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Hey guys.. It's me.. I hope you didn't forget me. It's been a while, and here is a little update. Life has been lifing.. OMG, has it been lifing!! Take a listen to this quick update. See you again real soon.

Omg it’s been a long time! Today I’m going to give you all a quick snippet of what has been happening the last 11 months. Life has been life-ing!!! So grab a chair and a drink and listen in on the craziness that is my life. Cheers!

You know how it is.. you book yourself to hang out but then you get bogged down with work, you had a rough night and now you're overwhelmed. But, it's a standing date with the girls. As a mom with mega anxiety, I'm always worried that I'm letting my friends down. I'm afraid of losing my friends because I have really good friends but my social capacity is at the max after one visit. It takes me about 10 days to recover - legit! How do you communicate those feelings of needing to sit this social gathering out? I'm working on how to do it and also feel ok with it. I think it's more me, really. Anyways - grab a chair and a drink and listen in on my dilemma. Cheers!

**vent session loading** You have a friend who you adore and love and is your chosen family but what do you do when you want to protect them from something that you deem hurtful? Do you mention it or just let it be? Grab a drink and a chair and help me talk this through.. what do I do?

No one is going to guess that you're stressed out and need a break. If you act like everything is ok, it will be fair to assume that it's ok. I realized recently that I wasn't ok and wasn't saying or telling the people around me what I needed and was mad and hurt. I had a major fall out with the fam and discovered that I was harboring resentment. Listen in as I talk about what that was and how I am going to fix it. Cheers! 

Hopefully I will use this as a guideline to a better and less stressful 2023. Here I list my top 7 takeaways. These are just some things I learned this year and I hope to really accept these guidelines and use them. Take a listen and let me know what you think. Cheers to the end of 2022 and the beginning of 2023.

Can you just relax? Just sit and relax.. I can’t. It’s legit so stressful for me to stop. I always have to be doing something. I saw my mom do it too and in my mind, being busy means being a hardworking woman. I can be hardworking and still take a break. It’s ok to take a break. Take a break. I challenge you to take a 15 minute break and really do something for you without distractions and focus on yourself. I will do the challenge with you, I promise. Now, go grab your favorite drink and listen in on this week’s episode.

How do you deal with that overwhelming feeling of letting people down or letting the people closest to you down? On top of that, it’s the holidays! So that feeling is overwhelming times 100. In today’s episode we’re going to be talking about that feeling.. that horrible, horrible feeling. I will tell you how I deal with it. But I also want to know how you deal with it. Are we doing ourselves a disservice by doing this? By thinking that we aren’t doing enough, are we really not doing enough? Or are we doing too much and now the expectations are increased? Grab your favorite drink and listen in. Cheers! Happy holidays!

Hey girl hey!! I'm back with a life update. LIFE!! OMG it's been hectic and chaotic but I'm still standing. So what has happened? Too much! Grab your favorite drink and listen in. 

In life, it’s 90% of what happens to you and 10% of how you react to those situations. I have always been reactive, like really reactive. But recently, I decided to change this a little. I’m still learning that I can only control myself and those around me. But how can you change 40 years of this habit? Take it one day at a time. So, pull up a chair and grab your favorite drink and listen a long while I tell you all about the lesson I’m learning.

Have you ever had a time in your life when you have a different point of view of the person you are talking to? Has it lead to misunderstandings or fights? Did you ever think that the experience you both described is the exact same thing but from different sides? You know that saying, “put yourself in their shoes”? Do you actually do it? It’s hard sometimes. Today I want to talk to you about it because sometimes it’s hard to do that. Listen along as I go into how it happened and continues to happen to me.

I have been going through some things professionally and personally, really going through it emotionally. I have had a moment to reflect and think back and what the takeaways are from this experience- not that it’s the first. We all go through disappointment or rejection, but how do you deal with? I hope there is a take away for you out of today’s episode. Take a seat and a grab a drink..

I’m back! So glad to be back with you guys. I have missed you. What happens when you plan? Life! Freaking life! Omg! So much has happened and here is my story of the last month. So grab your favorite drink, pull up a chair and listen in on this crazy story. Virtual hugs to all! No real ones because we all have cooties lol! Jk jk

Today we talk about expectations. For me, expectations have led to some of the biggest disappointments and they have been mostly on myself. Expectations I have had for myself and others have led to depression and anxiety. It’s been tough. Have you ever been let down by expectations? It sucks! Grab a chair and a drink and come hang out with me for a bit!

Have you ever wondered what the difference is between Hispanic and Latinx is? It’s really simple. Here I dive in to the major difference and give you some resources, who to look up to find more info. Sit back and enjoy this quick episode. Cheers!