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This week started with TikTok ads about male kegels, beet root, and supplements promising better performance. I thought I was about to record a “grown” episode. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized… this isn’t about sex. It’s about the fact that I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to let go. I’ve been “on” for so long, my body forgot how to turn off. And it’s showing up everywhere. In my sleep. In my stress. In my body. And yeah… in my sex life too. This episode is for the people who carry the weight for everyone else and forgot how to carry anything for themselves. If you’ve ever been the strong one, the dependable one, the one everybody leans on… this one is for you. What we get into:Why this isn’t really about sex or performanceHow being “always on” shows up in your bodyThe difference between resting and just pausingWhy pleasure feels like pressure when you can’t let goHow stress quietly runs your life if you don’t check it It’s About DAMN Time:It’s about damn time I stop treating rest like a reward… and start treating it like a requirement. D.A.M.N. Challenge:This week, don’t try to fix anything. Just notice where you’re holding tension. Your shoulders. Your chest. Your stomach. Your breath. Then do one small thing to relax. Not perfect. Not deep. Not life-changing. Just one win. Take the bath. Go to bed early. Sit still for a minute. We’re not chasing home runs. We’re stacking small wins. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

What happens when the job looks good on paper… but feels wrong in your body? This week, I’m sitting down with Arylle Young to unpack a post that stopped me mid-scroll: “I quit the job everybody wanted.” At first, it sounded bold. Brave. Maybe even reckless. But this conversation turned into something deeper. We talked about: The quiet tension of staying somewhere that drains youThe lie we tell ourselves about “security”Why quitting without proof of concept is dangerousThe difference between choosing your passion and choosing yourselfScarcity mindset vs. intentional transitionWhy you can’t analyze your way into entrepreneurship This isn’t a “burn it all down” episode. It’s about the internal math. The emotional cost. The identity split of holding on to two worlds at once. If you’ve ever thought: “I know this isn’t where I’m supposed to be… so why am I still here?” This one’s for you. In This Episode:When “stable” starts feeling like a trapWhy one of your identities eventually has to dieThe danger of romanticizing entrepreneurshipHow to build revenue before you make the leapWhy service — not ego — drives incomeWhat I’m still wrestling with in my own career It’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about damn time we stop glorifying quitting… and start asking what staying is costing us. Connect with Arylle YoungFind her on all platforms: @ArylleYoung She helps podcasters turn their voice into revenue with strategy, not vibes. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now Mentioned in this episode: Ready to Make Your Podcast Actually Pay You? If you’ve been thinking about starting a podcast… or you already have one and it’s not making money yet… this is for you. Arylle created a Podcast System Audit to help you get clear on what’s working, what’s not, and how to structure your podcast with profitability in mind from day one. This isn’t about posting episodes and hoping something sticks. It’s about: Building a podcast that opens real opportunities Creating a strategy that fits your life and goals Making money without the long, drawn-out guessing game If your goal is freedom, not just content… start here. Grab the Podcast System Audit here: https://podcashmachine.com/podcast-system-audit Podcast System Audit

I grew up in church. God was always the right answer. Mess up? God. Feel guilty? God. Need forgiveness? Quote a verse and reset. But depression changed everything. When my mental health started slipping, my faith didn’t disappear. My trust did. I didn’t feel guided. I didn’t feel covered. I didn’t feel held. And when I was struggling the most, I kept hearing the same thing: “You’re not praying hard enough.” In this episode, I talk openly about my fractured relationship with God. Not from a place of rebellion. From a place of honesty. I still believe in a Creator. I just don’t know what our relationship is anymore. This isn’t anti-God. It’s anti-performing faith. If you’ve ever felt abandoned in your darkest season… If your depression made you question what you were taught… If you believe but don’t feel connected… This conversation is for you. What We Talk AboutGrowing up in a Black Southern household where God was the solution to everythingHow faith sometimes felt like a spiritual reset buttonWhen depression made trust disappearThe “pray harder” narrative and how it damaged more than it healedWhy suffering in the Bible is accepted, but mental health struggles aren’tComparing my relationship with God to my relationship with my fatherWanting peace more than answersThe difference between believing in God and feeling held by HimWhy you shouldn’t force a version of faith that doesn’t match where you are emotionally It’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about DAMN time we stop forcing a relationship with God that doesn’t reflect where we actually are. Be honest about your faith. Be honest about your doubt. Be honest about your pain. Truth is not rebellion. It’s alignment. If This Episode ResonatedYou are not broken. You are not faithless. You are human. Share this episode with someone who doesn’t have the words yet. Let them know they’re not alone. Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

This week I’m joined by content creator, podcaster, and entrepreneur friend Kat P. We talked about what it really means to be “unfiltered” without being emotionally reckless. How overthinking shows up even when you look fearless online. Why content creation can turn into therapy before you ever step foot in therapy. And how being honest can free you… or burn the whole bridge down. It’s funny. It’s a little wild. It’s real. And somehow we still landed the plane. If you’ve ever held your tongue, edited yourself for comfort, or talked yourself out of living your life… this one’s for you. In This Episode, We Get IntoWhy both of us avoid going live and overthink everythingThe difference between being unfiltered and being emotionally recklessWhen honesty inspires people vs. when it hurts peopleContent creation as a diary, an outlet, and a form of survivalTherapy, avoiding therapy, and what finally pushes you to goWork life vs. real life and hiding your personality to keep a paycheckInternet trolls, clapbacks, and when it’s worth respondingThe consequences of “saying it with your chest”Doing it for the plot… and knowing when to chill It’s About DAMN Time SegmentKat’s take: stop thinking so much and do the thing. Get rejected. Get uncomfortable. Start over. Live anyway. Because life is already hard. You might as well enjoy it on purpose. Where to Find Kat PTikTok: @art_n_shyt Instagram: @art_n_shyt YouTube: @thoughtsnshyt3306 Podcast: Thoughts N Shyt Calls to ActionIf this episode hit you, send it to your “I overthink everything” friend. And if you’ve been filtering yourself to make other people comfortable… let this be your sign. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

We’ve all had that moment. The one where something felt off… but we stayed anyway. In this conversation with Jhamyne “Jhazzy” Joyner, we unpack the difference between lust, love, and longing and the ways we ignore our own intuition in the moment. From intense chemistry and love bombing to slow burns and emotional awareness, this episode is about learning how to recognize what your body already knows. If it isn’t love… what is it? And more importantly...why do we keep choosing it? What We Get IntoThe difference between lust, love, and longingWhy intense chemistry can feel right—but still be wrongLove bombing vs. the slow burnMistaking physical intimacy for emotional connectionIgnoring red flags we definitely sawLearning to trust your intuition in relationshipsWhat it really means to “do it for the plot” (and why it backfires) It’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about damn time we listen to our intuition when it comes to love… and stop ignoring what we already know. About the GuestJhamyne “Jhazzy” Joyner is a poet, creative, and storyteller currently working on her upcoming poetry book, I Should’ve Known by the Way You Kissed Me, a project that explores lust, love, longing, and loss through lived experiences and reflection. Tap In with Jhazzy📍 Instagram: @allthatjazz_ 📍 Poetry Page: @quotedbyjhané 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Growth sounds beautiful until it starts changing your circle.In this episode, I talk about the hard realization that everybody can’t go where you’re headed. Not because they’re bad people. Not because you hate them. But because you’re not the same person anymore. Inspired by a real conversation with my sister, I break down what it looks like when you’ve evolved… and the people around you haven’t. When nostalgia replaces vision. When loyalty starts costing you momentum. When you find yourself shrinking just to keep old relationships comfortable. This isn’t about cutting people off. It’s about recognizing when alignment has shifted. Because growth costs something. And sometimes… it costs access. If you’ve been feeling drained, frustrated, or out of place in rooms that used to feel like home, this one is for you. What We Talk AboutWhy growth changes your environment, not just your mindsetThe difference between loyalty and alignmentOutgrowing people you loveHow I walked away from my former podcast to build It’s About DAMN TimeWhen encouragement fuels you vs. when fear gets projected onto youWhy shrinking yourself is self-sabotageHow to shift access without making dramatic announcementsObserving your energy before and after certain interactions It’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about DAMN time you stop confusing history with destiny. It’s about DAMN time you stop shrinking to make other people comfortable. It’s about DAMN time you accept that growth changes who gets access to you. D.A.M.N. ChallengeIdentify one relationship you’re holding onto out of loyalty instead of alignment. Don’t cut it off. Just observe. Pay attention to your energy before and after interacting with that person. Notice what it does to your momentum. Notice what it pulls from you. Awareness first. Decisions later. Growth isn’t loud. It’s quiet. It’s lonely sometimes. But it’s necessary. And you don’t have to apologize for evolving. Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

This one sat in my notes for six months. I didn’t record it because I didn’t have the courage. Not because I didn’t have the words. This episode started with a logo. A conversation. A misunderstanding. And a video that may or may not have been about me. But that wasn’t the point. The point was the sting. The point was realizing that maybe I wasn’t being attacked. Maybe I was being exposed. Because what if the reason I’m always looking for applause, downloads, compliments, awards, and “you’re dope” messages… is because I don’t trust my own voice? What if I’ve been outsourcing my self-worth? In this episode, I sit with the uncomfortable question: Do I even like me? Not love. Like. We talk about: Seeking validation like it’s a dopamine hitDownplaying compliments while still needing themGiving so much to others that you feel valuableLiving in the future and never celebrating progressThe difference between liking yourself and loving yourselfShowing up for yourself as proof This isn’t a lesson. It’s not a clean five-step fix. It’s a confession. Because love doesn’t come before like. And maybe it’s about DAMN time we learn how to like ourselves first. It’s About DAMN Time SegmentIt’s about DAMN time I stop needing the cosign to believe I’m enough. D.A.M.N. ChallengeAsk yourself this week: Do I like me? If the answer is yes, name three real reasons. Not surface. Not cute. Real. If the answer is no… sit with that. No shame. Just honesty. Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

What does it look like when you’re talented, proven, and STILL out here dodging opportunities? My friend Jada Durden pulled up for a real conversation about playing small. We talk about betting on yourself, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and why some of us will literally run away from paid work even when we’ve already earned the right to be in the room. Jada breaks down her whole journey. State job to blogging. Blogging to bylines. Social media to marketing manager. Shreveport to Lake Charles to New Orleans. And even with all that, she still had to face the same thing we all face. It’s not always a lack of skill. Sometimes it’s fear of being seen. What we get into (key topics)Playing small even when you’ve already proven you’re goodImposter syndrome vs anxiety and vulnerability“We have not because we ask not”How Jada quit her state job during COVID and bet on herselfBuilding a career through relationships, networking, and support systemsMoving cities as an adult and starting over sociallyThe mindset shift from “Can I?” to “Why not me?”Doing it for the plot. Doing it scared. Doing it anyway It’s About DAMN Time segmentIt’s about damn time we stop shrinking when the opportunity is literally looking for us. D.A.M.N. Challenge (listener call-up)This week, pick one thing you’ve been dodging and take the smallest real action: Send the email.Submit the pitch.Follow up.Ask for the rate.Say yes before you talk yourself out of it. Then tell yourself the truth: you’re not unqualified. You’re uncomfortable. There’s a difference. Guest infoJada Durden Find her on all platforms: @LovingThisLifeJada Food, travel, day trips, and life in New Orleans. Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

There comes a point where always being the hero starts costing you your life.In this episode, I talk about what it really means to always show up for everyone else — and what it’s taken from me over the years. For three years straight, I set goals. For three years straight, I missed most of them. It wasn’t laziness. It wasn’t lack of ambition. It was misdirected energy. I realized I was investing more time into saving other people than I was building the life I say I want. And when you’re always Mufasa in everyone’s story… you forget how to be yourself in your own. We talk about: The hidden cost of always being the dependable oneWhy reliability and accessibility are not the same thingThe guilt that keeps you stuck in “hero mode”How survivor’s guilt shaped my boundariesWhy being the “bad guy” might actually save your life There’s a difference between being kind and abandoning yourself. You can be the bad guy in someone’s story for a moment… or be the bad guy to yourself forever. It’s about DAMN time we stop confusing self-sacrifice with love. It’s About DAMN Time SegmentIt’s about DAMN time we stop being the bad guy to ourselves just to be liked. D.A.M.N. ChallengeChoose one moment this week to protect your time. No explanation. No over-justifying. No guilt spiral. Just choose you. Sit with the discomfort. Notice what doesn’t fall apart. y7hyFMu3Ji3bUwvrOXp8 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Questioning Everything Was Just the StartThis wasn’t a planned episode. This was me hitting record because I couldn’t keep carrying everything in my head. Lately, I’ve been tired. Not just physically. Mentally. Spiritually. Creatively. And it had me asking some uncomfortable questions. About the podcast. About my direction. About whether I’m burned out or just done. Somewhere in all of that, one question kept coming back up: What’s my why? And maybe more importantly… is it even mine? In this episode, I talk through burnout, pressure, comparison, and the boxes we put ourselves in trying to be liked, understood, or validated. I don’t have a neat answer. I’m not teaching a framework. I’m just being honest about what it feels like to realize the way you’ve been moving no longer fits. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from something you once loved, or stuck trying to live up to expectations that aren’t really yours, this one’s for you. No perfection. No polish. Just a real moment in the middle of a shift. It’s About DAMN Time SegmentIt’s about damn time I stop moving for everyone else and start defining my why for myself. D.A.M.N. ChallengeTake some time this week to discover or rediscover your why. Not the one that sounds good. Not the one that makes other people comfortable. The one that actually belongs to you. Write it down. Sit with it. Let it change if it needs to. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Everybody talks about loyalty.Nobody talks about growth.In this solo episode, I freestyle my way through a realization I’ve been avoiding for a while. The people you’re closest to might not be the people helping you move forward. And that doesn’t make them bad people. It just means your life has shifted. I break down why trying to get everything from one group will burn you out, how over-pouring into others can stall your own progress, and why it’s okay to build different cliques for different parts of your life. This isn’t about cutting people off. It’s about getting honest about what you need. Because loyalty without growth eventually turns into resentment. And it’s about damn time we talked about that. In this episode, I get into:Why being the “captain” of your clique can quietly hold you backThe difference between pouring into people and being pulled upWhy you don’t need one clique. You need the right onesHow your environment impacts your motivation, discipline, and goalsThe mistake I keep making with the relationships that actually push me forwardWhy balance beats grind culture and comfort every time It’s About DAMN Time SegmentIt’s about damn time you stop expecting one group of people to meet every need in your life. The D.A.M.N. ChallengeThis week, identify the cliques you actually need. Not who you’ve been loyal to. Not who’s always around. Who makes you better? For me, that’s: A fitness cliqueA creative cliqueA fun, blow-off-steam clique Figure out yours. Then start watering the right relationships. If this episode had you thinking about your circle, your growth, or your balance, share it with someone who might need to hear it too. Let’s build better environments. Let’s get 1% better every day. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

You ever think you’re burned out… but realize you’re just exhausted from being available to everybody but yourself? Yeah. That part. In this episode, I’m coming back from a short hiatus and telling the truth about why rest didn’t actually feel like rest. It wasn’t burnout. It was overextension. Too many conversations. Too much access. Too much proving love by showing up at the expense of my own goals. We talk about the difference between consistency and over-availability, how poor boundaries turn other people’s urgency into your emergency, and why this season of building requires less access to me and more commitment to myself. This isn’t about cutting people off. It’s about finally choosing yourself without guilt. 🧠 Topics we get into:Why burnout isn’t always the real problemHow overextending for others drains your purposeThe lie we tell ourselves about “being consistent”Why availability is not the same as loveSetting boundaries without over-explaining yourselfChoosing your goals without feeling like the villain ⏱️ Episode Highlights:“Everybody’s urgency became my emergency”Why helping everyone else kept me stuckThe cost of proving love through accessWhy this season requires less of them and more of me 💬 It’s About DAMN Time Segment:It’s about damn time I limit access to pursue the goals and dreams I actually want and need. 🎯 D.A.M.N. Challenge:Identify one place where you’re overextending yourself this week. Pull back without explanation. No long story. No justification. Just do it. See how it feels. If this episode hit home, don’t just listen. Share it. Post it in your stories. Send it to someone who needs permission to choose themselves. That’s how you help me keep this thing moving. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Malinda’s PickEpisode: Stress Less, Weigh Less: The Connection Between Stress and Weight (Featuring Medina Henry) Originally aired: 11/7/2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Malinda, who picked this episode because it finally connected the dots between stress, survival mode, and weight in a way that made sense without shame. In this conversation, I’m joined by Medina Henry, and we break down why doing “everything right” still doesn’t work when your nervous system is fried. This isn’t about willpower. It’s about cortisol, trauma, sleep, and the weight we carry that has nothing to do with food. You’ll hear the full replay, then I’ll close with a short reflection on why managing stress had to come before managing anything else. 🗣 Episode highlightsWhy chronic stress sabotages weight lossHow cortisol affects cravings, sleep, digestion, and metabolismThe mental and emotional side of “holding weight”Why weight is often the symptom, not the problemUnlearning shame around health and body imageRealistic, practical ways to support your nervous systemLetting go of Instagram wellness fluff and choosing grace 💬 It’s About DAMN Time SegmentI reflect on the moment I realized I couldn’t out-diet or out-exercise unmanaged stress. 🎯 D.A.M.N. ChallengeIdentify your top two stress triggers this week. Choose one small way to show your body some love. 💬 Fan Favorite Series CTAWhich episode changed how you look at your body or your health? Tag @DaWholeDamnShow and @ItsAboutDamnTimePod with your pick and why. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Jamie’s PickEpisode: Choosing Yourself: How to Set Boundaries With Difficult Family Members (Featuring Stephanie Perkins) Originally aired: June 6, 2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Jamie, who picked this episode because it tackles one of the hardest truths: sometimes the people you need boundaries with the most are family. Even when the love is real. Even when the guilt is heavy. In this conversation, I’m joined by Stephanie Perkins — mental health advocate, dope energy carrier, and friend — as she shares how choosing herself meant creating distance from a toxic family dynamic. Not for drama. Not for punishment. For survival. You’ll hear the full replay, then I’ll close with a short reflection on why this message still matters. 🗣 Episode highlightsWhy setting boundaries with family hits differentlyRecognizing when love becomes emotionally unsafeStephanie’s decision to stand firm with her motherHow therapy and support helped interrupt generational traumaChoosing yourself without waiting for permissionCreating healthy distance from one-sided relationshipsWhat it’s about damn time for you to start doing 💬 Fan Favorite Series CTAWhich episode helped you choose yourself? Tag @DaWholeDamnShow and @ItsAboutDamnTimePod with your pick and why. 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Deanie’s PickEpisode: No Matter What They Say: Embrace the Power of Not Giving a Fck (Featuring Paula Sima) Originally aired: [8/27/2024] This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Deanie in Atlanta, who fell in love with this episode because of Paula’s energy, her honesty, and her don’t-hold-back way of reminding you to be unapologetically yourself. Deanie said it best: people are going to think and act how they want, so you might as well live your life on your terms with a happy heart and maybe a drink or two along the way. You’ll hear Deanie’s take first, then the full replay. I’ll wrap things up with a short reflection on why this message still lands today. 🗣 Episode highlightsWhy caring less about other people’s opinions creates more freedomHow to shift your mindset when self-doubt tries to take overThe balance between protecting your peace and knowing when to clap backPaula’s journey through self-improvement and mental healthFinding your tribe and surrounding yourself with people who uplift youLiving bold, loud, real, and unapologetically youOwning your creativity, your voice, and your damn truth 💬 Fan Favorite Series CTAWhat’s your favorite It’s About DAMN Time episode? Tag @DaWholeDamnShow and @ItsAboutDamnTimePod with your pick and why you might hear it next. 🔗 Connect & Support🎙 Follow Paula Sima on IG 🌐 Explore all things Paula 📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now