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#243. I’m going back to school! In this episode, we are discussing my choice to go back to school in my early 30s– the why, the what, the what happens next, and what to do when you find yourself in an era of bad luck. Consider this a bit of a life update and release of the negative energy I’ve been accidentally absorbing for the last 2 weeks. It’s a spoken evil eye of sorts. Then, we’re answering listener questions from recent Instagram Q&As. Overall, a very chatty, girly episode.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day Free People: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#242. This week I’m sitting down with my friend Alexa for an honest conversation about what it actually takes to transform your life. Alexa shares how losing her grandfather sent her into one of the darkest periods of her life — and how she came out the other side genuinely the best version of herself. We get into body positivity, manifestation, and what the process of rebuilding really looks like when you’re starting from the bottom.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Free People: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear IM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF and use code NOTETOSELF for aFree Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order Lola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code [NOTETOSELF] at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blanket See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#241. Megan Roup is the founder of The Sculpt Society and one of the most sought-after celebrity trainers in the country. In this episode, we get into training through pregnancy & post-partum, the undeniable link between fitness and mental health, and what it really looks like to build a business while raising children.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returns Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#240. Curation gets talked about like it's an aesthetic practice — a considered wardrobe, a beautiful home, a feed that looks a certain way. But the version I have been sitting with lately goes deeper than that. In this episode, I make the case that a truly curated life isn't built for presentation; it's built for self-knowledge. The things you keep, the rituals you protect, the choices you make when no one is watching — they aren't a mood board. They’re part of a larger portrait. This is about learning to tell the difference, and how fun life can become when you do.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Lola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code NOTETOSELF at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blanket Free People Movement: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#239. We've been handed every framework imaginable for navigating love — the checklists, the red flags, the attachment style deep dives. And somehow we're still confused. Because the problem was never information. It was nerve. This week on Ask P, we're getting into the questions you actually sent — two crushes in the same friend group, holding your standards after a great relationship ends, rebuilding trust after a breakup, the name change debate, and how to show up for a friend who keeps choosing someone wrong for her. This one is for every woman who already knows the answer and just needs permission to trust it. SHOP THE EPISODE:  https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4429102                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8  Sponsors: Free People Movement: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#238. My spring favorites are here — beauty, fashion, tech, rituals, TV, people worth following, and a few random things I can't stop talking about. This one's a proper list episode: personal, specific, and full of things that have actually been making my life better lately. Consider this your permission to add to cart. SHOP THE EPISODE:  https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4429102                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Free People Movement: Visit fpmovement.com to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear Nuuly: That’s nuuly.com and code NOTETOSELF for $28 off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#237. YOU’RE INVITED. Because I’ve documented my love life on NTS since my now-husband and I met– from our early dating days, to moving in together & baseball craziness, to breaking up and not speaking for a year (lol), to getting back together and now tying the knot– it feels right to walk you through our wedding weekend in vivid detail. As usual, I’m getting extremely candid about my experience planning, pre-wedding prep, what went right (& what went wrong) on our wedding day, and the early days of marriage. Thank you for being here to witness our little love story! We love you. xx FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go.Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+at onepeloton.com Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#236. I’m sitting down with content creator Greta Louise Tomé for a conversation that covers all the things your group chat has been debating. They get into the real rules around moving in together, why your community matters more than you think when it comes to baby timing, and why "what's your Plan B?" is a question worth retiring for good. Plus — Greta shares her philosophy on being sexy for yourself, and why a little creativity might be the most feminine thing you can do. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: RW Knudsen: Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today Caraway: Visit Carawayhome.com/NTS to take an additional 10% off your next purchase Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started Nuuly: That’s nuuly.com and code NOTETOSELF for $28 off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#235. In this month’s installment of ASK P, we are tackling listener questions on topics like romantic relationships, to friendships, to knowing ourselves. What do I do when my life feels too boring? Should I leave my relationship due to incompatibility? When should I exit the friendship? Listen to ASK P on Note to Self every month, and write in your own Qs (anonymously) via the link below.                                                                                                                                                                                         FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Nowadays: Visit trynowadays.com/NOTETOSELF to get30 percent off your order Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go.Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+at onepeloton.com Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#234. Talia Hubble has a theory: when life falls apart, you set the table. The content creator and hostess extraordinaire joins Payton for a conversation about her recent home renovation, navigating a breakup in her thirties, and why her answer to heartbreak was to invite everyone she loves over for dinner. Talia talks about building a life split between New York City and her Rhode Island cottage, the way nesting became her love language during a hard season, and how intentional hosting became her most powerful form of self-care. This one is for the woman who is learning that community isn't just something you find,It's something you create, one dinner party at a time.                                                                                                                                                                                                     FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com RW Knudsen: Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today Nuuly: Go to nuuly.com and enter the code NOTETOSELF at sign up to get $28 off your first month Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#233: In a season that glorifies romantic love, this episode is your reminder that the most important relationship you’ll ever build is the one you have with yourself. We’re talking about falling in love with yourself in ways that are both romantic and psychologically grounded — from small rituals that make you feel cared for to the science of self-trust and self-compassion. Whether you’re single or deeply partnered, this is your invitation to become someone you feel safe, steady, and proud to be. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com Caraway: Visit Carawayhome.com/NTS to take an additional 10% off your next purchase Quince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#232. Brittany Ball joins Payton to unpack what it really looks like to choose yourself over and over again through life’s biggest transitions. They talk about young motherhood, navigating divorce, co-parenting in a non-traditional dynamic, and finding love again without losing yourself in the process. This episode is a reminder that trusting your inner knowing can open doors to a life more honest, expansive, and aligned than the one you were “supposed” to live.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh Sponsors: RW Knudsen: Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#231. This episode is a candid life update and a values-driven conversation about navigating the current U.S. political climate as a woman who cares deeply but needs to take small moments for herself. We talk about boundaries, nervous system care, and how to stay clear-headed, informed, and aligned.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com Nowadays: Visit trynowadays.com/NOTETOSELF to get 20% off your order See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#230. In this Ask P episode of Note to Self, Payton answers listener questions about navigating life’s in-between seasons — from fresh breakups and New Year resets to long-term relationship “ebbs,” family dynamics, friendship loss, and early dating red flags. This episode explores how to move through heartbreak while staying hopeful, maintain independence inside committed relationships, and set boundaries with parents as an adult. Payton also shares her perspective on New Year’s resolutions that actually stick, staying motivated during winter, and how to find peace when a friendship ends without closure. If you’re in your 20s or 30s and rebuilding, recalibrating, or quietly starting over, this episode offers grounded advice and permission to take your time.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com R.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today Caraway:  Visit Carawayhome.com/NTS to take an additional 10% off your next purchase See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#229. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel fully present, this episode is for you. We break down why getting out of your head isn’t a mindset shift but a nervous system one, and how embodiment creates calm, confidence, and connection. Think of this as a gentle invitation back into your body — and back into yourself.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain   https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain  https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns R.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.