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Season Two — The Return and Reunion Of Soul And Human Episode 36: Why Your Healing Tools Don’t Work Anymore Where working on you becomes working with you I Make a Difference Episode 36: Why Your Healing Tools Don’t Work Anymore Play Episode Pause Episode Mute/Unmute Episode Rewind 10 Seconds 1x Fast Forward 30 seconds 00:00 / 00:10:04 Subscribe Share Amazon Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Spotify Stitcher iHeartRadio iTunes RSS Feed Share ...

Season Two — The Return and Reunion Of Soul And Human Episode 35: The Reunion — Anchoring the Truth of Who I Am I Make a Difference Episode 35: The Reunion — Anchoring the Truth of Who I Am Play Episode Pause Episode Mute/Unmute Episode Rewind 10 Seconds 1x Fast Forward 30 seconds 00:00 / 00:22:54 Subscribe Share Amazon Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Spotify Stitcher iHeartRadio iTunes RSS Feed Share Link...

There is profound value in exploring the complex dynamic between you and your parents or parental figures. Whether your upbringing was filled with love and beauty, marked by pain and hurt, or a combination of both, your relationship with your parents holds essential keys to your personal growth and evolution. While it’s true that you cannot change your parents or their past actions, you have the power to transform how you feel about them and develop your acceptance and openness with them. By exploring the experiences and traits you inherited from them, you gain a deeper understanding of who you truly are. IN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE: The invaluable gifts that your relationship with your parents’ and parental figures offer you for your personal growth and evolution. The critical role of exploring your relationship with your parents in becoming your true self. The significance of acknowledging and healing both the hurtful aspects and the beautiful qualities within your parents and your interactions. How refraining from exploring and facing the truth of your relationship can create distance, not only between yourself and your parents but also within your own being. The power you possess to create a closer connection with your parents, reflecting a deeper connection with yourself. I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference to who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spotify

In your friendships, are you the one who keeps them going? Do you initiate the contact, and put in the time and effort? You may even be like I used to be where you find when you go for coffee, out to lunch or dinner or to do some other activity, that you are the person who pipes up and says "I'll pay for it". If you are why are you the person who generally holds the responsibility, pays and organizes things? Join me as I explore my process of how having coffee with friends, involved me paying for both mine and theirs.  Why? Because I didn't want to owe anyone anything. I didn't know how to receive and my lack of self-worth and neediness were driving me. THIS EPISODE  You explore: How what appear to be insignificant and irrelevant occurrences, can be the key to deep-seated patterns of a lack of self-worth The influence of what may feel like unrelated experiences, on how you live your life now How the process of sabotage and rejection deny you of what you truly deserve How ceasing to pay for someone's coffee was an opportunity for huge growth for me.   I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference in who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spotify Stitcher Amazon Music Google Podcasts iHeart Radio iTunes Ask me questions, share your processing, share your feedback If you have a question you want to ask me, I can potentially explore it during an episode - (I say potentially because it is dependent on the nature of the question). And if you want to share your processing about an episode. As well as, if you have questions about an episode. Email me at [email protected]

As an adult have you lived your life, where as a child growing up, you did what you wanted to do? Or have you lived your life or some of your life based on what others believed was right for you and what they wanted you to do? A life that filled the dreams, hopes and missed opportunities of your parents, grandparents and other significant people from your life.  Where expectations were either imposed on you or you imposed them on yourself. A life where you lived other peoples unlived lives. As a parent or grandparent have you not lived the life you wanted to, and you encouraged your children or grandchildren to do what you missed out on, believing it was the right thing to do? If your answer is yes – this episode is for you. THIS EPISODE  You will: Understand what means to be living the unlived lives of your parents and others Work through how a parent can unconsciously and consciously impose their expectations of what they did not fulfil in their life, on to you Explore how this process conditions and impacts a person as a child and then as an adult Come to understand how not only your parents can impose expectations and responsibilities on you but how you can do this to yourself too Acknowledge the steps for you to take to work through these expectations that were imposed on you    I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference to who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple

I invite you to embark on my exploration of hope with me.  How a personal meditation I won as a prize, which involved an initial conversation, prompted processing in me that took me on a journey of reflection on my life and my relationship with hope.  In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of meditation and it’s impact on my journey toward finding inner peace and stability. How it became a beacon of hope for me until I realized that my growth, was being hindered and limited by it. This episode explores how through my processing I uncover my journey of hope from how I had defined it as a lifeline for me to escape where I was at, to becoming something I suppressed, ultimately rejected and gave up on. To embracing it as an internal flame of belief, trust, and self-driven progress.  My introspection led me to release old conditioning, connect more to my true self, and embrace a new perspective on hope. I discovered what hope truly means to me, its implications in my life and its transformative potential. I came to appreciate hope in a way I have not previously done so. THIS EPISODE  You will: Share in my journey of meditation which led me to connect with hope Explore how hope is an important process for our growth and evolvement Come to know how, in becoming my true self I rejected hope and made it wrong Hear how I gave up on hope and the impact of that on me Explore how I reconnected to hope in a new and different way If you are interested in knowing more about WENDY DARLING you will find her at wendydarling.com   I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference to who we are As humans, hope plays a crucial role in our lives, precisely because we often find ourselves lacking it within ourselves. Our journey towards hope is intertwined with our sense of self-worth and deservedness. It is when we question our own value and worthiness that hope becomes elusive. But there is hope for finding hope again. To explore strategies for cultivating hope within ourselves, I invite you to download your free copy of: 13 Ways To Recognize And Own Your Self-Worth Guide My Deservedness Video And Workbook

Being inspired by yourself, is a natural and powerful process. Where you are fascinated and curious about who you are, the inspiration and potential you have within you, and the inspiration you will discover and express from you. Yet you may look to other people, objects, and environments for inspiration. You can experience bursts of inspiration instead of a flow. When you are inspired, the energy you experience is vibrant and can even be overwhelming. Why? Why do you experience all of these processes? The answer is in where you are at in your growth and connection to yourself, the true you. In this episode I explore: The process of inspiration What inspiration is Why do you experience flashes of inspiration Why you may look to external things for inspiration Your true inspiration and being inspired by yourself Some key questions to support you to explore your inspiration There are questions at the end of the episode to encourage your exploration of your self-inspiration, so you grow your awareness and understanding of your process of inspiration, and or DOWNLOAD your free copy of  the SELF INSPIRATION  WORKBOOK   I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference in who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spoti...

I am so excited to introduce you to ‘Processing Reflections With Minz And Barb’ and to one of the most beautiful people I have ever met, someone so dear and precious to me – Barbara Binns. Barb, as she is called by many people, is someone whom I have journeyed with for many years. We share the love of I Make a Difference, personal growth, and catching up to share and explore our processing together. Barb mentioned to me at the end of last year that her daughter had said to her “you and Minz should do a podcast together”. These were the spoken words of what I had already been processing and pondering, so action was taken. ‘Processing Reflections With Minz And Barb’ will now be a regular feature of the I Make a Difference podcast. How regular? Good question. We are going to trust the process and see what unfolds.  Barb and I are going to have our catch-ups and explore and share processing about different aspects of our personal growth, the processes we explore, and the processing we experience. In this episode, I wanted to ensure that you got to meet and know Barb and a snapshot of how we came to connect and be friends. If you are wondering who Minz is – that is me (Melinda) it is a nickname I have been called for many decades and it also stands for Made In New Zealand. You might want to check out the new I Make a Difference Youtube Channel and the video version of this episode which is in the playlist Processing Reflections With Minz And Barb WE look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference together. Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple

For decades one of the most powerful patterns of conditioned approaches I have had with my mum is the responsibility I took on board for her emotional and physical well-being. My need to be over responsible has governed my interactions, my decision-making, and my relationship with my mum since a very young age. The result is, I have been serious in my relationship with her, the problem solver and protector. It was late last year when an experience I had gave me the insight I needed to take action in this area. I wanted to give focus to really working on letting go of my over-responsible ways. My commitment was to taking new and different approaches. The key to making this happen was for me to stay open to recognizing all of the opportunities I had in my relationship with my mum, to do things differently.  What I came to see, was that I had not allowed myself to be a daughter to my mum. I had been the parent or protector. Our relationship had been one of seriousness and practicality, rather than fun, laughter, and filled with an abundance of happiness. So I took action and the amazing new experiences that were created were beautiful. In this episode, I share that journey with you, or at least the beginning of it and what unfolded in one day, so that you too might gain some gems from my process, that will support you to: Let go of the responsibility you hold for others Change patterns of conditioned and emotional processing that are preventing you from experiencing what you truly deserve Embrace that every new experience does not need to be profound in what is done, it is in how it is received, experienced, and shared Can get to experience with the people you have taken responsibility for, the relationship you deserve to have with them Whilst I was changing some patterns, I would change the podcast cover and the format here. I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference in who we are If You Want To Work On Releasing Your Over-Responsibility And Or Expanding What You Deserve These Free IMAD Resources Are Worth Exploring Over-Responsbility Checklist My Deservedness Workbook And Video

This time of year is powerful on so many levels. It is a time to celebrate and enjoy family and friends. Yet the coming together of family, having time away from your daily routine where you have space to think and feel, missing people who have been a part of your life, all contribute to you having emotions triggered. The emotions can end up controlling and dictating what you experience and how you feel and will keep you in patterns of interactions and situations, you have experienced before. Yet there is something you can do… THIS EPISODE Grow your awareness of having emotions triggered during the holiday time Understand the impact of how you manage your emotions  Identify the choices you have to influence what you experience during this time Explore an approach to support you to make a difference in how you manage your emotions Click here to download your free copy of the IDENTIFY YOUR EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS workbook Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spotify

Boundary setting is encouraged. You probably believe that boundary setting is about valuing yourself.  But is it? In this episode I explore the truth about boundaries.  One of the truths is you set boundaries for you, with you. You are limiting yourself from doing what you have previously done, accepting and allowing what you do not deserve. So you set boundaries to grow your ability to experience what you do deserve. Yet boundaries are a little more complex than that, and they can be limiting and restrictive. IN THIS EPISODE  You will explore: What boundaries are Why you get to a place where you require boundaries What drives your need to set boundaries Who the boundaries are for Alternatives to boundary setting  A GIFT FOR YOU You may want to check out a gift for yourself. Access to ‘My Deservedness’ my free video and workbook that supports you to explore, grow and expand your ability to experience more of what you deserve.   I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference to who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spotify

Having explored in the previous two episodes responsibility and self-responsibility, how do these states of being and qualities relate to the world of your soul? THIS EPISODE  You will: Explore responsibility and self-responsibility in terms of your soul Come to know how being responsible is innate and natural to you Explore the human processes that resulted in you not naturally being responsible Know how responsibility and self-responsibility in their pure form, are you being your true self Download Your Free ‘Over-Responsibility Checklist’ I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference in who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spotify

Are you over-responsible? Do you take responsibility for adults and fulfill their responsibilities? Do you parent adults? Because if you are over-responsible, that is what you are doing. If your answer is yes to these questions, then you have learned to take responsibility for others. You have been conditioned to carry the weight of others’ responsibilities and to feel responsible for their emotional well-being. And as you learned this, you can unlearn it. And why would you want to unravel and unlearn this process?  So that you do not do things at your expense. And so that you are free of worries and concerns that are not yours to worry about. As well as you can grow your ability to support the growth of the people you have been responsible for, to grow their ability to take responsibility for themselves. And you liberate yourself of burdens that are not yours to carry. THIS EPISODE  You will: Explore what over-responsibility is Identify how you became conditioned to be over-responsible Come to know the ways you can be over-responsible Understand the impacts of over-responsibility on yourself and those you take responsibility for Explore tips for identifying your responsibilities, so that you only fulfill those BONUS – download your free copy of the ‘Over-Responsibility Checklist’ and explore what and who you are responsible for and the opportunities you have to unburden yourself Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple

As you become more and more self-responsible the more powerful you become.  You own more of who you are, what you do, not do, say and not say. And you honor your commitment to yourself to own who you truly are, to do the right thing, and to do right by you. Grow your ability to take responsibility for yourself and everything you do. And in doing so, grow your power. Explore seven key processes that I apply in my life, that have supported me to be more aware of all aspects of myself, so that I could recognize and own who I am and the influence I have over my life, situations, and the outcomes I experience. Where I am stronger, clearer, cleaner, and free of the battle I used to have with my truth that was calling me to account for the things I could have and should have done differently if I had been more aware and made different choices. Grow your love of being self-responsible, by valuing the benefits and the process. THIS EPISODE  You will explore: What self-responsibility is and the power that comes from being self-responsible The seven processes that guide you to grow your self-responsibility How owning what you do and do not do, strengthens your power and confidence, because you have greater choices as to what you do from there How to influence your life, rather than having life influence you   SUBSCRIBE TO THE I MAKE A DIFFERENCE PODCAST   I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference to who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple

Self-belief is not just about your confidence, it is a process and aspect of you that goes far deeper and lies at the core of who you are. Being clear on the different elements and aspects of your self-belief supports you to know what processes you need to work with to reclaim your self-belief, for you to grow and strengthen it. Your self-belief lies at the core of who you are. THIS EPISODE  You will be: Explore the essential elements of self-belief How self-belief influences the expression of who you are A tip as to how to grow your self-belief   I look forward to the adventure with you as we unravel, heal and uncover together to make a difference to who we are Subscribe To, Rate and Review The I Make a Difference Podcast On Your Streaming App Apple Spotify Stitcher