words someone spoke to Tamara as her marriage was falling apart. As Tamara was watching her dreams die, she was also discovering new things about herself. She could ask for what she needed! Tamara now uses her story and her wisdom to help others discover their own needs using the Birkman Assessment. Tamara is a certified Birkman consultant, coaching others as they learn to understand themselves. To connect with Tamara and learn more about the Birkman, visit her website: https://www.birkmansbytamara.com/

Where is God when you experience intimate partner betrayal? This was the question Lynn Marie Cherry found herself asking. Lynn shares how betrayal led to a crisis of faith, a deconstruction journey, and establishing a new relationship with God. Lynn is the author of "40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal", a devotional she wrote out of her own healing journey. You can learn more about Lynn at Lynnmariecherry.com.

"It's just p*rn!" That's a statement that is often used to minimize the harmful effects of p*rnography. Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer has spent years researching and documenting the injuries that happen to victims of intimate partner betrayal as a result of hidden pornography use. Dr. Sheri is a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Couples Betrayal Recovery Therapist (CCBRT), Certified Clinical ERCEM Specialist (CCES), and a Consultant in EMDR. She is also the author of the book, "Intimate Deception." Bonus: 1 Month Free in the BraveOne Community. Enter coupon code BRAVE1 braveone.com/community Instagram & Facebook @drsherikeffer

Ashley Jameson, with Pure Desire Ministries, shares her personal experience of discovering betrayal in her marriage and how she uses it to help others through her work at Pure Desire Ministries. Ashley discusses the importance of boundaries, self-care, and community. You can learn more from Ashley through her podcast, Unfiltered: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unfiltered-real-talk-about-sex-love/id1749351656 or visit https://puredesire.org/.

Adam Nisenson, aka The Betrayal Shrink, deeply understands the profound sense of pain and confusion a man experiences after discovering intimate partner betrayal. Adam has a personal experience of walking through betrayal and now helps other men to do the same. Learn more about Adam: https://www.betrayalshrink.com/about. If you would like Adam's free resource The 7 Mistakes A Man Can Make After Betrayal, email [email protected].

Gina Kaye, PSAP, is the National Outreach Specialist for Begin Again Institute and has intimate partner betrayal as a part of her personal experience. Gina shares the importance of healing in community and the power of targeted support. Begin Again Institute offers intensives for betraying and betrayed partners. Learn more here: www.beginagaininstitute.com . To connect with Gina, go to the 'About' tab and click on Team Members.

As we approach Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, August 4, Coach Andrea shares why everyone should care about betrayal awareness. When one person experiences intimate partner betrayal, it's not an individual problem; it's a collective issue. Coach Andrea gives three compelling reasons to provide practical ways we can make the world a better place. Betrayal Awareness Day - www.IPBAwareness.org Work with Coach Andrea - www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com 2005 Study - https://news.osu.edu/stress-substantially-slows-human-bodys-ability-to-heal/

Betrayal has been described as an earthquake, a war, and all manner of destruction. In today's episode, Coach Andrea shares three powerful analogies to compare intimate partner betrayal: home invasion, hurricanes, and a shipwreck. It can be difficult to capture the magnitude of betrayal into words, but to raise awareness, we must try. Intimate partner betrayal is one of most destructive forms of trauma, with the least amount of attention to survivors. Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, August 4, was created to change that. Go to www.IPBAwareness.org for details. Purchase an Ember of Light: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/an-ember-of-light

Coach Andrea shares her journey of working with betrayed partners, the importance of awareness, advocacy, and agency, and introduces the upcoming Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day. She emphasizes the power of storytelling, community support, and the significance of reclaiming one's narrative. Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day is August 4. IP Betrayal Awareness Day: https://ipbawareness.org/ Work With Coach Andrea: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/get-started Purchase An Ember of Light: https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/an-ember-of-light

In this episode, Coach Andrea engages with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, experts in rebuilding intimacy after betrayal. They discuss their journey through recovery, the importance of healthy sexuality, and practical steps for couples to navigate sexual re-engagement. The conversation emphasizes the need for honesty, safety, and communication in relationships, while addressing the impact of shame and trauma on intimacy.  If you would like to stay connected with The Raabsmith Team, sign up for the free "Honest Connection" guide. http://www.raabsmithteam.com/free