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If your ex left you for someone else, or walked out with a list of reasons you were the problem, you might still be replaying that list and wondering if he was right. In this episode of Get Over Divorce, divorce coach Julie Danielson explains why so many women get stuck in the belief that they weren’t good enough after divorce. She covers why men often blame their wives on the way out, why rejection hits your nervous system like a life-or-death threat, and how to stop letting your ex’s story define your self-worth. You’ll also learn what it means to “have your second marriage first,” why no good marriage ends in divorce, and how to start dating again from security instead of fear. Julie shares her favorite reframe for dating after divorce: it’s not rejection, it’s subtraction. Ready to heal your self-worth and build the confidence to love again? Join the Get Over Divorce Collective at getoverdivorce.com, and subscribe on Substack for more. The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/join The Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circle Free quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddess Read more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

You can run your career or business, a household, the PTA, and all the family plans, and still feel like your own life is the one thing nobody’s running. In this episode, I share the story of a client who built a thriving real estate company after her divorce. She was a total boss at work, but at home she said yes to every last-minute schedule change from her ex, became the default parent, and went to bed every night with her laptop and phone because she was always on call for everyone but herself. We’re talking about how to reclaim your life after divorce in three steps: owning your part without taking the blame, holding your boundaries with your ex (the schedule is the schedule), and getting off call so you can finally rest. You’ll walk away with one simple thing to try this week. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me: The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/join The Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circle Free quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddess Read more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Newly divorced and wondering if good men even exist anymore? Between manosphere influencers and scary dating headlines, it's tempting to give up on love. In this episode I share 10 green flags only the real good men show, from how he handles physical touch to what his home says about him, plus a bonus I call "The Scroll Test." Date again without settling or losing your peace. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

More and more divorced women are choosing to stay single, and they're happier for it. After years of carrying the mental load, running the household, and people-pleasing, midlife women are tasting real freedom after divorce. We talk about why so many are done with dating, what this shift says about marriage, and how to know whether staying single is a choice or a fear. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Love bombing, a dream wedding, and then a nightmare. Author Dianne Harris shares how her marriage to a narcissist ended with her standing in handcuffs on an ordinary June morning. Drawing from the journal she kept to hold on to her sanity, Dianne reveals the red flags of narcissistic abuse, how she got out, and how she rebuilt her life after divorce. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Dating after divorce in today's world can feel dangerous, and the statistics back that up. We talk about the "man or bear" debate, a disturbing CNN investigation, and the real risks women face. But this isn't about fear, it's about your power. Learn how to protect yourself, trust your gut, and date safely without shutting down to love. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Is your relationship really 50/50, or is that model quietly setting you up for resentment? Inspired by a conversation with my son about how my husband Joe plans our dates, I break down the four types of people in relationships: Low Effort, Bare Minimum, true Partners, and Pleasers. If you keep attracting low-effort men after divorce, this is how you change that. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Functional medicine expert Dr. Mark Sherwood challenges what you think you know about aging and health for women over 40. You're not old, you're not even halfway through your best years. He busts popular health myths from social media, including those parasite cleanses all over Instagram, and shares what actually keeps you strong and energized. Links from this episode:https://fmidr.com/ Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

In my 200th episode, I share the 10 most powerful lessons from 12 years of coaching divorced women. What actually creates healing, confidence, and lasting change after divorce? We go past surface-level advice into the emotional, nervous system, and identity work that helps you stop obsessing over your ex, reclaim your power, and build a life you love. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Want to feel better after divorce but keep getting stuck, even though you know what you "should" do? I break down why healing feels so hard for smart, capable women, plus 10 steps that actually move the needle. No quick fixes and no sugarcoating, just honest tools for more peace, clarity, and confidence after divorce. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Setting boundaries that keep getting trampled? Learn the biggest myth about boundaries that keeps women exhausted and resentful, and why expecting others to keep your boundaries for you never works. I share my 3-step framework for boundaries with a difficult ex, pushy friends, family, and new partners, so you can reclaim your power and energy after divorce. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Insecurity after divorce shows up in sneaky ways: perfectionism, people-pleasing, fear of dating, and never being able to make a decision. Learn to spot how insecurity keeps midlife women stuck in their comfort zone, and get three proven strategies to build real confidence so you can create the relationships and life you deserve. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

My husband Joe and I celebrate 15 years of marriage, slightly tipsy, with the 15 biggest lessons we've learned. Communication, blended family life, intimacy, stress, and keeping romance alive in a second marriage. It's funny, honest, and unfiltered, and it's proof that a happy, healthy love after divorce is possible. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Your brain is wired for negativity, which is why it's so easy to get stuck in the "pit of misery" after divorce or heartbreak. Learn the science of optimism and how to rewire your thinking to go from anxious, stuck, and overwhelmed to calm, confident, and joyful. No toxic positivity, just tools that work. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce

Divorce doesn't define you, but the mindset you choose after it does. We talk about the two identities every woman navigates after divorce: the wounded woman stuck in a fixed mindset, and the awakened woman who grows, leads herself, and takes her power back. Learn to spot the patterns keeping you small and step into the woman you're meant to be. Ready for real transformation after divorce? Work with me:The Get Over Divorce Collective, 6 months of coaching with me: https://getoverdivorce.com/joinThe Circle, live group coaching for $197/month: https://getoverdivorce.com/circleFree quiz, Discover Your Divorced Goddess Archetype: https://getoverdivorce.com/goddessRead more and subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@getoverdivorce