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Send us a text A chat at the airfield turns into a round of “I would never…” and sparks this episode on what I call verbal condemnation.  From “I’d never rehome my dog” to “My dog would never bite”, these statements often hide fear, not fact. I explore the defense mechanisms behind them, projection, denial, moral high ground, and why they sting so much when directed at us.  Awareness isn’t about brushing things off. It’s the first step toward understanding what we’re really afraid of, and deciding what to do with it. Episode website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/mindset-episode-028-verbal-condemnation/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text We say things like “I just want to get the most out of life” all the time, especially when it comes to our dogs, who already feel like they’re on borrowed time. But when you stop to really think about it…what does that even mean? In this episode, I follow that thought down a bit of a rabbit hole. What does it actually mean to maximize life? For ourselves, for our dogs? Is it about time? Love? Impact? And who gets to decide whether we’ve done “enough”? As always, I don’t land on a neat answer, but I do share a different way of looking at things, one that might feel like a bit of a relief if you’ve been chasing this invisible goal of doing everything right.  If you’ve ever felt like you’re running out of time but still aren’t sure what you’re supposed to be doing with it… this one’s for you. It's also for you if want to know a little bit more about Dutch scientist Anthonie van Leeuwenhoek. https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/mindset-episode-027-getting-the-most-out-of-your-time/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text When your work is about helping others, whether it’s animals, people, or both, it can be hard to draw the line between care and self-sacrifice.  In this episode, I talk to Gunila Pedersen, a veterinarian who dealt with burnout, left the field, and then returned on her own terms after becoming a coach.  We talk about the pressure to be perfect, the weight of euthanasia decisions, what happens when clients can’t afford treatment, and how to live with imperfection in a system that tells you to do it all.  How it’s not just about boundaries but about giving yourself permission to be human. For those who need to hear it Gunila talks about the benefits of using situational meds and about preparing for the real thing by practicing fun vet visits. No, (most) vets, don't mind that you do this!! We draw parallels to learning languages,  taking hammers to fridges and trying to be God. Whether you’re a dog guardian who feels responsible for your dog’s every mood or a professional in the pet industry who struggles with not being able to help everyone you’ll find something in this conversation that resonates. Links: The Overwhelmed Vet Podcast: https://theoverwhelmedvetpodcast.buzzsprout.com/ Gunila's Website: https://gunilalifecoach.com/ Get Gunila's 10 hacks ot overcome burnout in the veterinary clinic by CLICKING HERE Episode website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/039-gunilla-pedersen-on-burnout-boundaries-and-not-being-god/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text It's not my dog's fault I'm sick... It's not my dog's fault work's busy... So, that means I have to put them first. Not make them suffer for my choices. What's suffering though? Are they suffering? Are you? When do you get to put yourself first? That's what this episode is about. I give you some pointers as to how you can question your brain as well as some practical tips. Episode Website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/mindset-episode-026-not-wanting-your-dog-to-suffer-because-of-your-choices/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text Barbara van Rheenen is illustratrice en woont samen met haar twee witte herders Guzzi en Lupo. Recent schreef en illustreerde ze een boekje over wat daar bij komt kijken. Een boekje met tips over opvoeding, maar ook veel herkenbare anekdotes uit haar eigen leven, en natuurlijk met schitterende illustraties. Het schrijven van "Wittebroodsweken- Houden van je herder" leverder Barbara een hoop nieuwe inzichten op.  En daar gaat het in deze aflevering over: - Hoe je je nog steeds flink verraden kan voelen door je hond, ook al weet je wat zijn gedrag veroorzaakt... - Hoe je weet wanneer je jezelf en wanneer je je hond op de eerste plaats moet zetten - Hoe het leven af en toe tussendoor komt en wat je dan doet - Het loslaten van ideeën, zoals dat je hond altijd los moet kunnen lopen - Omgaan met de angst voor een slechte reputatie in de buurt - Hoe Barbara's tweede hond haar liet zien dat ze helemaal niet zo verkeerd bezig was - Of houden van honden niet betekent dat je helemaal geen hond meer moet hebben Je vindt meer over Barbara, haar honden, haar illustraties en haar boekje op: haar website: https://www.barbaravanrheenen.nl/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/barbaravanrheenen/ Heb je een hondenschool of dierenwinkel, of een boekenwinkel en wil je het boekje van Barbara aan kunnen bieden aan je klanten? Neem dan vooral even kontakt met haar op via direct message op Instagram of via haar website. De webpagina bij deze aflevering: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/038-barbara-van-rheenen-over-wanneer-je-hond-aan-de-beurt-is-en-wanneer-jijzelf/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text  In this episode of Ruff Around the Edges, I explore the power of starting with a "no" to gain clarity on what we truly want. By identifying what we're not willing or able to do, we make it easier to figure out where we want to go — whether it’s choosing how to manage our dog’s behavior or making parenting decisions. I also dive into the importance of listening to your body’s signals to understand when something is a genuine no, and when it’s simply fear trying to hold you back. I give some questions you can ask yourself to differentiate between discomfort that’s protective and discomfort that signals growth, so you can feel more confident you're doing the right thing. If you often find yourself struggling with the fear of disappointing others or second-guessing your choices, this episode will help you shift your perspective. I propose practical ways to honor your own needs while still being mindful of the people (and dogs!) you care about. Episode Website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/mindset-episode-025-listening-to-your-no-to-find-your-yes-how-to-heed-your-gut-to-find-that-no/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text Claire describes such familiar themes. Like what it’s like to look back at how her childhood dogs were treated with the knowledge she has now. How she thought she knew quite a bit about dogs until Ozzy came along. Ozzy was adopted from a charity, who had done a pretty great job preparing prospective adopters for what it’s like to bring a new dog into the home, and yet Claire, like many of us, still underestimated the reality, partly because she adopted Ozzy when he was still a puppy. She talks about how it was particularly hard to be the one spending most of the time with the dog home alone and to feel like her partner was the one who just got to do the fun things with the dog, and how focusing on relaxation protocols was something that helped really well. It had also helped to not walk Ozzy every day and we discuss what it takes to break through the socialization that exists around having to walk your dog every day to be considered a dog guardian. We also talk about how Sarah Stremming and Hannah Brannigan inspired a “shut up and show up” mentality to bring about change in the dog world. About how the one tip Claire has for others is to put less pressure onthemselves: “Noone is going to die.”, and about what allowed her to change careers and move into dog training. Links: Claire's website: https://www.motherpuppersdogtraining.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/motherpuppersdogtraining/ https://www.instagram.com/ozzyfromromania/ The dogwalking company Claire's partner Matt walks for: https://fetchcambridge.co.uk/  Dog trainer Sarah Stremming: https://sarahstremming.com/, and Hannah Brannigan: https://hannahbrannigan.dog/ Episode Website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/037-claire-martin-ozzy-of-motherpuppers-on-shutting-up-and-showing-up/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text Warning: this episode references euthanasia What do you do when you have been dealt an emotional blow, and need time to process that, but time is the one thing you don't have? Because you have to get back to work so you can make rent for example? Or because you're parenting small children and you're happy to get 5 minutes of quiet time on the toilet? This episode tries to give some practical tips as to what you can do in situations like that using the low-key of example of getting over a dog training set-back as well as the example of not having been able to rescue a dog from behavioral euthanasia as a dog professional. If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text Leah Lykos, a dog behaviorist out of Chattanooga Tennessee and guardian to three dogs, Eva, Biggie, and Mia explains how her focus is on movement and somatic work. That makes sense given that she operates from the philosophy that for dogs even more so than for humans there is no separation of mind and body. We discuss something new to me: resistance feeding. The idea behind resistance feeding is to not control the dog's behavior but to provide an appropriate outlet for it. Everything is always on a spectrum, so we discuss how to know if you're allowing stress to dissipate or adding to the dog's stress. In that same sense of knowing if something is helpful or not, we touch on the concept of your dog as a mirror. When is hurting to see it that way and when is it helping? Leah explains how she differentiates between people who are already so aware of their own stress and so focused on solving for that, that it inhibits them in working with their dog, and people who are so detached from their body and their feelings. that they have no idea they may be projecting onto their dog. From there we dig into the inner work we get to do thanks to our dogs. When you have trouble connecting with your dog, what part of yourself do you have trouble connecting with or accepting? How does understanding your dog help to understand yourself? How do we regulate our own nervous system?   Leah explains that it is her daily work to figure out how she can stay passionate about what she's doing, without getting completely wrapped up in every single case. Links: Leah's website: https://www.caninemovementlab.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caninemovementlab/ The YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSlbjJXVMBxSGBgkbNWXOZw Episode website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/035-leah-lykos-of-canine-movement-lab-on-somatic-work-and-your-dog-as-your-mirror/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text [The audio of this episode is a bit wonky, but I hope you'll put up with it because the content is great] Matilda is a canine coach who creates all the things she wishes she would have had available when working with her dog Nala for her clients. We talk about how Rafiki, her second dog, helped her grow into the person she is now. (and what on earth possessed her to get a second dog after having a first dog who was Ruff Around the Edges) When you listen to the episode you'll be blown away by her transformation and her approach to life. Imagine being startled by barking... and ending up working with dogs. We talk about the constant state of dysregulation living in a home with inter-dog aggression brings. About the toll living with an aggressive dog takes on a relationship. About what it takes to set boundaries with your loved ones and strangers. About learning to love life without regrets. About how freeing it is to have like-minded people by your side. And so much more. Find Matilda here: Her website: https://www.matildathecaninecoach.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matildathecaninecoach/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matildathecaninecoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matildathecaninecoach The episode website is here: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/035-matilda-kelsall-amp-nala-and-rafiki-on-dog-sparked-personal-growth-in-leaps-and-bounds/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text When you have to train something you don't know how to identify, where do you start? Can you even start? I share the experiences a friend of mine and myself have had doing physical therapy, the lessons I learned from it and how they apply to life with our dogs. How do you find which dials to tweak? If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text How does a UK national end up a dog (and other animals) trainer in Dubai? Just listening to Aimee's backstory will have you in awe of the way she has stayed true to herself making big life decisions. We talk about how she tries to make clients feel like they can share everything with her as a trainer so that they don't have to hide their feelings and frustration. We discuss how breed stereotypes and other assumptions may prevent us from recognizing our dogs are in pain.  Are poodles simply fussy eaters or is there an underlying problem with their teeth causing them pain when they eat? What about the disappointment we feel when our dog's behavior seems to relapse? What can we do? Should we try something new or go back to basics? Links: Aimee's business in Dubai: https://pawfectgroup.com/ Aimee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pawfectbehaviourme/ Episode Website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/034-aimee-of-pawfect-behaviour-on-everything-mindset-and-dogs-and-leaving-the-uk-to-be-a-dubai-dog-trainer/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text This episode is for you if you identify as a perfectionist. Simply talking with Aga, the short version for Agnieszka about the concept of errorless learning has given me another way to look at perfectionism and how it can (often but not always) be unhelpful. Aga talks about training behaviors to fluency which is different from perfection, and about the benefits of playing by someone else's rules now and then, just to get you out of your comfort zone. She will have you completely rethink the idea of "just one more repetition" and "ending on a win". Not just that. What about extinction and frustration? Do we need frustration or can we skip it? Aga also blew my mind by giving me a way of looking at resilience completely differently. What if resilience, the ability to bounce back, isn't an innate trait? What if it simply amounts to having a big enough skillset to be able to handle errors? And since skills can be taught, what if you could teach resilience? Errorlessly? With minimal frustration? How does this apply to humans? How does she apply it in her personal life and her business? And of course, we chat about Agnieszka's new book, the Animal Trainer's Comprehensive Handbook. Listen to this episode multiple times. It's packed with gems! Links: Tromplo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tromplo/ Agnieszka's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/agnieszkajanarektrainer/ The Tromplo website: https://tromplo.com/ The link to the new book, the Animal Trainer's Comprehensive Handbook: https://tromplo.com/product/animal-trainers-comprehensive-handbook-by-agnieszka-janarek/   Also mentioned: Dr. Susan Friedman: https://www.behaviorworks.org/ Ken Ramirez: https://www.kenramireztraining.com/ Kay Laurence: https://www.learningaboutdogs.com/ Episode website: https://kajsavanoverbeek.com/033-agnieszka-janarek-of-tromplo-on-errorless-learning-lack-of-perfectionism-and-resilience-in-both-humans-and-dogs/ If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

Send us a text Als Ninke Luka adopteert heeft hij al twee jaar lang in een Russisch asiel gezeten. Eenmaal thuis in Belgisch Limburg durft hij niet eens binnen te komen, zo ontzettend moet hij wennen aan zijn nieuwe leven. Goedbedoelde adviezen als "da's een een scheper, die moet u wel bezig houden" blijken voor Luka helemaal niet te werken. Ninke vertelt over de omzwervingen die haar uiteindelijk naar Daniëlla van Paws in Touch leiden en wat haar overtuigde om toch nog weer meer geld in training te steken. Althans, het belangrijkste voor Luka blijkt om helemaal niet te "trainen", maar om juist in te zetten op rust. Als later blijkt dat Luka weer achteruit gaat, vertrouwt Ninke het niet. Ze vermoedt dat er pijn in het spel kan zijn. Eerste röntgen foto's laten "slechts" een milde heupdysplasie aan één heup zien. Gelukkig gaat Ninke af op haar eigen intuïtie en laat ze verder onderzoek doen. Luka blijkt gruwelijk pijn te hebben van een zware hernia. Ondertussen is ook Ellie bij het gezin gekomen. Wat heeft Ninke anders gedaan bij Ellie? Heeft ze op andere dingen gelet? Wat maakte dat ze het aandurfde er nog een tweede hond bij te nemen? En last but not least, wat zou ze andere hondenbaasjes als advies mee willen geven? If the podcast resonates with you and you want to dig a little deeper, coaching is the tool to help you cope better with stressful situations, makes you more confident and daring, and all around feel better. Schedule a free consult to see if it's for you here: https://calendly.com/kajsavanoverbeekcoaching/consult

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