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4/21/26 - For the Parent When betrayal enters a family, children often carry invisible pain. This week Luke Gordon joins Amie and Alana to talk about his personal experience with how to repair after betrayal. Listen in as he shares what his experience was like trying to reconnect with his children and rebuild trust. In this episode, we break down: Why kids react strongly (and sometimes unexpectedly) How betrayal trauma affects attachment and trust What parents can do to rebuild safety and connection The difference between supporting vs. overwhelming your child If you want to learn more about helping children and teens heal after betrayal, listen to Part 1,  Part 2, and Part 3.  Tune in to Morgan Ellsworth’s podcast: Healing Betrayed Families Chapters 01:28 Hannah’s Anger and Boundaries 05:10 Teens and Ongoing Impact 08:25 Attunement and Vulnerability 17:44 Make It About the Kids 23:18 Radical Transparency 30:02 Validate Their Reality 39:19 Grace for Parents Register Now! ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Betrayal trauma doesn’t just affect couples—it impacts children in ways many families don’t fully understand. This week we welcome Morgan Ellsworth, a fellow Choose Recovery Services coach and expert in helping children, teens, and families find clarity and hope after betrayal. In Part 3 of this series, we explore: The emotional world of teens navigating betrayal Why kids create their own narratives (and often blame themselves) How to give your children clarity without overwhelming them What healthy emotional support actually looks like If you’re a parent trying to protect your kids while healing yourself, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools. Listen to Part 1 and Part 2. Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: Healing Betrayed Families podcast Chapters 1:12 Meet Morgan Ellsworth 10:12 Kids Mirror Trauma Responses 12:31 Giving Teens Language 16:05 Communication 26:19 Validating Kids’ Emotions 31:35 Kids Process Reality Differently Register Now! ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

“I thought it was my fault.” In this powerful episode, Hannah Gordon, Alana’s daughter, shares what it’s like to grow up in a home impacted by betrayal trauma—and how that experience shaped her identity, relationships, and healing journey. From silent shame to emotional clarity, this conversation highlights: The reality of how kids internalize family pain The importance of giving children space to feel Why healing doesn’t mean “feeling better” right away—but feeling lighter This is a must-listen for parents, partners, and anyone navigating the long-term impact of relational trauma. Chapters 04:22 Hannah Finding Her Voice 06:25 Kids Internalize the Pain 13:39 Necessary Hard and Growth 19:33 Healing Was Not Linear 22:32 Building Self Trust 23:40 Therapy and Self Awareness 28:44 Advice for Betrayed Partners 32:07 Message to Hurting Dads Register Now! ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** NEW Help Her Heal Support Group for Men starting in April! - Register now to experience the deep healing that can come from learning about empathy, communication, and relational repair. 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

When betrayal hits a relationship, children often feel the ripple effects—sometimes in ways parents don’t immediately recognize. This week we welcome Ellia Marcum (CPC, BSP, CYPFC, CMHC) to help us understand the impact betrayal can have on the whole family system. In this episode, we talk about: The hidden impact of betrayal trauma on kids Warning signs your teen may need extra support Why teens often hide their pain How community and mentorship help children heal Building emotional safety and resilience in teens Connect with Ellia:  Mood Well Coaching  Turning to Peace magazine - Use the discount code HEALING10 to get 10% off Free resource: How to Talk to Your Children About Family Infidelity Chapters 03:48 Teens and Mental Health Shift 05:16 Hidden Hurt and Stress Signs 09:16 Real Family Examples 12:47 What to Watch For 16:51 Sibling and Peer Support 25:25 Mentors and Asking for Help 31:06 Safety in the Body 35:58 Boundaries and What’s Mine Register Now! ***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** NEW Help Her Heal Support Group for Men starting in April! - Register now to experience the deep healing that can come from learning about empathy, communication, and relational repair. 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  FREE Webinar - Wired For Pain - This webinar is designed to help couples understand why healing after betrayal can feel so painful, repetitive, and stuck—even when both partners genuinely want things to improve. April 26th at 5pm Mountain Time. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat!*** If you’ve done the work — therapy, somatic healing, journaling, inner reflection — yet still feel a part of you is collapsed, disconnected, or joyless, you’re not alone...and you’re not done healing yet. In this special bonus episode, Alana, Amie, and Hali get raw, passionate, and vulnerable about the ⁠Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat⁠ — a soul-level transformational experience specifically designed for women who’ve survived betrayal and are ready to thrive. They share: ✨ Why betrayal isn’t just emotional — it lives in the nervous system ✨ What it means to rise gently — not by forcing, but by supported embodiment ✨ How this retreat helps women reconnect with their bodies, intuition, and joy ✨ The unique blend of somatic healing, adventure, sisterhood, and restoration ✨ Real-life fears about travel + how the retreat holds your hand every step ⁠Rise, Renew, Restore⁠ is for women who have already done meaningful healing work but still feel like parts of them haven’t fully come back online. Through somatic practices, nervous system regulation, adventure, rest, and intentional sisterhood, this retreat helps you reconnect to your body, your intuition, and your joy. Uvita, Costa Rica July 13–18, 2026 (FULL) July 20-25, 2026 - SPOTS AVAILABLE Limited spots | Payment plans available If your body is saying yes but your fear is saying no — listen to this episode. 👉 Learn more & save your spot:⁠https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-renew-restore-retreat/⁠ Unsure if this retreat is right for you? Email us at [email protected] to ask questions!

Healing after betrayal is one of the hardest journeys a couple can face — especially when both partners want the relationship to work but feel stuck in the same painful patterns. This week Luke and Alana dive into one of the biggest challenges in betrayal recovery: Why progress in personal recovery doesn’t always translate into relational healing. You’ll learn: Why many men struggle to show empathy after betrayal The difference between individual recovery and relational repair What betrayed partners truly need to feel safe again How emotional regulation impacts healing Why healing after betrayal is often “Olympic-level emotional work” If you’re trying to rebuild trust, understand your partner’s pain, or move forward after betrayal, this conversation will help you see the process more clearly — and remind you that healing is possible. Don’t Miss Out! If you connected with this conversation, we invite you to learn more about our Help Her Heal men’s intensive and support groups. Reach out to find out which option may be right for you! (702) 277-9145 | [email protected] Chapters 03:39 Men and Empathy 07:15 Betrayed Partner Needs 08:57 Regulation And Shame 12:44 Rescue Versus Coregulate 16:16 Window Of Tolerance 23:38 Individual Safety Work 30:46 Validation and Safety Skills 38:22 Learning Repair Skills Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.

When betrayal trauma enters a relationship, it often changes how women see themselves. Suddenly the body becomes a project. A problem to fix. Something to evaluate through the imagined eyes of others. This episode explores self-objectification, a trauma response many women develop after betrayal, pornography exposure, body shaming, or cultural conditioning. Listen to learn: Why betrayal makes other women feel threatening How hypersexualized culture shapes body shame The difference between living in your body vs. observing it Why self-objectification disconnects women from their intuition Practical ways to rebuild safety in your body Chapters 02:03 Betrayal and Seeing Humanity 07:28 Body Awareness Micropractice 08:34 Sexual Shame 11:25 Personal Stories of Body Shaming 17:51 Signs and Costs of Self-Objectification 22:10 Porn Culture 28:22 Reclaiming Your Body Again 32:25 Three Steps to Heal 39:50 Somatic Grounding Practice *NEW* Help Her Heal men's group is starting in April. If you are a man looking to rebuild trust, cultivate empathy, create intimacy, and develop healthy communication skills, this group is for you! Register today! Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Betrayal trauma doesn’t just hurt — it destabilizes your nervous system, your identity, and your ability to function. In this powerful episode, Alana and guest Kim Brown (Choose Recovery Services coach) talk openly about: Not wanting to exist Trauma and PTSD symptoms after betrayal Grounding tools that reduce long-term harm Choosing yourself moment by moment Borrowing hope when you can’t feel it Healing isn’t glamorous and doesn’t always feel brave, but you can heal. And you don’t have to do it alone. Chapters 02:34 Betrayal as Trauma 06:23 When Functioning Collapses 08:53 Shame and Self-Compassion 13:37 Not Wanting to Exist 16:29 Healing Is Messy 25:12 Grounding the Nervous System 29:18 Practical Tools 32:58 Borrowing Hope and Support Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Are you waiting for your partner to “get it” before you can finally move forward? In this powerful episode, Amie and Alana unpack the metaphor of “the waiting room” — where betrayed partners often pause their own healing while hoping their partner will eventually change. You’ll learn: Why conditional healing keeps you stuck How resentment builds when effort doesn’t equal safety The role of attachment injuries Why nervous system healing must be internal How to anchor in reality and reclaim agency Chapters 01:37 The Waiting Room Concept 03:14 Getting Hit By a Truck Analogy 07:13 The Cost of Waiting 09:30 Building Resentment 11:34 Nervous System and Attachment Patterns 14:51 Creating Internal Safety 17:46 Fear of Healing Alone 20:16 Leaving the Waiting Room 23:22 Anchoring in Reality Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

In this episode, Amie and Alana explore one of the most painful and persistent questions betrayed partners ask: Will he ever get it? They unpack: Why your nervous system wants him to shake and tremble like you didHow trying to “make him get it” can backfireThe hidden cost of waiting for him to gain insightWhy trauma is not transferable—even with remorseYou are not wrong for wanting him to understand - but your healing cannot depend on whether he does. Chapters 04:04 What Your Brain Is Really Seeking 10:00 The Brutal Truth 10:46 Pushing for Empathy 17:04 Forcing Empathy Can Backfire 20:50 How to Spot If You’re Stuck 23:53 Self-Validation  Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Resentment isn’t bitterness or weakness, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing at healing. In this conversation, we unpack how resentment develops after betrayal trauma, how it protects you from further harm, and why suppressing it can lead to emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, and loss of joy. Chapters 01:35 Understanding Anger vs. Resentment 02:37 The Roots of Resentment 04:54 Manifestations of Resentment 07:49 Instinctive Defenses and Resentment 09:32 The Traps of Resentment 13:58 Healing from Resentment Register Now! ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope. 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce.  ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  🧘Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is May 5th-8th, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

Resentment doesn’t always look like anger. In addiction recovery and betrayal healing, it often shows up quietly—through defensiveness, withdrawal, or feeling controlled. In Part 3 of our Resentment series, we explore: Why sharing resentment too early can emotionally burden your partner How resentment forms underneath shame, fear, and loss of control The role of emotional containment in creating real safety Why empathy without boundaries is harmful How deeper emotional work reduces defensiveness and prevents relapse Chapters 00:24 Understanding Resentment in Recovery 02:05 Timing and Responsibility in Sharing Resentment 04:13 Containment and Emotional Regulation 06:14 Common Triggers of Resentment 06:54 Parts Work and Internal Conflicts 11:25 Empathy, Boundaries, and Emotional Maturity 22:15 Grieving and Letting Go of the Past 27:13 Benefits of Deep Emotional Work Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

Resentment doesn’t always look like anger. Sometimes it hides behind effort, silence, or “doing everything right.” In Part 2 of our Resentment series, Alana sits down with Luke Gordon to explore how powerlessness and entitlement quietly fuel resentment, especially in recovery after betrayal or compulsive sexual behavior. They unpack: Why resentment often goes unnoticed until it causes damage How silent scorekeeping creates emotional distance The link between resentment, entitlement, and relapse risk Why awareness alone isn’t enough–and what actually leads to healing Chapters 02:23 Personal Experiences with Resentment 05:32 Silent Scorekeeping 07:57 Entitlement and Passive Aggressiveness 10:47 Processing Resentment and Finding Power 15:33 Practical Steps to Address Resentment 22:09 The Journey of Healing Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

Healing after betrayal can feel confusing — especially when your partner is “doing everything right,” yet something still feels off. In this episode, Amie and Alana explore unspoken resentment in betrayal recovery: how resentment can exist without awareness, why it often gets denied, and how betrayed partners sense it before it’s ever named. We discuss: Why resentment doesn’t have to be felt to be acted out How shame and “good guy” identity keep resentment hidden Why partners should trust their body instead of dismissing it The difference between awareness and weaponizing emotions This is part 1 of a four-part series focused on understanding resentment without excusing harm — and without asking betrayed partners to carry what isn’t theirs. Chapters 01:55 Categories of Resentment 05:46 Importance of Awareness 08:02 Deeper Layers of Resentment 10:58 Resentment as a Protector 13:02 Managing Resentment in Relationships Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.  ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT.  💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Intimacy Within ⁠- Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

After betrayal, safety feels impossible—especially when your partner is the one who broke it. In this episode, Alana Gordon is joined by betrayal trauma coach, Laura Fisher, to explore a powerful reframe: what if safety doesn’t start with your partner at all? Together, they unpack: Why betrayal trauma lives in the body, not just the mind How your nervous system tried to protect you long before discovery Why knowing “everything” doesn’t actually create safety How internal safety restores boundaries, trust, and decision-making Practical ways to begin feeling safer inside yourself—today Past episode with Laura: Finding Freedom in Boundaries  Attend our Courage to Thrive intensive and meet Laura! - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.  Chapters 04:08 Understanding Trauma Responses 08:45 The Role of the Body in Healing 14:26 Defining Safety  21:01 Voice and Choice in Healing 27:00 Boundaries, Trust, Decisions 36:39 Rewiring the Nervous System After Betrayal 44:40 Practical Steps to Create Internal Safety 52:03 The Power of Self-Talk Register Now! 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey.   ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives.  Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected].  Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.