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If our kids are *constantly* forgetting things when they walk out the door - like their instrument for music practice - it's tempting to think they're being lazy or absentminded. But when we look below the surface, we often find it's just a lagging skill. Their brain is still developing and they need our support (not shame) to help them grow. It's not an 'age thing' - they could be 6 or 16 and still find the same activities challenging. As parents, we need to recognise the skill deficit and lower our expectations around how they 'should' be acting. Join Heidi Rogers in this episode to learn: - Why forgetting the same thing every week comes down to capacity - Why shame and punishment work against skill development in kids - How a simple trick at the front door can support them while their brain catches up -- ️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

When a Spicy teen blows past curfew and sneaks friends in until 5AM, punishment feels like the answer, whether that's taking their phone or piling on more rules. None of it works the way we hope. A missed curfew is just a brain that hasn't learned to plan yet. So punishment isn't the answer. Because in the teen years, we need to be as connected to them as possible. Why? We get fired from the 'manager' role we're used to having as parents. Staying connected is how we get rehired as a 'consultant' our teen will actually listen to when they need help. Join Heidi to learn why punishment drives teens away, and how to become the adviser they trust enough to listen to. -- ️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

When we ask our child to carry a plate to the sink, why do they freeze, drift off, or melt down? Because the ADHD brain hates doing things with multiple steps... and one small chore is usually more complex than it looks. It's tempting to call that laziness. But most of the time our child isn't choosing, they simply can't yet. The kindest shift we can make is the story we tell ourselves: they can't, not won't. Tune in to learn: - Why calling chores family contributions changes how it feels to help - How to understand what our child's capacity really is - How to get their buy-in when it comes to chores -- ️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

When your teen won't leave their room because they're stuck on a device, 'gaming' starts to look like a problem. But pulling away from parents is what teens are wired to do. When it comes to gaming, it's often their brain's way of finding a safe space when it feels like the world around them is on fire. Listen to the podcast and learn: - Why hiding away after painful experiences is a survival mechanism for teens - Why 'gaming friends' count as real connection for them - How to help them without shaming -- ️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

When we want our kids helping more around the house, it's tempting to reach for a sticker chart. Charts and rewards do work, but only while the stickers keep coming, and the helping tends to fade once the rewards do. What we really want is for our kids to pitch in because it feels good to be part of the team, rather than because we told them to. Tune in to learn: - Why a sticker chart holds interest for a week and then fizzles - Why letting a child pick the vacuuming or the dishwasher wins their buy-in - How family meetings and matching chores to temperament build real willingness to help -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Why do so many ADHD and autistic girls hold it together all day, then fall apart the second they walk in the door? That's masking. They copy the social rules at school, then unravel at home, where it feels safe. So when the report card says your child is an angel at school - but they're not at home - that's a real clue. Join Heidi to learn what to look for, what to ask for, and why the right clinician changes everything. -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Why does shaming a kid for forgetting their jacket never teach them to remember it? Because the part of the brain that plans ahead isn't fully online until the mid-twenties A child who's cold isn't ignoring you. They genuinely couldn't picture their 'future self' needing that jacket. Tune in to learn: - Why forward planning is a skill their brain simply doesn't have yet - How shame shuts kids down instead of teaching responsibility - How to build simple reminders that guide them through the day -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

So many of us grew up wishing our parents would just admit when they got it wrong. Heidi wrote a text message for clients in her private practice from that ache, addressing the things that kids long to hear from us. Parents have sent it to teenagers and to grown kids in their thirties and forties. It's never too late to repair. Join Heidi to discover how to make this text message your own. -- ️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Heidi YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

When a spicy kid talks back, shuts down, or explodes over something small, the school's first move is usually more consequences, more check-ins, more adults in the room. And most of the time, that's exactly the wrong thing to do. This episode breaks down why a spicy kid's nervous system reads all of that as a threat, and why standard consequences and check-in cards typically backfire. Psychotherapist Heidi Rogers walks through what helps instead. It starts with finding the one adult who makes a kid feel safe, and why connection is the only lever that reaches them. -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Why are we triggered when our kids "copy bad behavior"? It has a lot to do with the stories we tell ourselves about the way they're acting. If we shift our perspective just slightly, we can reduce conflict AND build the emotional regulation muscle in our children. Here's what Heidi covers in this podcast, taken from a live Q&A call in her parenting program: • Why the stories we tell ourselves can increase conflict with our kids • The hidden reason why our bodies switch to 'fight-or-flight' when we think we're being manipulated • What our children *actually* need when it seems like they're *choosing* difficult behavior -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

What if the secret to parenting an ADHD child isn’t trying harder—but trying differently? It makes sense when you think about it. ADHD brains are wired differently, and so are their challenges. ADHD coach Sharon Collon shares her journey from chaos to calm and how you can tailor solutions to your family’s unique needs. After spending over $30,000 in her son's first year post-diagnosis and developing an autoimmune condition from burnout, Sharon discovered that success comes not from trying harder, but from trying *differently*. In this episode of Tell The Others, Heidi and Sharon dive deep into the surprising strategies that work for ADHD families while avoiding shame and overwhelm. Transform your approach to daily life with systems designed for ADHD brains.Discover why traditional parenting advice fails ADHD families and what actually works.Uncover the real reasons behind ADHD behaviors and how to address them. Timecodes 00:00 - Introducing Sharon Collon. 01:33 - Sharon's ADHD origin story. 07:54 - The gift of lived experience. 17:05 - What is ADHD coaching? 25:17 - One-handed systems. 38:44 - Working with your brain. 41:50 - Five ADHD parenting tips. 52:37 - Connection over correction. 1:04:54 - Limiting beliefs about ADHD. 1:11:05 - How to take action. About Sharon Sharon is an award winning, credentialed ADHD Coach, Consultant & Parent Expert (who is families trained). She is passionate about helping people with ADHD understand how their brain works and creating joyful, functional lives with ADHD.  She loves anything that makes life easier with ADHD! Her husband and her three sons all have ADHD (throw in some Tourettes, ODD, OCD, SPD and SLD too).     As well as Sharon's lived experience, she has been researching ADHD for over 15 years, studied at ADDCA in New York and the International Coaching Federation. Sharon has runs on the board, assisting over 35,000 families since The Functional Family was created.  Sharon has won multiple awards including Business Awards - Outstanding Education Service, AusMumpreneur - Disabled Business Excellence, People's Choice Leadership, People's Choice Making a Difference and the Cook's Community Award. Learn more about Sharon's membership, ADHD & Families Program, and free resources -> https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/work-with-me -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Ever feel like your SPICY kid is allergic to the word "no"? They're actually wired to struggle with three things that make it *look* like they're being difficult 'on purpose' (when it's really just their brain asking for help). Tune in for a perspective shift to help you parent with less stress and more connection. Explore why spicy kids struggle with “no” (and how to set boundaries that stick). Understand why connection is like oxygen for them, and what you can do about it. Learn the SPICY framework that’s transformed thousands of families around the world. -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Dental anxiety isn't just about teeth — it's also about feeling powerless. It's a topic I covered on a recent Prism Perspective call. Tune in to learn...   • How to help your child understand their anxiety • Simple strategies to make dental visits less traumatic • Why lying about pain backfires (and what to say instead) • Ways to empower your child with choice and control -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

'Does everyone need therapy?' It's kind of like asking 'does everyone need deodorant'? Not strictly. BUT... Do you remember your last train ride on a summer day? Or that Uber trip? Or the customs line at the airport? Yechh... The sights, the sounds... the... smells. Body odor (and lack of deodorant!) in a small space is kind of like our emotional struggles and unresolved traumas. Both have an impact on the people around us, and we often don't even realize it!   The thing to remember is that therapy benefits everyone, not just people with severe trauma. And one of the best things we can do for our children is investing in our own mental health. By addressing our own issues, we create a healthier, more stable environment for our family to thrive in. Join me on this hot take to find out why, and learn what you can do about it. Timecodes 00:00 - Misconceptions about therapy 00:54 - Therapy as a family gift 01:23 - Understanding childhood trauma 01:58 - Recognizing personal trauma 02:56 - Addressing childhood beliefs 03:50 - Benefits for everyone -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

I don't know about you, but I like to imagine parenting as a marathon, not a sprint ‍♀️ But it's hard to think long-term when every day feels like a race to the finish line. It's like the parenting version Groundhog Day... …we roll into bed exhausted, disconnected, frustrated, and anxious because we KNOW we're only hours away from doing it all again So, here's a little secret… By making small changes to the way we parent each day, the wins start to rack up - fast. And in the process, we create a beautiful legacy for future generations. That's how you become a cycle breaker - by modelling a new way of parenting for your children, your grandchildren and beyond. So where do we start? A great place is learning how to fill your child's 'buckets'. This builds a solid foundation of love and understanding while preparing them to be amazing parents themselves one day. Unpack the buckets analogy with me to learn the 3 tools you can use to help your child feel 'ok', connected and respected (which leads to better behavior and greater emotional regulation!). Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction 00:19 - What are the buckets? 04:45 - Being a cycle breaker 05:23 - The source of resistance 06:56 - The buckets: breakdown 08:37 - The source of power struggles -- 🌶️ Spicy kids free workshop -> https://heidilinks.com/pod-top5 👆 If you have a strong-willed or 'sensitive' child at home, you don't want to miss the Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make With Neurospicy Kids. Tap the link above to choose your session time! -- If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe. It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child -- Connect With Me YouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-yt Facebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fb Instagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ig Speaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking