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Newly divorced and wondering if the good men are even out there? In a world of manosphere influencers, "not ALL men" comments, and headlines that make dating feel downright dangerous, it's easy to want to give up on love altogether. In this episode, I'm back from summer break with a list that gives you real tools to recognize the ACTUAL good guys, so you stop wasting time on men who fall below the bar. I'm sharing 10 green flags only the real good men display, from how he handles physical touch to what his bachelor pad says about him, plus a bonus #11 -- I call "The Scroll Test." It takes three minutes, is pure magic, and tells you more about a man's values than three months of dating. If you're ready to date again without settling or losing your peace, this one's for you. Learn more about the Get Over Divorce Collective and book a call: https://getoverdivorce.comRead the full article and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Inside this episode I explore why an increasing number of divorced women are choosing to stay single rather than re-enter the dating world. After years of shouldering disproportionate mental loads, managing households, and people-pleasing in their marriages, these midlife women are experiencing a profound liberation post-divorce. They're finally putting themselves first, creating lives filled with peace and autonomy, and many have decided that no relationship is worth sacrificing the freedom they've fought so hard to reclaim. From political divisiveness to toxic "bro-caster" culture that diminishes women, the dating landscape has become so exhausting that many women would rather cross paths with a bear in the woods than risk another disappointing encounter with a man. But this isn't about giving up on love entirely, it's about raising the bar so high that only truly exceptional partners need apply. I share my own journey of finding love again with intention, not luck, and discuss how the women in my program are learning to become so self-secure and empowered that if they do choose to date, they're doing it from a place of power rather than need. Whether you're one of the liberated women choosing peace over partnership, or someone who still believes in finding that diamond in the rough, this episode validates your choice and offers a path forward on your own terms.

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Dianne Harris, author of "Love Bomb: He sold her a dream and delivered a nightmare," to discuss her harrowing journey through a marriage to a narcissist that ultimately led to her standing in handcuffs before noon on what started as an ordinary June morning. Drawing from real-time journal entries she kept as an attempt to maintain her sanity, Dianne shares how she documented years of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse. What began as a magical eight-hour first date evolved into a decade-long nightmare where she lived in constant fight-or-flight mode, never knowing which version of her husband she'd encounter. But this conversation isn't just about survival, it's about reclaiming the very term that nearly destroyed her. Dianne has redefined "love bomb" from a weapon of manipulation into a radical act of self-love so fierce that no one can ever weaponize love against her again. This is essential listening for anyone who's ever questioned their own perception

In this raw and necessary episode, we're confronting the uncomfortable reality of dating after divorce in today's world. We discuss the shocking statistics about violence against women, including a disturbing CNN investigation that uncovered how thousands of men were drugging and assaulting their own wives. But this isn't just about fear, it's about your personal power. We break down exactly how to protect yourself while remaining open to the possibility of real, healthy love. You'll learn the critical difference between dating with hope versus dating with standards, how to spot red flags before you're in too deep, and what healthy masculine energy actually looks like in action. We cover the specific behavioral patterns that reveal a man's true character, from how he treats service workers to how he handles hearing "no." Plus, discover the five essential steps to vetting for character instead of just chemistry, and why doing your own healing work is non-negotiable before entering the dating world again. Real love is absolutely possible, but only when you have the tools to recognize the "good" guys and the courage to walk away from the rest. Work with me inside the "Get Over Divorce Collective." My newest and greatest mastermind group starts soon. Get on the waitlist here.

In this transformative episode, I break down why the popular 50/50 relationship model is actually setting you up for resentment and failure. Inspired by a conversation with my son about how my partner Joe plans our dates (including an incredible birthday trip to Charleston), I reveal the four types of people in relationships: Low Effort, Bare Minimum, true Partners, and Pleasers. If you've been attracting low-effort partners or find yourself constantly keeping score and feeling depleted, this episode will help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck. Whether you've been settling for bare minimum effort or giving everything and getting nothing back, this episode offers a roadmap for becoming the kind of partner who naturally attracts a 100/100 relationship. Ready to fast track your healing? Book a free call with me to find out if "The Get Over Divorce Collective" is perfect for you. ⁠⁠Click here to book⁠ #DivorceRecovery#ConfidenceAfterDivorce#MidlifeWomen#DatingAfterDivorce#OvercomingInsecurity

In this episode, I sit down with Amber Abila, a food freedom coach who empowers women to heal their relationship with food and break free from the binge-restrict cycle. Amber shares her personal journey of overcoming disordered eating and how she now helps others become natural, intuitive eaters without relying on willpower or restrictive diets. We discuss the psychology of food, the impact of stress on eating habits, and how to rewire your brain for lasting change. Amber’s practical and psychology-based tools offer a sustainable approach to stopping binge eating for good. We also explore how life-altering events, like divorce, can affect our relationship with food. Amber explains the connection between stress, emotional numbing, and overeating, and how to regain control over your eating habits in a healthy, empowering way. From managing urges to celebrating small wins, this conversation is packed with actionable tips and relatable insights to help you prioritize your well-being—whether you're healing from a breakup, navigating stress, or simply looking to build a healthier relationship with food. Connect with Amber on Insta here: https://www.instagram.com/theconfidenteater_/ Grab her Guided Audio Visualization here: https://theconfidenteater.org/urge If you are Divorce and you’re ready to make 2026 the year you truly move on, not just cope, take the next step to get inside ⁠The Get Over Divorce Collective⁠, where real healing and real change begin. Book a free call with me to find out if "The Get Over Divorce Collective" is perfect for you. ⁠⁠⁠Click here to book⁠⁠ #FoodFreedom #MindfulEating #DivorceRecovery #ConfidenceAfterDivorce #MidlifeWomen #DatingAfterDivorce #OvercomingInsecurity

In this eye-opening conversation, functional medicine expert Dr. Mark Sherwood challenges everything you thought you knew about aging and health for women over 40. He starts with a powerful mindset shift: you're not old, you're not even halfway through your best years yet. Dr. Sherwood debunks popular health myths circulating on social media (including those parasite cleanses flooding your Instagram feed) and explains why fear-based marketing is leading women astray. He breaks down the critical differences between Western medicine, functional medicine, and holistic healing, emphasizing that health isn't determined by genetics but by daily choices. This episode dives deep into what women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond need to know about hormone balance during perimenopause and menopause. Dr. Sherwood explains how declining progesterone and testosterone affect weight, sleep, brain fog, and libido, and why it's not "normal" to just accept these changes. He shares practical guidance on movement, nutrition, stress management, and the importance of hormone replacement therapy for longevity and quality of life. Whether you're just starting your health journey or looking to optimize what you're already doing, this conversation provides a roadmap for living your best life with energy, clarity, and strength well into your 100s. Visit Dr. Mark Sherwoods Website Here Join the "Get Over Your EX 5 Day Challenge." ⁠Register Here ⁠ We will spend 5 Days live, where I teach you the tools and steps to finally get him out of your head. #FunctionalMedicine, #WomensHealthOver40, #HormoneBalance, #HealthyAging

In this milestone 200th episode, I reflect on twelve years of coaching divorced women and share the ten most powerful lessons I’ve learned about what actually creates healing, confidence, and lasting change after divorce. This episode goes far beyond surface-level advice and dives into the deeper emotional, nervous-system, and identity work that helps women stop obsessing over their ex, reclaim their power, and build a life that feels grounded and fulfilling. Join the "Get Over Your EX 5 Day Challenge." Register Here We will spend 5 Days live, where I teach you the tools and steps to finally get him out of your head. Want to join the best Facebook Divorce Support Group on the internet? Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thriving Community, Women Supporting Women through Divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ #DivorceRecovery #ConfidenceAfterDivorce #MidlifeWomen #DatingAfterDivorce #OvercomingInsecurity

If you want to feel better after divorce but keep finding yourself stuck despite knowing what you “should” do...this episode is for you. Julie breaks down the real reasons healing feels so hard for smart, capable women and share the truths that actually move the emotional needle. No quick fixes, no sugarcoating, just honest insight into what creates lasting peace, clarity, and confidence after divorce. In this episode, Julie walks you through the shifts that help you stop spinning, release the past, and start creating a life that feels good again. And if you’re ready to make 2026 the year you truly move on, not just cope, she invites you to take the next step inside The Get Over Divorce Collective, where real healing and real change begin. Book a free call with me to find out if "The Get Over Divorce Collective" is perfect for you. ⁠⁠Click here to book⁠ #DivorceRecovery #ConfidenceAfterDivorce #MidlifeWomen #DatingAfterDivorce #OvercomingInsecurity

Are you setting boundaries that keep getting trampled? In this episode, you'll discover the biggest myth about boundary setting that keeps women stuck, exhausted, and resentful. Learn why expecting others to maintain your boundaries for you never works, and get the exact 3-step framework that will help you reclaim your power and energy. From dealing with a difficult ex to managing pushy friends and setting limits with your kids, these practical examples will show you exactly how to enforce boundaries that stick. Boundaries aren't about being mean or difficult, they're about self-love, self-preservation, and teaching people how you're willing to be treated. When you master this skill, you'll stop people-pleasing, eliminate resentment, and finally feel like you're in the driver's seat of your own life. If you're ready to build unshakeable self-trust and create the empowered life you deserve after divorce, this episode is your roadmap. Are you ready to take charge of your healing and make a change for the good? Go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠GetOverDivorce.com⁠⁠⁠⁠, you can book a short call with me and we will uncover your blocks and blindspots and find out if my program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Get Over Divorce Collective" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠i⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠s a fit for you. Inside this program I will work with you personally to help you reach your healing and thriving goals. Want to join the best Facebook Divorce Support Group on the internet? Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thriving Community, Women Supporting Women through Divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ #HealingConversations, #Hardconversations, #ConflictResolution, #RelationshipGrowth, #IntentionalLiving, #FamilyDynamics

In this episode, we dive deep into how feminine insecurity shows up in midlife women post-divorce, from perfectionism and people pleasing to fear of dating and chronic indecision. Learn to recognize the sneaky ways insecurity keeps you stuck in your comfort zone, prevents you from building healthy relationships, and stops you from creating the confident, fulfilling life you deserve. Discover three proven strategies to build unshakeable self-confidence and self-worth after divorce: stretching your comfort zone with new experiences, setting strong boundaries by saying no, and making powerful decisions aligned with your future (not your past). If you're a divorced woman ready to stop shrinking yourself, overcome people-pleasing behaviors, and attract secure, healthy relationships while dating after 40 or 50, this episode is your roadmap. Learn how to develop self-validation, trust your own voice, and finally become the authentic, confident woman you're meant to be. It's time to kick insecurity to the curb and start living boldly in your post-divorce life. Ready to fast track your healing? Book a free call with me to find out if "The Get Over Divorce Collective" is perfect for you. ⁠Click here to book #DivorceRecovery#ConfidenceAfterDivorce#MidlifeWomen#DatingAfterDivorce#OvercomingInsecurity#SelfWorthJourney#DivorcedAndThriving#WomenOver40

In this hilarious, heartfelt, and slightly tipsy anniversary episode, Joe and I celebrate 15 years of marriage by sharing the 15 biggest lessons we've learned along the way. From communication breakthroughs to blended family realities, intimacy truths, navigating stress, building connection, and keeping romance alive, we get real, vulnerable, and very unfiltered. You’ll laugh with us, learn with us, and maybe even cry a little as we revisit the moments that strengthened our marriage and shaped the life we built together. Whether you’re healing after divorce, dreaming of a healthier future relationship, or already partnered but craving deeper connection, this episode gives you hope, inspiration, and proof that healthy love is possible. Grab your favorite drink (we clearly did), settle in, and enjoy this warm, candid conversation about love, partnership, and creating a relationship where you feel seen, heard, supported, and adored. Ready to join the "Get Over Divorce Collective"? Go here to learn more. Want to book a free call with me to find out if it is perfect for you? Click here to book #HealthyLoveAfterDivorce #RebuildingConfidence #RelationshipGoalsRealTalk #DivorceHealingJourney #EmpoweredWomenRise #StrongMarriageTips #MindsetAfterDivorce #NewBeginningsForWomen #LoveAfterHeartbreak

We’re diving deep into the science and soul of optimism, and how rewiring your brain to think more positively can transform everything in your life. You’ll learn why your brain is hardwired for negativity, how to stop spinning in the “pit of misery” after divorce or heartbreak, and what it really takes to shift from anxious, stuck, and overwhelmed to confident, calm, and joyful. If you’re tired of toxic positivity and fake “good vibes only” advice, this is the real talk you need. Discover how optimism actually creates more happiness, better relationships, and even career success and how the women inside my Get Over Divorce Collective are doing this powerful mindset work every day. Because happiness isn’t found it’s built, listen in to learn how. Go to GetOverDivorce.com, you can book a short call with me and we will uncover your blocks and blindspots and find out if my program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Get Over Divorce Collective" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠i⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠s a fit for you. Inside this program I will work with you personally to help you reach your healing and thriving goals. Want to join the best Facebook Divorce Support Group on the internet? Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thriving Community, Women Supporting Women through Divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ #DivorceRecovery #GetUnstuck #Optimism #HealingAfterDivorce #PersonalGrowthJourney

Divorce doesn’t define you, but the mindset you choose after it absolutely does. In today’s episode, we’re talking about the two identities every woman navigates after divorce: the wounded woman stuck in a fixed mindset, and the awakened woman who rises through growth, self-leadership, and reclaiming her power. You’ll learn how to spot the patterns that keep you small, the beliefs holding you back from the life you deserve, and the mindset shifts that create confidence, clarity, and emotional strength after heartbreak. If you’re done spinning, resenting, and feeling stuck in your story and are ready to rise into the most confident, fulfilled version of yourself... this conversation is your turning point. Inside, I’ll also share the exact process I use in the Get Over Divorce Collective to help women heal deeply, rebuild self-worth, create a vision they’re excited about, and take empowered action on regularly, now is your time. Curious if the Collective is for you? Go to GetOverDivorce.com, you can book a short call with me and we will uncover your blocks and blindspots and find out if my program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Get Over Divorce Collective" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠i⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠s a fit for you. Inside this program I will work with you personally to help you reach your healing and thriving goals. Want to join the best Facebook Divorce Support Group on the internet? Join: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thriving Community, Women Supporting Women through Divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ #DivorceRecovery #GrowthMindset #ComfortZoneChallenge #HealingAfterDivorce #PersonalGrowthJourney

Today we’re breaking down one of the most powerful mindset shifts a woman can make after divorce, decentering men. You’ll learn what it really means to stop revolving around your ex’s choices, your kids’ needs, or anyone else’s chaos, and finally put yourself back at the center of your life. Because peace doesn’t come from controlling what happens at his house, it comes from reclaiming your energy, your attention, and your sense of self. Through real stories, tough love, and raw truth, you’ll discover how letting go of control doesn’t make you weak, it makes you free. This is your permission slip to stop fixing, stop chasing, and start thriving. You’ll walk away with a new kind of clarity... the kind that reminds you that when you choose yourself first, everyone in your world benefits, especially your kids. Curious if the Collective is for you? Go to GetOverDivorce.com, you can book a short call with me and we will uncover your blocks and blindspots and find out if my program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"The Get Over Divorce Collective" ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠i⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠s a fit for you. Inside this program I will work with you personally to help you reach your healing and thriving goals. #MidlifeAwakening, #DivorcedAndThriving, #WomenWhoRise, #GetOverDivorce, #ReclaimYourPower, #HealingAfterDivorce