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What if arousal and pleasure weren’t “inappropriate”… but powerful markers of health? In this richly embodied conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Dr. Saida Desilets — pioneering teacher of sacred sexuality and creator of the Embodied Psychosexual Method — to explore sexual sovereignty, erotic innocence, and the body’s capacity to heal through pleasure, breath, and deep attunement. Saida shares the astonishing origins of her life’s work: from a childhood rooted in natural sensual connection, to surviving violence, to being told at age twenty she had only two weeks to live — and the radical path of choosing life, reclaiming vitality, and rebuilding her relationship to desire from the inside out. Together, we explore how shame disrupts the body’s natural aliveness, why relaxed arousal is the foundation of true intimacy, and how rewilding in nature can restore the pre-verbal sensual intelligence that makes us more connected lovers and humans. This episode bridges: embodiment • sexuality • nervous system wisdom • pleasure-based healing • and the wild intelligence of the body Inside this conversation: • Saida’s origin story and how her life force became her teacher  • What “sexual sovereignty” actually means — beyond the buzzword  • Why arousal and pleasure can be normalized as wellness indicators  • The difference between performance sex and relaxed arousal  • Erotic innocence: reclaiming turn-on without shame or meaning-making  • How wilderness rewilding restores sensual attunement and presence  • Why leaning into discomfort in intimacy can transform into deeper pleasure  • Breath as the simplest daily practice for reclaiming aliveness  • “Yum vs. yuck”: training attention as a pathway to more vitality  • What it really means to “marinate in your own essence” Learn more about Saida’s work: Embodied Love University + Dare Your Desire + Desire and The Emergence of the Sensual Woman More resources and writings on sexual embodiment: rahichun.com If this conversation supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review is a simple way to help this work reach more people.

What if your sexuality was never broken — only buried? In this expansive conversation, somatic sexuality coach Victor Warring explores the process of “rewilding eros” — reconnecting with the innate erotic intelligence we’re all born with before shame, culture, and conditioning taught us to disconnect. Drawing from his work in somatic psychology, grief work during the AIDS epidemic, and sexological bodywork, Victor shares why grief and pleasure are inseparable, how shame limits our erotic capacity, and why reclaiming your aliveness is a radical act of healing — and even activism. We explore: the connection between grief and erossexual shame and “upper limits” to pleasureerotic sovereignty and owning your desirehow culture domesticates our bodies and sexualitycreating an erotically alive home and communitywhy healing is subtractive (removing conditioning, not fixing yourself)erotic embodiment as activismpractical ways to expand your pleasure ceiling safelyThis episode is an invitation to remember: your erotic nature isn’t something to learn — it’s something to uncover. Learn more about Victor’s work at RewildEros.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

What if your deepest wounds could become the doorway to your greatest healing? In this powerful conversation, Rahi Chun sits with somatic sex educator, pelvic care provider, and birth worker Katie Spataro to explore how the body itself can initiate us into sacred work through grief, birth, trauma, and pleasure. Katie shares her extraordinary personal journey — from miscarriage and spontaneous ritual… to an unexpectedly orgasmic birth… to nearly a decade of supporting survivors of childhood sexual trauma through somatic, pelvic, and erotic healing practices. Together, they explore the profound connection between birth, sexuality, grief, and pleasure — and how tending the pelvis can unlock deep nervous system healing and reclaim embodied power. Inside this episode: • What an orgasmic birth really is (and why birth is inherently erotic)  • Miscarriage, grief rituals, and womb healing  • How trauma is stored in the pelvic floor and fascia  • Somatic pelvic and prostate bodywork as activism and healing  • Why pleasure is medicine for the nervous system  • Prostate and anal care through a therapeutic, trauma-informed lens  • Community healing for survivors of sexual trauma  • The role of consent, touch, and attuned presence in deep repair  • How grief and pleasure are portals into one another This conversation is tender, grounded, and radically hopeful — an invitation to trust the body’s wisdom and remember that healing doesn’t happen by forcing… but by feeling. Learn more about Katie’s work: SacredWombServices.com Explore Rahi’s somatic sexuality resources: Rahichun.com If this episode touched you, leaving a 5-star review helps this work reach more people reclaiming their bodies.

Why do so many people long for deeper pleasure and intimacy — yet feel blocked, disconnected, or unable to receive? In this grounded and illuminating conversation, somatic intimacy guide Darna Avila shares how trauma-informed somatics and consent practices create the foundation for true erotic liberation. Together, we explore how nervous system safety, regulation, and clear boundaries open the door to authentic desire, deeper connection, and more expansive pleasure. Darna introduces her four phases of erotic liberation — regulation, receiving, allowing, and expressing — and explains why many of us, especially women and AFAB bodies, have been conditioned to people-please, overgive, and disconnect from our own needs. We talk about: the link between trauma and sexual shutdownthe fawn response and people-pleasing in intimacywhy receiving pleasure can feel unsafethe Wheel of Consent and clear communicationrebuilding trust in the bodyreclaiming desire and erotic sovereigntypleasure as a source of power and activismhow personal healing supports collective liberationThis episode is an invitation to slow down, listen inward, and remember that your pleasure is not selfish — it’s life force. More resources and writings: rahichun.com. darshanaavila.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

In this episode, I’m joined by Ali Mazza, a sexologist and somatic therapist with 40+ years of experience, to explore a deceptively simple method that reveals what’s been shaping your intimacy from underneath your awareness. We begin with Family Constellations Therapy—a powerful group process that exposes hidden family dynamics—and then dive into Ali’s unique innovation: Personal Geometry. Using post-it notes, objects, and spatial mapping, Ali helps clients externalize their inner relational landscape—so patterns around porn, orgasm, commitment, heart–sex splits, and emotional enmeshment become visible, movable, and transformable in real time. If you’ve ever felt like your “sexual issue” isn’t actually about sex—this conversation will land. In this episode, we explore: What Family Constellations are, and why “representatives” can feel what they don’t intellectually knowHow Personal Geometry maps unconscious relational dynamics in minutesWhy “addiction” often functions as support, protection, or avoidance—and how mapping reveals the functionThe heart–sexuality split: what it is, why it happens, and how it shiftsHow inhibition and performance blocks grow from cultural expectations—and what honesty unlocksWhy somatic work can sometimes reveal in one session what years of talk therapy can’t accessLearn more: Ali’s work and trainings can be found at alimezey.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Dr. Charlie Glickman has been in the sex education field for over 35 years—and he’s one of the most grounded, compassionate educators I know. In this episode, we explore embodied anal play: how to approach anal pleasure in a way that’s safe, consent-based, trauma-informed, and genuinely enjoyable—with the goal Charlie names best: everyone ends with a smile. We talk about why the myth that “anal sex has to hurt” persists, what porn leaves out (warm-up, lubrication, pacing), and how breath and nervous system regulation change everything. Charlie shares simple, practical guidance for relaxation, arousal, and gradual insertion, including why moving slowly can actually get you there faster. We also explore the deeper layers: how the pelvis holds tension, fear, and shame, how embodied anal pleasure can become a portal for healing, and why so many men are “frozen” between the navel and the knees—both culturally and somatically. And of course, we discuss Charlie’s work co-authoring The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, including what keeps people from exploring prostate play (pain, mess, and the loaded masculinity myths), and how education can liberate sensation. In this episode, you’ll hear: The #1 key to anal pleasure: relaxation, not pushing or “stretching”A simple breath practice to downshift the nervous system and support openingHow to pace penetration on the exhale (and why it works)Why arousal matters: making anal exploration a “side dish,” not a performance goalTips for strap-ons and toys (especially when the giver has no nerve feedback)How shame lives somatically—and how healing becomes possible through safe touchProstate pleasure basics + why anal play doesn’t define sexual orientationcharlieglickman.com The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

Sexual energy isn’t just about sex — it’s your life force. In this episode, I’m joined by Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown, the powerhouse duo behind Sex Reimagined, blending Tantra, Taoism, somatic healing, and sexual mastery practices to help individuals and couples reclaim pleasure, vitality, and intimacy. Together we explore how ancient wisdom traditions use sexual energy to heal trauma, strengthen relationships, build confidence, and awaken deeper states of aliveness. We talk about: Sacred Spot Massage and sexual trauma healingWhy Tantra and Taoism are surprisingly complementaryThe truth about desire mismatch in couplesHow women’s arousal actually works (and what most partners never learn)Solo practices vs partner practicesMale sexual mastery, ejaculation choice, and lasting longer naturallyHow sexual energy fuels vitality, creativity, and confidence in every area of lifeIf you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire, stuck in shame, or simply curious how to experience more pleasure and presence in your body — this conversation opens powerful doors. Learn more: sexreimagined.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

What if lovemaking didn’t have to be rushed, goal-oriented, or focused on orgasm? What if sex could feel spacious, meditative, and deeply connecting? In this intimate conversation, somatic sex educators and partners Rahi Chun and Ariel Szabo explore the practice of extended lovemaking — a slow, presence-based approach to intimacy that prioritizes connection, nervous system safety, and full-body pleasure over performance or climax. Together, they share: the difference between goal-oriented sex and meditative lovemakinghow slowing down increases sensitivity and pleasurewhy many couples feel unsatisfied even after orgasmedging and extended arousal statesone-way touch and genital mapping practiceshow the nervous system shapes intimacythe 8 Pillars of Intimacy for deeper connectionhow lovemaking can become a spiritual and relational practiceIf you long for more depth, more connection, and more pleasure with your partner — this episode offers a new way forward. Learn more about their couples program at DivineUnionForLovers.com

What if healing your sexuality wasn’t about “fixing” yourself — but about entering brave, embodied spaces where your life-force energy finally has permission to move? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Court Vox — certified sex and intimacy coach, sacred intimate, and founder of The Body Vox — known for his deeply immersive, somatic retreats and one-on-one erotic empowerment experiences around the world. Court challenges the idea of “safe spaces” and instead invites us into brave spaces — containers where nervous systems regulate, shame softens, and people feel free to explore intimacy, desire, and authentic self-expression without performance or pretense. Together, we explore how small acts of intimacy — even something as simple as holding hands — can be profoundly life-changing, and how working with erotic energy often unlocks creativity, purpose, and aliveness far beyond the bedroom. This episode is about reclaiming your body, your voice, and your right to pleasure. In this episode, we explore: Why “brave space” may be more transformative than “safe space”Somatic intimacy practices using breath, touch, sound, and movementHow multi-day erotic immersions accelerate healing and embodimentThe connection between sexual energy and creativity, confidence, and life purposeAlchemizing shame into pleasure and agencyGroup erotic practice as a tool for community healing and belongingMen’s retreats, sacred sexuality, and embodied leadershipHow to explore fantasy and shadow safely through consent and choiceWhy small moments of connection can be more transformative than dramatic sexual experiencesCourt’s work reminds us that eroticism isn’t just sex — it’s life force, expression, artistry, and presence. If you’ve ever felt a quiet longing for deeper intimacy, more freedom in your body, or a space where all of you is welcome… this conversation is for you. thebodyvox.com More resources and writings: rahichun.com If this episode supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or brief review helps this work reach more people.

After years of interviewing fellow practitioners in the field of somatic sexuality, this episode turns the lens inward. I’m joined by my dear friend and colleague Caffyn Jesse, who interviews me about the roots, philosophy, and lived experiences that shaped my approach to genital de-armoring, somatic sexual healing, and trauma-informed intimacy work. Together, we explore how early attachment wounds, developmental trauma, cultural conditioning, and nervous system dysregulation create “armor” in the body — especially in the pelvis and g******s — limiting pleasure, connection, and life-force energy. And more importantly: how that armor can gently, safely, and intentionally soften. This conversation weaves together neuroaffective touch, developmental psychology, sexological bodywork, meditation, plant medicine, and somatic presence — revealing how deep healing happens not through force, but through safety, attunement, and consent. At its heart, genital dearmoring is not just about sexuality.  It’s about rebuilding trust with your body. Reclaiming voice and choice. And remembering that pleasure is your birthright. In this episode, we explore: What genital “armor” is and how it formsHow childhood attachment and early touch shape adult sexualityNervous system safety as the foundation for pleasureNeuroaffective touch and repairing infant attachment woundsWhy receiving support can transform intimacy, relationships, and even career successThe role of consent, boundaries, and voice in sexual healingSomatic mapping of the body’s erogenous zonesCervical and prostate de-armoringWorking with pelvic trauma gently and respectfullyMeditation, ego dissolution, and life-force awareness in space-holdingHow healing sexuality unlocks creativity, vitality, and purposeCouples practices for intimacy and shared explorationWe also share real client stories — including experiences of chronic genital pain relief, renewed sensation, and profound emotional and spiritual liberation. This is a deep dive into the philosophy behind Somatic Sexual Wholeness® and the heart of the work I teach today. If you’re curious about genital dearmoring, trauma-informed touch, or how to feel more alive and connected in your body — this conversation will meet you there. Guest Host: Caffyn Jesse: https://ecstaticbelonging.com/ Somatic sexuality educator and trauma-informed practitioner Learn more: Courses, sessions, and trainings → rahichun.com

This episode is a special replay of a live masterclass with Dr. Jennifer Lang — board-certified gynecologic oncologist, obstetrician, and integrative gynecologist — where we bridge two worlds that rarely speak to each other: Western medicine and Somatic Sexual Healing. Together, we explore three deceptively simple questions that can radically transform your relationship with your body: What is genital health? What is genital pleasure? What is genital wholeness? From my perspective as a somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker, and Jen’s training in clinical gynecology and integrative medicine, we examine how nervous system safety, early conditioning, trauma, anatomy, and touch all shape the way we experience our g******s — not just medically, but emotionally and energetically. Because true genital health isn’t only the absence of disease. It’s the ability to feel, attune, respond, and experience pleasure. This conversation moves beyond theory into practical, body-based tools you can actually use. In this masterclass, we cover: How the nervous system directly affects sexual responsiveness and genital sensationThe connection between shame, trauma, and “genital armoring”Why many people feel numb, disconnected, or in painThe somatic practice of genital mappingWhat Western medicine gets right — and what it often missesHow pleasure supports healing, vitality, and overall wellbeingTrauma-informed approaches to restoring sensationPractical techniques for vulva owners: Clitoral dearmoringG-spot / urethral sponge mappingCervical sensitivity and trust-building touchPelvic floor and vaginal tissue attunementPractical techniques for penis owners: Frenulum sensitivityCoronal ridge and glans mappingShaft and base dearmoringProstate and perineal awarenessWe also speak candidly about how culture, religion, early childhood conditioning, and medical systems shape our relationship with our genitals — often disconnecting us from our innate capacity for pleasure. At its core, this episode is about reclaiming agency: Listening to your body. Learning its language. And remembering that pleasure is not indulgent — it’s biological intelligence. This is a rare and refreshing dialogue between medicine and somatics, offering a more complete vision of sexual health than either field alone. With: Dr. Jennifer Lang – Integrative Gynecologist Rahi Chun – Somatic Sex Educator & creator of Somatic Sexual Wholeness® Learn more → rahichun.com

Three years ago, my first conversation with Stine and Asim about prostate massage became the most downloaded episode of the entire podcast. Clearly, there’s a deep curiosity — and a quiet hunger — around prostate health, healing, and pleasure. So this is Part Two. In this episode, the founders of The Prostate Portal return to guide us through what many people have been asking for: What actually happens in a first prostate massage? How do you prepare the body? And how do you approach it safely, gently, and without fear? Together, we walk step-by-step through the physical, emotional, and nervous-system preparation for prostate massage — for both the receiver and the giver. Because this isn’t about performance or chasing orgasm. It’s about safety, surrender, and deep listening to the body. Stine and Asim blend somatic psychology, tantra, breathwork, trauma-awareness, and hands-on bodywork to create an approach that is practical, grounded, and profoundly respectful of the vulnerability of this part of the body. And what they consistently see is surprising: When fear and shame dissolve, what remains is often relaxation, healing, emotional release, and full-body pleasure. In this episode, we explore: Why the prostate is often called a “sacred portal” in the bodyCommon fears and taboos around anal touch — and how to normalize themHow to down-regulate the nervous system before touchBreathwork practices to relax the pelvic floor and anal sphincterWhy slowing down matters more than techniqueStep-by-step guidance for a first prostate massageHow to separate orgasm from ejaculationProstate pleasure, multi-orgasmic potential, and internal energy flowTrauma-informed approaches to working with stored tension or emotionWhat to expect physically and emotionally after a session (integration)How partners can hold safe, loving space for each otherWe also talk about their new online course, The Prostate Portal, designed for prostate owners and their partners to explore this work privately, safely, and at their own pace. At its heart, this conversation isn’t just about the prostate. It’s about reclaiming parts of the body that culture has taught us to fear or ignore — and discovering how much life force, sensitivity, and healing live there. Guests: Stine Krage – holistic body therapist, midwife, integral sexologist Asim Sacredfire – tantric bodyworker, shamanic practitioner, energetic healer Learn more: theprostaticportal.com More resources: rahichun.com

What makes a sexuality space truly safe? Not just “clothing optional.” Not just “tantric.” Not just “trauma-informed.” But actually safe — in the nervous system. In this deeply honest and necessary conversation, I’m joined by Amina Peterson, somatic healer, sexologist, founder of the Atlanta Institute of Tantra, and a powerful voice for Black women’s pleasure, embodiment, and liberation. Together, we explore a question that many sacred sexuality communities avoid: How can we talk about consent and healing if we don’t acknowledge race, culture, and lived experience in the body? Because safety isn’t theoretical. Safety is embodied. And if someone’s history includes racialized trauma, exclusion, or sexualization of their body, that reality directly impacts their ability to relax, open, feel pleasure, and give authentic consent. This conversation bridges somatics, tantra, trauma healing, and cultural awareness in a way that feels both grounded and revolutionary. In this episode, we explore: What “somatic consent” really means (beyond yes/no)Learning to listen to the body before intimacyReggie Ray’s somatic descent practice and embodied presenceWhy many tantra and sacred sexuality spaces don’t feel safe for people of colorThe nervous system impact of belonging vs. hypervigilanceMicroaggressions and unseen barriers in healing spacesWhy representation matters in erotic and therapeutic workCreating containers that center Black women’s pleasureThe need for more trained Black male surrogates and practitionersSlowing down as a radical act of healingHow true pleasure only emerges when the body feels safeAmina shares how her own journey — from massage therapy and sexual surrogacy to founding a nationally recognized tantra institute — grew from one simple truth: If the body doesn’t feel safe, it cannot open. And if it cannot open, pleasure is limited. This episode is an invitation to look deeper — at our bodies, our spaces, and the unconscious systems we carry into intimacy. Because sacred sexuality without safety isn’t sacred. Guest: Amina Peterson Founder, Atlanta Institute of Tantra Somatic Sexologist & Embodiment Educator  atl tantra.com More resources → rahichun.com

What if pleasure wasn’t reserved for “perfect” bodies? What if pleasure was medicine? In this deeply compassionate conversation, I’m joined by Emily Royce — certified somatic sex educator, sexological bodyworker, chronic pain specialist, and former president of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers — to explore sexuality, intimacy, and embodiment for people living with chronic pain, disability, illness, and differently abled bodies. Because so many of us have been taught: “I’m broken.”  “My body doesn’t work.”  “Sex isn’t for me anymore.” And yet… The body still longs to feel. Still longs to connect. Still remembers pleasure. Emily shares her personal journey growing up with chronic pain and an MS diagnosis — and how grief, dance, meditation, and somatic practice unexpectedly opened the door to greater joy, erotic aliveness, and nervous system healing. Together, we explore how pleasure doesn’t have to look like what movies or magazines tell us. Sometimes pleasure begins with something far simpler: A neutral breath. A soft touch. An elbow. A knee. A moment of safety. Because when the nervous system feels safe, new neural pathways open — and the body discovers new ways to feel good. In this episode, we explore: Sexuality and intimacy with chronic pain or disabilityHow medicalization disconnects us from body wisdomWhy “neutral” can be the gateway to pleasureSomatic tools for rebuilding trust with your bodyClient-led, body-led consent practicesSlowing down as a radical healing practiceHow pleasure supports neuroplasticity and pain reliefExpanding beyond genital-focused sexualityUnexpected pleasure pathways (yes… even elbows and knees)Working with grief, trauma, and stored emotion through movementWhy every body deserves access to pleasureEmily reminds us: Pleasure isn’t performance. Pleasure is resource. Pleasure is regulation. Pleasure is healing. This episode is an invitation to soften the cultural myths about what sex “should” look like — and instead listen deeply to what your body actually wants. Because every body is a pleasure body. Guest: Emily Royce Somatic Sex Educator & Chronic Pain Specialist Former President, Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers healwithpleasure.com Instagram: @pleasurablehealing More resources → rahichun.com

Every human body goes through puberty. And every human body will also move through menopause or andropause. Yet somehow… we’re taught almost nothing about what happens next. Brain fog. Low libido. Poor sleep. Weight gain. Vaginal dryness. Erectile changes. Mood shifts. Most people assume: “This is just aging.” But what if it’s simply hormones out of balance — and completely treatable? In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Guy Riekeman, naturopathic physician and specialist in hormonal health, gut health, and regenerative medicine, to break down what’s actually happening inside the body during perimenopause, menopause, and andropause — and how to restore energy, vitality, and sexual aliveness naturally. This conversation is both science-based and empowering. Because suffering through hormonal shifts isn’t inevitable. And you don’t have to “just live with it.” In this episode, we explore: What perimenopause and menopause actually are (and why symptoms happen)The truth about progesterone, estrogen, and mood regulationWhy PMS, heavy cycles, and painful periods are not “normal”Vaginal dryness, libido loss, and sexual pain — and what to do about itAndropause explained: low testosterone in men (even in their 20s and 30s)Signs of low testosterone: brain fog, low energy, weak erections, low driveWhy many doctors miss hormonal imbalancesNatural approaches vs. bioidentical hormone replacementHerbs and lifestyle tools for hormone supportThe risks of jumping straight to testosterone injectionsGut health + hormones as the foundation of feeling goodSimple anti-aging practices for lifelong vitalityDr. Guy shares something I deeply believe: You don’t have to feel old just because you’re aging. Your body can feel vibrant, sexual, and alive for decades longer than we’ve been taught. Hormones aren’t just about reproduction. They shape: your mood your metabolism your sleep your desire your sense of being at home in your body When they’re balanced, life feels radically different. Guest: Dr. Guy Citrin.   citrinwellness.com Naturopathic Doctor | Hormone & Gut Health Specialist More resources → rahichun.com If this conversation supported you, leaving a 5-star rating or review helps this work reach more people navigating these changes.