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What happens when the life you worked so hard to create needs to change? In 2015, Robyn Robledo and her family moved into an RV for what was supposed to be five months. Eleven years of travel, surfing, hiking, and climbing followed. Now, with a home base and children building lives of their own, she’s navigating a different kind of adventure. In this honest conversation, Robyn explores freedom, family connection, rediscovering yourself beyond motherhood, and the discomfort of choosing a new chapter. She shares why the family returned, how everyday commitments can quietly take over your calendar, and the simple practice that helped her begin changing her life: get curious, then take a step toward that curiosity. A conversation for anyone who loves their family and still wonders what else life could hold.

00:01–01:22: Robyn and Victor reintroduce Nomads With a Purpose and the Defy the Norm podcast after a long break. They reflect on 11 years of full-time travel with five children and how challenges helped them grow individually, spiritually, and as a couple. 01:22–03:37: Victor describes how trying to remain likable and adapting his personality to each coaching client caused exhaustion and anxiety. His overworked nervous system kept inventing worst-case scenarios and made it difficult to distinguish real danger from fear. 03:37–07:40: They contrast familiar, controlled hardship—such as weight training or jiu-jitsu—with the uncertainty of travel and adventure. Robyn explains that repeated exposure to unfamiliar challenges develops self-trust, self-worth, risk assessment, and authenticity. 07:40–13:19: Their three-part framework for change is to calm the nervous system, step slightly outside the comfort zone, and question whether fearful reactions are based on facts, old conditioning, family patterns, or society’s expectations. 13:19–18:43: Traveling gave their children strong identities, confidence, and the ability to assess risk. Their current challenge is learning how to turn their authentic interests into sustainable work without falling into comparison, competition, conformity, or the pursuit of security at all costs. 18:43–24:55: A six-month European trip removed the pressure of extended-family expectations and strengthened the family as a team. However, Victor’s exhaustion, lack of involvement in planning, and fear of disappointing clients demonstrate how an overwhelmed nervous system can follow someone into even their dream lifestyle. 24:55–34:33: They revisit difficult periods in Bend and Breckenridge, including career setbacks, unsuitable jobs, financial strain, and an RV accident. In hindsight, they see these events as experiences that ultimately led them to their ideal Bend property and a more collaborative marriage. 34:33–40:17: Spirituality helped Victor move beyond seeing himself only as a provider and grinder. He now believes his gifts have a larger purpose and that it is healthy to desire abundance, influence, and income—especially when those resources allow him to help more people. 40:17–45:29: Victor explains his coaching approach: he identifies patterns in movement, posture, breathing, fascia, and emotional stress. He believes healing accelerates when physical retraining is combined with examining the emotions, experiences, and identities being held in the body. 45:29–47:45: Their central family lesson is to stop treating life as a collection of prescribed roles and schedules and begin operating as a team. Families can ask, “How do we want to live, thrive, and wake up excited?” instead of automatically following society’s definition of a good life. Our Mission: Helping families connect, regulate, and thrive through adventure, mindset, and intentional parenting. 💥 Ready to stop just surviving and start thriving? 🔗 Start Here ↠ https://www.nomadswithapurpose.com/free-trainings/ 👩‍👧‍👦 Are you a mom who wants to reconnect with your kids and bring more fun, adventure, and joy back into your family? ↠ https://funmom.nomadswithapurpose.com/blueprint 🌟 Feeling lost or craving clarity about your life’s purpose? ↠ https://awaken.nomadswithapurpose.com/soul-purpose-starter-kit 💪 Tired, but can't sleep, need coffee to function, and crash at 3pm no matter how much you sleep? ↠ https://reset.fixmyadrenalfatigue.com/freebie   We help you create a life you're excited to wake up to now, not someday!

This is the MINDSET PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

This is the WORKOUT PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

This is the NUTRITION PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

Are you stuck in a cycle of work, responsibilities, and endless routine? Join Victor and Robyn as they challenge everything you thought you knew about living a fulfilling life. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into why fun isn't just a luxury—it's a necessity for personal growth, happiness, and true wellness. Discover: - Why your "someday" might never come - How adventure sports can transform your mindset - The truth about health, wellness, and living with purpose - Practical strategies to break free from comfort zone limitations - Personal stories of overcoming fear and embracing excitement Whether you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just curious about injecting more joy into your life, this episode is your wake-up call. Learn how to redefine your perfect day, challenge your limiting beliefs, and create a life that makes you jump out of bed with enthusiasm. Warning: This episode may cause spontaneous adventure planning, sudden bursts of excitement, and a complete reimagining of what's possible in your life.

In this week's episode, we are covering: Communication: More Than Just Talking One of our biggest struggles has been truly understanding each other. Robyn would talk for hours, feeling unheard, while Victor would listen intently but miss the emotional core of what I was saying. It wasn't about the words, but about the feeling behind them. Victor's perspective was different. He was trying to find the core message, the one sentence that would validate my feelings. But our communication styles were fundamentally misaligned. The Power of Understanding Personal Growth We discovered that our individual growth paths were crucial to our relationship. Victor, for instance, requires extensive self-care – sometimes up to 4-5 hours daily. This isn't indulgence, but a necessary process of emotional and physical reset. For Robyn, growth meant learning to trust the universe, to understand that I couldn't force change in Victor, but could only transform myself.   Breaking Down Our Communication Differences Our Myers-Briggs types play a significant role in how we communicate: - Victor is more focused on feelings, memories, and past experiences - Robyn is driven by future goals, efficiency, and forward momentum. This fundamental difference used to create conflict, but now we've learned to see it as a strength. The Turning Point: Rediscovering Connection We started spending time together in our hot tub, reconnecting and trying to understand each other's perspectives. We realized that: 1. Individual growth is crucial 2. Communication is about understanding, not just talking 3. Relationships require constant intentional effort Our Relationship Toolkit We've developed strategies that have helped us: - Practice radical open-mindedness - Communicate honestly - Respect individual journeys - Create shared goals - Maintain personal growth A Message of Hope To couples struggling in long-term relationships, we want to say: Don't give up. Relationships are not about perfection, but about continuous growth and commitment. Key Takeaways: - Prioritize your partnership - Communicate openly - Maintain individual growth - Be patient with yourself and your partner - Regularly reassess and realign your relationship Our Relationship Course We've created a relationship course that breaks down our journey into four key elements: 1. Understanding personal wounds 2. Effective communication 3. Shadow work 4. Contract renegotiation The Secret Sauce: Manifestation and Trust Perhaps our most powerful tool has been manifestation. By consistently visualizing and believing in our desired outcome, we've been able to create remarkable experiences – from world travel to deepening our connection. Final Thoughts Marriage is not a destination. It's a continuous journey of growth, understanding, and recommitment. Some days are harder than others, but the key is to keep showing up, keep loving, and keep believing in each other. Resources: Our Relationship Course https://bit.ly/betheheromarriagecourse  Recommended Reading: Gene Keys https://a.co/d/3xgXEPx Enneagram Book https://a.co/d/gINIsS2 Enneagram Cheatsheets https://bit.ly/enneagramcheatsheets   Coaching Services Available Free Consult with Robyn https://calendly.com/robyn-nomadswithapurpose/30minconsult Free Consult with Victor https://calendly.com/theworkoutwarrior/30minconsult

In a raw and vulnerable podcast episode, Victor and Robyn share their journey of navigating marriage, parenthood, and personal growth. Their story reveals a common relationship challenge: The delicate balance between prioritizing your spouse and your children. The Roots of Disconnection: Robyn candidly admits that for years, she chose her children over her husband. This wasn't a deliberate decision, but a gradual process rooted in several factors: 1. Changing Dynamics: As their family grew and children became more involved in activities, their relationship shifted from being couple-centered to child-centered. 2. Unaddressed Expectations: Small feelings of betrayal and unmet expectations began to create distance between them. 3. Individual Pursuits: Victor's jujitsu and Robyn's yoga and surfing became separate activities that further pulled them apart. The Self-Care Connection: A key insight from their conversation is the critical role of self-care. Victor, in particular, requires extensive daily self-care - sometimes up to 4-5 hours - to feel grounded and balanced. This includes: - Listening to educational content - Stretching and mobility work - Breathwork - Workouts - Running - Mobility Therapy What Keeps Them Together Despite their challenges? Two things have sustained their relationship: 1. Open-mindedness: Both are willing to listen and explore new ideas. 2. Self-discipline: Each are commitment to physical health and self-improvement The Missing Piece: Shared Vision Currently, they're working to develop a shared vision for their future. Robyn emphasizes the importance of not just existing, but actively creating something meaningful together. Key Takeaways: - Relationships require constant communication and realignment - Self-care is crucial, but shouldn't come at the expense of connection - Maintaining individual growth while nurturing the relationship is challenging but possible Recommended Resources: - "The Gene Keys" by Richard Rudd - Beatrice Chestnut's Enneagram book on 27 types Their story is a testament to the complexity of long-term relationships and the ongoing work required to maintain them.

Welcome to the Defy the Norm podcast. In this solo cast, host Victor Robledo shares his deeply transformative experience from a recent ayahuasca retreat. Victor and his wife, Robin, have been living a life of adventure with their five children for the past 10 years, and this retreat marks a significant milestone in their spiritual journey. Victor candidly discusses his initial trepidations, the build-up to the retreat, and the powerful self-love he discovered. He reflects on his struggles with ADD, anxiety, and past traumas, and how the retreat helped him confront and heal these issues. Through vivid storytelling, he recounts his interactions with the ayahuasca entity, the intense emotional purging, and the overwhelming feeling of peace and clarity that followed. This episode is a raw and honest account of personal growth and the profound impact of ayahuasca. Whether you're considering a retreat yourself or simply curious about the experience, Victor's journey offers valuable insights and inspiration. Tune in to learn more about his path to self-discovery and the power of this sacred medicine.

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Dream it, Live it.  This is the introduction chapter to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.

Do you feel like you are on a self-growth journey but your partner is reluctant to change or even delve deeper into the self? In this episode, Robyn and Victor are sharing insights into why men tend to be reluctant to do the deeper shadow work and simple strategies they can use to start peeling back the layers of stress, overwhelm, trauma, or programming that keep them asleep to their emotions. Join Be The Hero for Free and start uncovering your authentic self so that you can form deeper, more passionate relationships with your spouse or partner. https://bethehero.academy

Do you ever find it hard to be a man these days? You are supposed to be confident and display leadership qualities, but the harder you try, the more you feel like you are letting people down? You love your life and your relationships but feel like you're coming up short most days. Do you want to achieve your dreams and pursue more self growth but your body can't get on the same page, your stress level never seems to decrease, and you keep hitting the same road blocks? You're trying to stay calm and focused but you often want to just scream, hit something, or jump on a plane to the Bahamas. In this episode, Victor takes you through a coaching call with his friend and client Justin to see how the mind, body, and spirit are all linked and provide tangible steps to help you become more self aware, break emotional patterns, and reprogram your mind for health and happiness. Initially, when working with Justin, Victor noticed that his low back was a major issue despite doing everything right in the gym and being healthy and fit. Victor sheds light into the root causes of Justin‘s back pain is linked to his childhood trauma, a scarcity mindset, and an uninvolved father. This is an intriguing conversation that starts off with a initial desire to improve longevity. Victor begins to evaluate energetic blockages that could be leading to disease and how early programming could be impacting Justin‘s overall well-being.  If you need help balancing your health, healing, and self growth, set up a Discover Call with Victor by going to https://robynandvictor.com

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