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Season 6, Episode 734: A Genuine Discussion of Intimacy and Sex. From Marine to Intimacy Guide: Andre Lazarus discusses topics on Pleasure, Vulnerability, Shedding Shame, and Connection with podcast host Ruan Willow. Rarely does a career pivot feel this surprising and this necessary. Andre Lazarus went from U.S. Marine to somatic intimacy guide, and the journey took a full decade of witnessing profound healing breakthroughs before he truly found his calling. Andre shares how his work (grounded in the Somatic method) helps everyone from trauma survivors to couples navigating alternative relationships. He's perhaps best known for appearing on the U.K. television series Virgin Island as a professional surrogate partner, bringing these conversations into public view in a way that actually matters. What does it really mean to feel safe enough for genuine pleasure? How can we be more authentic in our intimacy? Andre argues that safety isn't something a partner provides for you. It's your own responsibility, built through boundaries that are dynamic and require constant, intentional practice. Andre addresses male vulnerability, which is less commonly discussed. Men, he explains, often struggle deeply with reconnecting to vulnerability, and that disconnection blocks pleasure entirely. He also breaks down his three-pillar framework: open community conversation about sex, attunement to a partner, and aftercare. He also talks about how men have tradtionally talked about sex from their own perspective, leaving women, women's bodies, sensations, and women's pleasure out of the conversation, which has collectively skewed our culture's view of sexuality to the male experience and perspective, and erroneously perpetuated that this also applies to women. This is total lie and a very common, and toxically pervasive, misconception. Humans are finally looking at women's pleasure and experiences with sex, but it will take time to permeate the general populus to break the male centered myths. The more we talk about this the better! Topics discussed: Sexuality as Our Birthright and Vulnerability Safety is Your Personal Responsibility Setting Boundaries and Saying No Listening to Your Body's Signals Beyond Penetration: BDSM Exploration and Sensation Slowing Down and Redefining Sexual Pleasure Understanding How Our Desires Develop Breaking Free from Sexual Shame Sexual Performance Issues in Male and Female Bodies Self-Pleasure and Sexual Shame in Childhood Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure Why We Shame Sexual Tools Helping People Find Intimate Connection on Television Finding Your Joy and Sexual Authenticity Exploring Different Experiences With One Toy Connect with Andre: Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men's online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island.   Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandre Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/comingcloserwithandre?_rdc=1&_rdr# Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/andre-lazarus PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ Ruan's book in order: directly from Ruan https://payhip.com/b/pMxn3 Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing LLC. All Rights Reserved. Andre's Bio: Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection. He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre's presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity. While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection.

Season 6, Episode 734: Erotica fiction excerpts from books written by author Dixon Ahl-Knight, and narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow, plus an Author Interview touching on the following topics, When Taboo Becomes Art: Exploring Erotica, Horror, and Creative Freedom and Algorithmic Censorship forcing Coded Language: Inside Erotica writing and publishing. A conversation about erotica can lead naturally into a discussion about horror writing, because they are similar in some ways. Dixon Ahl-Knight, a small-town Iowa author who has been happily married for over twenty years...more about the author: Dixon Ahl-Knight is a small-town, Iowa-born author who loves the idea of passion and excitement in fiction and reality! Well-versed in the music/audio production industry, D.A-K decided to enter the book industry and bring the stories and fantasies of his imagination to print. When not working in the media industries, D.A-K can be found devouring the books of others, running, listening to underground music, and embarrassing his wife and kids with his silly antics and juvenile sense of humor! Find Dixon online at: @DixonAhlKnight on X Dixon_ahlknight on Instagram Dixon Ahl-Knight on Facebook dixonahlknight on TikTok Feel free to email Dixon at [email protected] FInd Dixon Ahl-Knight's books at: https://4horsemenpublications.com/product/homecoming-small-town-swingers-club-1/ https://4horsemenpublications.com/our-authors/dixon-ahl-knight/ More about the discussion: What does it actually mean to write authentically when every platform is working against you? Frankly, the conversation goes places you might not expect. Dixon explains that erotica and horror share more than you'd think (both build tension toward a climax, and the writer simply chooses where to direct the payoff). He also makes a surprisingly compelling case that writing explicit fiction is not so different from writing about being a ninja. You do not have to live something to write it. The episode digs into real tensions: AI narration disrupting the audiobook industry, Amazon's tightening content classifications, and why indie authors may be the last line of defense for creative freedom. The discussion around female empowerment in fiction, coded language on TikTok, and the Golden Pigtails award (that Ruan's book won) adds even more texture to an already layered conversation. Listen to this episode to hear a genuinely thoughtful conversation about storytelling, stigma, and staying true to your creative vision. PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ Ruan's book in preorder: directly from Ruan https://payhip.com/b/pMxn3 At The Well Read Damsel indie bookstore: https://www.thewellreddamsel.com/product/-pre-order-beach-house-views-signed-copy-paperback-/3XR24LNPX7ARKBAQTWC2UXRF Key Takeaways: • **Algorithmic censorship forces coded language**: Social media platforms suppress sexual content through algorithms, pushing creators to use euphemisms like "spicy" instead of explicit terminology—a form of censorship that doesn't apply equally to violent content. • **Erotica enables value-neutral exploration**: Writing sexually explicit fiction allows authors to explore scenarios divorced from their personal beliefs and values, similar to how horror writers explore violence without endorsing it. • **Double standard in content judgment**: Literature faces stricter scrutiny and editorial pressure around sexual content than violent content, despite both being fictional explorations separated from authors' real-world positions. ⁠⁠⁠Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.

Want the highlights to help you decide which full episode to watch? Here's the hottest, funniest, most poignant podcast video clips from each interview episode that aired on the Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow Podcast in March of 2026. Didn't know I have video episodes? You can find them at Ruan Willow Podcaster on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@ruanwillowpodcaster Substack: https://substack.com/@ruanwillow Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Wjp5smXjRQy6Tl1TB6Rsy?si=ShCGJj2kTi-eXYgCGXnObQ You can also find videos of the podcast episodes on the PodNation Media channel on Roku TV/Fire TV devices. Most current videos can be found there. Full Swap Radio Internet Radio Station also airs my show in audio on Tuesdays at 6 pm CST and 8 am Wednesdays CST. The times fluctuate slightly depending on lengths of other shows. They also have an app! To find the specific episode, enter the guest name in the search at https://directory.libsyn.com/shows/view/id/f08823e0-0d4f-49e9-89ba-59fa2d305d3a Get all the juiciest parts of each interview and taste a flavor of what each guest has to say in this collection of video clips! Enjoy these podcast video clips! #sexuality #sexualitypower #interviews #podcasters #podcastclips Ruan's Books showcased: Beach House Views is only $0.99 in prelaunch (price will go up after launch) https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook Power Plays: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/powerplays John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures: Award-Winning! This novel won first place in its category on the 2025 Golden Pigtails Awards! https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/johngiveshiswifehotadventures Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing LLC, All Rights Reserved.

Season 6, Episode 732: Enjoy this replay from the previous exclusive level of the podcast! A spicy romance story with intimacy focusing on oral, doggy, and female pleasure! Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow⁠ Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ "I especially love my pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠⁠ Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠  

Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow, Season 6, Episode 731: Romance, Fireballs, and the Stories We Deserve to Read with Indie Author Melissa Lam!  Official Bio: Melissa Lam loves reading and writing romance books that take the reader on an emotional roller coaster full of mystery, suspense, and heartache. As an extroverted introvert who doesn't like to leave the house (because it requires wearing pants), Melissa enjoys playing strategic board games and taking long showers. When she does find the will to put pants on, she can be found traveling, enjoying bubble tea, or experiencing the world through food. TL;DR I like to eat and write about heartbreaking shit. Summary: Rarely does a guest arrive with both a fireball-throwing biker and a passionate defense of honest storytelling, but Melissa Lam brings exactly that energy to this conversation. Melissa's contemporary fantasy romance series, set in modern-day Los Angeles, centers on a powerful biker who can throw fireballs trying to understand a woman immune to all powers Her trilogy, including "Ordinary Secrets", "Captured Immune", and "Scrubbed Mind", grew out of a first draft that ballooned to 225,000 words before becoming three separate books.  On writing: What does it actually mean to write romance that feels real and complete? Melissa argues that including explicit scenes reflects genuine relationships rather than being gratuitous, and she pushes back hard against the "clean versus dirty" labels that unfairly judge authors who write open-door content. Relationships in the real world often have sex, so should fiction. It's authentic! She also opens up about publishing four books within ten months, managing every aspect of indie publishing while navigating postpartum exhaustion, and why she rejects AI shortcuts in favor of real human editors, cover artists, and beta readers. Find Melissa at http://authormelissalam.com/ and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/authormelissalam/ where she is most active. Topic timeline: From Reader to Romance Author The Versatility and Power of Profanity Understanding Romance Book Spice Levels Cutting Scenes and Managing Word Count Writing Dual POV with Male Perspective Focus Male Perspective Storytelling in Romance Books Reading Habits and Book Preferences Debate Books That Tear Your Heart Apart Motherhood and Writing: The Postpartum Challenge Balancing Social Media Pressure and Creative Writing Building a Loyal Fanbase Through Consistent Writing Why Human Editors Beat AI Tools Why Human Feedback Beats AI for Creative Work The Value of Human-Made Creative Work Authenticity in Writing vs AI-Generated Books  Key Takeaways: • "Open door" spice levels aren't about purity—Melissa's first drafts contained five intimate scenes per book, but were edited down to one to meet publishing standards. • Melissa chooses a male perspective during action sequences as a deliberate narrative choice, rather than defaulting to female POV as many contemporary romance series do, creating a distinct storytelling approach in her supernatural biker romance.  • A 225,000-word manuscript becoming a trilogy required cutting plot, not just romance scenes, revealing that contemporary fantasy romance often demands aggressive editing beyond just adjusting spice levels to meet market expectations. Melissa's Book Ordinary Secrets: (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/41a0LvB Ruan's Book Beach House Views: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/243902433-beach-house-views Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow⁠ Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ "I especially love my pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠⁠ Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠

Season 6, Episode 730: This is a replay of an episode that aired on 4/25/25, but being reposted to provide the video version for the podcast audience. Removing Shame and Roadblocks to Women's Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist Lucy Rowett. Guest Bio: Lucy Rowett, CSC, is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She is the host of the Naked and Unashamed Life podcast, and the resident sex coach at UK contraception platform, The Lowdown. She is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including iNews, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, GQ, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour. In 2023, she was nominated for somatic sexologist of the year at the sexual freedom awards. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for women and vulva havers to explore their full erotic potential. Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again. Summary: Breaking Free from Sexual Shame: A Revolutionary Conversation Dive into a transformative discussion between Ruan Willow and sexologist Lucy Rowett as they tackle the often-silenced topic of women's sexual pleasure. This eye-opening episode challenges the deeply rooted shame surrounding female sexuality and offers a fresh perspective on embracing our natural desires. Lucy, a specialist in supporting women and non-binary individuals, shares powerful insights about: - The universal impact of sexual shame across all backgrounds - Dismantling harmful cultural narratives that suppress pleasure - The importance of comprehensive sexual education - Understanding female arousal and the physiology of pleasure - Creating safe spaces for sexual exploration and expression The conversation navigates through the evolution of female sexuality in modern culture, from the mainstreaming of erotic literature to the vital role of sex-positive communities in fostering acceptance and growth. Ready to transform your relationship with pleasure and embrace a shame-free approach to sexuality? This episode is your gateway to understanding and celebrating your sexual wellbeing. Tune in now for an empowering journey towards sexual liberation. Sexual health is mental health, and your sexual wellness matters! Links: Learn more: https://lucyrowett.com/ Free guide to confident sexual communication: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant Free meditation to connect to your vulva: https://bit.ly/handheartv Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett Podcast: The Naked and Unashamed Life Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0MdbEOJW9nXRqLsAMSTRAn?si=2ce2d298be93495c Get Ruan's new spicy dark romance book Beach House Views: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow  

Video version. The Audio version originally aired on August 1st of 2025.  Season 6, Episode 729. The Third Sexual Revolution, & Sex Ed for Adults with Sabrina Baldini.  Did you know we might be on the cusp of a third sexual revolution? Sex educator Sabrina Baldini shares fascinating insights from her journey transitioning from teaching sex education to kids to launching After Sex Ed, a company focused on adult sexual wellness. Through candid discussion, Sabrina explores: - The challenges of promoting sex positivity in today's censorship climate - How inadequate early sex education impacts adult relationships - The pandemic's role in catalyzing sexual awakening, self discovery, personal growth, and exploration - The growing demand for authentic, relatable content in adult spaces - Historical parallels with previous sexual revolutions (1920s and 1960s) Despite social media bans and societal stigma, Sabrina remains committed to fostering open conversations about sexuality, consent, and pleasure. Her work bridges the gap between traditional sex education and the real-world challenges adults face in their intimate lives. Ready to challenge your perspectives on sexual wellness and education? Tune in to this thought-provoking episode that's reshaping how we think and talk about sexuality. Estimated Timeline: 00:00:00 - Sex Education for Adults 00:01:43 - Challenges of Discussing Sex Education 00:04:20 - Challenges of Sex Positivity 00:08:04 - Talking to Kids About Consent 00:10:00 - Understanding Healthy Sexual Feelings 00:16:16 - The Rise of the Third Sexual Revolution 00:22:30 - Impact of Taboo on Sexual Behavior 00:23:41 - Trends in Authenticity and Romance 00:26:23 - Exploring Age and Sexuality 00:30:29 - Impact of Technology on Sexuality 00:34:18 - Trends in Modern Relationships 00:37:19 - Online Safety and Dating Apps 00:38:40 - Concerns About AI in Art 00:48:54 - Addressing Sexuality and Porn Education 00:54:47 - Exploring Cultural Perspectives on Sexuality 00:59:46 - Understanding Fantasy and Sexuality 01:01:51 - Understanding Emotional Connections in Sex Key Takeaways: • Adult sexual education is often overlooked, despite the urgent need for discussions on pleasure and consent.   • The pandemic highlighted and intensified the challenges of censorship in sexual education, affecting adult learners.   • There is a growing movement, referred to as a third sexual revolution, that emphasizes open dialogue and authenticity in exploring sexuality. Sabrina Baldini | Sex Educator, TEDx Speaker & Founder of After Sex Ed Her website TEDx talk Instagram TikTok YouTube Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

Season 6, Episode 728: This is a replay story. A delectable heterosexual spicy short romance story with teasing oral fun! Perfect for his and for her pleasure! It's another erotica fiction episode for your saucy entertainment pleasure! Listen for indulging in your well-deserved, and much needed self care time! It's your sexuality and it matters! Sexual health is a part of your mental health! The story: Around Her World: Marlayna and Jason are headed to their favorite hidden away resort for a long weekend of hotel intimacy and reconnection in their relationship. The teasing fun begins when Jason drops hints about a new oral technique he plans to pleasure Marlayna with once they are in the hotel room. Her anticipation runs wild as their flirting reaches inferno levels on the road trip up north. The culmination of their saucy conversation leaves both members of the couple panting heavy with satiated smiles. The resort holds repeat magic for them! It's sexual magic! Get Ruan's new Thriller Dark Romance book: Beach House Views https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook Affiliate Kiiroo Ineractive Sex toys: https://offers.feeliate.com/?offer=1&uid=019bea75-2e7d-75cf-a618-850a2d3e8d59 Vibrators... try out my favorite the Pearls! https://offers.feeliate.com/?lp=6&offer=1&uid=019bea75-2e7d-75cf-a618-850a2d3e8d59 Ruan's links: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Rewind Book Fair: https://rewindbookfair.com/ Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.  

Season 6, Episode 727:  The episode starts off with Ruan narrating excerpts from Alexandria Swanson's Dark Romance books, Defiance (affiliate link book link ) and Balance (affiliate link book link, then we chat about writing, crazy sex related stories Alexandria has dealt with in her job, and the lovely parts of publishing as an indie author, but dealing with the crap in a world full of censorship. Ruan's book mentioned, Beach House Views: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook Dark Romance Fantasy Author Alexandria Swanson bio:  https://linktr.ee/alexandriaswansonauthor Alexandria has been writing short stories and poems her entire life in journals and had a great idea for a novel. Defiance was the first book she finished, with more to come! Alexandria has her B.A.s in criminology, sociology, and criminal justice with a minor in forensic science. She works as a 911 dispatcher and lives in the Minnesota metro area with her dog and cat, who keep her busy. In her free time, she enjoys rock climbing, hiking, travel and of course, writing. Alexandria is passionate about herbalism and is really bad at surfing, but she considers herself a masochist.  Episode Summary: Author Alexandria Swanson shared she draws inspiration from real experiences when writing (though her writing is fantasy, not memoir), including working as a 911 dispatcher, plus with her background in her studies impacting her characters, her supernatural tales feature werewolves, witches, and vampires who have real psychological disorders, and this plays out as fully fleshed out and named in the storyline. We also discussed the crazy stuff...like the bizarre emergency calls Alexandria has handled: sex toys left in ovens, swallowed handcuff keys, and patients making dangerous decisions with household appliances. These real-life incidents are both interesting and intriguing, and a bit comical and shocking! Alexandria's books *Defiance* and *Balance* explore something rarely addressed in fantasy: how centuries-old supernatural beings experience PTSD and mental health challenges. Her pack therapist character Naya treats werewolves dealing with multi-lifetime trauma, while her protagonist Chloe struggles with night terrors based on Alexandria's own experiences. Listen to hear about the cover designer who hand-draws everything, why Alexandria loves editing (yes, really), and the book fair she will attend that podcast host Ruan Willow is hosting in Minnesota, The Honey and Jalapeno Book Fair, My 17, 2026. Topic timeline: Ruan narrates excerpts from Alexandria Swanson's books Meeting an Author at a Book Fair From Journals to Published Author Fiction vs. Reality: Blurring Personal Stories Emergency Room Stories: Handcuffs and Bad Decisions Mental Health in Fantasy and Paranormal Romance The Value of In-Person Book Fairs Censorship, Leaving TikTok Over Algorithm and Ownership Social Media Double Standards and MORE Censorship Finding a Sustainable Writing Routine  Pet-Friendly Work Schedule and Writing Rituals Finding Creative Space Away From Home Loving Editing vs. Hating First Drafts Authors Must Review Every Editorial Change Designing Dual Book Covers with Human Artistry AI in Book Covers: Avoiding Hidden Technology Amazon Lost My Book and Pre-Orders! Book Printing Struggles and Independent Solutions Wrapping Up with Alexandria: Books and Social Media Instagram alexandria_swanson_author Affiliate links and Ruan's links: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.

Season 6, Episode 726:  Surprisingly, Genevieve LeJeune founded Skirt Club to address a need she felt in her own life, only to discover 25,000 other women felt the same way. The private members club creates women-only spaces where nervous systems can relax, and genuine connection happens without performance or fear of judgment. After spending 15 years in finance enduring workplace harassment that was simply normalized, Gen witnessed how women of her generation were conditioned to survive in male-dominated environments. She started hosting champagne parties that grew from 15 to 150 attendees within a year, revealing just how many women needed a supportive environment to explore their sexuality without shame. (The demand was staggering.) Through building communities across 36 cities worldwide with 27,200 members, Gen discovered that women's fundamental needs are surprisingly universal across cultures. Her events have evolved beyond sexuality into something broader to include embodiment, connection, and authentic self-expression. When women abandon people-pleasing patterns and reconnect with their bodies, they experience profound personal liberation. Lejeune emphasizes that sisterhood and reduced judgment among women could genuinely transform society. By helping each other ask for support and building confidence through collaboration rather than competition, women create the foundation for lasting peace. Find out more:  Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn and the Skirt Club website Founding Skirt Club for Women's Sexual Empowerment Women's Only Spaces Create Safety and Intimacy Creating Safe Spaces for Women to Thrive Women Supporting Women Across the World Women's Sexual Pleasure and Empowerment Learning to Say No Without Guilt Generational Views on Internet and Sexual Exploration Women Fear Risk, Men Just Try It Ethical Non-Monogamy and Relationship Transparency Breaking Sexual Taboos for Women's Pleasure Women Owning Their Sexuality and Independence Women's Activism and Social Movements Community Care and Sexual Exploration Events Women's Empowerment Through Connection and Embodiment Where to Find Skirt Club Online Ruan's novella: The Arousal Package PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ BeeDee app. Enter the code ohfuckyeah on the Whips ('superlikes') page to get 1 free Whip, use my affiliate link to check out this app at ⁠⁠https://beedee.app/?r=ohfuckyeah⁠⁠ The Fantasy Box, where you can try out a similar fantasy in a box, or find a theme you like! (affiliate link) ⁠⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved. Key Takeaways: • **Women's behavior and openness fundamentally changes in all-female spaces** — nervous systems relax and genuine vulnerability emerges without male presence, creating conditions for authentic connection that mixed-gender environments cannot replicate. • **Bisexual and bi-curious women represent an underserved market hungry for community** — the jump from 15 to 150 members in one year demonstrates massive unmet demand for judgment-free spaces where women can explore sexuality openly. • **Overcoming shame requires both safe spaces and exposure to diverse perspectives** — cultural conditioning around female desire is universal across cultures, but can be collectively unlearned through supportive communities and exposure to how other women authentically live. GENEVIEVE LEJEUNE is the founder of Skirt Club, a private members club for bi-curious & bisexual women. With more than 25,000 members globally, women are more interested in each other than ever. She was the first to curate luxurious global events where women can put their own desires first, and gain confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom. A leading figure in the movement for women's sexual empowerment, Genevieve has been interviewed for high-profile publications such as Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Cosmo, Bloomberg, Rolling Stone and the Sunday Times.

Season 6, Episode 725: He Spanked Me In Front of the Window, spicy erotic short story excerpt. Get the full story: On Ruan's Patreon Get the Full story Story Blurb: Alexa, whom Henry often called Kitten, was horny. Henry was asleep. He'd been up working during the night so was sleeping in while a morning snowstorm raged outside. Alexa sipped her coffee as her horniness blossomed and her inner brat blinked, smiled, and then she stripped. She had a perfectly evil idea. She was going to poke the bear and trigger Henry's aggressive Dom mode. She stalked up the stairs naked and with a running leap pounced on top of Henry. He woke and indeed his inner Dom bear roared. What she received shocked her, but it was most definitely one of the top wants on her sexual bucket list. Award winning author First place winner! RUAN WON FIRST PLACE IN A CATEGORY IN THE GOLDEN PIGTAILS SMUT AWARDS for her book John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures! Learn more here: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/awardwinningbooksruanwillow Honey and Jalapeno Book Fair: https://pinkinfinitypublishing.com/honey-and-jalapeno-book-fair-a-minnesota-book-fair/ Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  Make the SWTICH to a new audiobook platform: Libro FM! Get indie author's books like mine! (affiliate link): get two free audiobooks when you start a new one-credit per month membership using promo code SWITCH. Libro FM Audiobooks PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/ ⁠Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Strokers for men: https://offers.feeliate.com/?lp=5&offer=1&uid=019bea75-2e7d-75cf-a618-850a2d3e8d59 "I especially love my Pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow

Season 6, Episode 724 with podcaster Leigh Ann Steele from the Hustlers 2 Housewives Podcast, an Adult Industry Podcast. Two Sexuality Podcasters on How Podcasting Changed Our Perspectives on Sexuality and Connection, plus we talk about sex, life, being powerful women in midlife, and dogs! NOTE: video version coming soon to Ruan Willow Podcaster on YouTube, and also on Substack, Spotify, and PodNation Media on Roku TV/Fire TV devices, and Full Swap Radio (app and internet radio station). Discussion Topics: Introducing Hustler's 2 Housewives Podcast Connecting With Hundreds of Guests Worldwide Shopping for the Right Sex Toy Being Open About Sex and Sexuality Elderly People Deserve Sexual Freedom Pets Give Life Energy and Purpose Unexpected Dog Rescue Changed Everything Favorite Podcast Guests and Surprising Conversations Why Podcasting Feels Like the Perfect Job Everyone's a Whole Person Humanizing People Beyond Their Industry Podcast Guest Selection and Interview Approach Women's Sexual Pleasure and Menopause Ignored Women's Sexual Health and Cannabis Strains The Power of Not Giving a F**k Genuine Conversations and Not Taking Things Personal Summary: In a conversation with my podcast guest, Leigh Ann Steele from "Hustlers 2 Housewives", (where she interviews adult industry performers), she articulated something I've felt deeply: hosting a podcast fundamentally rewires how you see people. You stop seeing people as one-dimensional characters. Instead of categorizing someone by their profession or background, you discover they're complex humans with unexpected perspectives, humor, and intelligence. And what a beautiful thing it is to see humans as human beings rather than labels! We talked about how podcasting has transformed our views on sexuality and connection and made us less judgmental, and more open, people who are more supportive of others rather than resorting to tearing them down. Talking genuinely with hundreds of diverse people fosters deep growth in empathy and grace. Undoubtedly interviewing people from a wide variety of lived experiences reduces the tendency to judge others. We also chatted about previous guests, some of them mutual, and how they shattered our expectations and bloomed with the beauty of their individual truths. People are amazing, if you let them show you! We also chatted about how sex is ageless (another area to curb your judgements in) and how frustrating and insulting it is that the world has so horrendously neglected women's sexual health and pleasure research, including lying for decades that hormone replacement therapy was harmful to women (spoiler: it's NOT harmful, it's very, very helpful for women to be on HRT, especially around and after menopause. Research it!) Maybe we'll share if we liked the lemon!!!!!  Connect with Leigh Ann on Instagram at hustlers2wives and find her podcast Hustlers 2 Housewives on podcast apps and the Full Swap Radio internet radio station and app. Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  Make the SWTICH to a new audiobook platform: Libro FM! Get indie author's books like mine! (affiliate link): get two free audiobooks when you start a new one-credit per month membership using promo code SWITCH. Libro FM Audiobooks PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Strokers for men: https://offers.feeliate.com/?lp=5&offer=1&uid=019bea75-2e7d-75cf-a618-850a2d3e8d59 "I especially love my Pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow      

Season 6, Episode 723: Next Door Temptations, Excerpts from Book 1, Finally Got My Neighbor's C**k.  Melissa had lusted for Cal for years, both of them had interacted as neighbors exchanging social pleasantries at neighborhood parties, bumping into each other while out walking dogs, at school events, and at the local grocery stores. Melissa had always surmised there was something more beneath the cordial surface of their interactions, and it was not just merely as neighborly friends. She had seen the spark in his eyes and returned it on multiple occasions. One day Melissa spied Cal working hard in his yard on a hot summer day and pulled her car to the curb to chat with him during his mundane task. She was delighted to find out Cal was now separated from his wife and clearly was now free because she had left him for another man. This was her chance. Their conversation was brought in the house for iced tea to get out of the hot sun. Things heated up way more than either of them expected when they both realized they had each harbored the serious hots for each other for literally years. Hooking up after their lust had boiled and baked for years was just the beginning stepstone to something that would blow both their minds, and their sex lives, to the moon! Book 1. Get the full ebook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/nextdoortemptationsfriendstolovers Get the full audiboook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/nextdoortemptationsaudiobook Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  Make the SWTICH to a new audiobook platform: Libro FM! Get indie author's books like mine! (affiliate link): get two free audiobooks when you start a new one-credit per month membership using promo code SWITCH. Libro FM Audiobooks PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Strokers for men: https://offers.feeliate.com/?lp=5&offer=1&uid=019bea75-2e7d-75cf-a618-850a2d3e8d59 "I especially love my Pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow

Brandi Swan...  This is a partial episode to present some of the interivew in Video Form, it is also available in full on my podcast channel in audio. Get the FULL video interview on YouTube https://youtu.be/vEoeJ1mwIkg or on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ism4pAz8bvXg16TjnoLhh?si=hO_a7cwSQ_KCgWTK03LoJQ Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow Podcast Hosts Actress Brandi Swan in an interview! Season 6, Episode 719: From Stage to screen: Brandi Swan's Path into Professional Adult Entertainment. Brandi Swan's journey from theater stages to adult film sets is anything but ordinary. After years as a dancer, she discovered pole dancing, which eventually led her into adult entertainment—though not before she learned what "making it wink" meant during her very first audition (talk about a learning curve, yikes!). Now working with major studios, she's finding her preferences through experience, crediting co-star Jay Romero for making her comfortable during a successful first anal scene. Brandi has a Master's Degree in Theater and she loves dancing exotically and doing adult entertainment because 'she loves the thrill, the art of seduction, and the people she meets along the way." Beyond the bedroom, Brandi's navigating the demanding business side of adult entertainment. She recently graced the red carpet at both AVN and XBIZ events. At XBIZ in Los Angeles, she spent a week networking through panels and speed-dating events with agencies and directors—exhausting work that contrasts sharply with her previous theater career. She's setting boundaries (no hard hits to the face), embracing her submissive side, and planning to eventually transition from performing into directing and producing, bringing her film background to create more sophisticated adult content. Connect with Brandi Swan: ⁠https://x.com/ConfettiStarr⁠ ⁠https://avn.com/press/video/brandi-swan-signs-with-djd-media-for-publicity-representation-147802⁠  ⁠https://www.instagram.com/5__Star__Review⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@Confettistarr⁠ PLEASE VOTE FOR ME: I've been nominated for books in the Golden Pigtails Awards and my books ALL made it to the finals! I'm super honored to have been nominated and thank you for voting for me! Please vote again for my books before February ends so I can win. My books are John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures, The Drink Master, and The Arousal Package, plus the anthology I'm in Summer Teases 2. Please vote for me ⁠https://alexasommers.com/the-golden-pigtails-2025-finals/⁠ Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow⁠ Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ "I especially love my pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠⁠ Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ BeeDee app. Enter the code ohfuckyeah on the Whips ('superlikes') page to get 1 free Whip, use my affiliate link to check out this app at ⁠⁠https://beedee.app/?r=ohfuckyeah⁠⁠ The Fantasy Box, where you can try out a similar fantasy in a box, or find a theme you like! (affiliate link) ⁠⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.  

Season 6, Episode 721: From Shame to Liberation: Writing Sex-Positive Fiction with Author Misty O'Hara **Breaking Free from Sexual Shame Through Fiction** After her mother died, author Misty O'Hara made a radical decision. She would channel her conservative upbringing and nineteen-year monogamous marriage into something transformative for herself by sleeping with 100 men, but then switched gears to a novel exploring female sexual agency instead. The result? *The Hundred Man Plan*—over one hundred chapters written across seven years while juggling motherhood, work, and school, all while exploring her sexuality in midlife through writing and polyamory. What makes Misty's approach so refreshing is her unapologetic stance on double standards. Men with multiple partners get celebrated as "studs," while women face judgment and shame. She reclaims provocative language in her writing, arguing that authors don't need personal experience with everything they write about (just like science fiction writers don't need real life adventures in spaceships!). Her characters find glorious self-empowerment and conscious choice. The book features witty, sassy, flawed heroines—never passive or perfect. Misty carefully crafts intimate scenes using conversational adult language while avoiding clinical terminology. She emphasizes that sexual health connects directly to mental health, rejecting shame-based messaging entirely. Now touring with Barnes & Noble across Utah and planning book signings nationwide, Misty discovered an untapped market of women seeking escapism through romance. Her short chapters work perfectly for couples to read together as well. Ready to explore fiction as a healing tool? Find "The Hundred Man Plan" at https://www.mistyohara.com/ or major retailers like Amazon (affiliate link) The Hundred Man Plan Book and Barnes & Noble. Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals:  PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Strokers for men: https://offers.feeliate.com/?lp=5&offer=1&uid=019bea75-2e7d-75cf-a618-850a2d3e8d59 "I especially love my Pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow The Arousal Package: The Arousal Package novella by Ruan Willow Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠ BeeDee app. Enter the code ohfuckyeah on the Whips ('superlikes') page to get 1 free Whip, use my affiliate link to check out this app at ⁠https://beedee.app/?r=ohfuckyeah⁠ The Fantasy Box, where you can try out a similar fantasy in a box, or find a theme you like! (affiliate link) ⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423⁠ ⁠Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.