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After a difficult behaviour incident, how do you rebuild your relationship with a pupil who's sworn at you, become aggressive or stormed out of your classroom? And whose responsibility is it to make the first move? In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you'll discover why repairing adult-pupil relationships isn't just important for the child - it's also in your own professional interests. You'll learn why pupils who've experienced trauma, or who have certain SEND needs, may find it particularly difficult to reconnect after a confrontation, and why waiting for them to initiate that repair can make things worse. You'll also discover four practical ways to rebuild your relationship with a pupil, including what to say the next time you see them, how to reconnect without a formal restorative conversation and how to maintain clear boundaries without damaging trust. Plus: Why a pupil ignoring your attempts to reconnect doesn't necessarily mean relationship repair has failed. Important links: Useful Links Download our free SEND Handbook to help you support pupils with SEND. Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

What do the latest behaviour, SEND and attendance statistics actually tell us about what’s happening in schools? In this episode, you’ll explore five recent figures that raise important questions about suspensions, SEND support, attendance and the pressures facing school staff. You’ll hear why headline data can hide what’s really happening underneath, why pupils on SEN Support may need closer attention and why behaviour data is most useful when it leads us to better questions rather than quick conclusions. You’ll learn: • Why primary suspension rates are moving differently to the national picture  • What the suspension figures for pupils on SEN Support and with EHCPs might be telling us  • Why attendance data for autistic pupils needs careful interpretation  • How wider pressures on staff and families affect behaviour in school  • Three questions school leaders can use to look beneath their own headline data Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Does your class work well independently, but the moment you put them into groups, the noise goes up, chairs start scraping and everything begins to unravel? Group work places more demands on pupils than we sometimes realise - from moving around the room and managing resources to remembering instructions, negotiating with other pupils and switching attention. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn five simple ways to make those transitions smoother and help pupils settle more quickly into group work. You’ll discover: • How to pretutor expectations before pupils start moving  • Why separating the transition from the task can make group work easier to manage  • How to make vague instructions like “settle down” more concrete  • Why practising routines when the stakes are low saves time later  • The often-forgotten routine that helps you bring the whole class back together If group activities regularly turn a settled lesson into chaos, this episode will help you build routines that keep pupils focused on the learning. Important links: Get your copy of the Classroom Management Scoresheet: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/classroom-management-scoresheet Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Ever used your calmest voice with an upset pupil, only to find it winds them up even more? You’re trying to help, but somehow your calming strategy is making things worse. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll explore the difference between sounding calm and helping a pupil feel understood. Through a familiar classroom scenario, you’ll hear how well-intentioned responses can add pressure, and why showing some emotion can sometimes communicate more empathy than a perfectly soothing voice. You’ll learn: • Why being regulated doesn’t mean being emotionally flat.  • How to acknowledge a pupil’s frustration without fuelling their anger.  • Why the timing of breathing exercises and other calming strategies matters.  • Three questions to help you adapt your co-regulation approach to the pupil in front of you. If this episode helps you see a pupil’s behaviour differently, share it with a colleague and subscribe for more insights into behaviour and SEMH in school. Important links: Get your FREE Beacon School Support guide to helping children manage their strong emotions Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

If pupils are marked present, but still spend large parts of the school day hiding in the toilets, wandering corridors or visiting the medical room – have you solved your internal truancy problem, or just moved it somewhere else? In this episode, you’ll learn about emotionally based internal truancy, or EBIT - an informal way of thinking about pupils who make it into school but struggle to access the classroom. You’ll discover how to balance safe toilet access with clear expectations around lesson attendance, why restricting access may treat the symptom rather than the cause and how the MAP process can help schools identify what’s driving internal truancy and put the right support in place. Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Have you ever taught a pupil who produces excellent work most of the time, but becomes overwhelmed, angry or tearful after making one tiny mistake? Perfectionism can look like a positive quality from the outside, yet it may be hiding intense anxiety underneath. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn why some perfectionist pupils are more vulnerable to dysregulation and how to distinguish healthy high standards from a fear-driven need to avoid mistakes. You’ll also discover the two different motivations behind perfectionism, what research tells us about anxious pupils’ responses to errors and practical ways to help them tolerate mistakes, recover and carry on. Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Why do some pupils smile, deny what happened, blame someone else or become angry when they're challenged about their behaviour? Sometimes, what looks like defiance or a lack of remorse may actually be a defence against shame. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you'll learn: - The important difference between guilt and shame - and why it matters for behaviour - Why shame doesn't always look like shame, and can sometimes appear as smiling, blame, denial or aggression - How shame can contribute to a cycle of dysregulation and escalating behaviour - Why understanding the need behind behaviour doesn't mean removing boundaries or accountability - Four practical ways to respond that reduce shame and make it easier for pupils to take responsibility, repair relationships and move forward If you support pupils who become defensive, angry or dysregulated when they're corrected, this episode will help you understand what might be causing it - and respond effectively. Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Some pupils never put their hand up. They never admit they’re stuck. But then they fall behind while everyone assumes they’re coping. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn why asking for help can feel threatening for some pupils and the hidden coping strategies they use instead - from copying others’ work to trying to become invisible in the classroom. You’ll also discover the simple SAFE approach for understanding why pupils stay silent, and how the PAIN Framework can help you uncover the needs driving their behaviour so you can respond in a way that makes asking for help feel safer. Important links: Download the FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

The final week of term should feel positive - but when routines disappear, emotions rise and pupils realise the year is ending, behaviour can quickly start to unravel. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn how to keep the end of term calm, structured and meaningful without removing all the fun. We’ll look at why pupils often become silly, emotional or unsettled before the holidays, how to balance high-energy activities with calm “landing” tasks, and how to help children look back with pride while feeling ready for what comes next. You’ll also discover simple ways to create a warm goodbye that gives pupils closure without turning the final day into an emotional collapse. Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

School leaders are facing increasingly complex SEMH needs, rising pressure around behaviour and inclusion, and more uncertainty about what effective support should look like in practice. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll hear what schools are telling us right now about SEMH leadership, why it can feel so difficult, and what leaders need in order to move forward confidently with SEMH and behaviour. You’ll also find out about Beacon School Support’s first National SEMH Conference and how it can help you move SEMH forward in your school – perfect for school leaders looking for practical guidance, strategic frameworks and real strategies they can use in school. Book your tickets to the National SEMH Conference - 7th October 2026 - at Millennium Point in Birmingham Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Some behaviour problems don’t start with defiance, disruption or poor emotional control. They actually start when pupils use relationships to humiliate or exclude another child in their friendship group. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll discover how Relational Aggression affects pupils in both primary and secondary schools, why it’s so easy for adults to miss and how it can drive anxiety, dysregulation and sudden changes in behaviour. You’ll also find out how the PAIN Framework can help understand what’s really driving the behaviours of both the victim and the aggressor - and respond in a way that helps breaks the pattern in future. Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Have you noticed some pupils seem more anxious, avoidant or dysregulated at this time of year - even when nothing obvious has changed in the classroom? In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn why exams, transition days, new classes, secondary transfer and end-of-year changes can increase anxiety for pupils. You’ll discover why some children aren’t just reacting to what’s happening now - they’re reacting to what they think is coming next. Plus we’ll look at how anticipatory anxiety can show up as behaviour, from reassurance-seeking and withdrawal to refusal, irritability, silliness or emotional outbursts. Most importantly, you’ll learn a simple three-step approach to support pupils before anxiety reaches crisis point. If you work with pupils who struggle around exams, transition or change, this episode will help you understand what’s happening underneath the behaviour - and what to do next. Important links: Get your FREE Beacon School Support guide to helping children manage their strong emotions Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Got a tricky class that feels harder to teach than it should? Sometimes the problem isn’t one big behaviour issue - it’s the smaller repeated issues that drain everyone’s attention, patience and energy. In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, we look at why some classes feel so difficult to manage, how problematic routines can create hidden workload for teachers and pupils, and why simply telling pupils what to do once is rarely enough. You’ll discover why children don’t always transfer good behaviour from one classroom to another, and how clear, practised routines can lower everyone’s stress and make lessons feel calmer and easier to teach. Important links: Get your copy of the Classroom Management Scoresheet: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/classroom-management-scoresheet Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Have you ever had a pupil come back from lunch looking fine - only to refuse work, argue, shout or completely fall apart minutes later? In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, we explore why lunchtime isn’t always a break for every pupil. You’ll learn how social stress, sensory overload, unresolved conflict and tricky transitions can build up during lunch - then spill over into the afternoon lesson. We’ll also look at what schools can do to make lunchtimes calmer, support vulnerable pupils more proactively and help children return to class ready to learn. Plus, you’ll find out how to download our free resource: 6 Immediate Lunchtime Behaviour Fixes. Important links: Get our FREE download 6 Immediate Lunchtime Fixes: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/lunchtime-behaviour-fixes Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php   Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.

Have you ever used a behaviour strategy that worked brilliantly in the moment - only to find the same behaviour came back again the next day? And the next? In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, we explore why some short-term behaviour strategies appear to work because they reduce the immediate tension but can accidentally teach pupils or whole classes habits that make behaviour harder in the long run. Most importantly, you’ll discover three simple questions that help break the cycle and move you – and your students - forwards. Important links: Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts: If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email [email protected] to find out more.