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Most people think being mostly committed is good enough. Mostly honest. Mostly all in. But this week Josiah walks through one of the most uncomfortable stories in the Bible and makes a case that "mostly" might be the most dangerous place you can be. This one doesn't pull punches. But it ends somewhere you might not expect.

It's the question most people are actually asking underneath everything else. If God is real and He actually loves you, why did He let that happen? Why didn't He show up? This week, Josiah sits with that question and doesn't try to explain it away. Instead he walks through a story where Jesus shows up four days too late, a grieving woman says exactly what she's thinking, and God does something nobody expected. It's not a tidy answer. But it might change what you think God actually feels about your pain.

Everyone has something. The thing you think about most, spend the most time on, the thing that has the most control over your emotions. You might not have named it, but it's running your life whether you know it or not. And here's the part nobody talks about: the more power you give it, the more it gives back, but it always takes four times more than it gives. This week Josiah walks through the psychology of what happens when one thing takes over, why the cycles that feel like coping are often the thing making everything worse, and what it actually looks like to get out.

How do you actually know what you’re supposed to do with your life? Most of us are waiting for clarity. Maybe a sign or a clear direction. Something that tells us exactly where we’re going before we take a step. But what if that’s not how it works at all? In this episode, Josiah walks through one of the earliest stories in the Bible, where Abraham is told to leave everything familiar without being told where he’s going. Not as a punishment, but as the starting point of a real relationship with God. This conversation explores why purpose often feels unclear, why we want answers before trust, and why waiting for certainty might actually be the thing holding you back.

How do you actually know if God is first in your life? Well, the answer is a test. In this episode, Josiah walks through one of the most controversial stories in the Bible, where Abraham is asked to give up the thing he loves most. Not to show blind obedience, but to reveal something deeper about how faith actually works. Why the biggest spiritual moments often feel like tension and how to tell what you truly trust. If you’ve ever felt like following God doesn’t make sense, or like He’s asking too much, this conversation is for you. 

God makes Abraham a promise. Abraham believes it. And then Abraham and Sarah decide to help God out a little, just to make sure it actually happens. What follows is one of the messiest, most relatable moments in the entire Bible, and honestly, most of us are living our own version of it right now. This week Isaac walks through what happens when faith turns into control, why the things we add to God to feel more secure are usually the exact things making us miserable, and what it means that in the middle of all that chaos, God shows up specifically for the person nobody else was paying attention to.

Many of us have a version of spiritual anxiety we don't talk about. The fear that if we're not doing enough, believing hard enough, or living right enough and God is going to reject us. This week, Josiah goes back to one of the oldest stories in the Bible and finds an answer that most people completely miss. "In this message, I borrowed heavily from two messages that have deeply impacted me: the first is from Pastor Tim Keller in his teachings on Genesis 15. The second was from Pastor Dan Gregory in a message he gave at Momentum Youth Conference on John 8. I would HIGHLY recommend you listen to these on your own! I attached them below." - Josiah Tim Keller - https://gospelinlife.com/sermon/abraham-and-the-fire/ Dan Gregory - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKmVgEdlLcA&t=1961s

If something feels off, how do I know if I should end it? This week, Vinnie gets personal about a relationship he held onto way longer than he should have, the excuses that kept him there, and what it finally took to be honest with himself. If you've been in a relationship that feels like it's pulling you in two different directions, this one's for you.

**We apologize for the poor audio quality this week. Our systems crashed while recording. While we did our best to recover the audio, we're sorry if things are hard to understand.** This episode is for the guys! How do you know what to be looking for in a girl? This week, Josiah goes somewhere most people won't: the real green flags and red flags that actually predict whether a relationship will thrive or slowly drain you. It's not about a checklist of qualities. It's about one question: is she living for something bigger than herself? Because sweetness isn't the same as selflessness, and how she treats you now is a terrible indicator of how she'll treat you twenty years from now. This one might be the most practical episode of the series. Whether you're dating someone right now or just trying to figure out what you actually want, this is worth your time.

Most of us were never taught what to actually look for in a partner. We go off vibes, attraction, and whether they seem like a good person and then wonder why things fall apart five years in. This week, Josiah gets specific about what separates a healthy man from a toxic one and the answer might not be what you expect. It's not about who's hotter, more successful, or says the right things. It's about trajectory. Does he take initiative or make excuses? Does he take responsibility or quietly let everything drift to whoever's most comfortable? Does he add shame to your life or actively work to take it away? Toxic and healthy men can look almost identical on the surface. Until they don't. We also talk about why the person you keep choosing might say more about how you see yourself than how you see them, and what it looks like to actually raise your standards instead of just saying you have.

There's a reason breakups sometimes hurt way more than they "should." Or why you can't stop thinking about someone you know wasn't good for you. Or why that situationship left you feeling more empty than fulfilled. Turns out, there's actual neuroscience behind it and it has everything to do with how bonding, oxytocin, and intimacy work in your brain. This week, Josiah gets into what modern psychology and an ancient text both seem to agree on: sex is not just physical. It bonds you. And when that bond gets broken without real commitment, it leaves a mark. We talk about why "consensual" doesn't automatically mean "healthy," what it actually means to want all the perks of closeness without any of the vulnerability, and the one question that's way more honest than "how far is too far?" No shame. No gatekeeping. Just a real conversation about relationships, attachment, and what it might look like to actually protect yourself and someone else.

Romance causes more anxiety than almost anything else in life. How do you find the right person? How do you avoid repeating the same mistakes? How do you know when to stay or when to walk away? And why does something we want so badly so often end up hurting us? In this episode, Josiah lays the foundation for a series on relationships by challenging one of the biggest assumptions in modern dating: that love is about what we receive. Drawing from social research, cultural trends, and the teachings of Jesus, he explores why so many relationships collapse and others don't.

In this live Q&A episode, Josiah Bogue, Chuck Olminsky, and Vinnie Lobello respond to some of the most common questions people have about Christianity. Has the Bible been changed over time? Are there real contradictions in it? Are some translations more trustworthy than others? Why does suffering exist if God is loving? Can you be a “good person” and still end up in hell? These questions come from people inside and outside the church, including skeptics, seekers, and longtime believers. The conversation explores how the Bible was translated, how Christians think about apparent inconsistencies, and how faith intersects with doubt, pain, and free will. If you have ever had serious questions about the credibility of the Bible or the character of God, this episode walks through them in a thoughtful and accessible way.

What do you do when something in the Bible really bothers you? When a passage feels confusing, offensive, or completely at odds with what you expect God to be like? A lot of people quietly walk away at that point. Others stay but stop being honest. In this episode, Josiah explores one of the most overlooked ideas in faith: questioning Jesus. Using the story of John the Baptist’s doubts, this conversation looks at how expectations shape belief, why we’re tempted to remake God in our own image, and the difference between looking for confirmation versus being open to conviction.

Reading the Bible can feel intimidating—confusing passages, unfamiliar contexts, and the question of where do I even start? In Part 3 of our Bible series, Chuck helps bring the Scriptures down to earth by offering practical tools for reading the Bible with clarity, consistency, and confidence. In this episode, we talk about how to approach different parts of the Bible, what to do when you feel stuck or overwhelmed, and how to move from simply reading the text to actually understanding and applying it in everyday life. Whether you’re brand new to the Bible or have been reading it for years, this conversation will help you develop a healthier, more sustainable rhythm of engaging with God’s Word. Perfect for anyone who wants the Bible to feel less abstract and more livable.