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What does real recovery look like beyond stopping problematic sexual behaviors? And how can someone move from managing behaviors to becoming a more emotionally aware, accountable, and trustworthy partner? This week Amie and Alana sit down with Scott Blundo, a trauma-informed recovery coach at Choose Recovery Services, to explore his four pillars of recovery: emotional intelligence, moving slowly, ownership, and self-sufficiency. In this episode, you'll learn: Why emotional intelligence is foundational to emotional regulation and empathy. How slowing down can interrupt reactive patterns and protect relationships. What genuine accountability looks like in everyday moments. Why trust grows through consistent, kept promises. Connect with Scott: You can find Scott as a facilitator in our Beyond the Facade Phase 1 and Phase 2 men’s groups and Making Sense of His Behavior - a support group for women.  We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW Group Starting! Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.  The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

Have you ever wanted something for yourself, only to immediately feel guilty for wanting it? This week Amie and Alana talk about why self-care can feel so difficult for women healing from betrayal trauma. They explore people-pleasing, hypervigilance, the pressure to keep everyone else comfortable, and the fear that choosing yourself means letting someone else down. In this conversation: How to stop putting yourself last Guilt, fear, and making decisions for yourself Hypervigilance and your partner's recovery Receiving support and allowing yourself to take up space Reconnecting with your needs, desires, and values We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW Group Starting! Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.  The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

How do childhood experiences shape our self-worth, boundaries, and adult relationships?  This week Amie is joined by Terri Cole and together they explore the father wound, high-functioning codependency, people-pleasing, and why we may find ourselves over-functioning or repeating familiar relationship patterns.  Learn how to begin healing with self-compassion, establish healthier boundaries, and focus on your own recovery without taking responsibility for someone else’s choices. Listen to our past episode with Terri: High Functioning Codependency After Betrayal Preorder Terri’s book, Father Wound.  We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW Group Starting! Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.  The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

After betrayal, peace and consistency can sometimes feel surprisingly uncomfortable—even when nothing is actually wrong.  This week, Alana explores why the nervous system can mistake what is familiar for what is safe, how hypervigilance can make calm feel threatening, and why safety has to be relearned over time. You’ll also learn a simple question to help you distinguish between something feeling unfamiliar and something truly feeling unsafe. This episode references our past episode - Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop.  We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW Group Starting! Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.  The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

Therapist Jeremy Levitt (MS, LMFT, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapist, Functional Nutrition Therapist, Psychedelic Assisted Therapist, Natural Medicine Facilitator) joins us to unpack how legal, clinically-supervised psilocybin therapy is transforming recovery from betrayal trauma and compulsive sexual behavior — from the neuroscience behind it to remission rates for PTSD and addiction that are hard to ignore. It's not a magic pill, but it might be the most powerful tool you haven't considered yet. Tune in to find out why. Are you interested in having a psilocybin-supported healing intensive? Learn more and join our interest list. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.  The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

After betrayal, many people seeking recovery become highly focused on their partner's reactions. This week Alana explores why using a betrayed partner's immediate emotional response as the measurement of recovery can create instability for both people. The episode explores healthy interdependence, boundaries, self-trust, emotional regulation, accountability, and the difference between relational connection and emotional dependency. Learn how to anchor your recovery internally. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same.  Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW groups at Choose Recovery Services Integrity Initiative - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection.  Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

They stopped the pornography. They ended the affair. They’re in therapy and doing the recovery work—so why do you still not feel safe? In this powerful conversation, Amie joins Luke Gordon and together they unpack the hidden patterns that can continue long after sexual behavior stops, including secrecy, defensiveness, control, image management, and emotional disconnection. They explore what it really takes to move from simply stopping harmful behavior to developing genuine integrity, empathy, and accountability. Get Amie’s FREE video series about identifying abuse.  We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same.  Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW groups at Choose Recovery Services Integrity Initiative - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection.  Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

What does it really mean to be a safe person? This week, Alana is joined by Luke Gordon. Together they explore why physical protection is only one part of creating safety—and how emotional regulation, honesty, vulnerability, and the environment we create at home matter just as much.  You likely already have the instinct to protect. Now you just need to expand what protection means. Listen to learn: What emotional safety really looks like How regulation creates safety How to expand your definition of “protector” We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same.  Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW groups at Choose Recovery Services Integrity Initiative - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection.  Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

This week Amie sits down with Susan Child of Sole Connections Academy to explore foot zoning, holistic wellness, body awareness, self-trust, boundaries, and healing after betrayal. Susan explains her approach to foot zoning and shares what she has observed while working with women navigating experiences including sexual abuse and divorce. The conversation then expands into a deeper exploration of what it means to reconnect with your body after difficult or traumatic experiences. We talk about: Betrayal trauma and disconnection from the body Foot zoning and holistic wellness Self-trust and learning to listen to your body again Nutrition and other wellness practices Connect with Susan: Sole Connections Academy, Instagram and Facebook: @soleconnectionsacademy  We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same.  Learn more about our Bali retreat for women happening in April 2027! 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Listen to Part 1 HERE.  This week, we continue exploring the journey from victimhood toward healing, reclaiming, and becoming the chooser. After betrayal trauma, it can be difficult to trust anyone—including yourself. You may question your intuition, your decisions, your body, your memories, and even your ability to know what is healthy. In this episode, we explore the Reclaimer and Chooser stages, including: Discovering what healthy means for you Separating yourself from your trauma, thoughts, body, and emotions Learning to trust yourself and have your own back Recognizing that you have options Creating a future that isn't dictated by your trauma You are not your trauma. You can reclaim. You can choose. You can define what healthy looks like for you. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same.  Learn more about our Bali intensive for women happening in April 2027! 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Betrayal can leave you feeling powerless. You may stop trusting your partner. You may stop trusting yourself. You may wonder what's wrong with you, blame yourself for what happened, or believe that things will never get better. But there is a difference between being victimized and remaining stuck in victimhood. You'll learn: How self-blame and shame can keep you feeling powerless Why “if they would just change” gives away your agency How boundaries can help you reclaim your power How to recognize your own growth, even when you don't feel healed yet We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same.  Learn more about our Bali intensive for women happening in April 2027! 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Can recovery itself become a form of avoidance? This week, Alana Gordon explores a pattern that can quietly interfere with healing from compulsive sexual behavior and betrayal: using individual recovery work to avoid relational repair—or using couples work to avoid personal accountability. Listen in to learn how to avoid these pitfalls and gauge if your recovery work is actually healing you and your relationship. Journaling prompts for the person who acted outside their values:  Am I asking for space to regulate or to escape accountability?  How is my individual work helping me become more relationally available?  Am I initiating repair or am I requiring my partner to still pursue me?   Can I hear my partner's experience without explaining my own first?  What changes should my partner realistically expect to see from me, and am I doing that? Journaling prompts for the injured partner:  Is this space creating stability or prolonged uncertainty?   Is my partner returning when they say they will?  Are they initiating the repair?  Am I seeing greater empathy, accountability, and engagement?  Is the individual work changing behavior or are they only explaining it?  What do I need to do in order to remain emotionally safe?  LAST CHANCE TO REGISTER! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed: FREE monthly workshop or 6-Week Group Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Betrayal doesn't just break trust—it can completely reshape how you experience rejection. In this conversation, Amie and Alana unpack why rejection sensitivity becomes so intense after betrayal trauma, how comparison steals peace, and why rebuilding self-trust is one of the most important parts of healing. You'll learn: Why betrayal attacks your sense of worth How rejection becomes stored in the nervous system How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal Why healing isn't about avoiding rejection—but refusing to abandon yourself Chapters 03:08 Personal Story of Shattered Self-Worth 10:33 Rejection Before and After Discovery 13:46 Comparison and Hypervigilance 18:07 Self-Objectification 25:40 Rebuilding Self-Trust and Safety We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! Register Now! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop: 1-hour Zoom workshop where Beth provides a safe space for connection, reflection, and simple process art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  6-Week Group: Designed for those moving through the impact of betrayal trauma and wanting a grounded, compassionate space to rebuild trust in themselves. Each week we’ll explore a theme from Rick Hanson’s book Resilience and pair it with simple art exercises. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Rejection sensitivity can quietly shape addiction, relationships, and recovery. In this episode, we discuss why individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behavior often experience intense fear of rejection—not as an excuse for harmful choices, but as an invitation to deeper healing. You'll learn: Why rejection sensitivity develops How shame reinforces addictive cycles Why recovery requires emotional resilience The difference between accountability and identity Practical ways to build emotional capacity and secure attachment Healing isn't about becoming rejection-proof—it's about learning to experience discomfort without escaping it. Chapters 02:48 Rejection as a Symptom  04:03 Childhood Roots 07:32 Neurodivergence 09:15 Addiction as Escape 11:35 Secrecy and Shame Loop 15:58 Identity vs Behavior 19:13 Emotional Immaturity 22:49 How to Heal Rejection We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! Register Now! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop: 1-hour Zoom workshop where Beth provides a safe space for connection, reflection, and simple process art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  6-Week Group: Designed for those moving through the impact of betrayal trauma and wanting a grounded, compassionate space to rebuild trust in themselves. Each week we’ll explore a theme from Rick Hanson’s book Resilience and pair it with simple art exercises. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Writing an impact letter can feel overwhelming, emotional, and even re-traumatizing. So why do it? Amie and Alana unpack the purpose behind this powerful recovery tool, explain how it fits into therapeutic disclosure, and discuss why the greatest healing often comes from validating your own experience—not trying to convince your partner to understand. Chapters 02:17 Where It Fits in Disclosure 03:41 Timing and Personalization 07:19 Grief and Ongoing Healing 09:03 Your Story and Shared Grief 16:44 Writing Makes It Real 18:10 Stop Minimizing 20:55 Write For You, Not Them We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! Register Now! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT. Housing accommodations available here. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  NEW: Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop: 1-hour Zoom workshop where Beth provides a safe space for connection, reflection, and simple process art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.  6-Week Group: Designed for those moving through the impact of betrayal trauma and wanting a grounded, compassionate space to rebuild trust in themselves. Each week we’ll explore a theme from Rick Hanson’s book Resilience and pair it with simple art exercises. Get our FREE eBook - Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me? Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.