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Do you ever say something and then have hundreds of obsessive thoughts along the line of “I was awkward” “They don’t like me” “I’ve pushed them away”? Or someone doesn't text back and you are flooded with “I’ve done something wrong”, “they’re losing interest”, or "why did I have to do that" This kind of spiral feels so real...but what actually happened might be nothing, but you have a tendency to create a massive, panful story in your mind anyway In this episode I (Carly Ann), talk about how to break this cycle and I share quite a famous method by a book I read years ago but has stuck with me. I hope you love it and find it as useful as many others around the world. Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

If your mood can shift in an instant and you quickly get stuck in your head - listen to this today. We have thousands of thoughts every single day, but what most people don’t realise is that those thoughts often fall into predictable patterns. And these patterns matter. Because the way you think doesn’t just reflect reality, it can quietly distort it. It can change how you see situations, how you judge people, and even how you interpret yourself. And once that shift happens, everything else follows: how you feel… and what you choose to do next. In this episode, Carly Ann breaks down the exact thought patterns and the specific language  that can make people feel triggered, hurt, overwhelmed, or suddenly irritated without fully understanding why. And most importantly, she shows you how to start noticing these patterns in real time and begin stepping out of them. Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

We all experience setbacks in the form of criticism, rejection, and failure - and the reality is that some of us getting more triggered by it than others For some of you, the slight hint of failure or rejection will lead to intense worry, physical anxiety, and not feeling good enough If that reaction is getting in the way of your potential, your happiness, and your wellbeing - you need to listen to this episode It's short and sweet, it's a small clip from the most recent Self-Worth RESET

You're a good person, in fact you're probably anxious about not being a good person... And you know that you people please. You say yes when you actually mean noYou say sorry for things that aren’t even your faultYou go along with what others think, even if you don’t agreeYou over-explain yourself so people don’t judge youYou put everyone else first and end up exhausted You get to be a good person and show up as your self too, and ultimately feel happier In this episode, Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann gives you 3 options that you can go ahead and put straight into practice Not only does it help you reduce people pleasing (and feel free for the BS!), but it's brilliant for self respect, happiness, and self-esteem - absolute bonus! I've put some real love into this ep based on what shows up in my practice, I hope you enjoy Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, old patterns or your past seems to get in the way? You may seem confident on the outside, but inside, self-doubt, overthinking, or big emotions can take control. Many of us carry invisible wounds from childhood, times we felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant. Those old patterns can follow us into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, our choices, and our relationships. I believe it is our role, to reparent ourselves and be the kind of support we always craved. When we do this, we get to create a life bigger than we imagined. In this episode, Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and Somatic Coach who specialises in self-esteem and self-worth, talks about reparenting, a gentle and practical way to give yourself the care and support you may have missed as a child. It is not about blaming the past. It is about learning to be your own nurturing parent. If you have ever felt not enough, this episode is for you. Tune in and start giving yourself the love and care you have always deserved. Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Are you a mum? Are you feeling worried and anxious in a way that feels out of proportion? Perhaps you have always worried or struggled with Self-Esteem, but when it comes to being a Mum it feels uncontrollable? As a Therapist that focuses on self-esteem, I very often work with Mums that doubt themselves, criticise themselves, and set expectations that lead to anxiety, low mood, and overwhelm. In this episode I share three common patterns that show up in the therapy room, in individual and group settings for Mum. These patterns can contribute to daily struggles or post natal depression / post natal anxiety If you do believe you may have clinical depression or anxiety, please do seek out support, you do not need to suffer alone Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Are you feeling bad about yourself, giving yourself a hard time, or struggling with self-worth? You need to listen to this, I (Carly Ann) and getting real about what makes these moments and cycles even worse. If you want to break free and embody your worthy SELF, I'm telling you what you need to hear in this episode. It's here for a boost, plus tips on how to shift your thinking. I invite you to use a mind-set shift that helps self-esteem, save this ep for later or dive straight in Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Supporting Your Inner Child Through Rejection Rejection can hit deeper than we expect - whether it’s a major life moment or the subtle, everyday kind. If you’ve ever felt disproportionately triggered, shut down, or emotionally overwhelmed by rejection, it may be your inner child asking for care and attention. In this episode, we explore how experiences of rejection can activate old wounds and why your inner child might feel unsafe, unseen, or unworthy in those moments. This conversation is for anyone doing inner work, self-healing, or exploring inner child practices and wanting practical ways to respond with compassion instead of self-criticism. I’ll guide you through three powerful techniques you can use when rejection arises - these are simple yet supportive tools to help you reconnect, regulate, and create a sense of inner safety. The third technqiue is inspired by self-compassion therapy and can be especially effective in shifting how you react. If you’re ready to meet yourself with more kindness, soften your triggers, and build a more secure relationship within, this episode will give you grounding, actionable support. Tune in to learn how to turn moments of rejection into opportunities for healing, connection, and self-trust. Note: If inner child work ever feels overwhelming or 'too much'. Take a break, and feel free to do this with me during Single Session Therapy. Links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Today I am speaking with a special guest, Mo Seetubtim, whose journey includes a deep passion for helping people live happier lives. You are invited to listen to a conversation where we explore personal development and steps towards being more intentional in your relationships and day-to-day life. From childhood curiosities to navigating the complexities of family dynamics, Mo shares personal stories of growth, self-awareness, and doing the work that led to a better relationship with herself and mother.  You get a lovely glimpse into some of the ways Mo has improved managing daily moods, and building habits that truly well-being. The discussion touches on the challenges we all face when starting to change, the subtle ways our past influences our present, and the mindset shifts that can lead to more empathy, patience, and self-compassion.  Links below: ⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠ ⁠Join my Telegram HERE

Why do relationships sometimes trigger anxiety, jealousy, or the feeling that you’re not enough, even when things seem fine on the surface? I’m Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and coach specialising in self-esteem and self-worth. I work with people who appear capable and self-aware on the outside, but internally struggle with self-doubt, rumination, perfectionism, or relationship anxiety. You might know you’re worthy, yet still feel patterns repeating that leave you unsettled in your connections. In this episode, I talk about how relational trauma can quietly show up in your adult relationships and anxiety. This isn’t about tips or quick fixes...it’s about noticing patterns, understanding what’s happening beneath the surface, and recognising that you’re not alone. If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I react this way in relationships?” or felt frustrated by your own responses, this episode is for you. Press play to start seeing your reactions with clarity, awareness, and a little more compassion for yourself. Links below: ⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠ ⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join Newsletter Join my Telegram HERE

You trust your partner… so why does jealousy still hit? The obsessing, the overthinking, the anxiety that makes you question yourself and your relationship. In this episode, psychotherapist Carly Ann explores why even self-aware, capable people struggle with jealousy, anxious thoughts, and insecure attachment, and shares a powerful mindset shift that can change how you experience love and connection. If relationship anxiety, obsessing, or jealousy has ever held you back, this episode is for you. Links below: ⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠ ⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠ ⁠Join Newsletter

If you struggle with low self-esteem, self-doubt, or feeling not good enough, ands it impacts your anxiety and wellbeing - you’re in the right place. Honestly, a lot of people look confident and happy on the outside but privately feel stuck in cycles of overthinking, anxious attachment, perfectionism, and self-criticism. In this episode, I (Psychotherapist and Self-Esteem Specialist, Carly Ann) open up a deeper conversation about what low self-esteem really is and why it can continue showing up even when you are doing the inner work. - we look at what keeps it going. Low self-worth often isn’t just about confidence. It can be connected to deeper beliefs we carry about ourselves and the subtle patterns that keep those beliefs alive in everyday life, I will explain more in this episode. If certain situations trigger intense self-doubt, you jump to the worst conclusions about yourself, or things just feel so difficult, I think this could really help you today. I work with thoughtful, capable people who often appear confident externally but internally struggle with rumination, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and feeling like they are never quite good enough. This episode is for anyone beginning to question their relationship with themselves and wanting to understand low self-esteem and self-worth on a deeper level. If you are learning to reparent yourself, build self-acceptance, and develop a kinder inner voice - welcome to the community. Links below: Work with Carly Ann FREE: Self-Worth RESET Join Newsletter

⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ are all the details for The Self-Worth RESET, make sure you join up today JOIN PRIVATE TELEGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Newsletter Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Carly Ann on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Do you want your ex back? Or you want someone specific? If you're feeling down or anxious because you can't stop thinking about someone you like... this so for you. I was there, where you are. This is the life changing advice needed when you are in that moment of needing them, wanting them, thinking about them. It's all consuming isn't it, sometimes to the point of not being able to focus or function, which is why you want them back... that and you feel they truly are the one.

Do you care too much about what other people think? Are you constantly comparing yourself socially and feel like everyone else is more successful, more confident, more together than you? In this episode, I talk about low self-esteem and the exhausting habit of comparing yourself to colleagues, exes, friends, and other mums. From overthinking group chats and replaying conversations to scrolling social media and feeling behind, this pattern keeps you worrying, shrinking, and playing small inside your comfort zone - and this only makes worse how much you care! I share a powerful self-help technique used in therapy called Behavioural Experiments, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tool designed to help you challenge negative thoughts, test your fears in real life, and build genuine confidence and self-love. Instead of letting comparison and fear control your choices, you will learn how to step outside your comfort zone and start proving to yourself that you are enough, in four simple steps. If you are ready to stop feeling inferior and start strengthening your self-esteem and self-worth, this episode will give you a practical and empowering place to begin. ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ are all the details for The Self-Worth RESET, make sure you join up today JOIN PRIVATE TELEGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

These affirmations are made with love for anyone caught in the anxious avoidant trap/cycle. This community knows push and pull relationship and how anxiety provoking it is Listen to this if you need to stabilise and reclaim your sense of self These words from Carly Ann are designed to help regulate your nervous system, soften anxiety, and support attachment healing without pressure or force. Perfect for moments of overthinking, relationship anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or when you feel stuck between reaching out and pulling away. anxious avoidant attachmentattachment style healingnervous system regulationrelationship anxietyemotional safety & self-soothing Listen when you need calm, reassurance, and a reminder that you are safe Sign up for Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Carly Ann ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠