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When jealousy takes over, it can get in the way of your whole day! Why do we feel jealous, and where does jealousy come from? In this episode, I explore common causes of jealousy, and support you to explore your own experience. Whether you experience jealousy in relationships, compare yourself to others, or struggle with overthinking, this episode will help you better understand your emotions and explore how to change your relationship with jealousy Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

If you’re someone who overthinks everything, worries about things that haven’t even happened yet, or finds it impossible to switch off your mind, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Mollie Birney, author of How to Freefall: Feeling for Overthinkers, High Achievers, and Anxious Perfectionists, to talk about why we get stuck in our heads and how we can start to break free from the endless cycle of overthinking, worry, and trying to get everything right. Mollie describes this as mental noise - that inner voice fuelled by shame and fear, constantly analysing, second-guessing, and trying to protect us from all the things that could go wrong. What starts as a way of keeping us safe can end up keeping us stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from who we really are. We talk about why uncertainty feels so uncomfortable, how our need to control everything can leave us completely drained, and how overthinking can stop us from being present in our relationships and actually enjoying our lives. Mollie also shares how we can start to recognise these patterns, step back from the stories we keep telling ourselves, and find a little more freedom in not having all the answers. If you put pressure on yourself to get everything right, spend too much time in your own head, or wish you could just give your brain a break, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we explore: Why we overthink and how shame and fear fuel our inner dialogue. Why uncertainty can feel so threatening, even when we’re safe. How the need to control everything can leave us feeling stuck and exhausted. How to recognise when we’re caught in a cycle of worry and repetitive thoughts. Practical ways to step back from mental noise and create some breathing room. What it looks like to stop trying to figure everything out and start living a little more freely. A conversation about quieting the inner noise, getting out of our own heads, and learning how to let go

Feeling a bit off, flat, unmotivated or just plain “meh”? You’re not alone. In this episode, I (Carly Ann) am sharing three simple ways to boost your mood, get your motivation moving again, and start feeling like yourself again, even when you don’t have the energy or enthusiasm to do much. No pressure to overhaul your life or suddenly become super productive. Just three practical, realistic things you can try when you’re stuck in a low-energy, low-motivation slump. Because sometimes you don’t need to find your motivation first, you just need to take one small step to help it find you. Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Why do certain situations, thoughts, sensations, or memories trigger such a strong reaction, even when you know you’re safe or that things are OK. In this episode I (Carly Ann) explore the psychology behind these powerful reactions that I know you're motivated to change Knowing this can support you to break the cycle and makes positive changes If you’ve ever wondered: • Why do I react so strongly to certain things?• Why does my body go into panic or anxiety mode so quickly?• Why am I triggered by something I know isn’t actually dangerous?• Why does my brain keep connecting certain situations with fear?• Why can’t I simply “think” my way out of the reaction? This episode is for you Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

If you have a harsh inner critic, sometimes feel anxious or pressured without knowing why, or have moments where you think, “Am I going crazy?” - this episode is perfect for you. This episode is coming straight from my week and the therapy room - the thoughts, moments, and lessons that have stayed with me and that I feel called to share with you guys this week As a therapist, I’m sharing 3 simple but powerful lessons that I hope will help give you a boost, repair the relationship with yourself, and remind you of some truths :) Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever understood something in your head, but still not felt it, believed it, or acted on it? You can know something logically. You can analyse it, rationalise it, talk it through and understand exactly what you “should” do. And yet somehow, you still feel stuck. Your emotions haven’t caught up, you just don’t quite believe what you know. Or you keep finding yourself acting in ways that don’t match what you know In this episode, we’re exploring the head-heart gap, the space between what you think and what you actually feel, believe and do. This is very common in therapy I (Carly Ann) talk about how logic alone don’t always create the change you crave I also share two practical therapy tools to help you begin closing the gap between your head and your heart If you’ve ever thought, “I know this in my head, so why can’t I just feel it or act on it?”, this episode is for you. Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Do you have a harsh inner critic that makes you overthink, puts you down, or leaves you feeling bad about yourself? This episode deep dives into a therapy that can help you overcome that voice that holds you back and tells you you're not good enough. A harsh inner critic can lead to poor habits, low mood, and unrealistic standards, Through honest conversations and therapist-informed insights, I (Carly Ann) introduce Compassion-Focused Therapy and explore how developing a more compassionate relationship with ourselves can help us respond differently to difficult thoughts, emotions, and experiences. I’m Carly Ann, a therapist, and my aim is to make Compassion-Focused Therapy accessible and relevant to everyday life — helping you understand yourself with greater compassion and less self-judgement. Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Feel Like Healing Isn’t Working? You're no on your own! Have you ever felt like your healing isn’t working, you’re going backwards, or you’re suddenly back at square one? In this episode, I (Carly Ann) explore the Cycle of Change with you, I know that understanding this model (developed by psychologists Prochaska and DiClemente) helps us understand wat to expect when you are ready (and even desperate) for change If you're feeling a bit hopeless about change or just curious, join me in this discussion. If you’re working on your mental health, healing, personal development or breaking old patterns, it can be incredibly discouraging when you experience a setback, I know. In this episode, we’ll explore change, setbacks, and feeling like you’re back at square one. If you’ve been feeling stuck, discouraged, or wondering whether all your hard work is actually making a difference, this episode is for you. Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Are you exhausted from feeling like you're living the patterns out over and over again? You know you're capable of more. You make the promises. You tell yourself this time will be different. But somehow, you keep finding yourself back in the same patterns, facing the same problems, and wondering why you can't seem to break free. That feeling of being stuck can be suffocating. Like no matter how badly you want to move forward, something keeps pulling you back In this episode, I share a powerful practice you can use today to interrupt the cycle, reconnect with yourself, and start creating momentum in a new direction. You don't have to have your entire life figured out. You just have to be willing to take the first step. The moment you choose differently, everything can begin to change. Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Can’t stop replaying a conversation, analysing someone’s behaviour, or obsessing over what they really meant? Whether it’s an ex, a boss, a friend, or someone else in your life, relational interactions can sometimes take over your entire mind, making it hard to focus on anything else. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the part of you that is overthinking, spiralling, checking, replaying, and searching for answers. The part of you that feels like you need to figure this person or situation out before you can finally feel okay. As a therapist who has been there too, I offer a soothing, grounding, and honest conversation to help you step out of the mental loop. This isn’t about pretending you don’t care or forcing yourself to “just move on.” It’s about understanding what’s happening, calming the obsession, and gently bringing your attention and your power back to where it belongs: with you. If this situation is consuming your thoughts and you’re ready to regain control, clarity, and emotional freedom, this episode is for you. Join Break The Cycle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠ ⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Do you find yourself staring at your phone, rewriting the same text, checking if they’ve replied, and fighting the urge to send “just one more message”? Maybe you overtext when you feel ignored, rejected, anxious, triggered, or unsure where you stand. You send the paragraph, double text, triple text, ask for reassurance, and then regret it the second you hit send. You’re not alone. And you’re not “too much.” Your nervous system is looking for relief. This podcast is for the overthinkers, the anxious texters, the people who hate waiting for a reply, and anyone who has ever thought, “Why did I send that?” I’ll share practical ways to calm yourself down, regulate those intense emotions, break the urge to text, and create space between the trigger and the message, so you can stop texting from anxiety and start responding from a calmer place. Less chasing. Less overthinking. Less regret. More calm, clarity, and control. ⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

If you find yourself getting triggered by certain people, situations at work, recurring patterns, or falling into unhealthy habits that feel completely out of character, this is for you. I’m Carly Ann, and I’ve worked with thousands of people who desperately want to change the cycle of overthinking, obsessing, and having big reactions that can feel irrational, even when you know you’re not responding the way you want to. Over the years, I’ve developed a framework that helps strengthen your ability to work with these patterns, so you can become less triggered over time and feel more in control of how you respond. And for the first time, I’m sharing that framework right here. ⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Why Do I Get Triggered So Easily? A Therapist Explains 4 Reasons Have you ever had a reaction that felt much bigger than the situation? Someone says something small, cancels plans, goes quiet or gives you criticism, and suddenly you're anxious, angry, hurt or overwhelmed. Or maybe your trigger looks more like overthinking: replaying conversations, analysing what someone meant, seeking reassurance or wondering, “Why did I react like that?” In this episode, we’ll explore what a trigger actually is and why certain situations can create such strong emotional reactions. As a therapist, I hear this regularly in the therapy room, and I'll share four key reasons behind the triggers I commonly see in therapy, including how our past experiences can influence what happens in the present. If you've ever wondered why certain people, situations or comments affect you so deeply, this episode will help you understand your reactions with more curiosity and self-compassion. Listen now to understand what's really happening when you get triggered. ⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

If work has become the place where your anxiety feels the loudest, this episode is for you. Maybe Sunday evenings are just filled with dread these days, or one email can send you into hours of overthinking. Maybe you constantly question whether you're good enough, replay conversations on your drive home, worry you've said the wrong thing, or feel like you're waiting to be found out. You might tell yourself you're being too sensitive, that you should be able to cope, or that everyone else seems to handle work so much better than you do. In this episode, we're exploring why work can become such a powerful trigger for some. I talks about why your reactions often run much deeper than the job itself, how old beliefs can shape the way you experience work, pressure and success or failure. If you're lacking confidence or self-esteem at work and it's really impacting you, listen now or save for later. Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Break free from limerence, obsessive thoughts, and rumination with these calming affirmations. If you find yourself constantly thinking about someone, replaying conversations, fantasising about a relationship, or struggling to move on, these affirmations are designed to help you shift your focus back to yourself. Regular affirmation practice can help reinforce healthier thought patterns, build self-worth, increase emotional resilience, and reduce the grip of obsessive thinking. While affirmations are not a standalone treatment, they can be a powerful tool when practised alongside mindfulness, journaling, self-care, therapy, nervous system regulation, and other evidence-based approaches to healing. These affirmations are created to help you:• Reduce obsessive thoughts and rumination• Let go of unhealthy emotional attachment• Strengthen self-love and self-esteem• Feel calmer, more grounded, and emotionally balanced• Support limerence recovery and emotional healing• Create healthier relationship patterns Listen daily, whether in the morning, before sleep, or whenever obsessive thoughts begin to take over. Repetition helps strengthen new neural pathways and encourages a healthier, more compassionate inner dialogue over time. You deserve peace, emotional freedom, and relationships rooted in mutual love and respect. Let these affirmations support your journey back to yourself. Limerence resources: 10 signs of Limerence: https://carly-ann.co.uk/2026/07/06/limerence-10-heartbreaking-signs-youre-obsessing-over-someone-how-to-break-free/Another podcast ep: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1e1A4rAumJVWqAt3qQUGpZ(released on 4 Aug 2025 if you're not using spotify) Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠