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How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

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★★★★★
4.9
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This podcast has
470 episodes
Language
English
Publisher
Dr Maryhan
Explicit
No
Date created
2021/06/09
Latest episode
2026/11/12
Average duration
27 min.
Release period
4 days

Description

Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... We'd love to hear from you! We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Screen Time: Five Signs It Has Gone Too Far, and What to Do
2026/11/12
Does your child have a meltdown when you take their phone away? I know there’s a huge amount of confusion around screen time, smartphones, social media, gaming, and how this impacts our children's mental health. So in this episode, I cut through the headlines and focus on two things: what the research actually tells us, and what parents can realistically do about it. I will explain how smartphones, social media and gaming platforms are designed to capture attention, why children's developing brains are particularly vulnerable to the pull of dopamine‑driven technology, and the five signs that screen use may have gone from enjoyable to problematic. Most importantly, I share practical strategies for different scenarios, so whether you’re just starting to think about smart phones, or your teenager is already glued to their screens, I will give you something you can use right away. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:55 - The anxious generation 07:45 - The five signs every parent needs to know 13:20 - Screen dependency at different ages 17:39 - Neurodivergence and what actually happens 20:37 - Start with the bedroom 25:05 - A year makes a big difference 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bucket Emptying: Five Ways to Help Your Teenager Feel Less Lonely
2026/11/09
Does your teenager seem more withdrawn? Are they coming home from school and disappearing straight to their room? Does something feel not quite right? In today’s bucket emptying episode, I'm talking about something that often flies under the radar: teenage loneliness. Not the obvious kind, where a young person has no friends, but the quieter kind that can exist even when their phone is buzzing, their group chats are active, and they're surrounded by people all day. Because loneliness is often about feeling unseen, disconnected, or unable to be yourself. I explain why loneliness can become more noticeable at this time of year, how social media can create the illusion of connection while making teenagers feel more isolated, and why so many young people struggle with the vulnerability needed to build deep, meaningful friendships. Most importantly, I share five practical ways you can support your teenager without pressuring them, fixing it for them, or making them feel like something is wrong. If you're worried about your teenager's social confidence, emotional wellbeing, or mental health, this episode will help you understand what's really going on beneath the surface and support them. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:39 - What is actually going on? 04:54 - Can I get a witness? 08:38 - School is not the only social arena 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Why Your Child's Mood Changes in Winter... and What Actually Helps
2026/11/05
Has your child suddenly become more emotional, more withdrawn, or just not themselves since the clocks went back? Is homework taking longer? Are morning more of a struggle? If so, today’s episode is meant for you. Last time, I spoke about the November Wobble - that very real shift that many children experience when the days get shorter, and activities that naturally refill their emotional bucket begin to disappear. Today, I break down the science in simple terms, exploring how reduced daylight affects sleep, mood, motivation, concentration, emotional regulation and resilience. What looks like laziness or a bad attitude is often biology rather than behaviour. I will share five practical strategies you can start using now to help your child understand what fills and empties their emotional bucket. Whether you’re parenting a toddler, primary‑school child, teenager, or neurodivergent child, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening, and give you simple, realistic ways to help your child thrive through the darker months. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:11 - Daylight regulates everything 06:33 - Do the same, but different 11:48 - Routine is the anchor 15:59 - The most underrated thing you can do… 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bucket Emptying: Why Children Fall Apart After Half Term... and Five Ways to Help
2026/11/02
Has your child suddenly become more emotional, more withdrawn, more reactive, or simply harder to live with since half term ended? In today’s bucket emptying episode, I explain why so many children seem to fall apart during November, even after a positive start to the school year. And it’s called the November wobble. The novelty of September has faded, energy reserves are running low, the days are darker, and many children quietly carry more stress than they realise. What often looks like difficult behaviour is actually a sign that their emotional bucket is full. They need more support, not more pressure. I’m going to show you how to stop seeing the wobble as a problem to fix, and start seeing it as valuable information about what your child needs, and I will share five practical strategies I use with families every year, that you can start using right now. I promise you, these five things will help. If your child is struggling with school, mood, motivation, emotional regulation, sleep, anxiety, overwhelm, or post‑half‑term burnout, this episode is what you need! So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:55 - The November wobble is real 04:36 - Give it a name 08:31 - Body before mind 12:34 - Your wobble matters too 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Raising Boys in the Age of the Manosphere: How to Counter Online Misogyny
2026/10/29
Is your son a misogynist? Have they discovered the manosphere? Are you worried about the content they might be finding online? In today’s episode, I cut through the fear, the headlines, and the overwhelming statistics to help you understand what’s really happening in the world our children are growing up in. Because the truth is, our children are exposed to misogynistic language and content long before we realise it. So I am going to explain exactly what the manosphere is, why our kids are being drawn towards it, and the three things our boys are really looking for instead. I’m going to share five practical, age-specific things you can start doing right now to help them develop critical thinking, emotional intelligence, and the confidence to challenge harmful ideas. If you want to raise children who are respectful, confident, compassionate, and able to think for themselves, but you just don’t know where to start, this episode is for you. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 02:14 - It never starts with hatred 06:54 - The content finds them 10:41 - Show them how the sausage is made 15:55 - Clunky beats silent 21:20 - Lord of the Rungs 27:14 - Your own source of self-worth 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bucket Emptying: When Your Toddler Hits, Bites, or Hurts Other Children
2026/10/26
Has your toddler ever bitten another child, hit a sibling, or shoved someone at the playground? Have they ever lashed out in a way that left you feeling shocked, embarrassed, or judged? In this episode, I explain why toddlers hit, bite and hurt other children, and why these behaviours are far more developmentally normal than most parents realise. I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening inside your child’s brain, why it’s almost never aggression in the way we understand it, and how hitting and biting is less about naughtiness, and more about overwhelm. I am going to share the three most important things you can do: how to respond calmly and effectively in the moment,how to build the emotional language that eventually replaces physical behaviours, andhow to identify the hidden triggers that make hitting and biting more likely in the first place. So if you’re struggling with toddler aggression, playground incidents, sibling fighting, nursery reports, or the shame that so often comes with these moments, this episode is the roadmap you need. The practical strategies I share with you today genuinely work. And remember: your toddler’s hitting or biting is not a reflection of your parenting. It’s a sign that a skill is still developing, and together we can help build it. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:26 - It’s not aggression… it’s communication 07:24 - The 3 things you need to know 17:40 - Common triggers 21:08 - What to do if things don’t get better 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sibling Rivalry; Why It Happens and How To Stop Refereeing
2026/10/21
When siblings fight, it can feel endless - the bickering, the shouting, the “that’s not fair,” the constant demand that you step in and decide who’s right. In this episode, I explain why sibling rivalry is normal, why refereeing often makes things worse, and what actually helps children learn to resolve conflict themselves. I am going to walk you through the real developmental reasons siblings clash, the skills they’re missing, and how stepping back (safely) gives them the practice they need to build frustration tolerance, negotiation, perspective‑taking and repair. I will share three things that actually help, and the best part - you can start doing them right now. This episode is a practical, hopeful guide to transforming sibling dynamics and giving your children the lifelong skills they’ll use in every relationship they ever have. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:18 - Sibling rivalry is a training ground 05:48 - 3 things to remember 09:37 - Resist, resist, resist 12:10 - Neurodiversity 17:18 - Unite and conquer 21:21 - Give your kids a process 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bucket Emptying: The Bedtime Battle - Three Things Which Actually Help
2026/10/18
Do you dread bedtime? Are you children refusing to go to sleep? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there! When bedtime becomes a nightly battle, it drains every ounce of energy you have left. In today’s episode, I walk you through why children of every age struggle to settle at night - from toddlers who can’t tolerate separation, to primary‑aged children whose brains haven’t yet wound down, to teenagers whose phones and FOMO keep them wired long past bedtime. I explain the real drivers behind bedtime resistance, and share three practical things you can start doing today that will genuinely help. If you’re exhausted, frustrated, or feeling like nothing you try ever works, this episode will help you understand what’s going on underneath the behaviour, and give you simple, doable steps to finally change the bedtime dynamic in your home. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:41 - Is bedtime a nightmare for you? 06:41 - Three causes of bedtime problems 09:34 - The wind-down window 17:50 - Fix the environment 22:37 - Give your kids responsibility 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Building Good Habits in Children
2026/10/14
Let me guess… you spend ages nagging about teeth brushing? You’re constantly running late? Homework is a war? And don’t even mention tidying rooms, am I right? When I sat down to record this episode, I wanted to flip the whole conversation about children’s habits upside down, because none of the above actually shape who your child becomes as an adult. In this episode, I walk you through what the research really shows. I explain why self‑control, distress tolerance, problem‑solving, emotional regulation, persistence and self‑advocacy matter far more than perfect mornings or tidy bedrooms, and why rescuing and over-helping is the worst thing we can do (in this particular instance, at least!) Plus, I share five things you can start doing today to build the habits that matter. These are small shifts with huge long‑term impact, and they will help your child become a capable, resilient adult who can navigate life with confidence. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:12 - IQ doesn’t tell you this 06:25 - Surviving, not thriving 10:19 - The habit of trying 15:36 - Self-advocacy & neurodivergence 21:09 - Resist the rescue 26:15 - Embrace the discomfort 31:06 - Praise the struggle 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bucket-Emptying: Fussy Eaters, Fizzy Drinks, and the One Thing Which Changes Everything
2026/10/11
In this episode, I’m talking about food. Does your toddler refuse pasta because the shape is “wrong”? Or does your teenager come home from school every day with an energy drink and packet of crisps? Don’t worry, you are not alone. The struggle is real and it can feel relentless (pun not intended 😆). But underneath every food battle is the same thing: pressure. It can be their body’s cravings, it can be developmental, it can be social, or (here’s the brutal truth) it might even be us. However, once you understand what’s actually going on in your child’s brain and body, everything changes. So in today’s bucket-emptying episode, I talk you through the five practical things you can do that genuinely change the game between your kids and food. No battles. No bribing. No guilt. Just simple, doable shifts that help your child build a healthy relationship with food over time. And the best part: you can start doing these five things right now. So if food has become a battleground in your home, this episode will help you take back control of the long game. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:03 - Children have more taste buds than adults 03:23 - The Forbidden Fruit Effect 07:22 - My 5 top tips 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Motivation: Why Pushing Doesn't Work - and What Does
2026/10/07
Has homework become a battle? Has your child stopped trying or caring? In this episode, I’m talking directly to the parents who feel like their child’s motivation has quietly slipped away, because I want to help you understand what’s really going on underneath that perceived lack of effort. Spoiler alert: it’s almost never laziness. I’m going to walk you through why pushing harder doesn’t work, why rewards and consequences lose their power, and what motivation really looks like in a developing brain. Then I’m going to share five practical things you can start doing today to help your child reconnect with learning and learn how to feel proud of themselves again. If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or worried about your child’s motivation, this episode will help you see the problem differently and give you a clear path forward. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:58 - The two kinds of motivation 06:31 - The three skills in this episode 08:26 - Early years and primary school 12:56 - Middle childhood and finding a sense of self 17:59 - Autism & ADHD 23:04 - My top five things 27:59 - Autonomy supporting language 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Five Ways to Get Your Teenager to Actually Talk to You
2026/10/04
Is your teenager ghosting you? Do they feel more distant and shut off? Are you scared that your relationship with them is fading away? Spoiler alert: we’ve all been there, and I promise you it’s nothing to panic about. When your teenager stops talking to you, it can feel like you’ve lost the child you once knew. The little person who used to climb into your bed and tell you everything is now quiet, distant, and locked behind their bedroom door. So in today’s bucket-emptying episode, I explain what’s actually happening in the teenage brain, why this withdrawal is normal (even healthy), and why the old ways of getting them to open up no longer work. I am going to share five practical things you can start doing today that genuinely help rebuild connection. You’ll learn how to stop overthinking when your teen pulls away, how to ask the right questions, and what to do when your teenager gives you absolutely nothing at all (we’ve all been there!). This episode will help you understand what your teen is going through, and give you the tools to reconnect in a way that works for both of you. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:00 - An elastic band 05:27 - My five top tips 08:28 - Stop the Spanish Inquisition 12:42 - Listen without agenda 15:16 - Do not disturb 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Separating Well: How to Co-Parent Without Your Child Caught in the Middle
2026/09/30
When a family separates, everything shifts. As parents we want to protect our children, but it can feel overwhelming when we don’t always have the answers. In this episode, I walk you through what the facts tells about children and parental separation, and why long‑term wellbeing is about how we manage conflict, how we communicate, and how we support our children emotionally as they adjust. In today’s episode you will learn what children need at different developmental stages, from toddlers to teenagers, and I give five practical steps you can start using right now. And for parents of neurodiverse children, I also outline the specific things you can do to make transitions between homes feel much easier. This episode is here to help you feel steadier, clearer, and more confident… and to remind you that our children are far more adaptable than we give them credit for, but we have to model what that looks like. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:00 - Separating is ok! 04:11 - Fine lens wide lens 07:22 - Different needs at different stages 12:48 - Protect your child from the conflict 15:34 - Your child is NOT a messenger 20:57 - The messages every child needs to hear. 26:10 - Neurodiverse children 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bucket Emptying: Raising Children Who Love to Read
2026/09/28
In this episode, I’m talking honestly about something so many parents worry about - a child who “won’t read”, says reading is boring, or hasn’t picked up a book in years. I explain why this isn’t a motivation problem at all, but a skills gap in reading identity, attention, language, and confidence. And once you understand what’s really going on underneath the surface, helping your child become a reader becomes far more straightforward. I walk you through the wide‑lens view of reading: why some children haven’t yet found the right book, why reading has accidentally become a chore, and why the digital world makes sustained attention harder for every child. I also share five practical things you can start today to help your child rediscover a love of reading that lasts for life. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:00 - The biggest predictor of academic success 04:03 - Why reading skills matter 08:06 - 5 things that actually help 12:06 - Let your kids read whatever they want 16:38 - Model reading to your children 19:22 - Stop doing these things right now 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
When Your Child Won't Go to School
2026/09/23
A child melts down at the door, stomach pain, tears, refusal, and you’re standing there with a 9am meeting to get to, unsure whether to push harder or give in. Your child is at a developmental crossroads, but when should does normal age-appropriate behaviour become emotionally based school avoidance (EBSA)? And more importantly, what can you do about it? Not every worry is an anxiety disorder, and when we treat normal discomfort as something it isn’t, we risk teaching children that hard feelings mean something is wrong with them. In this episode, I help you to understand the difference between something totally expected for your child’s developmental stage, versus something that may need some additional support and attention. I am going to share the four functions of avoidance to look out for, and give you some practical things you can do to help your kids right away. So take a seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:56 - 2 truths 07:25 - 4 reasons for school avoidance 10:48 - 3 levels of distress tolerance 16:13 - The core skills you’re building 19:01 - Neurodiversity and school avoidance 24:39 - Maryhan’s top tips 31:46 - You can do these things right now… 37:52 - Where to get support 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected] DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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