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Have you ever wondered what the secrets are to long-term love and attraction? Well, we have some interesting new research that sheds light on what the happiest couples already know. Get your pen and paper ready because whether you’re dating or partnered, you’re about to learn the key ingredients for lasting intimacy.  I’m joined once again by Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, who conducted the research I mentioned and compiled it for us in her new book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love.  Dr. Sara is a Social Psychologist who specializes in Sexuality, Relationships, and Intercultural fluency. Her commitment to the growth of our human community manifests itself through her multi-dimensional efforts as a thinking partner, educator, consultant, author, keynote speaker, and media commentator. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

If you’re like most folks, you probably think that sex is something that comes naturally. Who needs a guidebook for something we are hardwired to do, right? Wrong! The truth is, good lovers know and accept that lifelong learning is an essential component of great sex, which is the topic of today’s episode. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Mariah Freya, a sex coach and the co-founder of Beducated, an online platform for sex education, where she offers a vast library of resources for inclusive, comprehensive, medically accurate, and pleasure-focused sex education for adults. In her early 20s, Mariah Freya faced the trauma of multiple sexual assaults. This challenging period marked by low libido and strained relationships became a turning point for her. Driven by her background as a social worker and the transformative experience she gained from therapy and sex-positive workshops, Mariah was inspired to become a sex coach. Recognizing an evident gap in inclusive and accessible adult sex education, she, along with her partner Philipp Steinweber, launched Beducated, an online platform offering affordable and digestible teachings. Dedicated to "bed-ucating" the world, Mariah stands as a beacon of resilience, advocating the belief that everyone, regardless of their life stage, deserves comprehensive, pleasure-based sex education. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

 Are you someone whose past sexual trauma is preventing you from enjoying sex at your full capacity? Do you even know what your full capacity is or have you like so many people accepted mediocre sex as your norm? Today, we're going to talk about how reclaiming, reconnecting, and rediscovering vital parts of yourself can propel you out of trauma and into sexual pleasure. Kim Coffin is a certified Trauma Informed, Somatic (body-based) Empowerment & Sexuality Coach, Bestselling Author & Teacher, a graduate of Layla Martin’s Institute of Integrated Tantric Sexuality, and founder of Get Your Sexy Back. She specializes in Sexuality, Tantric Sex and Relationship Transformation giving you the tools to unleash your sexual confidence and unlock profound new levels of self-love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with yourself - and in your relationships! By creating deep trust and safety in your body and mind, Kim will show you how to RECONNECT to your body, ACTIVATE your turn-on, HEAL heartbreak & shame, and RECLAIM your true SEXY self so that you can fully step into your UNAPOLOGETIC POWER!  A gift for the love & libido listeners:  Free - 8 Tools to Activate Your Turn-On + Practice + Free Month to my Sacred Pleasure Membership - https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63d4adadecc6781900626c2d You can get more from Kim here: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=569755109 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/ Get Your Sexy Back Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/get-your-sexy-back/id1489475566 Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

What does your personality type say about your sexual and relationship tendencies? The Enneagram has become an increasingly popular personality assessment and can tell us so much about our romantic and sexual nature. What does it mean if you score high on Number 2, which is a Helper, but low on Number 5, which is the Investigator? We’re going to dive into each of the 9 types with sex and personality expert, Lyndsey Fraser. I took the personality assessment myself and Lyndsey shared some interesting insight about what it might say about my sexuality. I’m getting vulnerable today! Lyndsey is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and an International Enneagram Association (IEA) Accredited Enneagram Professional. She has presented on the intersection of the Enneagram, relationships, and sexuality in various U.S. and international forums. Lyndsey also has had a small private practice for the last twelve years in South Minneapolis where she specializes in relationships and sexuality utilizing the Enneagram. You can find Lyndsey on Instagram @lyndseyfraserlmft. The Nine Enneagram Type Descriptions 1 THE REFORMER The Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic 2 THE HELPER The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive 3 THE ACHIEVER The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious 4 THE INDIVIDUALIST The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental 5 THE INVESTIGATOR The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated 6 THE LOYALIST The Committed, Security-Oriented Type: Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious 7 THE ENTHUSIAST The Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, and Scattered 8 THE CHALLENGER The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational 9 THE PEACEMAKER The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent If you are interested in taking the test yourself, visit https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if

Sex shouldn’t hurt unless you want it to, but that’s not the case for a lot of people. The fact is, 1 in 4 individuals, yeah 25% of people, experience some kind of pain that affects the quality of their sex. As we’ll discuss on today’s show, pain can be caused by several factors, which is why I’ve called in sexual pain expert and host of the Sluts and Scholars Podcast, Nicoletta Heidegger. Nicoletta Heidegger is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and Sexologist practicing in Los Angeles, California. She specializes in trauma-informed sex therapy for diverse populations and is also an Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP).  She provides coaching, consulting, education, and retreats to folks around the world. When not seeing clients, Nicoletta creates weekly content via her hit show Sluts and Scholars: a sex-positive, shame-free, educational podcast for professionals who like pleasure. Nicoletta contributes regularly to a variety of columns, podcasts, classrooms, and blogs about sex, relationships, and mental health. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Are you a mother or partner of a mother who feels like your relationship has gone downhill since kids entered the scene? You love your partner and you love your kids, but you feel like you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way. I've said it before and I’ll say it again, our sexuality is inextricably linked to our individuality. Without a strong sense of self, your relationship and sex life are going to suffer. So, how can we love our kids without losing ourselves and still find time for love and romance in the mix? That’s the topic of today’s episode. Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who has a Ph.D. in psychology and is a highly sought-after relationship expert, knows what it feels like to lose yourself in motherhood and she's determined to help mothers navigate it better. Throughout her career, she has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Dr. Morgan has been a featured relationship expert with Good Morning America, Teen Vogue, New York Times, Women’s Health Magazine, MOPS International, Loveology, and Flow, which is the number one app in Health and Fitness. Her book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, is available now. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, an intimate marriage expert specializing in showing couples how to build beautiful, long-lasting passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy” and host of The Institute of Marriage Podcast. A wife of 26 years and mother of 4, Alexandra believes the key to passion and fulfillment, intimacy and success isn’t compromise –it’s being unwilling to compromise -because when both people feel free to be themselves and know how to love and be loved for exactly who they are, the relationship is juicy, nourishing, and deeply satisfying. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Do you or your partner struggle to stay focused, present, and connected to your body during sex? Do you find yourself easily distracted? Well, you're not alone. This is one of the most common complaints I get from my clients. Today, I'm joined by therapist Tara Galeano who is going to chat with us about ways to stay more embodied during sex so that you can amplify your pleasure. Author Tara Galeano is a certified sex therapist and sexual empowerment coach who has worked with women and couples for over two decades to get their sexy back. She knows that there is pleasure in the body and everyone can access it. In her book ‘Rediscovering My Body’, Tara teaches us how to show up for our desires by being more fully embodied. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Is it true that women are from Venus and men are from Mars? Are men and women more alike or more different? Why do we seem to have totally different ways of communicating with one another, and how can we work together to build happier and healthier relationships? Dr. Ricky Arenson is a dual-trained Endocrinologist and Geriatrician who lives in Perth, Western Australia, with his wife of twenty years and their four children.  As the head of a major hospital, working with patients who have reached 100 years of age, Ricky asked them what the secret to their longevity was… surprisingly it wasn’t eating acai berries and doing yoga… it was having long-term positive relationships. His outrageously funny yet serious book ‘Women Are Superior to Men’ explores why so many couples have the same arguments about how often to have sex, how men don’t notice or pick up the mess they leave lying around, and how men communicate in grunts or jokes when their wives are looking for a serious conversation. It’s an easy guide to creating and maintaining a magical relationship filled with love, joy, and better (and more frequent) sex. Ricky has helped over 30,000 patients, holds numerous medical awards, and was awarded a lifetime Outstanding Service Award by Royal Perth Hospital. He has also founded several businesses, owns a private medical practice, and is a stand-up comedian. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Have you recently ended a relationship and feel lost on how to begin anew? Have you ever wondered why you seem to be attracting people who frankly, aren’t compatible or healthy for you? Does “the one” really exist, and if so, how the heck are we supposed to find them?  My guest, Allison Jayne Ewing is a licensed psychotherapist and EFT practitioner.  Surprised to find herself divorced at midlife, Allison realized none of the fairytales she read growing up said what happened when you did NOT live happily ever after. Dazed and confused by her sudden single status, she embarked on the dreaded task of having to date again. Allison noticed she wasn't alone. Many of her single friends were struggling with dating, and meeting s****y guys while desperately searching for ‘the one’. But, there was a turning point for her, which we are going to chat about today. As a psychotherapist and an EFT practitioner for 25 years, Allison decided to focus on helping other women find healthy available single men who will love and adore them. She has worked with hundreds of women to clear their unconscious blocks and manifest the life of their dreams. Her book "Find Love Again", is a guide to igniting your inner goddess and finding the man of your dreams. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Have you ever wondered how to flirt? What kind of flirting is most likely to lead to a hook-up versus a date versus a rejection? How can you be sure that the way you flirt doesn’t come across as creepy or is viewed as harassment, especially in the post #MeToo era? That was the question from a recent Love and Libido Subscriber. As I was preparing my response, I came across the research of Dr. Jeffrey Hall who has studied you guessed it…. flirting. I decided to reach out to him to answer this important question because I think it’s so poignant. Dr. Hall discovered there are five distinct styles of flirting and each one sends a unique message. We are going to talk all about that and more on today’s episode. Jeffrey A. Hall is a Professor of Communication Studies, Associate Chair, and Director of the Relationships and Technology Lab at The University of Kansas. He was awarded the Early Career Award from the Interpersonal Communication Division of the National Communication Association in 2015. He’s done extensive research on flirting and communication through technology. His award-winning book Relating Through Technology was published by Cambridge University Press in 2020. He has written for the Wall Street Journal and has been interviewed by the New York Times,NPR, Washington Post, Financial Times, and more. and has appeared on the Steve Harvey Show and It’s Personal with Amy Hoggart. Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out. If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Do you or your partner suffer from erectile dysfunction? Are you considering treatment options like testosterone or injects? Maybe you’re struggling with premature or delayed ejaculation and want to know what might help. That’s the topic of today’s episode. I am so thrilled to welcome back renowned urologist, Dr. Jonathan Clavell. If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option for us to disguise your voice with our fancy editing software, so no worries there if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released. If you like what you're hearing, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. And don't forget to check out my online workshop, The Five Sex Languages: Secrets to Long-Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off the full price of the workshops.