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In this deeply personal episode of Tea with D, I reflect on a side-by-side photo of myself on my 2nd birthday and my 29th. Looking at that little girl made me realize something — she had no idea what life would ask of her. She didn’t know she would lose her dad at 22. She didn’t know she would find herself in relationships that weren’t meant for her. She didn’t know how much healing, growth, and self-discovery would be waiting ahead. In this episode, I share the journey from grief to growth: How therapy helped me understand myselfHow I learned to love being aloneHow healing the hardest parts of my story helped me become the woman I am todayAnd somewhere along the way, after finding myself and rebuilding my life, I discovered something I once questioned if I deserved — a love that feels safe. This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re still figuring life out. Because the truth is, the little girl you once were had no idea how strong you’d become. So pour yourself a cup of tea and join me for a conversation about loss, healing, independence, and becoming the woman you were always meant to be. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is believe that everything will work out—even when you don’t know how or when. In this episode, I share personal stories about moments I thought I’d never get over, only to realize that everything happens as it’s meant to—for our growth and better alignment. Rejection isn’t the end; it’s a redirection. Every door closed makes room for a more aligned one to open. You’ll learn: Why uncertainty often feels scarier than failureHow to reframe rejection as a stepping stone to growthReal-life examples of things working out in unexpected waysPractical daily habits to build resilience, faith, and gratitudeThe power of affirmations and mindset shifts in tough timesHow to take small but meaningful steps forward even when unsureHow to handle doubt and stay centered during uncertain seasonsIf you’re in a season of “not yet,” this episode will inspire you to trust the timing of your life and keep moving forward with hope and confidence. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this episode of Tea with D, I unpack the backlash I received from participating in a lighthearted TikTok trend — and how it quickly spiraled into a wave of men attacking my appearance. I was called fake, rated with numbers, asked “how much,” and even told that “time is ticking.” All because I had the nerve to look confident. But this goes deeper than one video. Since I was a little girl, I never felt seen. I was the “ugly duckling” — overlooked and underestimated. Then in high school, I blossomed… and suddenly people did notice me — but with judgment. I was "slut-shamed". I was made fun of for putting effort into my appearance. I could never win. For a long time, I lost my sparkle. But today, I feel like I’m finally stepping into who I was always meant to be — confident, joyful, and free. And yet, here we are again: people trying to tear me down for it. This episode isn’t just about me. It’s for every woman who’s ever been told to be confident, but not too confident. Pretty, but not too pretty. Visible, but not too loud. Let's talk about it. 🔑 Highlights: The viral “decline” trend and the backlash I receivedWhat it feels like to be judged for your appearance — no matter what side you’re onMy personal journey: from the “ugly duckling” to reclaiming my sparkleThe double standard of confidence for womenTurning hate into purpose📌 Reminder: Confidence isn’t the problem — people’s discomfort with it is. Tune in and let’s sip on that truth. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

This weekend was everything I didn’t know I needed — effortless laughs, deep conversations, and memories made with my people. The best part? We actually followed through. The plans left the group chat, and it reminded me how powerful it is to say yes — yes to showing up, yes to fun, yes to joy. In this solo episode of Tea with D, I’m sharing the lessons that came from simply choosing to go. I talk about the energy that comes from being around the right people, how refreshing it is to be in rooms with no drama and real connection, and why making time for joy is one of the best things you can do for your soul. If you’ve been stuck in “we should hang out soon” mode or you keep canceling on yourself and your people — this one’s for you. It’s time to make the plans, keep the plans, and live a little. So grab your tea, and let’s talk about choosing presence, fun, and authentic connection. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

Breakups suck—but they don’t get to steal your glow. In this heart-to-heart episode of Tea with D, host Diane O'Canto dives into what it really means to reclaim your spark after heartbreak. From honoring your emotions and rediscovering your identity to rebuilding confidence, setting boundaries, and even reconnecting with your sensuality—this episode is your post-breakup blueprint for healing, growth, and thriving. Expect raw truths, empowering tips, and the ultimate reminder: your power was never lost, it just needed a gentle nudge. ✨ Whether you’re freshly single or still mending, this one’s for you. What’s inside: How to feel your feels without getting stuckWays to rediscover your passions and joyConfidence-boosting habits that actually workHow to set boundaries without guiltReclaiming your power and radianceSo grab your tea, tune in, and let’s get that sparkle back—on your terms. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this raw solo episode, Diane O’Canto opens up about a triggering moment that forced her to face something she’s been avoiding for years: unprocessed grief. After losing her father in 2019, Diane’s healing journey began — through anxiety, therapy, self-awareness, and countless lessons. But it wasn’t until a recent emotional spiral that she realized: she’s done a lot of healing… just not the kind she really needs. If you’ve ever felt stuck, numbed your pain with distraction, or found yourself spiraling and not even sure why — this episode is for you. Diane walks you through the exact moment she knew it was time to stop surviving and start truly healing. From therapist breakups to grief breakthroughs, she shares the messy, brave, and honest truth of what it means to take your power back. Plus, a powerful reminder:  “Whatever you’re going through, don’t stop. Don’t build your house in pain. One foot after the other — you’re moving forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.” Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

From dominating the wrestling mat to navigating life-altering injuries, Brandon Betancourt’s journey is a testament to resilience, discipline, and reinvention. In this episode of Tea with D, we dive deep into the triumphs and setbacks that shaped him—from unexpected losses and career-ending injuries to finding new purpose in firefighting and stepping into the world of MMA. Brandon opens up about: ✅ The mental battles behind every comeback ✅ How wrestling shaped his work ethic beyond the sport ✅ The identity struggles athletes face after leaving competition ✅ Finding purpose again through new challenges ✅ The mindset shift that helped him rebuild after loss Whether you're an athlete, someone navigating setbacks, or looking for motivation to keep pushing forward, this episode is packed with insights on perseverance, growth, and the power of never giving up. Key Topics We Cover: 🔥 The Foundation of Grit – How wrestling built his mindset and discipline ⚡ Overcoming Injury & Unexpected Detours – Losing nationals, Fresno State cutting its program, and finding a new path 🥊 Firefighting & MMA – Training under pressure, staying mentally tough, and the parallels between his careers 🧠 Mental Health & Identity – The struggle of transitioning out of sports and advice for those feeling stuck 🚀 What’s Next? – Going pro in MMA and what keeps him pushing forward Tune in for an inspiring conversation about grit, reinvention, and never backing down from a challenge. Follow Brandon's Journey: Instagram Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

The holiday season is a time for joy and connection, but for many, it also brings feelings of loss and longing. In this heartfelt episode, Diane shares her personal journey of navigating the holidays without her father. She reflects on the emotional complexities that surface when traditions shift, family dynamics change, and cherished memories feel bittersweet. Through candid storytelling, she explores the struggles of finding comfort, accepting support, and redefining what the holidays mean after loss. D also shares insights from a recent therapy session, offering hope and practical tips for those experiencing similar emotions this season. Join her for an honest, compassionate conversation that reminds us we’re never truly alone in our feelings — and that there’s strength in reaching out. Topics Covered:  1 Coping with Holiday Traditions After Loss: Adapting to new traditions while honoring the past.  2 Family Dynamics & Boundaries: Navigating feelings of being an “intruder” while accepting invitations with grace.  3 Emotional Triggers During the Holidays: Understanding how small moments can feel heightened when experiencing grief.  4 The Power of Vulnerability & Therapy: How opening up in therapy helped bring clarity and hope.  5 Creating New Holiday Meaning: Finding peace and joy in unexpected places.  6 Extending & Accepting Olive Branches: The importance of giving and receiving support. This episode will resonate with anyone who’s missing a loved one this holiday season, offering comfort, understanding, and a reminder that it’s okay to feel what you feel while still holding space for hope. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this heartfelt episode of Tea with D, Hailey Caine shares her inspiring journey from a challenging adolescence to becoming an advocate for domestic violence survivors. Hailey has proven that resilience and determination can lead to meaningful impact. From competing in the Miss America organization to using her platform to empower women, Hailey’s story is a testament to turning pain into purpose. Tune in to hear how she’s making a difference and inspiring others along the way! Topics: Personal JourneyAdvocacy and ExperiencesPageantry and Its RoleFuture Goals and ImpactAdvice and ReflectionHailey Caine: Instagram National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.): Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788.Chat online: thehotline.orgMarjaree Mason Center: https://mmcenter.org/Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Catrina Owens, a remarkable author, mother, advocate, and former foster youth who is committed to breaking the cycle of generational trauma. Catrina's journey is one of resilience, determination, and transformation as she navigates her path towards healing and advocacy. Join D in this enlightening episode as we explore the journey of self-fulfillment, the importance of faith, and the foundations of healthy relationships with Catrina Owens. We'll dive into key topics including: Understanding Singleness:Self-Fulfillment and Happiness:Healthy Relationship Foundations:Qualities to Look for in a Partner:Personal Development:Impact of Past and Upbringing:Transforming Relationship Patterns:Faith and Relationships:This episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for preparing for a meaningful and supportive partnership. Don't miss out on this discussion about embracing singleness, finding self-fulfillment, and building healthy, faith-based relationships. Catrina's Book: Finding My Happy By Catrina Lynn Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this episode of TeaWithD, D dives deep into the world of imposter syndrome—a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their own accomplishments and have a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud." Despite clear evidence of their competence and success, people with imposter syndrome often attribute their achievements to luck or deception rather than their own skills and effort. Join D as she explores the key characteristics of imposter syndrome, including self-doubt, fear of exposure, and perfectionism. D discusses the causes and contributing factors such as personality traits, family dynamics, cultural pressures, and high-stakes professional environments. She will also examine the profound impact imposter syndrome can have on emotional health, professional development, and personal relationships. Most importantly, sharing her practical coping strategies to help you or someone you know acknowledge these feelings, reframe negative thoughts, seek support, and celebrate successes. Whether you're struggling with imposter syndrome yourself or want to understand it better to support others, this episode is packed with insights and advice to help unmask the fraud and recognize the true value of your achievements. Tune in and join the conversation! Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this episode, we welcome Julie McGue, an accomplished author, memoirist, essayist, and columnist who delves into the profound themes of identity, family, and belonging. Julie's journey of self-discovery began at the age of 48, when a breast biopsy revealed gaps in her knowledge about her birth circumstances and medical history, due to a closed adoption. This revelation set her on a five-year quest to uncover her personal story, which she chronicles in her award-winning memoir, Twice a Daughter: A Search for Family, Identity, and Belonging. Join us as we explore Julie's latest book, Belonging Matters: Conversations on Adoption, Family & Kinship, a heartfelt compilation of her favorite blog posts, essays, and columns. This companion piece to her first memoir aims to support the adoption community and spark conversations about identity and kinship. In our conversation, we discuss: Julie's passion for writing memoirs and essays focused on identity and belonging.How her experience with closed adoption has shaped her understanding of identity.The pivotal moment of her breast biopsy and its impact on her search for her roots.The challenges and rewards she encountered during her five-year journey to uncover her personal story.Surprising revelations from Twice a Daughter and the key messages in Belonging Matters.The evolution of her concepts of identity and belonging over the years.The role of storytelling in helping others navigate their own identity journeys.How her roles as an identical twin, mother, and grandmother have influenced her perspectives on family and adoption.Her thoughts on the future of the adoption community and essential support for those affected by adoption.Julie's writing process and the balance between personal reflection and broader themes.Influences and inspirations in her writing career.A sneak peek into the prequel to Twice a Daughter, set to release in February 2025.Advice for aspiring memoir writers and handling the vulnerability of sharing personal stories.How she hopes readers connect with her work and the most touching feedback she's received.Balancing her roles as a writer, mother, grandmother, and twin while maintaining her creative output.Tune in for an intimate and inspiring conversation that highlights the power of resilience, storytelling, and the quest for identity with Julie McGue. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this empowering episode, I delve into the profound wisdom of resilience and self-belief. Life throws curveballs, but it's how we respond that truly defines us. Join me as I navigate through the tough terrain of hardship, discussing how every setback is a stepping stone toward personal growth and transformation. Through candid anecdotes and insightful discussions, I will explore the power of shifting perspectives and reframing challenges as opportunities for learning and evolution. Tune in as I unpack the invaluable lessons embedded within life's trials, reminding you that no matter how tough it gets, giving up is never an option.  Key Points: 1. Introduction to the concept of resilience and the importance of not giving up on oneself. 2. Sharing personal stories of overcoming adversity and how they contributed to personal growth. 3. Discuss the inevitability of hard times in life and how they serve as catalysts for transformation. 4. Exploring strategies for changing perspectives during challenging times and finding silver linings. 5. Providing practical tips for cultivating resilience and perseverance in the face of adversity. 6. Emphasizing the significance of self-belief and the power of resilience in navigating life's obstacles. Join me Tealovers on this transformative journey as we embrace the beauty of resilience and reaffirm our commitment to never giving up on ourselves. It's time to rewrite our narratives and emerge stronger than ever before. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this powerful episode, Diane opens up about her personal journey of recovering from people-pleasing tendencies. She candidly discusses the struggles she faced in learning to say no, prioritizing her own needs, setting boundaries, and embracing discomfort. Throughout the episode, Diane sheds light on the telltale signs of being a people pleaser and offers valuable insights into the process of growth and self-discovery. Listeners will learn how to recognize if they are stuck in the cycle of people pleasing and discover practical tips to break free from it. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels alone or fears rejection. Through vulnerable storytelling and shared experiences, listeners will feel seen and empowered to embark on their own journey towards authenticity and self-empowerment. Tune in to gain invaluable insights and take the first step towards reclaiming your power and living life on your own terms. Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto

In this week's episode, we delve into the fascinating realm of intuitive and intrusive thoughts. Join us as we explore the stark differences between these two types of thoughts and learn how to discern and trust our intuition. D shares her ongoing journey of distinguishing between intuitive and intrusive thoughts, shedding light on the challenging moments she has faced along the way. From unraveling subconscious beliefs to confronting the ego-driven nature of intrusive thoughts, D offers valuable insights and personal anecdotes that will resonate with listeners. Throughout the episode, we're reminded that intuitive thoughts are clear and strong, emanating from a place of clarity and authenticity. In contrast, intrusive thoughts stem from subconscious beliefs fueled by ego, often leading us astray. Tune in today to gain valuable tips and strategies for honing in on your intuition, releasing the chains of living in fight or flight, and embarking on a journey of self-discovery and healing your inner child. Don't miss out on this empowering and transformative episode! Subscribe now and join us on this enlightening journey of self-discovery. #PodcastAlert #IntuitiveThoughts #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #DontGiveUp Interested in following my curated life where I post my adventures?! Instagram: diane.christine.ocanto