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This week, we dive into The D Word; one of the scariest words you can utter in a marriage. We break down 8 common signs of divorce and reflect on how we recognized these red flags later than we would have liked. But after standing on the edge of marital oblivion, we found that living in fear of divorce was not nearly as helpful as having a healthy respect for it. That healthy respect is part of what keeps a marriage in the moment, looking out for trouble on the horizon, and a relationship built on open communication. Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/better-divorce/202108/8-signs-partner-may-want-divorce Great News! We're performing a benefit concert for one night only called Mess Is More: The Musical. All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs. All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home. Get your tickets for July 19, 2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/ If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/ We hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical. You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess! Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast) Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

Great News! We're performing a benefit concert for one night only called Mess Is More: The Musical. All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs. All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home. Get your tickets for July 19, 2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/ If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/ As we prepare  the concert, we've been collaborating and cooperating in ways that sometimes feel a little different than married life.  Reflecting on our past creative endeavors, we are reminded of some of the lessons we learned in the process and how it has strengthened our marriage overall. Listen to "Conjugal Collaboration" to learn how a creative venture can help your marriage/partnership as it relates to: Goal settingTrust issuesPower dynamicsCommunicationSupporting each otherGoing from a win/lose mentality to a we win approachSharing a phone chargerWe hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical. You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess. Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast) Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

We did it! We made it through 40 plus weeks of pregnancy, the trials of labor, and the indescribable feeling of seeing the little person we made together. Then the fun starts. We always heard "everything would change", that "life will never be the same", but we didn't really know what it would all mean. In this weeks episode we break it down: How are things different now?What does our life look like?Why are we simultaneously so happy and so sad?Why are the baby blues such a stupid name for something so damn hard?Why aren't more people talking about it?Join us in the conversation as we explore how joy is different now. Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast), and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

We're back y'all! And we have a new name: Mess Is More!  We left last season with a real cliffhanger ...did we or did we not have that baby???  Spoiler: We did.  Today's episode is dedicated to the birth story of the amazing tiny human we made! And it's a good one, folks. If you've ever had a baby or your partner has ever had one you will relate to a lot of this story. If you haven't been privy to this sort of thing, you'll get a glimpse into what it takes to birth a human and the incredible bonding opportunity an experience like this is for a couple.  We have so much to catch you up on, and this is JUST the beginning. Please join us for Season Two of the new and improved Mess is More podcast. All the messy marriage fun, with a shorter title so you have an easier time telling your friends about us!

If you're like us, you love taking silly Facebook quizzes that tell you which Hogwarts House you belong to. (We're proof that a Gryffindor and Slytherin can make it work!) But this week we take it to a whole other level with the Myers Briggs test from 16Personalities.com We dive into what makes us tic, how annoying it is to have a computer call you out for your worst traits, and how it affects our relationship. Does the test have our number or is it way off, and even more importantly, what can we do when we're not happy with our results? How much can you change your personality, when parts of it can be detrimental to your personal growth, your relationship, and your parenting style? Take the test and let us know what you learn about your personality. If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

In this week's episode, Emily asks Nate all about what it's like to be the other guy. Ya know, the anchor, the support person, the often overlooked partner in the pregnancy duo. What's it like finding out you're going to be a parent?  Is sympathy pregnancy a real thing? And how does it feel knowing your partner is going through a total body transformation and and a potentially dangerous and (at it's easiest) a pretty traumatic and inevitable labor experience and there's not a damn thing you can do about it? We know all the attention is typically on Mom, so this week Nate is here to give us the down and dirty on what it feels like to become a Dad! Check out this awesome article, The Science of How Fatherhood Transforms You from todaysparent.com If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

Well we did it y'all. 10 trips around the sun with each other. 5,256,000 Minutes (That's Ten Rent's of marriage! Nate & Emily sit down on their anniversary and revisit what the last 10 years has taught them, how is has surprised and challenged them. They open up about how it was nothing like they anticipated, yet richer than they could have ever anticipated. As they close out this chapter of their marriage and prepare to enter the next as parents, they reflect on what the last year has taught them. They also celebrate a year of "Twice as Less Not Perfect". As a tribute to that first episode,  where they read their vows and thought about what had changed, they up the ante and rewrite their vows for the next ten years. A big thanks to all the listeners who joined us for the journey.  If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

This week Emily & Nate recount the adventure of their BabyMoon.  What is a BabyMoon? How does one do it? Well we’ve got answers apparently, because a registered OB in Key West chased us down the street to ask us all about it. The final trip as a duo is a great chance to reflect on where you’ve been as a couple and look forward to how the new addition to your family is going to change everything. All of that was great, but like  most things in marriage, it wasn’t without its messes. From coming out of quarantine, 3rd trimester symptoms, and finding themselves in the open waters of the Atlantic, their trip to the Florida Keys  was something they’ll never forget. Also, hear an update on our most recent ultrasound and find out how to drive your parents crazy by telling everyone in another state the gender of your baby, but not them. 70 Days to go! If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

The world is opening again and if you’re like us you’re feeling equal parts excitement and “did I really like being around people that much before?” Emily and Nate found themselves thrown back into  old patterns when Nate had to start flying for work again. From little things like forgetting how to pack, to larger issues like checking in promptly when your pregnant wife texts you, it was a week filled with nervousness, excitement, relief, angst and at least one of us crying while on a plane to Omaha. This week we talk about Going the Distance...the Long Distance in a relationship, that is. If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

We all vow that we'll never become our parents, but if there's one thing that will bring it out of you, it's becoming parents yourself. This week, Emily & Nate dive into how their own upbringing has given them insight into how they would like to parent. Prompted by a great discussion of other parent's to be they talk about the wonderful things they want to pass on to their child from their families. On the flip side, they discuss the parental patterns they want to break. They also turn the lens on themselves and ask "What do I want to continue to do, and what do I want to take the opportunity to stop before an impressionable little one joins our clan?" If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

You've heard of the bump and grind, but this week Emily and Nate are here to talk ALL about the bump....and the GRUMP. Who is the grump? Is it one of them? Possibly. Likely even. What they can tell you is that they are experiencing (in real time) how pregnancy changes the very nature of a relationship. Turns out the cliche we always hear about mom's hormone changes are just one part of the story. Did you know Dad's hormones change too? When Dad had a meltdown about installing a light in the closet, Emily and Nate made that fun discovery. Here all about it and more in this Baby Update! Check out this article from Parents.com, Love and Pregnancy: 5 Ways Pregnancy Will Change Your Relationship If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected] 

Many of us say it right in the vows, and hardly take a moment to think about what it really means. Whether it’s facing your own mortality or the mortality of your partner, kicking the bucket is an uncomfortable topic. Nate & Emily talk about how they have prepared for end of life decisions...and by that they mean they haven’t prepared at all. From the little things like what songs you want played at your funeral to the big complicated stuff like wills and life insurance it’s definitely a good thing to talk about long before you shuffle off that mortal coil. Don’t fear the reaper! Stare into his empty eye sockets and you may find it brings you even closer together. If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]