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Last episode for the season!! This episode we share our thoughts on all the things we found hard when we first separated but got easier over time...owning our co-parenting status and not caring if people didn't understand it, letting go of that "perfect" fantasy of 2.5 children, dating and not having to see your co-parent everyday [or having to see them everyday] all takes some getting used to....EPISODE RESOURCESPodcast: Circularity - The Redesign of EverythingRead: Esther Perel - The State of Affairs : Rethinking InfidelityFOLLOW ALONGOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

On this episode Moni chats with Serafin Upton, a NZ based psychotherapist who specialises in recovering from narcissistic relationships and emotional abuse. She helps us understand narcissistic personality disorder vs narcissistic traits, identify and manage a relationship with a narcissist and how to support and protect your children from narcissistic abuse.EPISODE RESOURCESRead: Mark Ettensohn - Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your LifeRead: Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity : Unlocking Erotic IntelligenceRead: Esther Perel - The State of Affairs : Rethinking InfidelityPodcast: Where Should We Begin? with Esther PerelPodcast Episode: Brené with Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry on Trauma, Resilience, and HealingOur Family Wizard AppFOLLOW ALONGSerafin Upton's Wesbite: www.serafinupton.co.nzOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

On this episode Ellie chats with her co-parent Charlie Goldsmith. Hear what Charlie has to say about the importance of respecting and supporting the mother of your child/ren and the positive programming around relationships and communication this can create for them, why it’s better (and easier) to get along, building a community around your child as well as rewriting the narrative that being friends with your ex is “weird”.SHOW LINKSCharlies IG: @charliegoldsmithOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

We share some tips for what to do next once the decision to separate has been made when you share children and one or both of you are thinking about how to start the co-parenting journey.IntroductionBeing clear about the decision to separateDeciding the best living and child-sharing arrangements for your familyManaging communication and maintaining privacyFinding a support person in a professional or trusted friendEstablishing early boundaries around parental decisions, sex and datingRespecting someone else’s grieving period might be different to yoursHow to manage your alone time when your child/ren is with the other parentHonouring your feelings and resourcing / supporting yourself through themDisclaimer: This episode is relevant to situations where there are two capable parents and children are safe in each parents hands.SHOW LINKSOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

We talk about handling arguments and conflict in your co-parenting / parenting relationship and how to come out of an argument better than when you went in.IntroductionArguments can be a good thing providing awareness about what your wounds are, where expectations aren’t being met or holes in your communication.Arguments vs discussionHow attachment styles influence your ability to have hard discussions and handle conflict and knowing your co-parents attachment style is a sign of love.Strategies to help when you’re in the midst of an argumentHow to recover after an argument so you finish better off, not worse off.SHOW LINKSBook: Attached by Amir Levine HEREOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

Join Ellie and Monique as they discuss how important letting go of the stories you tell yourself is to your co-parenting journey.⁣How to identify the difference between what is ACTUALLY happening vs the stories you’re telling yourself about what you THINK is happening.⁣Why we need to let go of unhelpful stories from our romantic relationships so we can transition into a co-parenting relationship⁣Common held beliefs such as ‘The white picket fence’ and ‘single mum’ narratives and letting go of years of conditioning and societal expectations around what successful relationships and self-worth looks like.⁣When two co-parents are stuck in their stories and no-one is willing to budge.At home practices to help you rewrite the stories you tell yourself⁣⁣SHOW LINKS5 Journaling prompts to help rewrite unhelpful stories HERE⁣Ted Talk: How to Get Your Brain to Focus by Chris Bailey HERE⁣⁣Subscribe to the Holistic Psychologist's newsletter for her free future self journal⁣Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

We share 5 principles that we believe form a healthy co-parenting relationship including practical tips and tools you can implement and practice in your life.Rule 1: Respect and how to be considerate of differing needs, feelings, experiences or expectations.Rule 2: Avoiding exposing children to parental conflictTeaching kids that not all romantic relationships work out and creating a new narrative around navigation relationships and separation.Rule 3: Willingness to do self-workDaily practices you could incorporate to help you do self-workRule 4: Check in with your kids frequentlyTips to help teach your kids how to express their emotionsRule 5: Determined shared parenting values and goalsSHOW LINKSSee the Parenting Triangle on Instagram HEREOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

We are Ellie Lemons and Monique Barry and our podcast Parenting Together Apart is a resource for co-parents, by co-parents. We share our co-parenting / co-living journeys and our intentions for this resource.Who is Together Apart for?Defining co-parenting3:12 Ellie’s co-parenting storyThe timeline of the co-parenting journey and where we are now is not where we startedMonique’s co-parenting storyTaking responsibility for our healing and taking a child centred approach to parenting after separationQuestioning the stories you tell yourself about what breakups look likeShow LinksOur Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_